“You’ve been black-balled” means someone has been deliberately excluded, rejected, or denied membership, opportunity, or social acceptance by a group or authority through a coordinated or formal decision.
Key points and contexts
- Origin: Comes from secret-ballot voting in private clubs where a single black ball cast by a member could veto an applicant; black = negative vote. The term generalized from that practice.
- Practical meaning:
- Formal exclusion: Denied membership in an organization, club, union, fraternity, professional body, or similar institution because members voted against you.
- Inform
“You’ve been black-balled” means someone has been deliberately excluded, rejected, or denied membership, opportunity, or social acceptance by a group or authority through a coordinated or formal decision.
Key points and contexts
- Origin: Comes from secret-ballot voting in private clubs where a single black ball cast by a member could veto an applicant; black = negative vote. The term generalized from that practice.
- Practical meaning:
- Formal exclusion: Denied membership in an organization, club, union, fraternity, professional body, or similar institution because members voted against you.
- Informal/social exclusion: Deliberate ostracism where peers, employers, or networks refuse to engage with you, recommend you, hire you, or grant access.
- Reputational blocking: Others actively discourage or prevent opportunities for you (jobs, contracts, gigs) because of a shared decision or negative consensus.
- Typical mechanisms:
- Secret or majority vote in a membership body.
- Closed-network refusal to refer or hire.
- Policy-based bans (e.g., delisted from a platform or service).
- Coordinated rumor or blacklist that harms reputation.
- Consequences: Difficulty obtaining membership, employment, partnerships, or social acceptance; damage to reputation; reduced access to resources and opportunities.
- How it differs from ordinary rejection: Black-balling implies collective, often secretive, and intentional exclusion rather than a one-off or administrative denial.
- What to do if it happens:
- Verify facts: confirm whether an exclusion is formal (written/recorded) or informal (rumors, silence).
- Seek documentation or appeal processes if the group has them.
- Repair relationships privately with key decision-makers where possible.
- Rebuild options outside that network: alternative organizations, independent channels, or legal advice if defamation or unlawful discrimination is involved.
Examples (typical stories):
- A membership club uses a ballot; one black ball prevents admission.
- A professional who criticized powerful members finds colleagues stop referring clients and invitations disappear.
- An artist is informally “black-balled” by festival organizers after a controversy and no longer receives festival invitations.
Legal note: Being black-balled can be lawful or unlawful depending on context—private associations often control membership, but coordinated exclusion based on protected characteristics or defamatory falsehoods may have legal remedies.
To be blackballed is to be shut out of a group or career path by one or more individuals influence. It is used as a form of group unity, where if one representative is against you, all of them are. The term originates from a process that used to be common in lodge admission votes. Each member would place either a white ball or a black ball into a container. If there was even one black ball, the applicant would be denied membership. Nowadays, blackballing is used when somebody has made a huge mistake in their field or offended somebody with a large amount of influence in their field, to prevent
To be blackballed is to be shut out of a group or career path by one or more individuals influence. It is used as a form of group unity, where if one representative is against you, all of them are. The term originates from a process that used to be common in lodge admission votes. Each member would place either a white ball or a black ball into a container. If there was even one black ball, the applicant would be denied membership. Nowadays, blackballing is used when somebody has made a huge mistake in their field or offended somebody with a large amount of influence in their field, to prevent the offending party from being able to find work in that field by denouncing their reputation.
Blackballing is a rejection in a traditional form of secret ballot, where a white ball or ballot constitutes a vote in support and a black ball signifies opposition. This system is typically used where a club's rules provide that one or two objections, rather than an at-least-50% share of votes, are sufficient to defeat a proposition.
The principle of such election rules in a club is that it is self-perpetuating to preserve the current ethos (and exclusivity) of the club, by ensuring that candidates are congenial to (almost) all the existing members; i.e., new members are elected by unanimous
Blackballing is a rejection in a traditional form of secret ballot, where a white ball or ballot constitutes a vote in support and a black ball signifies opposition. This system is typically used where a club's rules provide that one or two objections, rather than an at-least-50% share of votes, are sufficient to defeat a proposition.
The principle of such election rules in a club is that it is self-perpetuating to preserve the current ethos (and exclusivity) of the club, by ensuring that candidates are congenial to (almost) all the existing members; i.e., new members are elected by unanimous or near-unanimous agreement of voting members.
The term remains still in use for many different voting systems which have applied from club to club and from time to time: for example, instead of differently coloured balls, ballot-balls may be dropped into separate "yes" or "no" drawers inside the ballot box
The phrase will always remind me of a cover of the British magazine “Private Eye”, when Basil D’Oliviera, a cricketer who had long played for England, was barred from playing in South Africa, the country of his birth, under the apartheid regime. He was of Indian and Portuguese ancestry and was unacceptably “non-white” to be allowed in the team.
The cover showed the Queen greeting the England team (clearly on another occasion) and shaking hands with D’Oliviera. “Private Eye” added speech balloons:
Queen: “aren’t you the one who’s been black-balled?”
D’Oliviera: “from birth, Ma’am”.
D'Oliveira
The phrase will always remind me of a cover of the British magazine “Private Eye”, when Basil D’Oliviera, a cricketer who had long played for England, was barred from playing in South Africa, the country of his birth, under the apartheid regime. He was of Indian and Portuguese ancestry and was unacceptably “non-white” to be allowed in the team.
The cover showed the Queen greeting the England team (clearly on another occasion) and shaking hands with D’Oliviera. “Private Eye” added speech balloons:
Queen: “aren’t you the one who’s been black-balled?”
D’Oliviera: “from birth, Ma’am”.
D'Oliveira affair - Wikipedia
Seriously, “black-ball” means to ban or reject someone, particularly for membership of an exclusive club, by means of a secret ballot where existing members register their vote for the newcomer by putting black and white balls in a box.
It means to be excluded from a group or organisation.
I believe the origin of this is in British gentlemen's clubs. When a new member wanted to join he had to be proposed by an existing member, but that was not the end of the process. All the other members would vote by secret ballot on whether to admit the new member. They would vote by putting small balls or marbles into a bag. A white ball meant yes and a black ball meant no. If there were any black balls in the bag the prospective member was not admitted into the club. In other words he was "blackballed"
oh so the meaning changes from the US to England because someone said 'get blacked' was have sex with a black person
It’s to do with the Masons. When deciding if someone should be allowed to become a Mason, they vote by putting snooker balls into a bag. If anyone puts a black ball in, you’re out. So ‘you got blacked’ is the same as ‘you got black balled’.
Voting on resolutions in gentlemen's clubs (social clubs) or fraternal organizations (like freemasonry) was at one point traditionally done by casting ballots in the form of balls. A white ball was a vote to adopt of the resolution and a black ball was a vote to reject the resolution. If a resolution was rejected it was said to have been "black-balled." Many resolutions would have included applications for membership in the club or organization; subsequently, the term "black-balled" in reference to a person took on the meaning of being rejected for membership, rejected in general, or inelig
Voting on resolutions in gentlemen's clubs (social clubs) or fraternal organizations (like freemasonry) was at one point traditionally done by casting ballots in the form of balls. A white ball was a vote to adopt of the resolution and a black ball was a vote to reject the resolution. If a resolution was rejected it was said to have been "black-balled." Many resolutions would have included applications for membership in the club or organization; subsequently, the term "black-balled" in reference to a person took on the meaning of being rejected for membership, rejected in general, or ineligible for entry/employment/membership.
It can have several meanings depending on the context:
- You’ve been conned or suckered in some way (possibly you fell for a get-rich-quick scheme)
- You’ve been shown to be responsible for a criminal act or to have been an accessory to a criminal act
- You’ve been bested in some sort of contest
- You’ve been shown to be wrong about something
There are probably other meanings that I just haven’t thought of yet but I think that covers the main ones.
This phrase has many meanings, this one here is unknown to a lot of people, several instances have been mentioned on Quora.
“Blackballing” is a form of sadistic school bullying carried out on male students.
To blackball someone, you heat up a tin of black shoe polish and pour it onto the male victims testicles.
Besides the victim suffering the discomfort of having hot shoe polish poured over his private parts, he also has the humiliation of having the polish set hard, giving him "black balls".
The victim would them have to pick off the hard wax that would of set hard tangled with his skin and pubi
This phrase has many meanings, this one here is unknown to a lot of people, several instances have been mentioned on Quora.
“Blackballing” is a form of sadistic school bullying carried out on male students.
To blackball someone, you heat up a tin of black shoe polish and pour it onto the male victims testicles.
Besides the victim suffering the discomfort of having hot shoe polish poured over his private parts, he also has the humiliation of having the polish set hard, giving him "black balls".
The victim would them have to pick off the hard wax that would of set hard tangled with his skin and pubic hair.
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Mostly means you’re “living on the edge”, my friend.
This phrase has many meanings. I'll try to explain a few.
First, from my understanding, “blackballing” is a negative action that one or several individuals are taking against another person. Secondly, this is often something not done openly, but behind a person's back.
Furthermore, to reject somebody or to deny somebody something. For example from getting get a job.
Finally a sentence sample: “They had been blackballing me for a long time, trying to stop me from working for a new company.”
Here is a less commonly used semantic option for the term blackball, and it is used in all communities where heavy petting occurs. It self-evidently only occurs with males. Males in the homosexual, transsexual, unisexual, bisexual, trisexual, and straight communities should be familiar with the term “blackball” and “blackballs” and if they are sexually active might have even had a black ball or two.
Foreplay that involves a whole lot of non-penetration and holding back of ejaculation to extend and enhance the foreplay or stop pregnancy can give a guy a case of blackball, or blackballs. One’s te
Here is a less commonly used semantic option for the term blackball, and it is used in all communities where heavy petting occurs. It self-evidently only occurs with males. Males in the homosexual, transsexual, unisexual, bisexual, trisexual, and straight communities should be familiar with the term “blackball” and “blackballs” and if they are sexually active might have even had a black ball or two.
Foreplay that involves a whole lot of non-penetration and holding back of ejaculation to extend and enhance the foreplay or stop pregnancy can give a guy a case of blackball, or blackballs. One’s testicles ache and throb and swell in a kind of memorial to excessive thrusting with no immediate penetration to followed. The anti-abortion folks will just love this contraception issue, but males in general sure don’t.
This kind of petting is indeed unhealthy when blackball is the result, even if one does eventually penetrate penis-in-vagina or whatever orifice is engaged with the penis. You don’t get blackball from sex per se; you get blackball from coitus interruptus or just noncompletion of the full act of sexual intercourse from toe to crown, so to speak. Just call me small-“d” dr. Buff.
Original question. What does the phrase "you've been Trumped" mean?
It is nothing to do with Donald Trump. If yo are a normal.person and not a Trump supporter I suggest you move on now as I am going into great and boring detail for the benefit of said Trump supporters.
In a normal pack of playing cards there are four suits - clubs ♧, diamonds ◇, hearts ♡ and spades ♤. In some card games such as bridge and whist, one suit can be designated as “trumps". This means that this suit is superior to the other three.
In the games mentioned players must “follow suit". This means that if a player has cards
Original question. What does the phrase "you've been Trumped" mean?
It is nothing to do with Donald Trump. If yo are a normal.person and not a Trump supporter I suggest you move on now as I am going into great and boring detail for the benefit of said Trump supporters.
In a normal pack of playing cards there are four suits - clubs ♧, diamonds ◇, hearts ♡ and spades ♤. In some card games such as bridge and whist, one suit can be designated as “trumps". This means that this suit is superior to the other three.
In the games mentioned players must “follow suit". This means that if a player has cards of the same suit as the first card played he must play one of those cards.
This can be disadventageous. For example, if the king of clubs is the first card played is the ace of clubs, the other players must play a club card if they have one. If they only have, for example, the king of clubs, they must play it, thus losing a high card, which might have one another hand.
If they don't have any clubs and they play another suit, they automatically lose the hand. Unless they have trump card. If a trump card is played the player concerned wins the hand, no matter what value of the trump card, unless a following player plays a higher value trump card. The player who played the ace of clubs has therefore been “trumped". If you have lasted this long congratulations on your stamina.
“Blackballed” is not a sports metaphor. It is a life metaphor. It means to be excluded - often (but not always) for some unknown personal failing or transgression.
It dates back to the era of gentleman’s clubs (before that term was changed to mean strip clubs). When clubs had to vote on new members’ applications a vase would be passed around and the current members would drop a ball or pebble in. White to signify ‘yes’, and black to signify ‘no’. But if you got a single black ball then you were not admitted. So you were said to have been ‘blackballed’ by someone. However, because it was anonymo
“Blackballed” is not a sports metaphor. It is a life metaphor. It means to be excluded - often (but not always) for some unknown personal failing or transgression.
It dates back to the era of gentleman’s clubs (before that term was changed to mean strip clubs). When clubs had to vote on new members’ applications a vase would be passed around and the current members would drop a ball or pebble in. White to signify ‘yes’, and black to signify ‘no’. But if you got a single black ball then you were not admitted. So you were said to have been ‘blackballed’ by someone. However, because it was anonymous you never knew who, so for whatever reason you were being blocked from joining the club (or blackballed) by “the club membership” for some reason.
In retail, it means you are above the break even line and into profitability (aka Black Friday when many retailers finally get in the black for the year…)
Hmmm, not really sure. That’s a new one on me. But maybe they mean you have to always be in control of everything. You hear a hint of anything and next thing you know you’ve made yourself the one in charge. You suck all the air out of the room unless it’s all about you you you.
Blacklooping is a term that describes when a black person (usually a black female) repeats the same words or sounds over and over as a result of excitement or anger
"OKAY!! OKAY!! OKAY!! YOU DO DAT!! YOU DO DAT!!"
I’d guess via one of two definitions of “have”.
The first is simply to possess. Used in terms of conflict to “have” someone is to have beaten them (think “I have you now”). So, “I’ve been had” could equate to “I’ve been beaten/outplayed”.
The second is to have sex with, specifically in a dominant capacity (think “I’ve had her”). Through this definition, “I’ve been had” would be directly comparable with “I’ve been screwed”.
Someone says something to you that strikes you the wrong way.
You come back angry and insult them.
They respond back, making you look the fool. They weren’t saying anything negative at all.
OR
Someone appears to be doing bad things.
You hire people to find out if they are, at great expense to you.
You find that they’ve done nothing bad, but now you are out tons of money.
In both cases, you were Trumped.
The Golden Buzzer would be the reverse of the blackball.
To vote in a new member, each current member of certain clubs was given a white ball and a black ball. A white ball was a vote in, a black ball was a vote out. They would pass by a hat or similar and secretly drop in the ball indicating their choice. Any black balls meant the candidate was rejected, even if it was only one. Thus to use one's power to reject another regardless of consensus was to “blackball" them.
The Golden Buzzer is a voting mechanism on America's Got Talent. Each judge and host get one Golden Buzzer buzz per season. With
The Golden Buzzer would be the reverse of the blackball.
To vote in a new member, each current member of certain clubs was given a white ball and a black ball. A white ball was a vote in, a black ball was a vote out. They would pass by a hat or similar and secretly drop in the ball indicating their choice. Any black balls meant the candidate was rejected, even if it was only one. Thus to use one's power to reject another regardless of consensus was to “blackball" them.
The Golden Buzzer is a voting mechanism on America's Got Talent. Each judge and host get one Golden Buzzer buzz per season. With it, they overrule any other votes and pass the candidate forward.
Not sure there's any connection to sports except the word “ball.”
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Like when people say “your done” when your making jokes or expressing you opinion, we say “you're done” as in you have embarrassed yourself, oR they disagree with you, your unfunny or anything as in stop what you're doing or saying.
Ex.
D1:”so I have a joke to tell”
D2:”alright”
D1:”it Friday the 13th of my teen”
D2:”you're done, you're done”
…
D1:*weird dance*
D2:”youre done youre done”
In legal matters where someone's presence is necessary for testimony or resolution in a dispute, there is a process to officially notify that person.
An independent person, called a process server, is paid to deliver a subpoena or summons which requires someone to appear in a matter. This eliminates the excuse that the person didn't know they had to appear. They can then be arrested for non-compliance.
When the process server identifies the named person and hands him the summons/subpoena he says, “you’ve been served.”
It’s an idiom or commonly used expression to emote irritation, disturbance or feelings of misfortune: straight out or literally, it’s a question formed as an incomplete sentence.
To complete the sentence:
"I dislike having a black cloud hanging over my head.”
“I feel like having a black cloud hanging over my head.”
“Do I look like I have a black cloud hanging over my head?”
“I object to having a black cloud hang over my head.”
It’s typically understood as a way of explaining a bad omen: as if trouble can follow an individual around like “having a black cloud hanging over my head.”
If it’s a question:
It’s an idiom or commonly used expression to emote irritation, disturbance or feelings of misfortune: straight out or literally, it’s a question formed as an incomplete sentence.
To complete the sentence:
"I dislike having a black cloud hanging over my head.”
“I feel like having a black cloud hanging over my head.”
“Do I look like I have a black cloud hanging over my head?”
“I object to having a black cloud hang over my head.”
It’s typically understood as a way of explaining a bad omen: as if trouble can follow an individual around like “having a black cloud hanging over my head.”
If it’s a question: an alternative way of inquiry, “Do I have a “kick me” sign pasted onto my butt or what?”
You can not be owned. No one can own you (not a husband, wife, or friend), not a pet, not an employer, not a car nor anything worldly. God made the universe, this world, and Adam and Eve — so if you are owned by anyone, you are owned by your Heavenly Father since he made you. He is a Spiritual Being and you cannot be owned by anyone or anything physical. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you have been owned. If any person tells you so, they are trying to show power over you and control you. You can have a pet companion and care for it and show love for it, but you cannot own your pet. If you
You can not be owned. No one can own you (not a husband, wife, or friend), not a pet, not an employer, not a car nor anything worldly. God made the universe, this world, and Adam and Eve — so if you are owned by anyone, you are owned by your Heavenly Father since he made you. He is a Spiritual Being and you cannot be owned by anyone or anything physical. Don’t ever let anyone tell you that you have been owned. If any person tells you so, they are trying to show power over you and control you. You can have a pet companion and care for it and show love for it, but you cannot own your pet. If you are mean to a pet that you are caring for, that is unkind and unnecessary. Find another home for it or relinquish it to a rescue agency. We all have self will to make decisions, but we are told to be kind and help our brother or sister in their time of need. However, that doesn’t mean that you own them.
It can mean:
- a feeling that something unpleasant is going to happen (“I have a bad feeling about this”)
- you're depressed or unhappy about something
- you’re consistently unlucky or a jinx
The symbolism of a black cloud is from weather-watching; dark clouds generally are indicators of stormy weather.
Joe Btfsplk, a character in the comic strip Li'l Abner by Al Capp (1909–1979), always had a small, dark rain cloud hovering over his head to symbolize his bad luck. He was well-meaning, but was the world's worst jinx, bringing disastrous misfortune to everyone around him.
It can mean:
- a feeling that something unpleasant is going to happen (“I have a bad feeling about this”)
- you're depressed or unhappy about something
- you’re consistently unlucky or a jinx
The symbolism of a black cloud is from weather-watching; dark clouds generally are indicators of stormy weather.
Joe Btfsplk, a character in the comic strip Li'l Abner by Al Capp (1909–1979), always had a small, dark rain cloud hovering over his head to symbolize his bad luck. He was well-meaning, but was the world's worst jinx, bringing disastrous misfortune to everyone around him.
When a Person is summoned to Court, in some cases he needs to be notified personally.
In these instances, a “process server” must hand (serve) the summons directly to the Person.
When the process server has done so, she or he notifies the Person with the statement, “You've been served.”
At this point, whether the Person accepts the summons or throws it away doesn't matter. He has been served, which means the Court has successfully notified the Person of his legal obligation to respond (through paperwork or attendance, often assisted by attorneys).
I hope this helps.
It means that you've been defeated at something, when you were sure you were going to get it right.,
This is a word used in certain card games, and it is never spelled with a capital T.
A card deck comprises four suits: hearts, clubs, spades, and diamonds. They are arranged in series, from 2 to 10, followed by the jack (or knave), the queen, the king, and the ace. The ace has the highest value.
But in some games, like pinochle and bridge, the complicated rules allow one player to “declare trump.” That player can say, for example, that all cards in one suit, no matter the value, can trump, or beat
It means that you've been defeated at something, when you were sure you were going to get it right.,
This is a word used in certain card games, and it is never spelled with a capital T.
A card deck comprises four suits: hearts, clubs, spades, and diamonds. They are arranged in series, from 2 to 10, followed by the jack (or knave), the queen, the king, and the ace. The ace has the highest value.
But in some games, like pinochle and bridge, the complicated rules allow one player to “declare trump.” That player can say, for example, that all cards in one suit, no matter the value, can trump, or beat, any card of another suit. If hearts are trump, the three of hearts can trump the king of clubs.
“You and Emily answered all the exam questions right, but Emily completed the extra essay. Her grade trumps yours.”
Black looping is the act of making a continuous recording in a limited sized buffer, in order to be able to at any point in time throw a chock in the wheels.
The point being that you record only the last N minutes of time, keeping only the least recently recorded minutes in your buffer in order to conserve SSD space or other storage associated with the camera.
That way, if something cool happens, you can tell it to save the black loop that you have done so far and you will get the last N minutes leading up to the point in time where you said “I’d better save this. This is cool.”
I imagine “chewed out” is a shortened version of “chewed and spat out”, which is a metaphor for how you feel when somebody has a relationship with you and then drops you, or perhaps if they take advantage of you in some other way, as you feel like you imagine a piece of meat would feel after it had been chewed and spat out.
It depends on the context. Most simply, it means you’re finished. It could be said to a student when time is up on a test. It could be said to a child eating dinner when you want to take the plate away. It could be said by a boss to fire an employee. It can be used to passively tell someone they are finished or to actively indicate that the person should stop what they’re doing.
Chewed out is an older phrase describing being yelled at, corrected loudly by a supervisor, attacked and mauled [metaphorically] by another for some act or saying that wasn’t accepted
- A ball is a type of lavish, formal party.
- To have a ball (per #1) to have a great time.
- To ball somebody is to have sex.
- Balls are testicles.
- To have balls (per #4) is to be tenacious and courageous. Those balls may be described as huge, or made of steel or brass.
- To have someone by the balls (also per #4) is to have them at your mercy, or at a serious disadvantage.
- To bust someone's balls (#4 again) is to nag, cajole or put pressure on someone to do something. “Man, the boss is really busting my balls over this project”.
- To put the ball in someone's court is a tennis based analogy- it means to have
- A ball is a type of lavish, formal party.
- To have a ball (per #1) to have a great time.
- To ball somebody is to have sex.
- Balls are testicles.
- To have balls (per #4) is to be tenacious and courageous. Those balls may be described as huge, or made of steel or brass.
- To have someone by the balls (also per #4) is to have them at your mercy, or at a serious disadvantage.
- To bust someone's balls (#4 again) is to nag, cajole or put pressure on someone to do something. “Man, the boss is really busting my balls over this project”.
- To put the ball in someone's court is a tennis based analogy- it means to have taken a course of action that requires someone else (the person with the ball in their court) to respond before anything else can happen, just like how in a game of tennis the other player has to hit the ball back for play to continue. “We made an offer on their house, now the ball's in their court”.
- To get the ball rolling is to set a chain of events in motion.
- To ball / be balling / be a baller is a distinctly American term that denotes living the sort of lavish lifestyle associated with the highest paid professional athletes, particularly basketball players. In its current useage, athletic skill is purely optional, the money is what makes someone a baller.
The phrase is from a Rolling Stones song called —wait for it— "Paint it Black".
The narrator of the song is so depressed over losing his love that he imagines everything in his life turning black.
Definitely a 10 on the Musical Depression scale. One of their greatest songs, musically—and I am not a Rolling Stones fan.
The song was also a major plot element in the horror movie Stir of Echoes, with the main character having a recurring nightmare about the world literally being covered in black paint.
Here are some verses
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I see your red door, I want it painted black
No colors any more, I want them t
The phrase is from a Rolling Stones song called —wait for it— "Paint it Black".
The narrator of the song is so depressed over losing his love that he imagines everything in his life turning black.
Definitely a 10 on the Musical Depression scale. One of their greatest songs, musically—and I am not a Rolling Stones fan.
The song was also a major plot element in the horror movie Stir of Echoes, with the main character having a recurring nightmare about the world literally being covered in black paint.
Here are some verses
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I see your red door, I want it painted black
No colors any more, I want them to turn black
I see the girls walk by dressed in their summer clothes
I have to turn my head until my darkness goes
I see the line of cars and they're all painted black
With flowers and my love, both never to come back….
I look inside myself and see my heart is black
I see my red door, I must have it painted black
Maybe then I'll fade away and not have to face the facts
It's not easy facing up when your whole world is black
No more will my green sea go turn a deeper blue
I could not foresee this thing happening to you
If I look hard enough into the setting sun
My love will laugh with me before the morning comes
(I want to see your face painted black
Black as night, black as coal
See the sun blotted out from the sky)
For me, the idiom “I’ve been had” goes beyond “I’ve been tricked / deceived.” It suggests that the deception has led to a very difficult situation for the speaker. Different subjects are possible in the idiom, allowing the speaker to refer to someone else who has ended up in a tight situation because of getting caught up in trickery. It brings to mind a different idiom, “Who put you up to this?” — which looks into the source of motivation for working against the interests of one’s group.
On the following language usage forum page, there are several theories of the origin of “I’ve been had,” dra
For me, the idiom “I’ve been had” goes beyond “I’ve been tricked / deceived.” It suggests that the deception has led to a very difficult situation for the speaker. Different subjects are possible in the idiom, allowing the speaker to refer to someone else who has ended up in a tight situation because of getting caught up in trickery. It brings to mind a different idiom, “Who put you up to this?” — which looks into the source of motivation for working against the interests of one’s group.
On the following language usage forum page, there are several theories of the origin of “I’ve been had,” drawn from other sources. (Contributor name: Sven Yargs)
https://english.stackexchange.com/questions/104480/what-is-the-origin-of-the-idiom-have-been-hadHere are three takes on the origin of "have been had" in the sense of "have been cheated."
Eric Partridge, A Dictionary of Slang and Unconventional English (Fifth Edition, 1961):
have v. To cheat (—1805) : perhaps originally cant [that is "language of the underworld," in Partridge's terms]. G Harrington, in The New London Spy, "Had, a cant word ... instead of ... cheated." —2. Hence, to trick, deceive (1821) : low slang. —3. Hence, to humbug, fool (—1893; probably as early as 1825), low to general slang.
Robert Chapman and Barbara Kipfer, Dictionary of American Slang (Third Edition, 1995):
be had (or taken or took) 1. v phr by 1594 To become a partner in the sex act. 2. v phr by 1805 To be duped or cheated; be victimized.
Christine Ammer, American Heritage Dictionary of Idioms (1997):
be had 1. Be outwitted; also be cheated, deceived. This expression employs the verb to have in the sense of getting someone in one's power or at a disadvantage. [Slang; early 1800s] 2. Be bribed or influenced by dishonest means. [Slang; early 1800s]
These sources don't entirely agree about how "have been had" came to mean "cheated." Partridge suggests that it originated as an underworld euphemism, in which case the motivation is the same as for calling a robbery a "job": to avoid incrimination if overheard. Chapman and Kipfer point to a much earlier usage involving sexual intercourse, where "to be had" plays much the same euphemistic role as "to know." And Ammer seems to take the view that the usage originated in a simple extension of "have" in the sense of "possess," first to the sense of "have in one's power" and thence to the sense of "exploit one's advantage over."
I hope this helps.
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