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I basically only use Apollo for things now, and that decision is what compelled me to leave.
is in capable hands who will continue guiding the subreddit, giving hundreds of thousands of people a good safe space. They don’t need me anymore, but I was glad I could found it and get it off the ground.
I’m going to miss what this website was. I’m not going to miss what it’s turning into.
Goodbye, and stay safe.
🐢
Over the last few weeks, I’ve been trying to be more visible with my transness. I know that visibility without security is vulnerability, but I’ve taken it upon myself to show the public that trans people are just regular people. Trans people come in every different shape, size, color, habit, intention, belief, and personality. Nearly all of them mean no harm; in fact, most trans people are focused on being so incredibly goddamn perfect that we don’t bring wrath down upon ourselves for existing.
But I’ve been copping to my trans identity more and more often, including joking about it in subtle (and obvious) ways at my shows, in front of crowds of people. I hope that people can see that I’m just people, that we’re all just people.
I’m trying to be less stealth. I don’t think I was ever stealth to begin with, but at least now I own it.
It’s been a long decade.
Ban me so I’m not tempted to interfere.
Strong shell and feets for marching.
Power tripping? That’s what you’re gonna cling to, and repeat over and over again?
I did this shit for a decade. I built this community from the ground up and formed it into what it is. Over 200,000 people like it enough to be subscribed to it. Don’t like it? Go roll your own.
I’ve taken so much fucking abuse and utter bullshit from people in modmail. I’ve seen people send me pictures of severed dicks when I banned them, I’ve seen people send me postal mail to my own address that says “you banned me on Reddit and this is proof I know where you live,” I’ve had people ring my fucking doorbell with a bat in their hands.
So screw you. We do this for free, and we do this cause this is the community we believe in.
We believe pictures of people’s genitals should be further away from minors than a single click. I can’t fucking believe you oppose that.
God fucking dammit.
You are among the list of reasons I no longer moderate here.
Getting old will be the best thing that will ever happen to you.
It's better than getting shot and bleeding out on the floor of a bank.
It's better than dying of pancreatic cancer at 26.
It's better than dying of a horrible car accident, gurgling about your mom through smashed skull bones.
If you die of old age, it's the best possible result.
Think of it this way, with every birthday you celebrate, that's another year where the bastards haven't got you yet!
Getting old is a privilege denied to many.
The repetition was encouraged. Although the questions don't change from week to week, the answers do. The subreddit operates on iteration and incremental improvement.
No, what burned me out was constantly dealing with creeps and perverts arguing that they should be allowed to show their genitals and talk about sex on the subreddit. What burned me out was dealing with endless fascists in my modmail, looking for any emotional crack in my armor to bust me down with and report me to the admins.
What burned me out was endlessly arguing with random dickweeds in modmail that no, I didn't respect their freedom of speech, because freedom of speech isn't a thing on this internet website, (because "freedom of speech" just means the government can't jail you for speaking out against it) and I can ban whoever I want for any reason, and I usually ban fuckfaces for being fuckfaces.
No pomp, no circumstance.
I’m done.
I just survived a permanent suspension after being incredibly mean to people being creeps in this subreddit. Like, solid modmail vitriol. And well, that’s not good customer service. It’s not how moderators should be.
My suspension was lifted today, even though I only apologized in appeal and never asked for a removal, so while I have Reddit functions, I’m going to resign from here.
It’s been a long decade, I’m burnt out. If I involve myself here, I’ll still be the founder, but not the lead moderator anymore.
And as always, this is an SFW subreddit and any mention of sexual content at all is dealt with.
You all have strong shells and feets for marching. Be good, turtles.
Edit: I just applied to have my permanent suspension back. I’m not sure why they removed it.
Yeah, that's for the best. Did you know that rock-bottom is just a painted veneer of rocks hot-glued to a trap door? It goes way, way deeper than that, into dark depths that will drive you mad?
edit: I can see everything, you can't see it because you have the "don't show NSFW subs" feature turned on. Don't turn it off. Horrors beyond your comprehension and such.
Nope.
Reason being is that it paints a target on the heads of minors and then those minors get really gross messages.
Instead, we just moderate as though every single person in the subreddit is 14. Since this is an SFW subreddit, devoid of sexual discussion and sexual pleasure, it’s simple: we remove creeps and pedophiles with haste.
The robot is just a robot. It has no feelings, logic, or thoughts. It cannot misjudge, and does exactly what it was told to do every time.
It sees a few letters in a certain order, and that triggers an action, and then it performs the action. Meaning, intent, emotion, capacity to judge, none of this factors into this.
For example, if your post includes the letters in this order, “training,” then the post gets deleted and marked with a note that says “no fetish content,” because that word seems to be abundantly used by people who are trying to explore their sexual fetishes in this child-friendly space.
What you should not do is have public multi-paragraph freakouts about how the automod mistreated you. It does not care. Emotion is not something it conceives of.
Instead, what you should do is to message the mods privately, say “the robot messed up, can you take a look,” and then we will do just that.
The robot is just a robot. It has no feelings, logic, or thoughts. It cannot misjudge, and does exactly what it was told to do every time.
It sees a few letters in a certain order, and that triggers an action, and then it performs the action. Meaning, intent, emotion, capacity to judge, none of this factors into this.
For example, if your post includes the letters in this order, “training,” then the post gets deleted and marked with a note that says “no fetish content,” because that word seems to be abundantly used by people who are trying to explore their sexual fetishes in this child-friendly space.
What you should not do is have public multi-paragraph freakouts about how the automod mistreated you. It does not care. Emotion is not something it conceives of.
Instead, what you should do is to message the mods privately, say “the robot messed up, can you take a look,” and then we will do just that.
The robot is just a robot. It has no feelings, logic, or thoughts. It cannot misjudge, and does exactly what it was told to do every time.
It sees a few letters in a certain order, and that triggers an action, and then it performs the action. Meaning, intent, emotion, capacity to judge, none of this factors into this.
For example, if your post includes the letters in this order, “training,” then the post gets deleted and marked with a note that says “no fetish content,” because that word seems to be abundantly used by people who are trying to explore their sexual fetishes in this child-friendly space.
What you should not do is have public multi-paragraph freakouts about how the automod mistreated you. It does not care. Emotion is not something it conceives of.
Instead, what you should do is to message the mods privately, say “the robot messed up, can you take a look,” and then we will do just that.
The robot is just a robot. It has no feelings, logic, or thoughts. It cannot misjudge, and does exactly what it was told to do every time.
It sees a few letters in a certain order, and that triggers an action, and then it performs the action. Meaning, intent, emotion, capacity to judge, none of this factors into this.
For example, if your post includes the letters in this order, “training,” then the post gets deleted and marked with a note that says “no fetish content,” because that word seems to be abundantly used by people who are trying to explore their sexual fetishes in this child-friendly space.
What you should not do is have public multi-paragraph freakouts about how the automod mistreated you. It does not care. Emotion is not something it conceives of.
Instead, what you should do is to message the mods privately, say “the robot messed up, can you take a look,” and then we will do just that.
https://i.imgur.com/2oCeXHc.jpg
I don’t know if you’re aware if it exists or not, but Google Translate is fairly reliable for short sentences.
Copied and pasted from someone who asked this a couple days ago:
Founder of the sub. I’ve created it a decade ago. I’ve had my eyes on nearly every post.
Resources and information across fashion has a three month turnover.
New makeup lines consistently rise to the top every eight months or so.
Hair removal techniques come and go. Laser became popular for femboys about two years four months ago.
My position comes not from opinion, but generative statistics about the environment of the subreddit, reams of excel spreadsheets that have been created in the attempt to answer “should I create an FAQ, or does the information change too fast?”
The answer is that I shouldn’t create an FAQ because it’ll stifle 90% of community traffic, and I would have to do all the research on changing femboy trends, instead out outsourcing it to 202,000 people that (quite frankly) know better than me.
Go if you want to go. This subreddit is working as designed, maintained, and intentioned.
Founder of the sub. I’ve created it a decade ago. I’ve had my eyes on nearly every post.
Resources and information across fashion has a three month turnover.
New makeup lines consistently rise to the top every eight months or so.
Hair removal techniques come and go. Laser became popular for femboys about two years four months ago.
My position comes not from opinion, but generative statistics about the environment of the subreddit, reams of excel spreadsheets that have been created in the attempt to answer “should I create an FAQ, or does the information change too fast?”
The answer is that I shouldn’t create an FAQ because it’ll stifle 90% of community traffic, and I would have to do all the research on changing femboy trends, instead out outsourcing it to 202,000 people that (quite frankly) know better than me.
Go if you want to go. This subreddit is working as designed, maintained, and intentioned.
I didn’t say you’re a nazi and a fascist, I mentioned that you shouldn’t label trans people as an “other” cause that’s what fascists do. You’re prolly not a fascist, but the longer you drag this out and make it about your discomfort and your apologies, when me and my people have just been threatened with eradication, ain’t good.
Just back down, say sorry, and do better next time.
And no, it’s not just you; this whole American culture of refusing to apologize and double down in the face of obvious mistakes, is eventually gonna get people killed.
Hey, your account has been shadowbanned. As a result, everything you post is being autodeleted. I've only seen this one cause I'm a mod. Don't believe me? Try doing https://reddit.com/u/catboyvinyl in incognito mode.
I'm asexual and sex-repulsed.
Communication can happen here.
I don't know if you're looking for people's personal info, but you shouldn't need that to talk to people.
All I ask is that you (or anyone, and anyone includes you) don't creep on anyone. No weird flirts, no sexual comments.
If those are a mandatory part of your communication, then you're on your own for that.
Community is organic. It's a bunch of people talking to each other, the vast overwhelming majority of them femboys. You can't just leave a post and disappear into the aether, that's not conversation. Talk to people, learn, converse, grow, be social. Make friends.
I mean, what are you expecting, to shoot a probe out into deep space, and eventually receive a report that says "yup, there's femboys," then you die happy?
There's tools at your disposal, there's people to talk to. I believe in you.
Maybe thirty? I just recently
https://i.imgur.com/tKLfPwr.jpg
I think I’ve put about 50, maybe 60 hours in?
Gender non-conformity is inherently political, and one purpose among many of this subreddit is to normalize gender non-conformity and normalize femboys.
The two really can't be separated. We can't just sit here and want to dress up in skirts and oversized hoodies and not do anything about the people writing laws against us; that leads to a swift and sure end.
I played double deck Palm Island, because why not? I’m not gonna follow no rules about “only use one deck at a time.” Also the base game was getting stale so I wanted to spice things up a bit. And since the game comes with two decks…
So I shuffled them together, pulled out one of the round cards from the deck completely and put the other at the back, and played with no other changes. Only four cards in holding, eight rounds and such.
It was strange sometimes, holding two tool makers or two trading houses. In the end, I made a fairly mediocre 51 points, which is about double my single-deck benchmark.
Cool, this is what I get to come home to after a day out and about.
Cis people can and do post in the trans subs. They do it to support their trans partners, to ask questions about what transition involves, and they do it to learn and grow. They don't get banned for doing this.
Femboys have their own communities, like this one, that non-femboys post into. For example, there was a masculine man who posted in here, mentioning that he had a crush on a femboy in his social circle, and he was gonna woo him and take him on dates and make him feel special and stuff. This is also good.
I don't agree with your divisionist bullshit and I'm speaking to you right now. That's one hell of a way to cite fuck-all sources that probably don't actually exist.
Let communities speak to and with each other.
Sincerely, the trans woman who has been moderating this subreddit for the past fucking decade, and has been doing it since she was a femboy
Allow me to reassert myself.
You are creeping in the subreddit right now, by awkwardly asking "any fem boys into girl?? If so chat??"
You are probably planning to chat about gross things, and most of the people in this subreddit are minors.
This activity is forbidden by the rules.
The rule you have broken is Rule 2: No Creeping.
The text of Rule 2: No Creeping is this: "Do not ask for DMs, friends, dates, sex, or hookups. Posts that lead people to disclose personal information such as location will be removed."
You are breaking the rules.
You have broken Rule 2: No Creeping.
You have broken Rule 2: No Creeping by asking for DMs and chats.
You have done a bad thing.
https://i.imgur.com/2Sc8zfC.jpg 🐢
I managed to play it all in my lounge, provided I used the lid and the box to store components I temporarily banned from play, like minis that aren’t in use, and the ship book, and such like that. I had to be a little more economical with my table space.
The really frostrating thing ice that I can’t seem to get Endless Winter to pack in on this table.
re: ISS Vanguard (content warning: spoilers for the first two missions of ISS Vanguard)
Holy fucking shit.
This is it. It's happening.
ISS Vanguard is a game I've been waiting for about three years, and it finally arrived in my possession just yesterday evening. This is the second-largest game I have now, immediately under Arkham Horror LCG. It's got a run time of about eighty to a hundred hours, but it's been cleverly arranged to break up the pace of play into well-designed save points.
So humanity discovers in her junk DNA, a star map indicating a location way the hell out there in space. Told through an opening comic book, or a video, we finally pool our resources and put together a ship to go there, after we find a foreign warp drive buried in Siberia. We don't have the technology to dismantle it or build a second one, so this is all we got. And it's going on the back of ISS Vanguard, our only hope. A couple years later, we get there. We found the location. It's a dead, crumbling dyson sphere encasing an over-mined solar system with a star drained so hard it hardly emits light at all. But inside we find another star map, pointing to forty-five different locations, and a video stitched together from random earth broadcasts (). The stakes start high.
This game feels much like if Mass Effect was printed on paper. I can navigate the ISS Vanguard and tend to ship functions with the Ship Book--a binder, with all the departments of my ship laid out and ready for me to see. Every character in the game has back stories, motivations, and can die to my horrible choices. The most danger they'll ever be in is when I need to land them on a ship, with an landing mechanic, a lander on that planet I need to defend, and objectives I need to complete before I die.
I've spent five and a half hours on this, playing through two missions, and it's been a riot. The time flew by. Everything's narrated straight through the headset on my head with a full voice cast. I also had to spend an hour installing the game in its own box, unwrapping and sorting cards and making things ready for play in the morning (which I did the moment I woke up).
This is everything I ever wanted.
Goddammit, why would you tell this to literal children? There are people as young as 14 on this subreddit. Had you have read the rules, or the subreddit header, or the subreddit title, or the sidebar, or the FAQ, or any of the mod declarations at the top of the subreddit, or any of my other countless comments about this, you would see that this fucking shit isn't allowed and you're describing fucked up shit to children.
I’m that 20%. I’m ace and sex-repulsed but very homoromantic. Sometimes trans women play all their cards at me and are disappointed when I don’t even react. I just want friends.
Also sorry for making your lives worse by me being the possibility that keeps the failure-to-launch scenario happening, but I’m also not gonna stop.
If you’re stuck, try to make any incremental change to the board.
Two columns clear guarantees victory if you don’t screw up; three columns clear is victory even if you screw up. Keep one column clear at all times. Failing that, keep a column with only one card in it. Worst case scenario is all columns full with the minor arcana slot full.
Don’t get excited about exiling a bunch of cards unless you get an empty column for it, or a clear path to an empty column.
Make sure every card you move has a good permanent landing place. If you disobey this rule twice, you’ve lost.
It’s okay to think; Zach does not time you. Planning is essential.
Edit: you could have not made your comment, but here we are and you’re stuck with it.
All around you, gay and trans and bi and asexual people are simply existing, doing things like eating only the marshmallows in cereal, reading books on 25th century political intrigue, petting various dogs, and this is the one that seems to rustle a lot of jimmies: forming communities and safe places where they can just exist and enjoy some time. Damn shame that scared white straight dudes with guns keep trying to fuck it all up.
If you’ll excuse me, I have some cereal to, uh, sort.
Because I’m queer too, the owner is a friend of mine, and solidarity through these scary times is rough, and I hang out at that store and play Magic and board games quite a bit, and because I can personally vouch for the character of the lady I bought the PlayDate from, instead of from a random scalper or such.
Lots of reasons. It absolutely “maters.”
I found my amazing wife on a dating website, we’ve been married for six years and counting, together for eight. I’m repulsed and she’s indifferent.
https://i.imgur.com/fAAGxun.jpg
Might just need to broaden your geographic range. It’s very possible to find someone.
Controls are wonky. The OK/cancel ring could be made good if cancel was infinitely big around OK, but it’s too small to reliably hit with normal speed. Also, the d-pad needs swipes to push arrows, instead of individual taps. Navigating the menu is cumbersome.
Played this game on DS and Switch, and it was awesome there. Hopefully they’ll adjust this here too.
And yet, when we have one, it did two things: it quickly went out of date and required lots of edits, and also the subreddit traffic and community dropped by 30%.
It’s a conscious choice not to include an FAQ. Counterintuitive and questionable for sure, but it seems to grow our safe bastion in the face of the pornographic counterpart subreddits.
The same questions get asked over and over, and yet the answers change over time.
https://i.imgur.com/wfmaPmw.jpg
This game is so goddamn good.
Arrange a deck into exactly this order: 7, 16, 1, 2, 12, 8, 15, 4, 14, 3, 9, 10, 13, 5, 6, 11, 17
And please post your results below!
We pay attention. We're a little hurt that you think we don't; so much is going on in modmail. So many terrible people try to use this space for evil.
We're allowing the posts; they're legitimate questions.
Yes, you're a femboy if you're standing on an Indonesian fishing boat at 6:15pm just off the coast of Japan, on a Thursday, holding a can of beans with the top half cut off, eating them with a spoon, watching the sun set.
Oh! That’s a full-resolution file, ready to go! Just run it through InkedGaming.com as an over-sized playmat, and bam!
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RpV3tMTHOPkQxPgtEpVAN23n7SM64iBI/view?usp=drivesdk
Oh! That’s a full-resolution file, ready to go! Just run it through InkedGaming.com as an over-sized playmat, and bam!
Edit: unless Imgur crushed it.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RpV3tMTHOPkQxPgtEpVAN23n7SM64iBI/view?usp=drivesdk