Maybe you’ve had this experience too.

Standing in a bookstore aisle, or scrolling through pregnancy books online, looking for something that speaks to the deeper side of pregnancy.

You can find so many books out there about conscious birth, conscious conception, and so much more, but what about conscious or spiritual pregnancy?

There are endless resources about development, nutrition, how big your baby is, what to absolutely do or not do when you’re pregnant, and what to expect week by week… but I’ve consistently been disappointed when it comes to finding material that truly touches the depth of the spiritual aspects of pregnancy.

Things like:

• How to connect and bond with your baby’s soul in utero

• How to know when a feeling, thought, or fear is actually coming from your baby, not from you

• How to navigate the intense emotional and spiritual changes that pregnancy brings

• How to let old parts of you go as you transform into a new version of yourself during pregnancy

• How to prepare the soul of your baby to incarnate on Earth

• Developing a relationship with your baby’s guides and protectors

THESE are the things that I want to hear about, that I care about, that I want other women to know.

So I’ll be starting a series on Substack to cover each one of these points, and so much more, so we can begin truly exploring the magic and mystery of pregnancy through a spiritual lens.

How to Connect with and Bond with your Baby in Utero

I picked up this book, called The Secret Life of the Unborn Child, in an effort to, as I described above, find material that reflects the perspectives I desire to hear about. Being a spirit baby medium for over 10 years, I have connected with thousands of babies who are in utero. It’s always a fascinating and enlightening experience.

However, while informative in some respects, this book missed the mark of capturing a baby’s experience in utero from a baby’s perspective. Much of this book talked about how babies aren’t sentient or can’t hear or feel you until at least past the 20-week mark. This is not at all what I’ve found in my experience.

In the second and third trimesters, you’re beginning to feel baby move and kick, and grow. It is usually easier for parents to connect with their babies at this point.

However, what I’ve found and noticed is that a baby’s soul is ready to start bonding and connecting with you from the moment of conception. Or from the moment when you find out you’re pregnant.

The early moments after conception are SO incredibly sacred and important, and babies NEED their mom’s attention and attunement even then. I’ve noticed that babies are aware of you: your thoughts, feelings, emotions, from very early on in pregnancy. And not only that, but your thoughts, emotions, and feelings MAY actually be your baby’s energy beginning to blend with and influence yours (more on this in a future post).

(One important note is that from what I’ve learned, the baby’s soul doesn’t come fully into the growing embryo/fetus until later in pregnancy. It’s different for every soul, but there seems to be a greater blending of soul/baby’s body around the 12-week mark, the 20-week mark, and the 30-week mark. Until that point, their energy is coming in and out, and a baby’s soul can stay very busy spiritually in pregnancy. However, the baby’s soul being ‘in’ the growing body does not have an effect on whether you’ll be able to communicate with them. Their energy is able to be omnipresent – present everywhere at the same time.)

If you’re in early pregnancy and wondering how to begin building that connection, there are a few simple practices I love guiding mothers through.