Every penis is beautiful

dacemcgraw · 2018-02-18T15:07:55+00:00

You're right.

I'm gay. I've slept with enough men to have intimate experience with more than thirty and seen/been around even more men naked over the course of my life.

Your penis won't match your body. It's plenty big enough for you to get off, and that's the point of sex - getting off and having fun. It'll curve to the left or right or down or have a little lump in the middle or seem comically undersized next to bull balls or huge as fuck compared to your pubic hair. The head will look torpedo-shaped, have a huge mushroom or the foreskin will be tight or loose or thick or like tissue-thin parchment or not be there. It'll leak precum like a faucet or be awkwardly dry.

It's yours. Enjoy it. And if someone wants to be a queen about it, either let them suffer in the prisons of their own making, or show them just how good sex can be of you let go of how it's "supposed to be." Get your partner off with your tongue, your penis, your sheer manliness, your tender attention, that hilarious gag gift dildo you got for your birthday three years ago, with a slow tender fuck that sends them to Venus and back, with sloppy sweaty fucksex, with the "oh wow we're still horny aren't we" spontaneous sex in the shower, with whatever kink paraphernalia you're in to, with a penis sheath, with a pegging kit, with a friend, with fingers and a ridiculous amount of lube, with goddamn Gregorian chants in the background or with candelight and rose petals.

Your penis is not the thing that should make someone happy to sleep with you. If so, it's a crutch.

Edit: And for context, I'm nobody's idea of a model, my cock is fairly average in all dimensions, and I've only been sexually active since roughly 2012. I'm no more special than my choices.

Bart_1980 · 2018-02-18T15:57:15+00:00

Despite the negative feedback you may have gotten. I love you for your intentions. I just wish my first girl had said that instead of "I want a bigger one". It would have saved me many a worried and anxious moment.

adabbadon · 2018-02-18T16:18:19+00:00

People are complaining that women never like small penises, which yes visually maybe big penises look nice but goddamn can they be uncomfortable during sex. Stretching the vagina open too much so it hurts, and the guy constantly going too deep hitting the cervix really sucks. Some women don’t have that issue, but a ton do and end up preferring smaller penises. If a woman won’t have sex with you or makes fun of you for what your dick looks like, she’s an immature pos. If she’s truly attracted to you and wants to be with you, she’s not gonna care. Women have to put up with a lot of bullshit for their bodies too. There are shitty immature people who get their entire concept of sex from porn, and inevitably are going to have a shitty sex like. Good sex comes when you accept its a bizarre, stinky, sweaty act and you’re gonna end up spending far too much time looking at your partners asshole and seeing them from weird unflattering angles, making weird faces and noises when they orgasm, bad dirty talk, accidentally kicking or elbowing or awkwardly maneuvering. Accidentally farting or burping or getting the giggles. You’ve just gotta accept all of this and learn to relax and have fun.

duhex · 2018-02-18T18:25:38+00:00

Some of the comments in this post make me sad. I think it dicks are like people, not everyone will love your dick but there will be people out there who do love your dick, wanting it be universally loved is ridiculous.

Some girls are horrified by the idea of having a guy with a pornstar sized dick in them, some girls love the extreme nature of having the biggest thickest monster in them. Some girls find the idea of a guy with something below average down there to be arousing and interesting. Some women just won't care either way and will care more about how you are as a person. Simply put, just go through life with what you have and make the most of it, don't apologise or hold yourself accountable for the things you can't change. If you feel that more often than not you're meeting people who don't like you, keep meeting new people till you find the ones you do. Always keep moving onwards.

Ingetfunkarfan · 2018-02-18T16:46:21+00:00

I get this. It's like how all breasts are beautiful regardless of size.

zanpher717 · 2018-02-18T17:04:55+00:00

This is my penis. There are many like it, but this one is mine. My penis is my best friend. It is my life. I must master it as I must master my life.

Without me, my penis is useless. Without my penis, I am useless. I must fire my penis true. I must shoot straighter than my enemy who is trying to bang me. I must shoot him before he shoots me. I will…

My penis and I know that what counts in the bedroom is not the rounds we fire, the noise of our bust, nor the smoke we make. We know that it is the hits that count. We will hit it…

My penis is human, even as I, because it is my life. Thus, I will learn it as a brother. I will learn its weaknesses, its strength, its parts, its accessories, its sights and its barrel. I will keep my penis clean and ready, even as I am clean and ready. We will become part of each other. We will…

Before God, I swear this creed. My penis and I are the defenders of my country. We are the masters of our enemy. We are the saviors of my life.

So be it, until victory is America's and there is no enemy, but peace!

PansyParkinson80 · 2018-02-18T15:00:06+00:00

Here I go again arguing about topics I didn’t expect to argue about.

I apologize.

Can I now love men the way they are in peace? Y’all precious!

miamiwerewolf · 2018-02-18T16:35:15+00:00

Thank you for saying what ive been afraid to say in this thread since I started using it ❤

unicornSporked · 2018-02-18T16:30:45+00:00

I complete agree and it has always confused me that people find theirs ugly. Then again, I’ve never seen an ugly vagina either.

Dirty/uncared for/ diseased... sure. But ugly? No. I really... REALLY like them all 😂😂😂 but am particularly obsessed with my spouses.

Polyfacetic · 2018-02-18T15:44:20+00:00

Addendum: every vulva is also gorgeous. Women are often so self-conscious because they have large labia (a lot of us guys fucking love large labia), or because they hate shaving/waxing and abstain (plenty of us love bush too), or because of colors, shapes, size, texture, wetness/dryness, etc. It’s all good, ladies. We love it all.

Regarding penises, my GF has explained that she doesn’t find them attractive. But if she’s attracted to the person the cock is attached to, the cock itself becomes beautiful and — in her own words — “mouth-watering.” I’m sure this phenomenon occurs in men, too, but still...women are amazing.

shygoodguy · 2018-02-18T16:11:42+00:00

Great post! OP you're a great and very body positive! And please guys I know how much insecurities hurt but please when a woman says something positive about your penis please believe them.

thepurrrfectcrime · 2018-02-18T15:01:44+00:00

I don't want to look at any penises just for fun. Naked guys yes, but the penis isn't the focal point.

However, when I'm in a relationship the penis is king. I love looking at it and I love playing with it. It becomes beautiful to me because of the person it's attached to and the enjoyment we both derive from it.

So objectively, no, I don't think all penises are beautiful -- just specific ones. And whatever that specific penis looks like, as long as it's attached to someone I care about, I'm going to find it fucking hot.

falling_apart522 · 2018-02-18T14:19:12+00:00

Yesssss. Fun to play with in every size shape and color. Porn really does mess with guys heads in the same way that professional models mess with girls heads. Guys don’t have to have a cookie cutter thick cock in the same way that girls dont have to be thin to be pretty. 🤗🍆🍌🥖🌭♥️

dragonslayor117 · 2018-02-18T18:03:36+00:00

Wait how is this controversial, I liked this messaged

TomPalmer1979 · 2018-02-18T17:48:36+00:00

Every penis? Are you sure?

(NSFW link, it's a collection of "oddity" penises)

ManBearHybrid · 2018-02-18T14:10:09+00:00

Men don't worry about their penis size as a problem in its own right. They worry about the ridicule and social stigma that comes with having a small penis. I dont think a man stranded on a deserted island would worry about his cock size.

it's unfortunate but there are the "size queens" out there. It is a reality that there are some girls out there who seek out black guys to fuck, because they're dumb enough to believe the stereotypes that porn feeds them (and then behave as if the black guy is broken for being average). It is a reality that a lot of girls will talk to their friends about her partners, and if he doesnt measure up then they will laugh behind your back - and sometimes not behind your back. It is a reality that having a normal love life is a lot harder if you have a small penis.

Yes, it is possible to find women out there who arent like this, but every small-penised man has to deal with the ones that are like this. Dont believe me? Check out /r/smalldickproblems. You speak about the myth that we crave a big cock, but ultimately they arent myths - many women are explicitly and openly like that. Some even put it in their tinder bios. The "ideals" that you speak about are enforced by real people, and there is a real punishment for being below average. It isn't something that men imagine.

voxfemme · 2018-02-18T20:34:40+00:00

I have no argument with the sentiment of acceptance here, which is great, but let's be honest about what words mean.

The way to handle insecurities about physical beauty is not to pretend that everyone is beautiful, because that makes beauty a meaningless concept. If we call every person a genius, every effort a success, and every penis or vulva or breast or face beautiful, what words will we have left to honor the most exquisite traits, actions, or aesthetic forms?

The way to handle physical insecurities is to accept the reality that all of us have an ugly or at least not beautiful feature and that's totally OK. Different people find different things beautiful, and value looks differently. We are defined much more by our actions and our character than by the shape of a body part, you don't have to meet some conventional standard of beauty to be respected or to be cherished by the people you love.

nadmaximus · 2018-02-18T15:09:25+00:00

If you're not ready for another person to find you unattractive, you're gonna have a bad time. People have every right to prefer whatever body type and anatomy they wish. We each have to understand that other people's preferences are every bit as valid as our own. A healthy person will know that some portion of humanity will accept them as they are, perhaps even seek them out. Some portion will be indifferent, and some will be turned off. It's ok to not like small dicks, or big ones, or bent ones. Make the best of the dick you have, don't feel victimized if you're not to someone's taste, and be confident that someone out there wants exactly what you have.

Paultrippy · 2018-02-18T15:57:59+00:00

All thing being equal, I’d say half the women are in your camp, and the other half are pretty vocal what they are looking for there. We can’t say “all women” in this debate, but there’s a large group that feel the exact opposite of you. So while I think it’s great you went out of your way to try and make guys feel better about this, we don’t create this stuff in our head as much as you think. We just listen to that other half more (unfortunately)

IshiOfSierra · 2018-02-18T17:53:36+00:00

It's true not all women like big penises. I can remember working construction with this Brazilian guy that was going through a painful divorce (from an American women) On rides home, he would be on the brink of tears, giving details about his situation. He said issues started when she didn't want to have sex with him, because his dick was "TOO BIG" (he didn't mention how big). He was seriously upset about this, almost ashamed of his dick. I tried to explain the big dick superiority stereotype in the US and he utterly confused. Too small, too big? I'll stick with my average. Seems to be doing the ladies just fine..

TotallyRickenCrazy · 2018-02-18T15:06:16+00:00

Thank you for trying to boost the confidence of us insecure guys, but I have read too much on Reddit to believe that my 4.5" (both dimensions), heavily veiny, curved, awkwardly-foreskinned (yes, I probably just made that term up) penis is anything approaching beautiful, or any real use to anyone.

Most women generally like either girth or length, and I have neither :(

Again though, thanks for the post, but this is one insecurity of mine that is a futile battle.

dallyan · 2018-02-18T16:58:46+00:00

I agree. Cocks are beautiful and exciting and fun to play with, regardless of size. I’m grateful I get to deliver such pleasure to such a precious organ, not to mention receiving.

06210311off · 2018-02-18T17:38:31+00:00

Mine isn't. It's just my penis. Not beautiful, nor ugly.

It saddens me there's so much focus on genitalia. But that's probably just me valuing personality and attitude over physical aspects.

Azael_Descends · 2018-02-18T18:29:40+00:00

Title of this post made me think of the "Every Sperm is Sacred" song.

Kempeth · 2018-02-18T18:41:52+00:00

Obligatory link to r/normalnudes and the penis gallery.

ElectraJane · 2018-02-18T20:07:25+00:00

Some penis' are better than others.

undercover_redditor · 2018-02-18T22:36:58+00:00

Even dirty and stinky penises are beautiful, underneath the grime.

Seriously though, be respectful to yourself and your partners. Wash your ass.

Corosz · 2018-02-18T15:26:25+00:00

You can swear on the internet.

nowthappens91 · 2018-02-18T15:33:37+00:00

I don’t have a particularly big penis, but I genuinely like the way mine looks, so I’ve never had any worries about it...except one time when I was a third for a couple and the guy had the biggest cock I’ve ever seen in or out of porn. That had me playing “hide the penis in his girlfriend” so much that they probably thought I was 100x more enthusiastic than I was.

Dick was T H I C C

LaserDiscTilDeath · 2018-02-18T19:39:52+00:00

You should stop caring about what they show you in porn, there’s no ideal model of beauty which you have to look like to be beautiful. It’s a construct, completely unnecessary.

I feel like this is one of those statements thats always made alongside "Most girls dont know what a really big dick is like anyway"

It's a platitude that tells smaller dicked guys "dont worry, she's probably never even SEEN one that big!!"

Which does nothing for the guys who date someone and they find out her previous partners DID have those massive porn dicks

Simple fact, my partner loves me for me and I get that. But if I were me, just with a thicker dick, it'd simply be "me but better". That's what bothers us.

vulcliques · 2018-02-18T17:00:09+00:00

There is a lock for every sized key lol.

StrayRatt · 2018-02-18T17:06:12+00:00

Don't apologize it was great advice for all men out there. And thanks for it

fatandhilarious · 2018-02-18T18:28:59+00:00

Thank you!

kalyvale · 2018-02-18T15:55:19+00:00

I think it's better to stop being delusional and accept that people have preferences and some prefer big dick, some average etc.

ItsOnlyRocknRol · 2018-02-18T17:05:48+00:00

Every Sperm is sacred!

ed523 · 2018-02-18T17:07:13+00:00

As long as it gets hard

Quelude · 2018-02-18T16:37:18+00:00

A helpful way to love your own cock is to masturbate in front of a mirror. It feels silly at first, but I've found it builds confidence.

uk_ex · 2018-02-18T16:58:26+00:00

Thank you for that, to me as a guy, they look awful, but then I have loved every vulva I have seen, and plenty of girls seem to find them off-putting. I guess that's just nature trying to steer us towards each other.

Same goes for breasts, I love big and small ones equally.

Love what you have, big or small.

LadyAzure17 · 2018-02-18T18:02:07+00:00

Yes, girl, yes! Agreed! Dicks are great no matter the size or shape.

npepin · 2018-02-18T21:55:37+00:00

I am a fan of sex positivity, but it is important to not be sex delusional. Attraction differs from person to person, but in aggregate there is agreement on what is unattractive and attractive.

It is important to accept your partner and other people as they come, but you can't also reject your actual feelings about aspects of a person's body. If you see your man's penis and you are disappointed in how it looks, then you are disappointed, it is ok. If you see your woman's breasts and you think they look weird, then you think they look weird, it is ok. There is no reason to dissociate from how you feel, you don't have a choice over what you are attracted to.

You have to know your hand and you have to play your hand. Unless you happen to be really good looking, most people aren't going to find you to be beautiful, and it is important to have an accurate assessment of how you are generally perceived.

Should you find your own body to be beautiful and have confidence if yourself? I think you need to know your hand and to play your hand accordingly. Accept it, but also realize there is variation.

With dating and sex especially, you would probably be rejected by 90% of the people out there, some portion of those people will reject you for dumb reasons like your dick size and shape, but most people aren't going to care, and there will be some portion of people that will find your particular dick size and shape to be the best they have ever seen. There is a lot of variation in sexual preferences, which isn't to say that there isn't a whole lot of overlap, but most of the people out there are not the right person for you and dating is about finding the right person. Not everyone is going to be a fan of how you look. Some people will love the way you look. Some people will love you regardless of how you look.

There is the whole other side of this conversation where people find faults in their body where they simply don't exist.

miltonbimowitz · 2018-02-18T17:29:00+00:00

Objective beauty is directly proportional to positive media exposure but also doesn't really mean jack shit if you have the time to appeal to someone on an individual basis.

Sumodenden · 2018-02-18T18:17:11+00:00

Totally! I’m so sick of “please rate me”! Reminds me of how insecure I used to be.

TheCuntyVaginaShow · 2018-02-18T18:19:59+00:00

I had a guy with a nice dick tell me he’s always been insecure about it and especially self-conscious when soft. I was genuinely surprised. I appreciated his vulnerability and I’m glad I could encourage him! I’m sure this post helped many.

greyjackal · 2018-02-18T18:52:50+00:00

Show them your middle fingers up.

Owww...no thanks

onthesunnyside · 2018-02-18T19:46:12+00:00

I've had a variety of penises and can't remember being disappointed by any of them.

Tigris474 · 2018-02-18T21:11:43+00:00

I'm a slutty queer 23 year old woman and I want to add that everyone's genitals, be it a penis, vagina, or something inbetween is beautiful. I've had sex with over 60 people, honestly I lost count I'm not really sure, and I have never judged someone's attractiveness based on their genitals. It usually has to do with their personality.

gliscorgirl · 2018-02-18T21:38:57+00:00

We should say this about vaginas as well.

Samadonis · 2018-02-18T21:43:07+00:00

Just reading the edits, how are people getting triggered by being told their dick is beautiful? Like there's literally nothing that doesn't boost the ego of every dude who reads it in this post

thelostwhore · 2018-02-18T22:56:45+00:00

I love your attitute.

I dont think all penises, much like vaginas are all beautiful.

But a lot of my idea of a good looking dick is also a mans hygiene and how they treat and clean their own dick that make or breaks a penis.

Im a hooker. I have seen more penises and vaginas than most. Not all are great. I also find the whole penis love thing more exclusive to someone I'm in a relationship with. Like i love my bfs dick. Its literally perfect for me. Taste, size, fit, look etc.

Love your attitude. Dont totally agree with the idea that every dick is awesome.

Ragnarokryss · 2018-02-18T23:03:01+00:00

Hey, thanks! I'll take the compliment :)

SalVen · 2018-02-18T23:15:36+00:00

Thank you. I am welling up in tears. I needed this so much.

Jdisgreat17 · 2018-02-19T00:05:59+00:00

I wish this is true, but when I went to college, the size of your dick could definitely make or break a hook up. Apparently, at least at the college I went to, if you didn't have a minimum 7 inch schlong, your chances of sleeping with a woman was cut nearly in half, and if you had under 5.5, which is still considered average if I'm not mistaken, you might as well not even try

mareenah · 2018-02-18T20:53:32+00:00

Bullshit. There are ugly penises. It doesn't matter. What matters is when we have fun with it. Why does everything have to be beautiful? Why are we 'all beautiful'? Can we just accept some shit is ugly and still not judge or demean people for it?

DarkReign2011 · 2018-02-18T16:19:50+00:00

I dunno about that... Typical male insecurity about things like size aside, I have good reason to be insecure about my own. When I was an infant I received a botched circumcision. Performance issues aside, it also left a very lopsided and ugly shape. Not really anything I can do about it and I've learned to live with it, appearance-wise. It's definitely not beautiful, though.

ElectraJane · 2018-02-18T15:33:22+00:00

I don't believe this. I have a preference. Just like a man has a preference. They are all different, and some better than others.

RainingGlitter28 · 2018-02-18T20:25:17+00:00

Am woman. I agree entirely with this post!!

dudezilla1989 · 2018-02-18T17:55:20+00:00

karma bait post

MyVoreThrowaway · 2018-02-18T17:03:27+00:00

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shiftynightworker · 2018-02-18T18:42:26+00:00

Now sing it to the tune of Every Sperm Is Sacred from Monty Python's The Meaning Of Life

Ankeneering · 2018-02-18T19:17:06+00:00

I for one, have struggled with shame. Now, thanks to diet and excercise I am proud of my tanned, athletic penis.

Ameen2103 · 2018-02-18T19:57:26+00:00

Yeah they’re not gonna believe you

smartyr228 · 2018-02-18T20:46:10+00:00

Thanks. Still hate mine tho.

CH1CK3NW1N95 · 2018-02-18T20:53:39+00:00

I needed that today, thanks a bunch

johnyann · 2018-02-18T20:54:53+00:00

Think having a two toned dick stopped two toned Malone?

Nope. Skanked his way into the anals of porn history.

MustGetALife · 2018-02-18T21:32:46+00:00

Why on earth are you having to apologise? Lol.

Controversial? Harmful? Insensitive?

Holy shit, some snowflakes can be offended over absolute fuck all and need to grow the fuck up.

I liked your post. Well said.

DWright_5 · 2018-02-18T21:34:08+00:00

I think OP had great intentions with her post. But now that I’ve read the entire thread, the term “zero-sum game” occurs to me.

Saphron_ · 2018-02-18T21:55:00+00:00

Amen! Every dick is a pretty dick. No one should feel ashamed of how their genitalia looks.

ABunchOfRadishSpirit · 2018-02-18T22:40:02+00:00

You just made this asian guy's day even more brighter 😄

EricTheRoman · 2018-02-18T22:48:06+00:00

Dont apologise, youre right. Thankyou for saying that ❤️

There will be some with deep hurts, but you made me smile and plenty of others!

Redowadoer · 2018-02-18T23:41:29+00:00

Show them your middle fingers up.

I can show them something else up. ;)

MonopolyButWthDads · 2018-02-19T00:14:24+00:00

Man my SO makes fun of my balls all the time, and how much she thinks penises are gross. This feels nice to read, I just want to sleep naked

dacemcgraw · 2018-02-18T15:07:55+00:00

You're right.

I'm gay. I've slept with enough men to have intimate experience with more than thirty and seen/been around even more men naked over the course of my life.

Your penis won't match your body. It's plenty big enough for you to get off, and that's the point of sex - getting off and having fun. It'll curve to the left or right or down or have a little lump in the middle or seem comically undersized next to bull balls or huge as fuck compared to your pubic hair. The head will look torpedo-shaped, have a huge mushroom or the foreskin will be tight or loose or thick or like tissue-thin parchment or not be there. It'll leak precum like a faucet or be awkwardly dry.

It's yours. Enjoy it. And if someone wants to be a queen about it, either let them suffer in the prisons of their own making, or show them just how good sex can be of you let go of how it's "supposed to be." Get your partner off with your tongue, your penis, your sheer manliness, your tender attention, that hilarious gag gift dildo you got for your birthday three years ago, with a slow tender fuck that sends them to Venus and back, with sloppy sweaty fucksex, with the "oh wow we're still horny aren't we" spontaneous sex in the shower, with whatever kink paraphernalia you're in to, with a penis sheath, with a pegging kit, with a friend, with fingers and a ridiculous amount of lube, with goddamn Gregorian chants in the background or with candelight and rose petals.

Your penis is not the thing that should make someone happy to sleep with you. If so, it's a crutch.

Edit: And for context, I'm nobody's idea of a model, my cock is fairly average in all dimensions, and I've only been sexually active since roughly 2012. I'm no more special than my choices.

Bart_1980 · 2018-02-18T15:57:15+00:00

Despite the negative feedback you may have gotten. I love you for your intentions. I just wish my first girl had said that instead of "I want a bigger one". It would have saved me many a worried and anxious moment.

adabbadon · 2018-02-18T16:18:19+00:00

People are complaining that women never like small penises, which yes visually maybe big penises look nice but goddamn can they be uncomfortable during sex. Stretching the vagina open too much so it hurts, and the guy constantly going too deep hitting the cervix really sucks. Some women don’t have that issue, but a ton do and end up preferring smaller penises. If a woman won’t have sex with you or makes fun of you for what your dick looks like, she’s an immature pos. If she’s truly attracted to you and wants to be with you, she’s not gonna care. Women have to put up with a lot of bullshit for their bodies too. There are shitty immature people who get their entire concept of sex from porn, and inevitably are going to have a shitty sex like. Good sex comes when you accept its a bizarre, stinky, sweaty act and you’re gonna end up spending far too much time looking at your partners asshole and seeing them from weird unflattering angles, making weird faces and noises when they orgasm, bad dirty talk, accidentally kicking or elbowing or awkwardly maneuvering. Accidentally farting or burping or getting the giggles. You’ve just gotta accept all of this and learn to relax and have fun.

duhex · 2018-02-18T18:25:38+00:00

Some of the comments in this post make me sad. I think it dicks are like people, not everyone will love your dick but there will be people out there who do love your dick, wanting it be universally loved is ridiculous.

Some girls are horrified by the idea of having a guy with a pornstar sized dick in them, some girls love the extreme nature of having the biggest thickest monster in them. Some girls find the idea of a guy with something below average down there to be arousing and interesting. Some women just won't care either way and will care more about how you are as a person. Simply put, just go through life with what you have and make the most of it, don't apologise or hold yourself accountable for the things you can't change. If you feel that more often than not you're meeting people who don't like you, keep meeting new people till you find the ones you do. Always keep moving onwards.

Ingetfunkarfan · 2018-02-18T16:46:21+00:00

I get this. It's like how all breasts are beautiful regardless of size.

zanpher717 · 2018-02-18T17:04:55+00:00

This is my penis. There are many like it, but this one is mine. My penis is my best friend. It is my life. I must master it as I must master my life.

Without me, my penis is useless. Without my penis, I am useless. I must fire my penis true. I must shoot straighter than my enemy who is trying to bang me. I must shoot him before he shoots me. I will…

My penis and I know that what counts in the bedroom is not the rounds we fire, the noise of our bust, nor the smoke we make. We know that it is the hits that count. We will hit it…

My penis is human, even as I, because it is my life. Thus, I will learn it as a brother. I will learn its weaknesses, its strength, its parts, its accessories, its sights and its barrel. I will keep my penis clean and ready, even as I am clean and ready. We will become part of each other. We will…

Before God, I swear this creed. My penis and I are the defenders of my country. We are the masters of our enemy. We are the saviors of my life.

So be it, until victory is America's and there is no enemy, but peace!

PansyParkinson80 · 2018-02-18T15:00:06+00:00

Here I go again arguing about topics I didn’t expect to argue about.

I apologize.

Can I now love men the way they are in peace? Y’all precious!

miamiwerewolf · 2018-02-18T16:35:15+00:00

Thank you for saying what ive been afraid to say in this thread since I started using it ❤

unicornSporked · 2018-02-18T16:30:45+00:00

I complete agree and it has always confused me that people find theirs ugly. Then again, I’ve never seen an ugly vagina either.

Dirty/uncared for/ diseased... sure. But ugly? No. I really... REALLY like them all 😂😂😂 but am particularly obsessed with my spouses.

Polyfacetic · 2018-02-18T15:44:20+00:00

Addendum: every vulva is also gorgeous. Women are often so self-conscious because they have large labia (a lot of us guys fucking love large labia), or because they hate shaving/waxing and abstain (plenty of us love bush too), or because of colors, shapes, size, texture, wetness/dryness, etc. It’s all good, ladies. We love it all.

Regarding penises, my GF has explained that she doesn’t find them attractive. But if she’s attracted to the person the cock is attached to, the cock itself becomes beautiful and — in her own words — “mouth-watering.” I’m sure this phenomenon occurs in men, too, but still...women are amazing.

shygoodguy · 2018-02-18T16:11:42+00:00

Great post! OP you're a great and very body positive! And please guys I know how much insecurities hurt but please when a woman says something positive about your penis please believe them.

thepurrrfectcrime · 2018-02-18T15:01:44+00:00

I don't want to look at any penises just for fun. Naked guys yes, but the penis isn't the focal point.

However, when I'm in a relationship the penis is king. I love looking at it and I love playing with it. It becomes beautiful to me because of the person it's attached to and the enjoyment we both derive from it.

So objectively, no, I don't think all penises are beautiful -- just specific ones. And whatever that specific penis looks like, as long as it's attached to someone I care about, I'm going to find it fucking hot.

falling_apart522 · 2018-02-18T14:19:12+00:00

Yesssss. Fun to play with in every size shape and color. Porn really does mess with guys heads in the same way that professional models mess with girls heads. Guys don’t have to have a cookie cutter thick cock in the same way that girls dont have to be thin to be pretty. 🤗🍆🍌🥖🌭♥️

dragonslayor117 · 2018-02-18T18:03:36+00:00

Wait how is this controversial, I liked this messaged

TomPalmer1979 · 2018-02-18T17:48:36+00:00

Every penis? Are you sure?

(NSFW link, it's a collection of "oddity" penises)

ManBearHybrid · 2018-02-18T14:10:09+00:00

Men don't worry about their penis size as a problem in its own right. They worry about the ridicule and social stigma that comes with having a small penis. I dont think a man stranded on a deserted island would worry about his cock size.

it's unfortunate but there are the "size queens" out there. It is a reality that there are some girls out there who seek out black guys to fuck, because they're dumb enough to believe the stereotypes that porn feeds them (and then behave as if the black guy is broken for being average). It is a reality that a lot of girls will talk to their friends about her partners, and if he doesnt measure up then they will laugh behind your back - and sometimes not behind your back. It is a reality that having a normal love life is a lot harder if you have a small penis.

Yes, it is possible to find women out there who arent like this, but every small-penised man has to deal with the ones that are like this. Dont believe me? Check out /r/smalldickproblems. You speak about the myth that we crave a big cock, but ultimately they arent myths - many women are explicitly and openly like that. Some even put it in their tinder bios. The "ideals" that you speak about are enforced by real people, and there is a real punishment for being below average. It isn't something that men imagine.

voxfemme · 2018-02-18T20:34:40+00:00

I have no argument with the sentiment of acceptance here, which is great, but let's be honest about what words mean.

The way to handle insecurities about physical beauty is not to pretend that everyone is beautiful, because that makes beauty a meaningless concept. If we call every person a genius, every effort a success, and every penis or vulva or breast or face beautiful, what words will we have left to honor the most exquisite traits, actions, or aesthetic forms?

The way to handle physical insecurities is to accept the reality that all of us have an ugly or at least not beautiful feature and that's totally OK. Different people find different things beautiful, and value looks differently. We are defined much more by our actions and our character than by the shape of a body part, you don't have to meet some conventional standard of beauty to be respected or to be cherished by the people you love.

nadmaximus · 2018-02-18T15:09:25+00:00

If you're not ready for another person to find you unattractive, you're gonna have a bad time. People have every right to prefer whatever body type and anatomy they wish. We each have to understand that other people's preferences are every bit as valid as our own. A healthy person will know that some portion of humanity will accept them as they are, perhaps even seek them out. Some portion will be indifferent, and some will be turned off. It's ok to not like small dicks, or big ones, or bent ones. Make the best of the dick you have, don't feel victimized if you're not to someone's taste, and be confident that someone out there wants exactly what you have.

Paultrippy · 2018-02-18T15:57:59+00:00

All thing being equal, I’d say half the women are in your camp, and the other half are pretty vocal what they are looking for there. We can’t say “all women” in this debate, but there’s a large group that feel the exact opposite of you. So while I think it’s great you went out of your way to try and make guys feel better about this, we don’t create this stuff in our head as much as you think. We just listen to that other half more (unfortunately)

IshiOfSierra · 2018-02-18T17:53:36+00:00

It's true not all women like big penises. I can remember working construction with this Brazilian guy that was going through a painful divorce (from an American women) On rides home, he would be on the brink of tears, giving details about his situation. He said issues started when she didn't want to have sex with him, because his dick was "TOO BIG" (he didn't mention how big). He was seriously upset about this, almost ashamed of his dick. I tried to explain the big dick superiority stereotype in the US and he utterly confused. Too small, too big? I'll stick with my average. Seems to be doing the ladies just fine..

TotallyRickenCrazy · 2018-02-18T15:06:16+00:00

Thank you for trying to boost the confidence of us insecure guys, but I have read too much on Reddit to believe that my 4.5" (both dimensions), heavily veiny, curved, awkwardly-foreskinned (yes, I probably just made that term up) penis is anything approaching beautiful, or any real use to anyone.

Most women generally like either girth or length, and I have neither :(

Again though, thanks for the post, but this is one insecurity of mine that is a futile battle.

dallyan · 2018-02-18T16:58:46+00:00

I agree. Cocks are beautiful and exciting and fun to play with, regardless of size. I’m grateful I get to deliver such pleasure to such a precious organ, not to mention receiving.

06210311off · 2018-02-18T17:38:31+00:00

Mine isn't. It's just my penis. Not beautiful, nor ugly.

It saddens me there's so much focus on genitalia. But that's probably just me valuing personality and attitude over physical aspects.

Azael_Descends · 2018-02-18T18:29:40+00:00

Title of this post made me think of the "Every Sperm is Sacred" song.

Kempeth · 2018-02-18T18:41:52+00:00

Obligatory link to r/normalnudes and the penis gallery.

ElectraJane · 2018-02-18T20:07:25+00:00

Some penis' are better than others.

undercover_redditor · 2018-02-18T22:36:58+00:00

Even dirty and stinky penises are beautiful, underneath the grime.

Seriously though, be respectful to yourself and your partners. Wash your ass.

Corosz · 2018-02-18T15:26:25+00:00

You can swear on the internet.

nowthappens91 · 2018-02-18T15:33:37+00:00

I don’t have a particularly big penis, but I genuinely like the way mine looks, so I’ve never had any worries about it...except one time when I was a third for a couple and the guy had the biggest cock I’ve ever seen in or out of porn. That had me playing “hide the penis in his girlfriend” so much that they probably thought I was 100x more enthusiastic than I was.

Dick was T H I C C

LaserDiscTilDeath · 2018-02-18T19:39:52+00:00

You should stop caring about what they show you in porn, there’s no ideal model of beauty which you have to look like to be beautiful. It’s a construct, completely unnecessary.

I feel like this is one of those statements thats always made alongside "Most girls dont know what a really big dick is like anyway"

It's a platitude that tells smaller dicked guys "dont worry, she's probably never even SEEN one that big!!"

Which does nothing for the guys who date someone and they find out her previous partners DID have those massive porn dicks

Simple fact, my partner loves me for me and I get that. But if I were me, just with a thicker dick, it'd simply be "me but better". That's what bothers us.

vulcliques · 2018-02-18T17:00:09+00:00

There is a lock for every sized key lol.

StrayRatt · 2018-02-18T17:06:12+00:00

Don't apologize it was great advice for all men out there. And thanks for it

fatandhilarious · 2018-02-18T18:28:59+00:00

Thank you!

kalyvale · 2018-02-18T15:55:19+00:00

I think it's better to stop being delusional and accept that people have preferences and some prefer big dick, some average etc.

ItsOnlyRocknRol · 2018-02-18T17:05:48+00:00

Every Sperm is sacred!

ed523 · 2018-02-18T17:07:13+00:00

As long as it gets hard

Quelude · 2018-02-18T16:37:18+00:00

A helpful way to love your own cock is to masturbate in front of a mirror. It feels silly at first, but I've found it builds confidence.

uk_ex · 2018-02-18T16:58:26+00:00

Thank you for that, to me as a guy, they look awful, but then I have loved every vulva I have seen, and plenty of girls seem to find them off-putting. I guess that's just nature trying to steer us towards each other.

Same goes for breasts, I love big and small ones equally.

Love what you have, big or small.

LadyAzure17 · 2018-02-18T18:02:07+00:00

Yes, girl, yes! Agreed! Dicks are great no matter the size or shape.

npepin · 2018-02-18T21:55:37+00:00

I am a fan of sex positivity, but it is important to not be sex delusional. Attraction differs from person to person, but in aggregate there is agreement on what is unattractive and attractive.

It is important to accept your partner and other people as they come, but you can't also reject your actual feelings about aspects of a person's body. If you see your man's penis and you are disappointed in how it looks, then you are disappointed, it is ok. If you see your woman's breasts and you think they look weird, then you think they look weird, it is ok. There is no reason to dissociate from how you feel, you don't have a choice over what you are attracted to.

You have to know your hand and you have to play your hand. Unless you happen to be really good looking, most people aren't going to find you to be beautiful, and it is important to have an accurate assessment of how you are generally perceived.

Should you find your own body to be beautiful and have confidence if yourself? I think you need to know your hand and to play your hand accordingly. Accept it, but also realize there is variation.

With dating and sex especially, you would probably be rejected by 90% of the people out there, some portion of those people will reject you for dumb reasons like your dick size and shape, but most people aren't going to care, and there will be some portion of people that will find your particular dick size and shape to be the best they have ever seen. There is a lot of variation in sexual preferences, which isn't to say that there isn't a whole lot of overlap, but most of the people out there are not the right person for you and dating is about finding the right person. Not everyone is going to be a fan of how you look. Some people will love the way you look. Some people will love you regardless of how you look.

There is the whole other side of this conversation where people find faults in their body where they simply don't exist.

miltonbimowitz · 2018-02-18T17:29:00+00:00

Objective beauty is directly proportional to positive media exposure but also doesn't really mean jack shit if you have the time to appeal to someone on an individual basis.

Sumodenden · 2018-02-18T18:17:11+00:00

Totally! I’m so sick of “please rate me”! Reminds me of how insecure I used to be.

TheCuntyVaginaShow · 2018-02-18T18:19:59+00:00

I had a guy with a nice dick tell me he’s always been insecure about it and especially self-conscious when soft. I was genuinely surprised. I appreciated his vulnerability and I’m glad I could encourage him! I’m sure this post helped many.

greyjackal · 2018-02-18T18:52:50+00:00

Show them your middle fingers up.

Owww...no thanks

onthesunnyside · 2018-02-18T19:46:12+00:00

I've had a variety of penises and can't remember being disappointed by any of them.

Tigris474 · 2018-02-18T21:11:43+00:00

I'm a slutty queer 23 year old woman and I want to add that everyone's genitals, be it a penis, vagina, or something inbetween is beautiful. I've had sex with over 60 people, honestly I lost count I'm not really sure, and I have never judged someone's attractiveness based on their genitals. It usually has to do with their personality.

gliscorgirl · 2018-02-18T21:38:57+00:00

We should say this about vaginas as well.

Samadonis · 2018-02-18T21:43:07+00:00

Just reading the edits, how are people getting triggered by being told their dick is beautiful? Like there's literally nothing that doesn't boost the ego of every dude who reads it in this post

thelostwhore · 2018-02-18T22:56:45+00:00

I love your attitute.

I dont think all penises, much like vaginas are all beautiful.

But a lot of my idea of a good looking dick is also a mans hygiene and how they treat and clean their own dick that make or breaks a penis.

Im a hooker. I have seen more penises and vaginas than most. Not all are great. I also find the whole penis love thing more exclusive to someone I'm in a relationship with. Like i love my bfs dick. Its literally perfect for me. Taste, size, fit, look etc.

Love your attitude. Dont totally agree with the idea that every dick is awesome.

Ragnarokryss · 2018-02-18T23:03:01+00:00

Hey, thanks! I'll take the compliment :)

SalVen · 2018-02-18T23:15:36+00:00

Thank you. I am welling up in tears. I needed this so much.

Jdisgreat17 · 2018-02-19T00:05:59+00:00

I wish this is true, but when I went to college, the size of your dick could definitely make or break a hook up. Apparently, at least at the college I went to, if you didn't have a minimum 7 inch schlong, your chances of sleeping with a woman was cut nearly in half, and if you had under 5.5, which is still considered average if I'm not mistaken, you might as well not even try

mareenah · 2018-02-18T20:53:32+00:00

Bullshit. There are ugly penises. It doesn't matter. What matters is when we have fun with it. Why does everything have to be beautiful? Why are we 'all beautiful'? Can we just accept some shit is ugly and still not judge or demean people for it?

DarkReign2011 · 2018-02-18T16:19:50+00:00

I dunno about that... Typical male insecurity about things like size aside, I have good reason to be insecure about my own. When I was an infant I received a botched circumcision. Performance issues aside, it also left a very lopsided and ugly shape. Not really anything I can do about it and I've learned to live with it, appearance-wise. It's definitely not beautiful, though.

ElectraJane · 2018-02-18T15:33:22+00:00

I don't believe this. I have a preference. Just like a man has a preference. They are all different, and some better than others.

RainingGlitter28 · 2018-02-18T20:25:17+00:00

Am woman. I agree entirely with this post!!

dudezilla1989 · 2018-02-18T17:55:20+00:00

karma bait post

MyVoreThrowaway · 2018-02-18T17:03:27+00:00

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shiftynightworker · 2018-02-18T18:42:26+00:00

Now sing it to the tune of Every Sperm Is Sacred from Monty Python's The Meaning Of Life

Ankeneering · 2018-02-18T19:17:06+00:00

I for one, have struggled with shame. Now, thanks to diet and excercise I am proud of my tanned, athletic penis.

Ameen2103 · 2018-02-18T19:57:26+00:00

Yeah they’re not gonna believe you

smartyr228 · 2018-02-18T20:46:10+00:00

Thanks. Still hate mine tho.

CH1CK3NW1N95 · 2018-02-18T20:53:39+00:00

I needed that today, thanks a bunch

johnyann · 2018-02-18T20:54:53+00:00

Think having a two toned dick stopped two toned Malone?

Nope. Skanked his way into the anals of porn history.

MustGetALife · 2018-02-18T21:32:46+00:00

Why on earth are you having to apologise? Lol.

Controversial? Harmful? Insensitive?

Holy shit, some snowflakes can be offended over absolute fuck all and need to grow the fuck up.

I liked your post. Well said.

DWright_5 · 2018-02-18T21:34:08+00:00

I think OP had great intentions with her post. But now that I’ve read the entire thread, the term “zero-sum game” occurs to me.

Saphron_ · 2018-02-18T21:55:00+00:00

Amen! Every dick is a pretty dick. No one should feel ashamed of how their genitalia looks.

ABunchOfRadishSpirit · 2018-02-18T22:40:02+00:00

You just made this asian guy's day even more brighter 😄

EricTheRoman · 2018-02-18T22:48:06+00:00

Dont apologise, youre right. Thankyou for saying that ❤️

There will be some with deep hurts, but you made me smile and plenty of others!

Redowadoer · 2018-02-18T23:41:29+00:00

Show them your middle fingers up.

I can show them something else up. ;)

MonopolyButWthDads · 2018-02-19T00:14:24+00:00

Man my SO makes fun of my balls all the time, and how much she thinks penises are gross. This feels nice to read, I just want to sleep naked

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