I am not a gay man.
The gender critical project to deny trans women exist and withhold medical transition is just conversion therapy with J. K. Rowling's branding.
I feel particularly qualified to say so. Unlike most trans women, I spent my late teens and 20s in Gayworld giving it an honest go. Drag, drugs and dance was my world. That developmental experience left quite a bit of residue, and there's a bit of a gay socialization I've given up and embraced as I've gotten older.
But I am not the same thing as a gay man.
The idea of a man loving me for a body I hated felt disgusting and wrong, which is why I avoided sex. And as easily as I can vibe with the queens, there is a social distance between us. They are much more preoccupied with sex. They tend to not value the emotional internal experiences of women, mostly the aesthetics. When I hang out in these groups, I am an outsider, despite having practically cloned interests.
I know it's hard for them to understand, but I have never struggled with feeling guilty about attraction to men. It always felt so incidental to the gender dysphoria. I must've wished I was just gay 1 trillion times growing up, but I'm just not. Crushes on boys always felt natural. Hopeless, before I transitioned, but not something I ever felt a need to suppress.
It's a hard thing to quantify, but my romantic feelings about men are much closer to straight women's than gay men. I've always tended towards monogamy and emotional connection over visual appeal. The language of romance novels makes perfect sense, Grindr does not. We may want the same thing, but we want it in entirely different ways.
None of the people trying to shove us into a homosexuality box have my best interest at heart. They have a political mission, based in hate, to deny trans women exist.
This idea that trans women existing is somehow gay erasure is frankly genocidal. You cannot stop us from existing by denying trans women exist as a category. Rowling and her cultists are engaged in something Orwellian.