Yes, that was rape. Yes, he “is a rapist now.” That’s literally what the words mean, and I’m so sorry you went through that and so glad you told someone and are getting out.

Yes, it was rape. Yes, it matters. Postpartum is one of the most vulnerable moments of a woman’s life. I would not stay with someone who treated me so poorly during such a vulnerable period of my life. Your partner should advocate for you and protect you during moment of vulnerability.

I think a lot of people will tell you, "Of course I would leave! Of course it was rape!" but I want you to know that so many people would not have the strength to leave. That's not a failing of anyone who stays: it is very hard to leave a situation like this, even in light of sexual assault (and this was 100% rape: I'm so, so sorry you went through that). I say this to emphasize how remarkable you are in your decision to leave. It won't always be easy, but you will never regret it. Love and healing to you and your children!

That was rape. Please leave and divorce him. He isn’t safe.

Also, his actions could kill you. Your six-week check-up is to make sure your dinner plate sized wound inside from the placenta has healed. Sex before it has healed is extremely dangerous and can give you a deadly infection. Please call your doctor immediately and let them know your husband raped you and you want to make sure that there is no danger of infection.

oh so I'm a rapist now?

Well...yeah.

That is rape. I’m so sorry. I would not feel safe near this man ever again.

Yes, it was rape. You are doing the right thing by leaving. A leopard doesn't change his spots.

Im sorry you are going through this.

I'll be blunt, this is rape. You didn't want to have sex and told him so. Do what you need to protect yourself and your children.

Would you leave too? Was it sexual coercion? was it rape? does it matter?

Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.

Just because a couple is married does not mean that rape is not possible. You did not give consent. You repeatedly told him to stop. This is the very definition of rape.

...and while nursing your baby?! He is sick in the head, and you need to make sure you and your babies are safe.

I'm so sorry.

This sounds not only like rape but your body isn't ready for sex being only 4 weeks postpartum; he's way out of line for this. It's unsafe and he should have been considerate of your time to heal. He took is own wants and needs first before yours and completely disregarded all of the times you said no, you said to stop.

Call the police and report him. This is awful :(

"Yes, he is a rapist now". That's exactly how rapists work, they force themselves upon someone that doesn't want it.

Of course it matters, because if he did it once, he would do it again. And it matters because he took a piece of you he had no right to - your right to choose. He took your right to feel safe in your own home with your husband. He violated you in the worst way. He is disgusting.

Well done for having the strength to walk away, not many do the first time it happens. You're so brave.

Not only would I leave, I would report it to the police so even if nothing comes of it, it's registered and might help his next victim. It will also support any case you make to ensure he's never alone with your girls - I'm not saying he would do anything like that to them, but he might try to slate you to them and say mummy is telling lies about me etc.. and that's not ok either.

did i read that correctly? he did it to u while u were ACTIVELY NURSING BABY????

good on u for leaving, mama. 🫶🏽 this is 100% not okay.

Thats rape doesn't matter what he tries to do now to make up for it. He's a rapist.

I would have said absolutely yes youre a rapist now I was asleep i kept saying no that's the very definition of rape. Youre lucky all I want is a divorce your next victim may end up with you behind bars but im mot sticking around to find out.

Wait....did he rape you *while* you nursed the baby?? That is a whole new level of twisted.

Either way you are doing the right thing and you should be proud of yourself for not only protecting yourself, but also your kids from this man. He is already raging at them, it could escalate to violence at any time. Even if it didn't escalate any further than rage, that is plenty to traumatize a child. No one should put up with any of it.

Yes, he is a rapist. yes he raped you. You said no and your body was not yet healed so he was risking injury to you. If you were nursing at the time (I am a little unclear if he waited for you to finish or just kept went ahead while you were from the post) he was also risking your child because if he did hurt you enough or get rough enough, it could cause you to drop the baby accidentally. Its just dangerous and disgusting.

I am so sorry op. Dont let that man twist the narrative. No is No. Stand on it queen, tell your story, it gives others the ability to be seen. God bless you.

yes that is 100% rape.

Yes, hes a rapist. And he raped you. Good for you for not staying with that sorry excuse of a man. Imagine if your daughter told you that her husband did that to her? What would you tell her to do?

My stomach turned upside down reading that. Absolutely was rape. I’m so sorry. Hoping you get out and find peace.

Wow so wrong it is rape

I’m so sorry this happened to you, yes you were raped. Such a horrible experience.

Yes leave, he raped you while you were nursing the baby, he screams at his little girls, not good. It's pretty bad now and it'll get way worse after, if you decide to stay with him. You're not safe with him, and your kids are not safe with his father, leave him. Personally, I would disappear without a trace, not sorry for thinking this way

Yes. It is rape the moment you say no, stop. It is absolutely marital rape and similar happened to me. I had sex two days after giving birth. And I got pregnant from it. Not my choice at all. I am so sorry this happened to you. I told my husband it was rape and he was horrified. Never happened again and always asks multiple times before we have sex now.

I’m so sorry you are going through this. You are absolutely doing the right thing by leaving. Sending you love

There is no question that your husband is a rapist and you were his victim.

You’re doing the right thing. Stay strong, nothing will ever be more difficult than leaving. But this is the very best thing for your well being and the well being and safety of your children.

I would leave too. I would have left that day. I am so sorry this happened to you. I am glad your midwife documented it as sexual assault.

"Im a rapist now" yes sir thats the definition of havign sex with someone who told you no 5 times AND is not medically cleared to have sex.