Deformimisia - the oppression of people with physical deformities and/or disfigurements. (Note: Any visible scarring, including SH scars, can be considered disfigurement here.)
Hello! I am Kris, the owner of this blog. I am transmasc non-binary and use they/them pronouns. I am part of @dhddmods system, though I tend to function on my own.
I run five other blogs, known as @this-is-varsexism-transphobia (dedicated to oppression of genderqueers & sexqueers), @this-is-amato-heteronormativity (dedicated to oppression based on amatonormativity and heteronormativity), @this-is-anti-masculinity (dedicated to oppression of non-patriarchal masculinity), @androqueer-struggles (focused on the struggles and/or oppression of intersex mascs, peritrans mascs, butches, etc), and @thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially paraphilic disorders.)
What is this blog?
[PT: What is this blog?]
This blog is dedicated to spreading awareness of the oppressive/negative experiences faced by people who have physical deformities and/or disfigurements. These could be congenital (born) or acquired (ie; scars.) You can submit your own experiences, or things you have witnessed happening to other people (so long as you respect their privacy.)
(Note for submissions: Any visible scarring, including self-harm scars, can be considered disfigurement here.)
These deformities and disfigurements could be related to the limbs, torso, and/or craniofacial.
Am I welcome here?
[PT: Am I welcome here?]
This blog is safe for people of any religious and spiritual practices, so long as said practices aren't used to excuse bigoted behavior.
This blog is safe for people of all races and ethnic backgrounds.
This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.
This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)
This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.
This blog is safe for alterhumans.
This blog is obviously safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.
Two things, one is just a stupid vent and one is something I experience way too often. The stupid vent is that Hannibal Lecter has an extra finger (polydactyl) in the books. And in the movies, nothing, because it’s “not plot-relevant.” First of all, yes it is it comes up multiple times as a plot feature and is a big part of his escape and how he’s identified. Secondly, why does it matter if it’s plot relevant? It’s part of him! There’s a lot that isn’t plot relevant in every movie and if there needs to be something to justify why Hannibal has an underrepresented deformity, then there needs to be a lore reason why Clarice has two legs. Why not one? Is it really plot-relevant for her to have both legs? Nope, the only thing that needs to be justified and reasoned out is deviation from the “normal” body. The second thing, I have misshapen feet from my position in the womb, and it makes me walk oddly and my shoes have to be 2 sizes too big because the shape of most shoes just doesn’t work for me. That’s its own issue, that shoes don’t work on me, but my main problem is that people hate the way I stand and walk. I walk pigeon-toed because I can’t turn my feet out without pain, full stop. I can’t. I refuse to put myself through pain and force my feet to twist at uncomfortable angles so people don’t have to see my turned in feet. Dance teachers, yoga instructors, my parents, strangers on the street, assholes on the Internet, everyone makes fun of and gives me shit for walking with my feet turned in. Everyone thinks I’m trying to be “cute” or somehow trying to offend them personally (my mom especially) just because I’m trying to walk without pain. My mom threatened to put me in a brace to force my feet to turn out, my brother shoves me over when he sees me standing with my feet turned in (and my parents support it, justifying it as “well if you stood normally you wouldn’t fall over”), a yoga instructor yelled at me in the middle of a class to “just do the pose properly” even though I actually can’t without pain, and I am so, so tired. Metatarsus adductus makes it so that even turned out my feet looked turned in, so I genuinely can’t please anyone without breaking my feet. Or, alternatively, people could mind their damn business and let people exist. This was long, but goddamn it I hate people who try to tell me how to stand.
This is deformimisia. Its awful how people are forcing expectations onto your anatomy that are literally impossible to fulfill. Your relatives sound incredibly abusive.
I'm not sure if this counts because it's a temporary difference—I have dermatographia (also called dermographia, dermographism, and others) and whenever it acts up people always make such a big deal out of it. Interrupting me to ask me if I need an epi-pen, loudly saying "oh my god you have scars?!", telling me that it looks creepy and it makes them uncomfortable.
Someone even told me that I should use it to make fake scars for a Halloween costume, which has a lot of things wrong with it—first of all, its a 10-15 minute skin reaction and it makes me physically uncomfortable. Second of all, dressing up with a fake facial difference or physical difference on a holiday for "scary" things is just ableist and doesn't stop being ableist because I have a different physical difference. That's such a weird thing to say to somebody talking about their disorder.
this might be a bit niche but the way Queen Scarlet from Wings of Fire is treated by the fandom a lot of the time, both how she's talked about and how she's portrayed in fanart
quite early on in the series she's hit in the face by acid and it leaves a scar that covers most of the side of the face it hit. the way some people talk about her in regards to it is vile, and in fanart people will often draw her scarring in a way that's supposed to be for "shock factor" (she's a villain and an awful person so a lot of the time it's done in a way to help make her look extra "scary" and "monstrous"), or alternatively, people will make the scar almost invisible if they want to portray her as "pretty" and "elegant" but still want to draw her at a point in time after she got scarred (though I've seen this a lot less than the first thing)
I haven't read the books in a hot second so I'm not sure if she's treated/spoken about poorly by the narrative for this too but it wouldn't really surprise me (from what I remember it's sort of treated symbolically as a "physical manifestation" of how her mental state is deteriorating, at least later down the line).
i think this counts, but the fact of being paraphilic and only finding a "place" on the radqueer side, which isn't even a safe place... i don't want to be with radqueers, not even a little bit, but anti-radqueers won't accept me being a paraphile either. i wish i could find a space that accepts paraphiliacs and is anti-abuse.
This is paramisia and leads me to an important question.
Would people like it if I made a sunset paraphile slack server (or some other server)? I won't do discord because I am afraid of getting my accounts IP banned, and discord has a lot of super important stuff for me that I can't lose.
I wouldn't be capable of fully monitoring it, so I'd need trustworthy volunteers for a moderating team to even consider it.
-Anti censorship [and completely devoid from the "proship-antiship argument"], pro consensual outlets (ie; fiction, roleplay, etc), and pro individualized outlets (what works for one paraphile won't work for another.)
-Anti abuse
-Anti contact for paraphilias that could cause impactful harm and/or breach consent of oneself or others (MAPs, zoophiles, necrophiles, biastophiles, incestophiles, etc.)
-Intolerant to any bigotry (including anti-masculinity and anti-religious behavior)
-Intolerant to misuse of disabled language (narcissist, sociopath, psychopath, psychotic, bipolar, brain damaged, braindead, etc.) Only one warning would be given for such behavior.
-Intolerant to conflation of empathy/sympathy to kindness. Only one warning would be given for such behavior.
-Anti Israel (but not antisemitic, because the state government =/= the people.)
-Anti Trump/Elon Musk/JK Rowling,
-Pro-choice
-Open to all paraphilias. Yes, all. There is no paraphilia that is "too gross/controversial/niche"
I'm gonna be honest, I don't know. I don't think making an under-18 version of the serverwould do much to protect anyone. It would just expose who is a minor, and people could join it pretending to be minors as well. Age segregation seems inefficient. I've seen people try this with servers before, it doesn't really work.
If I were to make two servers, I think it would be more useful to make it like this:
-NSFW 18+ server
And
-Under 18 AND/OR SFW server (where sexual content is only referenced, not described). You don't have to specify your age, you just need to follow the rules.
I think thats the most efficient way to go about it, because then you dont know who is an adult vs minor in the SFW server, all you know is that detailed sexual content will not be shared.
The 18+ server is ready! I won't be making it public as to avoid harassment and trolls, so to join, you'll need a private invite.
If you wish to be a part of it (as a moderator or otherwise), please DM me or comment so I can DM you. (I will check over your account briefly, but I will not expose who joined. Our DMs will be 100% private.)
I do not feel comfortable officially opening it until I have at least 2 moderators volunteer, because I cannot be a consistent moderator (I don't have the time.)
For those who don't know what Element is - on web, it is app.element.io. On mobile, it is Element Classic. The logo is green with four white spikes forming a circular logo. It is more or less a discord clone.
Everytime a user comes to me and is like "wahhhh, wahhh, i won't read what you have to say, fuck you, why would i read what you say when youre a disgusting paraphile supporter/paraphile, wahhhh, theres no evidence for anything you're saying, wahhhh" (ignoring all of the LITERAL RESEARCH PAPERS I LINK) I just think to myself about how fucking easily these people listen to saneist puritanical pop psychology propaganda and how unwilling people are to challenge what society has taught them.
Like hm. I wonder what other demonized groups you hate because you believe in society's bullshit. Do you also demonize cluster bs? Schizospecs? People with behavioral disorders? Plurals? Queer people? BIPOC?
How many groups do you let society tell you are disgusting and evil, and then plug your ears and go "LALALALALALALA" and block out the noise when that viewpoint gets challenged?
Do you believe in "narcissistic abuse?" Do you believe in the "scary schizophrenic person is too dangerous for society" stereotype? Do you believe in the "people with ASPD are terrifying serial killers" stereotype? The "plurals are broken people with an EVIL PERSONALITY" stereotype?
Do you believe that black men are inherently more likely to commit violent crime? Do you believe that queer people are disgusting perverts trying to harm children and infiltrate vulnerable spaces?
Or is it just people with "scary paraphilias" you do this to, because you want one specific group to project all your hatred towards?
You do realize every single one of these stereotypes is nearly the exact same as the propaganda against people with stigmatized paraphiles, right? That theyre inherently abusive, "delusional", "serial rapists blending into society", infiltrating the vulnerable spaces, preying upon children? Yet somehow this...doesn't sound like propaganda to you?
You do realize that conversion therapy doesn't work, that locking people up for the "crime" of thoughts/feelings is authoritarian and helps nobody, and that any therapist worth their shit (as in, who is in the field to ACTUALLY HELP, not just for the money) will recommend to people with stigmatized paraphiles to find outlets (roleplay, fiction, vent art, etc)?
If your first reaction is to completely deny conversation and education on topics you aren't informed about, then to put it frankly, you aren't a trustworthy advocate or ally for any marginalized group. Because any of the groups you are advocating for can have intersectionality with stigmatized paraphilias.
For example, if you claim to be an advocate for black people, but demonize black people with stigmatized paraphilias, you're basically saying "well I think the government should be allowed to torture anyone who is black that is deemed to be a stigmatized paraphile" in which case racists will take advantage of this by accusing EVERY black person of having a stigmatized paraphilia.
The only way to be an activist for any group is to advocate against abuse of people with stigmatized paraphilias, and advocate for people to stop using "predator" and "paraphile" interchangeably.
[PT: The only way to be an activist for any group is to advocate against abuse of people with stigmatized paraphilias, and advocate for people to stop using "predator" and "paraphile" interchangeably.]
Hello! I am Kris, the owner of this blog. I am transmasc non-binary and use they/them pronouns. I am part of @dhddmods system, though I tend to function on my own.
I run five other blogs, known as @this-is-anti-masculinity (focused on the oppression of non-patriarchal masculinity), @this-is-varsexism-transphobia (focused on oppression towards genderqueer and sexqueer people), @this-is-amato-heteronormativity (focused on amatonormativity and heteronormativity), @this-is-deformimisia (focused on the oppression of people with physical deformities & disfigurements), and @thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially paraphilic disorders.)
What is this blog? What is the tagging system?
[PT: What is this blog? What is the tagging system?]
This blog is centered around the hardships of being androqueer (peritrans masc, intersex masc, butch, etc.) People can send in their experiences with androqueerphobia, or they can vent about general androqueer experiences (ie; the price of binders or packers, the negative symptoms of HRT or natural hormone production, etc.)
This is not just for men. Non-binary mascs and woman mascs can vent here too.
I created this account because this-is-transandrophobia is an endophobe [link], and this-is-transmisandry is paramisic (has reblogged content conflating pedophile/zoophile with predator, has them on their DNI on their personal account, has reblogged content promoting authoritarian censorship, etc), and I wanted a safe space for androqueer endos and paraphiles to speak, so they won't have to resort to radqueer blogs for their experiences to be heard.
The tagging system will go as follows:
- Androqueerphobia: Oppression towards queer masculinity/masculine-perceived queers; intersex mascs, transmascs, butches, etc. Aka, oppression of genderqueer or sexqueer mascs.
- Transandrophobia: Oppression towards transmascs or people perceived as transmasc.
- Interandrophobia: Oppression towards intersex mascs or people perceived as intersex mascs.
- Butchphobia: Oppression towards butches.
- GNCphobia: Oppression towards gender non-conformity.
- Androqueer vent: A vent that isn't oppression-specific (ie; venting about dysphoria.)
Am I safe here?
[PT: Am I safe here?]
This blog is safe for people of any weight or body type, and does not tolerate body shaming.
This blog is safe for people with physical/sensory disabilities and neurodivergence of any kind (including cluster b personality disorders, behavioral disorders, paraphilic disorders, addictive/dependent disorders, etc.)
This blog is safe for non-disordered systems/plurals, non-dissociative systems/plurals, and endogenic systems/plurals.
This blog is safe for alterhumans.
This blog is safe for "contradictory" labels (ie; transfems AFAB, transmascs AMAB, lesboys, turigirls, etc.) Being against these identities is deeply exorsexist, intersexist, and pluralphobic at its core.
does this count? i have bilateral clubfeet that were treated surgically as a baby, but they're still visibly different (they've also relapsed at least partially, i think) and i still have the scars from the surgery around both feet very visibly, decades later, and i don't ever go barefoot around people i don't trust 100% (or even around people i do, really) or let people see my feet or my scars because of how gross people are, asking like "omg what's wrong with your feet?!" and commenting on how my right foot twists, and despite clubfoot being such a common birth deformity, no one knows what it is anyway :/ i literally grew up being called "defective" by my own parents as a "joke"
[PT: Art positions needed for intersex visual guide!]
Note: This is not a paid position. This is a project made with passion from participants who want to educate the world about intersexuality.
Hello! So, our intersex visual guide project is going well so far. The script is mostly complete (with occasional revisions), and we know how we want the comic to be formatted.
We did the sketches for the genitals/reproductive organ diagrams, and @/pastelroswell is doing the lineart. However, there are many illustrations that still need to be done, and this is where you can come in!
Whether you volunteer for just a single drawing, or for many drawings, all help is appreciated! People under 18 can only volunteer for segment 9, as all the other segments require illustrations of nudity.
We need volunteers for:
[FULLY BOOKED] Segment 1: What is perisex? Humans vs non-humans. (A random example of a necessary drawing for this segment would be a person looking at a censored computer screen with a question mark above their head.)
[FULLY BOOKED] Segment 2: Overarching Terms & Information. (A random example of a necessary drawing for this segment would be a group of cosexual animals.)
Segment 3: "Mixed" Genitals & Reproductive Organs. Segment 4: Urethral Traits & Penile Traits.Segment 5: Agenital Spectrum & Areproductive Spectrum.Segment 6: Split/Duplicated Reproductive Organs.
^
You won't be drawing the genital/reproductive diagrams, as those are already covered by us & Roswell. Instead, you'll be drawing group of people who have specific traits that we will list for you (ie; a person who has a bifid scrotum with estrogenized traits, and a speech bubble that has XX and a drawing of a mullerian reproductive system.)
Segment 7: Hormonal Traits. Segment 8: Chromosomal Variations.
(A random example of a necessary drawing for these segments would be a person with dwarfism who has a macropenis, macroorchidism, androgenized traits, and a speech bubble that has XY and a drawing of a wolffian reproductive system.)
Segment 9: Co-occurring Traits & Disabilities. (A random example of necessary drawings for these segments would be a person who has severe acne, a person having a seizure, a person exhibiting the symptoms of autism, etc.)
[FULLY BOOKED] Segment 10: Coercive Intersex Medical Interventions & Medical Maltreatment. Specifically, you'd be doing the hormone abuse section and/or medical maltreatment section. These drawings are more sensitive in nature, but censored enough as to not be overly disturbing to viewers. (A random example of a necessary drawing for these segments would be a person looking sickly while in the fetal position on a couch, and a bottle of hormones sits next to them, implying that the hormones are causing them to become ill.)
You must be willing to:
1- Draw non-sexual nudity.
2- Draw racially diverse and disabled characters.
3- Have your work shared with the world.
Your work could be:
1- A simple sketch (yes, traditional sketches are welcome too!) that you provide for someone else to do lineart + coloring for.
2- A drawing with lineart that you provide for someone else to do coloring for.
3- A drawing with lineart and coloring.
DO NOT SIGN UP IF you are an exclusionist, radfem, believe that men cannot experience oppression, are anti-endogenic, believe in a disorder being "inherently evil (ie; narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, paraphilic disorders [yes even the "big 3"], psychotic disorders, etc.), use ableist language (ie; misuse "narcissist", misuse "psychotic", misuse "sociopath/psychopath", misuse OCD, misuse bipolar, conflate "paraphile" with predator, etc.), think that love/sympathy/empathy are necessary to be a good person, disrespect religion/spiritual practices, pro-Israel, support Trump/Elon Musk/JK Rowling, anti-choice, or anti-homeless.
DM us if you are interested and PLEASE disclose if you have had any controversies in the past, and what the topic was about. We will be checking over your account before accepting you in.
You will receive credit for your work in the overall project.
Alright, the update! There are still over 70 art slots available.
We decided people under 18 can participate, they just cannot draw any of the prompts that include nudity. But there are many prompts in segment 9 that do not include nudity!
Speaking of segment 9 - we have a ton of prompts in there that are a simple icon-style! Sort of like this image (which is randomly taken off the internet, not an actual part of the project.)
You do not need to be an expert artist to participate! You also do not need to be educated in intersexuality beforehand!
[PT: You do not need to be an expert artist to participate! You also do not need to be educated in intersexuality beforehand!]
We are still hoping for this project to be done by pride month, but if not then, than this year. We refuse to go another year without this project being done. If you know anyone who might enjoy participation, please share this post with them! You can also reblog on bluesky [link.]
Our current goal is still pride month, however if that cannot be achieved, then we'd do October 26th (Intersex Awareness Day.) Please, help make this project come to life!
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedApr 2this-is-anti-masculinityJan 28FollowAccounts like this one:@this-is-misogyny and @thisis-misogyny (focused on the oppression towards fems and women.)@this-is-antitransfemininity (focused on the oppression of transfems and people who are transfeminized.)@thisisexorsexism (focused on the oppression of enben, aka people on the non-binary spectrum.)@this-is-antixeninity (focused on the oppression of xenogender people.)@this-is-multigenderphobia (focused on the oppression of multigender people.)@thisis-intersexism (focused on the oppression of intersex people.)@this-is-internoirism (focused on the intersection of intersexism and anti-black racism.)@this-is-varsexism-transphobia (focused on the oppression of sexqueer and genderqueer people.)@this-is-bioessentialism (focused on how bioessentialism negatively impacts people.)@this-is-amato-heteronormativity (focused on how amatonormativity and heteronormativity negatively impact people.)@thisishomophobia (focused on how homophobia negatively impacts people.)@this-is-lesbiphobia (focused on the oppression of lesbians.)@this-is-anti-objectum (focused on the oppression of objectum people.)@this-is-automisia (focused on the oppression of autospecs.)@thisis-aphobia (focused on the oppression of aspec people.)@this-is-abrophobia (focused on the oppression of abro people.)@thisisracism (focused on the oppression of BIPOC.)@this-is-monoracism (focused on the oppression of multiracial people.)@this-is-indigemisia (focused on the oppression of Indigenous people.)@this-is-asiaphobia, @this-is-orientalism, and @this-is-sinophobia-orientalism (focused on the oppression of Asian people.)@this-is-sinomisogyny (focused on the intersection of misogyny and sinophobia, which is the oppression of East & Southeast Asians.)@this-is-maori-targeted-racism (focused on the oppression of Māori people.)@thisisantisemitism (focused on the oppression of Jews.)@this-is-xenophobia (focused on how xenophobia negatively impacts people.)@this-is-anti-romani (focused on the oppression of Roma.)@this-is-linguicism (focused on the oppression of someone based on their language/speech.)@this-is-fatphobia (focused on the oppression of fat people.)@this-is-infantilization (focused on the infantilization of people, particularly disabled people.)@this-is-ableism (focused on the oppression of people with physical, sensory, neurological, and psychological disabilities.)@this-is-audism (focused on the oppression of deaf and hard of hearing people, including those with auditory processing issues.)@this-is-agorableism (focused on the oppression of disabled people existing in public spaces.)@this-is-lookism (focused on the oppression of people who have "unacceptable" appearances, often overlapping with deformimisia/disfiguremisia.)@this-is-deformimisia (focused on the oppression of people with physical deformities and/or disfigurements.)@this-is-seizurism (focused on the oppression of people who experience seizures.)@this-is-anti-brain-injury (focused on the oppression of people with brain injuries.)@this-is-anti-idd (focused on the oppression of intellectual disabilities.)@this-is-phobia-discrimination (focused on the oppression of people with phobias.)@this-is-a-trauma-response (a place for people to submit their trauma responses and/or coping mechanisms.)@thisis-suicidism and @support-for-the-suicidal (focused on the oppression of suicidal people, and how to support them.)@this-is-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with psychological disabilities.)@this-is-cluster-b-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with cluster B personality disorders.)@thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially those with paraphilic disorders.) @this-is-antikink (focused on the effects of anti-kink purity culture.)@this-is-pluralphobia (focused on the oppression of plural people/plural systems.)@thisisfictomisia (focused on the oppression of fictionfolk.)@this-is-kinmisia and @this-is-alterhumisia (focused on the oppression of alterhumans.)@this-is-anthromisia (focused on bigotry against the anthro community, such as furries, scalies, beakies, etc.)@this-is-anti-paganism-animism (focused on the oppression of pagans and animists.)@this-is-anti-religion (focused on the bigotry against religions.)@this-is-anti-homeless (focused on the oppression of homeless people.)@this-is-classism (focused on the effects of classism.)@this-is-parental-abuse (focused on the effects of parental abuse.)@this-is-peer-abuse (focused on the effects of peer abuse.)Notes:[PT: Notes]This-is-transgynephobia, this-is-biphobia, and this-is-sapphicphobia is run by a racist mod [link] (more examples are under the cut*) who stalks people and makes tons of accounts, do not follow those accounts.
This-is-transandrophobia is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account.Thisis-paraphilicsocialostracization is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account. UPDATE: So the account removed the endophobic statement from that post, but it did exist. You can see in the comments people responding to it.
This-is-adultism is paramisic and refuses to acknowledge the difference between child predator & pedophile [link]. Just look up "pedophile" on the account and you'll see tons about it. Do not follow that account.)To the people telling me that not every @ works - the reason why is because Tumblr only allows 50 mentions per post. There's nothing I can do about it.(*Examples of the mod's racism below.)Keep readingthis-is-anti-masculinityApr 2Added @this-is-anti-brain-injury! Check it out!24179353
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedApr 2thisisparamisiaApr 2FollowParamisia is all of my other blogs being unmarked as mature except this one.Censorship of this kind actively repels paraphilic minors (and also paraphilic adults with controlling caregivers) from having a safe space to speak and learn. Many paraphiles begin having experiences at the age of 13, some even sooner than that, yet even the most "progressive" sex ed does not teach about most paraphilias, especially not the stigmatized ones.It often drives paraphiles into dangerous pro-contact spaces because they can find nowhere else to speak, be listened to, and given advice.Paraphilias are not a "mature topic." They are sex ed. Paraphilic youth and adults alike deserve to be educated about the struggles and dangers of having these kinks/fetishes or conditions. Paraphilic youth need to learn, or else they will engage with unsafe kink/fetish practices, find harmful or dangerous outlets, and feel ostracized and isolated from those around them (especially if they have one of the more stigmatized paraphilias.)This censorship leads to people being traumatized, assaulted, abused, killed, or even drives them into suicide from feeling so incredibly isolated.332120
this-is-deformimisiaApr 2Anonymous asked:Whenever I draw myself with my real life self harm scars, people tell me to remove them or put a trigger warning. It's not like I'm drawing fresh cuts or the act of self harm, it's just a drawing of me existing with scars as I do in real life. And if I post them I'll always get comments saying I'm an attention seeker, using self harm as an aesthetic, to cut deeper, accusing me of not even having the scars in the first place, ect. I'm a little over a year clean and at this point I've stopped posting any drawings that have scars because it's just so exhausting and triggering for all of the comments to be about the scars. This is disfiguremisia. Real people's scars don't need trigger warnings, and neither do characters that represent them. And the things those people are saying about your SH is absolutely vile.#ableism#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#scarring#scars#mental illness#tw sh#anti beauty culture#anti beauty standards#saneism524
this-is-deformimisiaApr 2Anonymous asked:We were scrolling yt shorts yesterday and happened to come across a video of someone showing their makeup products with scratches on them. They added context that they used some blade to cut the products instead of themselves. We then made the mistake of opening the comments and IMMEDIATELY got hit with “It’s better for her to ruin the makeup than ruin herself.” ??? What the fuck. Self-harm scars don’t “ruin” someone. That’s such a vile fucking thing to say and believe. We know multiple people with SH scars and have some ourselves and we’re not “ruined”. We just have scars. It just disgusted us so much to read that.This is disfiguremisia.#ableism#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#anti beauty culture#mental issues#mental illness#tw sh#anti beauty standards#anti beauty industry213
this-is-deformimisiaApr 2Anonymous asked:tw for SHpeople always try to discourage me from my SH addiction by telling me "the scars will be ugly" or stuff like that instead of focusing on the actual issues. like I've had people straight up ignore the actual issues and tell me i'll be ugly if I hurt myself because "scars = ugly" or whatever.like yeah sure. the scars are the issue, not the nerve damage I gave myself by accident or anything like that /sarcasm.it also sucks because I already have other deformities that people call ugly too. like okay cool, telling me my SH will make me ugly isn't going to do anything because I've been told my deformities are ugly since I was a toddler.This is disfiguremisia. Concern over SH should never be boiled down to aesthetics, and scars aren't "ugly." All physical characteristics are neutral in nature.#ableism#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#anti beauty culture#cw sh mention#scarring#scars#anti beauty industry#anti beauty standards214
this-is-deformimisiaApr 2Anonymous asked:the edits where they give characters less teeth or one tooth bc its funnyThis is deformimisia/disfiguremisia.#ableism#deformimisia#deformity#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#anti beauty culture#craniofacial deformity#anti beauty standards#dental health#oral disfigurement#oral disability#oral deformity225
this-is-deformimisiaApr 1Anonymous asked:Not sure if this counts, but my younger sibling (still a teenager) has a skin condition resistant to treatment, which often flares up on their face, lips, hands and other visible places. People (including COMPLETE STRANGERS) will come up to them randomly and give unsolicited advice like “you need to use moisturiser” “wash your face” or “have you tried lip balm”. And I really don’t think they see anything wrong or offensive with their “advice”, either.
Criticising and commenting on other people’s bodies is too normalised.This is deformimisia.#ableism#deformimisia#deformity#skin condition#anti beauty culture#anti beauty standards217
this-is-deformimisiaApr 1Anonymous asked:This is deformimisia: my mother lowkey pressuring me to get a tattoo over my self harm scars to make them less obvious even though the sight and feeling of them comforts me and keeps me from relapsing.Also her saying i should have a small corrective surgery of my top surgery because of a dog ear on one side. Its like 1 cm. Barely visible. Idk if this one counts as deformimisia so im sending it with one that counts (i think the first one counts?)This is disfiguremisia.#ableism#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#anti beauty culture#tw sh#anti beauty standards#scarring#scars112
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedApr 1thisisparamisiaApr 1FollowAnonymous asked:hi !! wondering how speaking to tumblr support has gone ? (in regards to your blogs being marked as mature)thisisparamisia answered:They supposedly unmarked some of my blogs (idk which ones) but they left this blog marked as far as I am aware and decided it was still "mature" even after an appeal. 533
this-is-deformimisiaMar 30Anonymous asked:I see way too many videos of people with deformities or disfigurements where people under the comments are just like “oh my god youre so pretty dont let anyone tell you otherwise” and okay I cant explain very good butits not typical compliments. its like the video has nothing to do with appearance. no makeup no new clothes no whatever none of that. it will be the most random thing like fandom discourse or astrophysics and no one is talking about the contents of the videoits all backhanded compliments and praises about beauty and sometimes comments about “oh youre so brave.” especially if the person in the video is a woman or percevied as a womanits just is it me or do those comments feel icky?This is deformimisia/disfiguremisia and gyneableism.The comments like "don't let anyone else tell you otherwise" has such weird energy. It's like "youre so pretty but I know everyone else thinks you're ugly but dont worry about them because I disagree!" Just compliment people with differences the same way you'd compliment someone without them.#ableism#deformimisia#disfiguremisia#deformity#disfigurement#anti beauty culture#anti beauty standards#anti beauty industry#gyneableism#misogyny112
this-is-deformimisiaMar 30Anonymous asked:Polydactyly and hand differences being associated with ai :(This is deformimisia. Sometimes characters really do have that many fingers. #ableism#deformimisia#deformity#limb deformity#limb difference#polydactyl1220
this-is-deformimisiaMar 30Anonymous asked:Idk if this counts but my teeth are all slightly out of order (idk how to explain it??) and when I smile, it's mostly my top guns showing and my sibling will constantly call it out to the point where I just don't feel comfortable fully smiling anymore.This is deformimisia.#ableism#deformimisia#oral deformity#cw body shaming15
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedMar 28thisisparamisiaFeb 17FollowAnonymous asked:Seeing a blog that claims to be supportive of paras and then seeing ‘proshipper dni’ in their bio likeCome onIt’s just feels weird?? Like, you want paras to get better and not harm anyone, but then you shame people for liking ficton that may or may not even pertain to their paras. Fiction that could be their only outlet to curb urges safelyI dunno but theres something weird about thatthisisparamisia answered:This is paramisia.Honestly, I think the whole "proshipper/antishipper" argument is such a waste of time. I think both sides make good and bad arguments, and that they both lack nuance in many cases, and end up steering into "fiction is completely harmless" and "it is immoral for fiction to ever portray harmful topics", both of which are such black-and-white thinking.I think that instead of having these ridiculous arguments, we should focus on advocating for better safety precautions for children using the internet that doesn't cut off adults from exploring fiction.For example, creating websites that are actually SFW and don't have comment sections or messaging (so even if adults use the site, they can't actually speak to the children using it.) Or, if you really want commenting/messaging to be a thing, have a list of pre-approved symbols or phrases that can be selected between, sort of like an AAC machine. These websites could have games that can be enjoyed by kids, videos that can be enjoyed by kids, and so on, all with actual moderating teams. In this hypothetical, the only people who can upload these games or videos are pre-screened and approved by the moderating teams, no videos or games go out unwatched/unplayed by adults, etc, etc.And then once a kid reaches teen years, and wishes to integrate to the wider internet, there should be required videos (with captions and full descriptions to be disability friendly) that you have to watch, discussing grooming and red flag behavior, internet safety, etc, before you can make an account.Of course, I also think legal guardians should be responsible and teach children these things themselves, but realistically that won't always happen, so I think the best solution to make sure teens actually get informed is to put these measures in place.thisisparamisiaFeb 20I do disagree with "it really doesn't hurt anyone if you think about it", for two reasons.Reason 1 - some people engaging in this fictional content start experiencing worsened mental health. Fiction can be an outlet to some, and a curse to others. It depends on a person-to-person basis. (Warning signs for that here [link.])Reason 2 - Fiction is one of the widespread ways that propaganda is created and spread, hence why positive representation matters so much, and why there's so many old cartoons, comics, etc that feature problematic caricatures and stereotypes. Even modern propaganda and stereotypes exist within currently produced fiction.However, that being said, there is a difference between fiction that spreads problematic viewpoints, and darkfics where the person creating the art acknowledges the content is morally questionable or immoral when applied to reality.I also don't think darkfic content should be wiped off the web. I think it deserves a space, a category on websites, one that can be easily opted into/out of by users (ie; a flip you can switch in the settings on a website that says "turn on dark content mode" or something along those lines.) I say this because it's super annoying trying to find fictional content and being jumpscared with dark content when thats not what youre in the headspace to see. Blocking tags doesnt always help either, because a lot of people dont properly tag their content. So it would be nice if sites had a "mode" people can switch on to post their dark content, that way if they forget to tag properly, its at least got SOME level of precaution, because they already are on the "dark mode."thisisparamisiaMar 28To add to all of this - censorship is an act of authoritarianism. Full stop. Saying one particular topic should be censored opens the door for people to find ways to accuse you of creating said content, and getting you censored as well. Cater your internet experience to yourself. Your mental health matters. But don't act like content you personally dislike or find distressing should be censored or wiped off the internet. Block tags, block keywords, do your responsibility of making a safe space for your own mind. Don't go out and attack people who make content that doesn't suit your safe space.People should tag their content properly. People should have spaces to post potentially distressing content. That's something I fully believe. But censorship is not and never will be a successful form of protection.Education and curated spaces are how you protect people.42894
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedMar 28dhddmodsOct 27, 2025FollowArt positions needed for intersex visual guide![PT: Art positions needed for intersex visual guide!]Note: This is not a paid position. This is a project made with passion from participants who want to educate the world about intersexuality. Hello! So, our intersex visual guide project is going well so far. The script is mostly complete (with occasional revisions), and we know how we want the comic to be formatted.We did the sketches for the genitals/reproductive organ diagrams, and @/pastelroswell is doing the lineart. However, there are many illustrations that still need to be done, and this is where you can come in!Whether you volunteer for just a single drawing, or for many drawings, all help is appreciated! People under 18 can only volunteer for segment 9, as all the other segments require illustrations of nudity.We need volunteers for:[FULLY BOOKED] Segment 1: What is perisex? Humans vs non-humans. (A random example of a necessary drawing for this segment would be a person looking at a censored computer screen with a question mark above their head.)
[FULLY BOOKED] Segment 2: Overarching Terms & Information. (A random example of a necessary drawing for this segment would be a group of cosexual animals.)
Segment 3: "Mixed" Genitals & Reproductive Organs.
Segment 4: Urethral Traits & Penile Traits.
Segment 5: Agenital Spectrum & Areproductive Spectrum.
Segment 6: Split/Duplicated Reproductive Organs.
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You won't be drawing the genital/reproductive diagrams, as those are already covered by us & Roswell. Instead, you'll be drawing group of people who have specific traits that we will list for you (ie; a person who has a bifid scrotum with estrogenized traits, and a speech bubble that has XX and a drawing of a mullerian reproductive system.)
Segment 7: Hormonal Traits.
Segment 8: Chromosomal Variations.
(A random example of a necessary drawing for these segments would be a person with dwarfism who has a macropenis, macroorchidism, androgenized traits, and a speech bubble that has XY and a drawing of a wolffian reproductive system.)
Segment 9: Co-occurring Traits & Disabilities. (A random example of necessary drawings for these segments would be a person who has severe acne, a person having a seizure, a person exhibiting the symptoms of autism, etc.)
[FULLY BOOKED] Segment 10: Coercive Intersex Medical Interventions & Medical Maltreatment. Specifically, you'd be doing the hormone abuse section and/or medical maltreatment section. These drawings are more sensitive in nature, but censored enough as to not be overly disturbing to viewers. (A random example of a necessary drawing for these segments would be a person looking sickly while in the fetal position on a couch, and a bottle of hormones sits next to them, implying that the hormones are causing them to become ill.)You must be willing to:1- Draw non-sexual nudity.
2- Draw racially diverse and disabled characters.
3- Have your work shared with the world.Your work could be:1- A simple sketch (yes, traditional sketches are welcome too!) that you provide for someone else to do lineart + coloring for.
2- A drawing with lineart that you provide for someone else to do coloring for.
3- A drawing with lineart and coloring.DO NOT SIGN UP IF you are an exclusionist, radfem, believe that men cannot experience oppression, are anti-endogenic, believe in a disorder being "inherently evil (ie; narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder, paraphilic disorders [yes even the "big 3"], psychotic disorders, etc.), use ableist language (ie; misuse "narcissist", misuse "psychotic", misuse "sociopath/psychopath", misuse OCD, misuse bipolar, conflate "paraphile" with predator, etc.), think that love/sympathy/empathy are necessary to be a good person, disrespect religion/spiritual practices, pro-Israel, support Trump/Elon Musk/JK Rowling, anti-choice, or anti-homeless.DM us if you are interested and PLEASE disclose if you have had any controversies in the past, and what the topic was about. We will be checking over your account before accepting you in.You will receive credit for your work in the overall project.dhddmodsMar 28Alright, the update! There are still over 70 art slots available.We decided people under 18 can participate, they just cannot draw any of the prompts that include nudity. But there are many prompts in segment 9 that do not include nudity!Speaking of segment 9 - we have a ton of prompts in there that are a simple icon-style! Sort of like this image (which is randomly taken off the internet, not an actual part of the project.)You do not need to be an expert artist to participate! You also do not need to be educated in intersexuality beforehand![PT: You do not need to be an expert artist to participate! You also do not need to be educated in intersexuality beforehand!]We are still hoping for this project to be done by pride month, but if not then, than this year. We refuse to go another year without this project being done. If you know anyone who might enjoy participation, please share this post with them! You can also reblog on bluesky [link.]18197265
this-is-deformimisiaMar 28celsius451 asked:(In reference to your blogs being 18+'d)Tumblr: W-what if we did discrimination against the discrimination blogs? 👉👈🥺you cannot be fr...They took the appeal and said they'll get back to me but :/ 312
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedMar 27this-is-anti-masculinityMar 27FollowJust so everyone knows, if you submit a post that has screenshots, but provide no image ID, I am most likely to answer every other ask first because of my disabilities. If you can add an ID to your submissions, please do, or else be prepared for it to take a while to get to.Also, please submit with plain text. No bold text, italics, colored text, small text, large text, etc. If you do add those things, please write a "[PT: ]" segment. Thank you.(This applies to all my this-is accounts.)21464
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedMar 27dhddmodsMar 25Followkitty-enby-boy-deactivated20260 asked:I don't know if you're aware but your sideblogs @thisisparamisia @this-is-deformimisia @this-is-amato-heteronormativity @this-is-anti-masculinity @this-is-varsexism-transphobia got marked as 18+ blogs Just wanted to inform you dhddmods answered::/ How annoying. Thanks for telling me. idk what to do about thatthis-is-anti-masculinityMar 27We reached out to support and they're reviewing it.91381
this-is-deformimisiaMar 26Anonymous asked:my parents telling me not to pick at scabs "so it doesn't scar"i already have scars, even if i never picked at scabs i would still have scars(sorry if this doesn't count, i know im not really deformed)This is disfiguremisia. Scarring can cause genuine complications (ie; mobility issues, skin sensitivity or desensitization, chronic pain/itching, etc), but just saying "so it doesnt scar" doesnt really communicate any of that.#ableism#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#scarring#cw skin picking124
this-is-deformimisiaMar 26Anonymous asked:I know it’s not a popular mod. 4.4k downloads is a lot, but its far from the most downloaded mod. But the fact that a mod exists to get rid of Karlach’s burn scars at all is dishearteningThis is disfiguremisia.#ableism#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#anti beauty culture#disfigured#scarring#scars220
this-is-deformimisiaMar 26theancientaliencollective asked:I fixed the image (I would add the link to the pot I'm referring to but Tumblr is being very rude right now)Post being referenced [link.][Image ID: A screenshot from the subreddit r/FavoriteCharacter, with the caption "Favorite character that's like this." The picture included in the post is a drawing. Within the drawing, an armored lady states "I...have to wear a helmet at all times. My true face would surely startle you...but if it's alright, I'm fine with showing my face to you. It's a bit scary, though." Two off-screen characters each have their own thought bubbles. In one of the thought bubbles, there is the face of a blonde girl with big blue eyes, with the edited text "I wonder if she will be conventionally attractive so I can objectify her." In the other thought bubble, there is the face of a red-head with orange eyes and a clean scar over her nose and X-shaped scar on her cheek, with the edited text "Her face must be scarred! Others think scars ruin a lady's face...but a tough woman is so attractive! But only if she is still conventionally attractive and it fits my tastes because I objectify women." Finally, in the last panel, her helmet is removed, and her face - which was blurred in the original post, but is redrawn in this edit - has a bald patch, scarring on her forehead, cheek, and around her eyes (contracting one of them), and a gap in the side of the nose. /End ID]This made me laugh, thank you for this.#ableism#disfiguremisia#disfigurement#anti beauty culture#physical disability#physically disabled#anti beauty standards#craniofacial disfigurement#facial difference#fuck beauty standards#anti beauty industry#ableism in media#ableism in fandom427
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedMar 25dhddmodsMar 25Followkitty-enby-boy-deactivated20260 asked:I don't know if you're aware but your sideblogs @thisisparamisia @this-is-deformimisia @this-is-amato-heteronormativity @this-is-anti-masculinity @this-is-varsexism-transphobia got marked as 18+ blogs Just wanted to inform you dhddmods answered::/ How annoying. Thanks for telling me. idk what to do about that91381
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedMar 25this-is-anti-masculinityJan 28FollowAccounts like this one:@this-is-transmisandry (focused on the oppression towards transmascs and people who are transmasculinized.)@this-is-misogyny and @thisis-misogyny (focused on the oppression towards fems and women.)@this-is-antitransfemininity (focused on the oppression of transfems and people who are transfeminized.)@thisisexorsexism (focused on the oppression of enben, aka people on the non-binary spectrum.)@this-is-antixeninity (focused on the oppression of xenogender people.)@this-is-multigenderphobia (focused on the oppression of multigender people.)@thisis-intersexism (focused on the oppression of intersex people.)@this-is-internoirism (focused on the intersection of intersexism and anti-black racism.)@this-is-varsexism-transphobia (focused on the oppression of sexqueer and genderqueer people.)@this-is-bioessentialism (focused on how bioessentialism negatively impacts people.)@this-is-amato-heteronormativity (focused on how amatonormativity and heteronormativity negatively impact people.)@thisishomophobia (focused on how homophobia negatively impacts people.)@this-is-lesbiphobia (focused on the oppression of lesbians.)@this-is-anti-objectum (focused on the oppression of objectum people.)@this-is-automisia (focused on the oppression of autospecs.)@thisis-aphobia (focused on the oppression of aspec people.)@this-is-abrophobia (focused on the oppression of abro people.)@thisisracism (focused on the oppression of BIPOC.)@this-is-monoracism (focused on the oppression of multiracial people.)@this-is-indigemisia (focused on the oppression of Indigenous people.)@this-is-asiaphobia, @this-is-orientalism, and @this-is-sinophobia-orientalism (focused on the oppression of Asian people.)@this-is-sinomisogyny (focused on the intersection of misogyny and sinophobia, which is the oppression of East & Southeast Asians.)@this-is-maori-targeted-racism (focused on the oppression of Māori people.)@thisisantisemitism (focused on the oppression of Jews.)@this-is-xenophobia (focused on how xenophobia negatively impacts people.)@this-is-anti-romani (focused on the oppression of Roma.)@this-is-linguicism (focused on the oppression of someone based on their language/speech.)@this-is-fatphobia (focused on the oppression of fat people.)@this-is-infantilization (focused on the infantilization of people, particularly disabled people.)@this-is-ableism (focused on the oppression of people with physical, sensory, neurological, and psychological disabilities.)@this-is-agorableism (focused on the oppression of disabled people existing in public spaces.)@this-is-lookism (focused on the oppression of people who have "unacceptable" appearances, often overlapping with deformimisia/disfiguremisia.)@this-is-deformimisia (focused on the oppression of people with physical deformities and/or disfigurements.)@this-is-audism (focused on the oppression of deaf and hard of hearing people, including those with auditory processing issues.)@this-is-anti-idd (focused on the oppression of intellectual disabilities.)@this-is-phobia-discrimination (focused on the oppression of people with phobias.)@this-is-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with psychological disabilities.)@this-is-cluster-b-saneism (focused on the oppression of people with cluster B personality disorders.)@thisisparamisia (focused on the oppression of people with paraphilias, especially those with paraphilic disorders.)@thisis-suicidism and @this-is-suicidism (focused on the oppression of suicidal people.)@this-is-pluralphobia (focused on the oppression of plural people/plural systems.)@thisisfictomisia (focused on the oppression of fictionfolk.)@this-is-kinmisia and @this-is-alterhumisia (focused on the oppression of alterhumans.)@this-is-anthromisia (focused on bigotry against the anthro community, such as furries, scalies, beakies, etc.)@this-is-anti-paganism-animism (focused on the oppression of pagans and animists.)@this-is-anti-religion (focused on the bigotry against religions.)@this-is-anti-homeless (focused on the oppression of homeless people.)@this-is-classism (focused on the effects of classism.)@this-is-parental-abuse (focused on the effects of parental abuse.)@this-is-peer-abuse (focused on the effects of peer abuse.)Notes:[PT: Notes]This-is-transgynephobia, this-is-biphobia, and this-is-sapphicphobia is run by a racist mod [link] (more examples are under the cut*) who stalks people and makes tons of accounts, do not follow those accounts.
This-is-transandrophobia is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account.Thisis-paraphilicsocialostracization is an endophobe [link], do not follow that account. UPDATE: So the account removed the endophobic statement from that post, but it did exist. You can see in the comments people responding to it.
This-is-adultism is paramisic and refuses to acknowledge the difference between child predator & pedophile [link]. Just look up "pedophile" on the account and you'll see tons about it. Do not follow that account.)To the people telling me that not every @ works - the reason why is because Tumblr only allows 50 mentions per post. There's nothing I can do about it.(*Examples of the mod's racism below.)Keep readingthis-is-anti-masculinityMar 25Added @this-is-automisia, please check it out!24179353
this-is-deformimisiaMar 25normystical asked:i found a reddit post, someone posting a photo of their hand with syndactyl, two of the fingers fused together on each hand. the top comments were asking about if surgery was possible, and when op said it wouldn't be worth the risk of damage at this point in time, asked why they didn't get it done sooner, and when told the reason, kept giving suggestions and encouragement despite them not seeming to care, etc etc etc. the majority of the comments were sexualizing their body, making sex jokes abt the condition and theoretical fingering. idk if op cares or not since they DID make the choice to post it to such a place as reddit to begin with, but it still really upset me to see. idk if that's selfish of me but. yeahh This is deformimisia.#ableism#deformimisia#deformity#hand deformity#limb deformity#limb difference#syndactyly#tw sexualisation#tw fetishization129
this-is-deformimisiaRebloggedMar 25this-is-deformimisiaMar 24FollowAnonymous asked:I'm a fictionkin, would it be disfiguremisia to incorporate disfigurements I don't have irl into my artist sona because the character has them? I just wanna make sure. Sorry if this is a dumb ask. this-is-deformimisia answered:Different people have their own opinions, but as a fictive who has innerworld disfigurements that don't align with the shared-body's disfigurements (as in I am disfigured in the innerworld and in the outerworld, just in different ways), I'm going to say that I don't think it is disfiguremisic. People who support fictionfolk usually understand, and for people who don't understand being a fictionfolk, you can just say "well I really love this character so I wanted to make them part of me" or something along those lines.this-is-deformimisiaMar 24(Agree with this but "aren't actually disfigured in real life" might not be true, they may just have different disfigurements to their kin. Either way, just don't speak over people who are bodily disfigured in the way your sona is.)this-is-deformimisiaMar 25325
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