Jig is Up and Rash Decision. And not intentionally - Farewell to Flesh. When I first started listening, I just tossed it on shuffle, and it went through more than the top 10 but didnt actually shuffle through all. I didnt realize it until I saw the poll someone was doing here, and actually dived deeper into their whole discography. Soooo many good songs.
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Music: Currently heavily on an Ice Nine Kills run. Welcome to Rockville is just weeks away and I'm incredibly excited to see them!
Books: Reading Son of a Witch right now. Have read the Wicked Years set previously but wanted to go back through them again before branching out to the Maracoor trilogy and the childhood books.
Hobbies: working in the yard doing some landscaping, making kandi for festival trading, prepped to start a new diamond art piece.
Self-care: Have been putting a lot of effort into my nutrition, movement, and wellness. Going for walks has awarded me with lots of interesting wildlife run-ins.
I just found ink when listening to bands playing at rockville, their music and lyrics just struck the perfect chords in my soul - I was immediately obsessed. I tried explaining to my husband the fascination of the way they put the melodies and screams together. I described their music as carnivalcore because I was reaching for a descriptor. 😂😂
Im so sorry you have had to deal with unhelpful Dr's. It makes it that much harder to want to go talk to them. Which is such a confusing thing to me. Wouldn't they make more money with consistent patients that they are treating?? Why are dr so unwilling to continue learning. Because I have both PCOS but also low testosterone and symptoms of peri that would likely benefit from HRT, my doctor was open about pros and cons, even said this wasn't something she was as familiar with and wanted to consult with another lady. And she was planning on soon attending a hormone training and forum because she was learning more and planned to take my case with her for questions and discussion. We all need more Dr's like this! Maybe check with friends or local word of mouth pages for some recommendations.
Why do you need therapy? And why do you need to know every thought your SO has? Everyone is entitled to personal privacy in their head. IF he was trying to flirt or overstep boundaries, HE might need some therapy. We're all literally made of chemicals that interact and can create flash scenarios. Does not mean anything past that. Married over 20 years, great communication and healthy marriage. I would NOT want my husband giving me detailed account of some passing fantasy that popped in his head. I'd expect him to be a damn adult with respect for me, keep it to himself and self-regulate his emotions.
Sometimes 2x a week, sometimes 5x a week. Sometimes less here and there - someone is sick, i'm on my period, we're exhausted. We really try to communicate about it. Perimenopause has been sending me through ridiculous loops - went through like 3 weeks of just wildly horny, then suddenly i am horny midday but then it's dipped again by the time we've finished our day and have time. Thankfully my husband has been patient through all the seasons of our marriage. I DO think it's an important component, and should be discussed regularly in a healthy marriage - just to check in with each other on moods, health, mindset. We are not above "scheduling". Example: My husband struggles with smoking cessation, he started patches, so he was tired and grouchy. I know my period is coming up - so I mentioned i'd really like to be sure we have a good night before it does, how's he feeling with the patches. Knowing the importance of it, we put the extra effort in that evening.
These are press-ons. My oldest son's gf is an amazing artist, and I have been commissioning her to make me nails. I keep them on for 10-14 days depending on mood/care. These have been on at least 10 days now (with just sticky tabs). They are thick, she mostly uses gel colors i think. So these can be reused. She sized my nails so I get perfect sets.
Someone repeatedly touching me without my consent IS divorce level. I watched my sister go through divorce after divorce because of abuse, heard the tales from my siblings about our mom being married to abusive assholes. I never played the dating game of couples punching each other because its cute and its just "love taps". Bullshit, its a gateway to justify increased abuse. If your SO doesn't respect NO now, they won't 20 years from now either. As soon as you say it hurts, they should immediately stop. You should not have to walk a grown adult through a conversation about respect and consent. This would be a conversation I'd have calmly ONE time. Of all the things I think are worth working at in a marriage, physical assault is my hard boundary. For context- married over 20 years.
Nothing official for set times yet. Someone posted awhile back last year's schedule and how this years was LIKELY to fall. It at least helps to have an idea for them until the official times are released closer to the festival. I have one that highlights potential conflicts as well. I have a major hyperfixation with it lol I posted a google link to it a few months ago here on reddit for anyone that wants a blank copy for their own.
WTF this can't even be real. How are people still putting up with this shit? For all the people dealing with a significant other and "putting up" with someone's extreme behaviors and mental health problems: you are not a therapist, you do not have to help them, change yourself, be a doormat, etc. It won't get better, marriage won't fix things, loving someone doesn't mean you have to be deal with their issues (especially if they aren't getting help).
My husband buys new clothes to replace ones that have fallen apart, but he likes jeans or shorts (cargo/khaki/jean) and t-shirts. Mostly just plain colors other than some of his band tees. If we're going out on a casual date - he has nice jeans and a few polos. Nothing is ripped, has holes, etc and he's a very neat and tidy person, so his clothes don't look bad. He's happy in that style, and my attraction to him doesn't revolve around if he wears cargo shorts vs .... I don't even know what? If we're dressing UP, we have invested in a few suits. He enjoys getting decked out, but he does a lot of outdoor work, maintenance on the house and vehicles. Not sure why he'd wear polos to do all that?
And his shoes? Same brand and style of boots, same brand and style of sneakers. When one wears out, he buys the same shoe again LOL
And this is coming from a wife that does not leave the house in yoga pants, pjs or even without makeup. That's just MY personal preference.
What are you wanting him to wear? Golf polos and nice khakis with some kind of loafer? Button ups with prints and birkenstocks? If his clothes are worn - then yeah get some new ones. But if it's just buying the same style to replace worn stuff, what's the issue???
I have discovered that there are sub categories and each one has specialized styles and different sizing. MOD, Curve, Lune, Romwe, etc. I've tried a lot of different ones and gotten familiar with how those sub brands cut and size things as well as fabric quality. I post a lot of outfits ‐ I'm 5'7, 285lbs, somewhere in between hourglass and triangle shape with an apron belly. I also use my measurements and compare them to what I'm looking at on Shein. I wear between a US 20-22 and between 2x-3x which generally translates to 3x-4x in Shein sizing. Look for items with reviews, sometimes people add pictures too! If you need any help, let me know.
Ive been wearing contacts over 25 years. I use liquid/felt tip liners, creamy/waxy liners on my lower lid, never had issues. I dont wear a lot of mascara, but I dont have issues when I do. Even sometimes wear false lashes. I have gotten liquid in my eye, mascara on my contact (!annoying because it's tough to remove lol) but no irritation issues. I am not squeamish, I just clean my finger and go in and clean in my eye if needed.
Worst ghosting story is my friend Brad. We talked for over a year, chatted on Snapchat, would do voice or video calls, just talking about our lives. And then boom, gone. Disappeared off Snapchat or blocked me, don't know, and obviously too long ago to remember reddit username. I always hope to run into him again someday and get an explanation. He was a good kind person.
Yes, my Dr tested my hormone levels along with common vitamin levels that can be low and cause lethargy, brain fog, etc. I get frequent checkups to keep track of my numbers. My son is 11, low needs academic, selective mute, high needs emotional support, lots of food aversion. We've done a lot of therapy and he has good ese support at school, but he's got a lot of food aversion, didnt socialise and has never been big on speaking (other than to his sister). Through a recommendation of another mom with an autistic child, I started my son on a methlyfolate/methylcolbamine liquid supplement. Slow changes at first, he started going outside more to play, asking to try foods (still didnt like a lot lol) and more recently he's been really taking. Not just, hey dad im hungry. He asked me one day on the way to school if we could invite his friend over to hang out. Two days ago, he just came over beside me on the couch and said, mom i almost threw up at pe today. I was coughing so much. Just randomly started up conversations with us. 😭 He said he wanted to go out waking around in the woods with his dad. He loves nature and animals, but he's always been pretty glued to his computer or just quietly walks around the yard. Oh, he also started being specific, like he used to pretend to have a stomach ache on days there would be pep rallies at school. The last time, he asked his dad, hey dad there's a pep rally tomorrow afternoon. Can someone early dismissal me? We've always encouraged him to speak up and we're willing to work with him and compromise, but he's never advocated for himself. We can see the difference in his eyes, smiling more, seems more alert, more relaxed. As a parent who's watched their kid have serious emotional outbursts because they couldn't communicate effectively, it makes me want to cry in joy all the time at the changes.
Have you had your vitamins and mineral levels tested as well as iron/ferritin? I take a stupid amount of supplements including vitamin d, iron and give myself a monthly b12 shot. Added the b12 most recent and it has made a big difference. I plan to add L‐methylfolate next. Its personally done absolute wonders for my autistic child with mood, nutrition, and energy levels in the past 6 months.
It is work, but it shouldn't feel exhausting to do. It's more like hobby work, you're doing it for the satisfaction, not because you need a paycheck. If you're investing your time and energy into someone you love and they are doing the same for you, then you're both reaping the rewards of that with a strong connection where you each feel cared for, validated, appreciated, etc.
I understand this. I feel like I could have written this LOL
I did the sahm thing for years. YEARS. I did not hate spending time with my kids, but I hated the isolation, the default parent mental exhaustion, the loss of self. But my husband has always been an equal partner and when I opened up about the struggle, he jumped into action, took on so much extra of the load for me. Worked side by side with me on my health and mental well-being, took over dishes, cooking, laundry, making appts for the kids. Anything and everything. This is a man who works a 40 hour week and is on call 24/7. So if he's sitting on the couch with a jar of queso and chips, just put his feet up, then suddenly realizes he grabbed doritos instead of tostitos - and asks me if I'll grab the right thing? Damn right. Because we are equal partners and love each other.
I know that it seems like there's always negativity when you look online for answers, but I think it's because a lot of unhappy people are looking for answers, advice, venting, etc. I've got a friend group of 6 ladies, and the odd one out is actually the divorced one. The rest of us have all been married for 20+ years and nobody complains about their spouses.
I was making a cup of milk to take my pills this morning, and put chocolate syrup in it. I do NOT take my pills with chocolate milk. No idea what was going on.
Our microwave broke, we got a little small one. 3x now I have put stuff in the old one to cook.
I throw away the wrong things all the time. I drop EVERYTHING. Like my brain to hand coordination is just gone. There's so much more.... but I can't remember any of it LOL
Just being fine or brown is not really a reason for hair to be unbleachable. Did the stylist offer to do a strand test? Do you have a condition that makes your hair especially brittle? I have very fine dark brown hair that ive brutally dyed with box dyes and perms since I was a teen. And then I decided to bleach it myself and do fun colors.
20 years married and I absolutely compliment my husband. He works super hard and carries a big mental load from always being the person that fixes our vehicles, does major house maintenance and repairs, keeps my addled ADHD brain on track and so much more. All while also continuing to focus on being healthy mentally and physically. He deserves to be reminded that he's sexy, smart, capable and that my love for him has only grown over the years. We flirt with each other daily, even if there's times we're both too exhausted or just too busy to do anything more.
5. I have tried to imagine drawing it, the colors, the smell, the essence. I can think of it, I can toss the word around in my mind but there are never photos connected to my thoughts. I have the most vivid intense dreams, and as I wake up they start fading away and I lose the imagery immediately because I can't visualize it outside my dream.
My husband's is a cartoon version of the two of us, it really is a super great photo. But he changes his up (way more than I do) and sometimes its a poster of something motivational, a cool graphic he just likes, or one of the kids. Never know and ive never even considered this to be something to nitpick about. My background is a default one from Samsung 😂 its not that deep. Definitely keep up with the therapy because this one is on you!
I used to drink, just weekends, but always heavily. No ability to regulate myself. I never even tried weed til my mid 30s. I was just rawdogging adult life and doing terrible. Complete overwhelm and depression. Started weightlifting and got into kink and things took a big turn. Then covid happened and my kids weren't in school anymore and I struggled to maintain again. Back to drinking and started smoking weed. Finally stopped both, went to work and back into the anxiety depression cycle. Im climbing my way out now. Walking, with the hopes of getting back to lifting weights, increased sex, and keeping my weekends full of dopamine driving events, whether its a hike in the woods or a local venue that has something cool or a big festival. I dont drink anymore and since I take a GIP shot, alcohol affects me way more so I stay away. I dont smoke weed because I quit hanging out with those friends. I DO struggle with my drive to and from work. I get bored and am very sensory seeking. I was smoking cigarettes, 1 there and 1 back. But my husband is trying to quit and I want to support him. Music helps a ton, it was a big part of my teen years. Im really pushing to always have music going.
I linked to a few of them in another response. They're all from Shein. I wear a 20/22 currently and every one of these i got a 4x. A couple were a tad big large but really good fit in the bottom and thigh coverage. Nobody wants to sit down and have circulation cut off at the mid thigh so this was important to me.
I mean, this particular subreddit IS for platonic friendship connections. I find it frustrating when I connect with people who obviously didn't read the rules, or like to push boundaries and then get really rude when I shut them down and restate my position.
There are TONS of other reddits for finding any other form of chat you want.
Maybe not abusive but definitely sounds like an asshole.
It sounds a lot like you're making excuses for him. Sounds like he's not being supportive or respectful of his oldest daughter, nor do either of you sound like you understand autism and how to best support an autistic child. My mom is a heavy criticizer of everyone. Always claims "concern" when really she's just trying to control. 2 of her kids went no contact, 1 is low contact and the other 2 of us do our best to help her because she's elderly and having health and mobility issues, but I personally clap back at her "helpful recommendations " because it's a bunch of bullshit. Its honey covered righteous judgement.
https://us.shein.com/Maweii-Valentine-Plus-Size-Women-Hollow-Floral-Patchwork-Casual-Versatile-Vacation-Date-Shorts-p-320508372.html?mallCode=1&pageListType=4&imgRatio=3-4&detailBusinessFrom=0-2&pageListType=4
Pink lace shorts - I got a 4x and am currently wearing 20/22. The have a zipper on the side, but they were a little loose and have some stretch so I didn't even use that part.
https://us.shein.com/SHEIN-Essnce-Plus-Size-Denim-Shorts-Casual-Fashionable-For-Everyday-Wear-p-53317924.html?attr_ids=27_544-27_144-27_421-27_1000113-27_1000108-27_1000107&mallCode=1&pageListType=4&imgRatio=3-4&detailBusinessFrom=0-2&pageListType=4
https://us.shein.com/Elenzga-Plus-Size-Women-Casual-Simple-Vacation-Leggings-Knitted-Lace-Insert-Short-Skinny-Pants-Comfortable-Soft-Breathable-Fabric-p-92799053.html?mallCode=1&pageListType=4&imgRatio=3-4&detailBusinessFrom=0-2&pageListType=4The red shorts (and pink under) are 2 separate pieces - Got both in a 4x. The red shorts I was most nervous about because denim is not always stretchy, and I've had some others from Shein that didn't have enough bottom/thigh room. These were perfection. Very stretchy and comfy, and feel really good quality.
https://us.shein.com/SHEIN-EZwear-Plus-Size-Women-Black-Sparkling-Starry-Sky-Print-Mini-Skirt-Shorts-Built-In-Shorts-And-Pockets-Party-New-Year-Outfits-Sparkle-Skirt-Skirts-For-Women-Star-Skirt-Glitter-Skirt-Spring-p-319531047.html?mallCode=1&pageListType=4&imgRatio=3-4&detailBusinessFrom=0-2&pageListType=4
Sparkly Skirt - I am in love with this for sure. I got a 4x, but as a 20/22, I could have done the 3x. Lately their stuff has been fitting looser and paired with some lb dropped, I had to send a bunch of things back and downsize. This was stretchy enough that I decided to keep this size.
I’m in that mood today. Not in a dramatic way, just one of those reflective days where you wish you had a few more people to talk to about life, random thoughts, good music, funny stories, and the weird little things that happen during the week. 40F, US EST, Married, kids, pets busy hectic life so often but I find a peace in meeting people. Have met some really awesome folks Just looking for friends to be clear. I’d love to meet some people who are up for real conversation. Be it short chats, long talks, whatever happens naturally. A little about me: • I enjoy good conversations about life, goals, and random topics • I like music (especially rock and metal) discovering new playlists, and finding little ways to improve life day by day • I appreciate humor and people who don’t take everything too seriously • If we click really well, I'm not opposed to a different chat platform
I mean, it sounds like your bf knows what he wants, and it's worth it to him, so doooooo it! If you're able to face the headboard and use it for support to start until you both find the level he's comfortable with on pressure and position. You can also turn and do a 69 if focusing on something to do takes your mind off what he's doing. Tap signals are good to have to indicate if a break is needed.
