Openheartedness isn’t a personality trait, it’s a practice.
More specifically, openheartedness is the practice that turns triggers into togetherness. And that practice becomes most important precisely when you least want to practice it.
I kicked off this session of The Less Triggered Teachings by sharing a story from my own marriage, when I was absolutely convinced I was being the world’s greatest husband and father. Helping. Serving. Showing up. Until one small comment from my wife revealed the truth:
Part of me wasn’t simply loving, it was performing for approval.
From there, this session explored these core insights:
Some of our most “openhearted” behaviors can actually be closed hearts in clever disguise.
You don’t solve your defenses, you soften to them.
The defensive parts of us aren’t enemies to destroy—they’re younger versions of ourselves trying to keep us safe from loneliness, rejection, shame, disconnection, etc.
Transformation begins the moment we stop attacking those parts with criticism and start welcoming them with compassion.
A practical framework for instantly turning disconnection into connection, by confessing our closing.
I concluded my keynote with this quote from The Road Less Triggered:
There’s no such thing as a perfect world, but a more peaceful world is well within our watchful reach.
And then we concluded the call with a deeply meaningful time of conversation, Q&A, and coaching, which proved that to be true.
Enjoy!
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