No! If a girl says she is busy, take her at face value. If you discover the girl lied, then feel relieved because this is not the kind of girl you want to get involved in! It means she has trouble handling life without having to resort to deception.
You want to date girls who are straightforward and tell you the truth.
How to tell which it is? Take the busy signal as truth and then ask her immediately if you can get together at another time. You will find out which it is immediately.
Short answer: “Busy” can mean multiple things — it’s not an automatic rejection, but it’s also not an unequivocal invitation. Interpreting it correctly requires context, pattern, and respectful follow-up behavior.
How to read “I’m busy”
- Literal availability: she may genuinely be occupied (work, school, family, travel) and unable to commit to plans right now.
- Polite deferral: she likes you but can’t make that time and intends to reschedule later.
- Soft decline: she’s not interested but wants to avoid awkwardness or blunt refusal, so she uses “busy” as a gentler rejection.
- Boundary-setting: she wants
Short answer: “Busy” can mean multiple things — it’s not an automatic rejection, but it’s also not an unequivocal invitation. Interpreting it correctly requires context, pattern, and respectful follow-up behavior.
How to read “I’m busy”
- Literal availability: she may genuinely be occupied (work, school, family, travel) and unable to commit to plans right now.
- Polite deferral: she likes you but can’t make that time and intends to reschedule later.
- Soft decline: she’s not interested but wants to avoid awkwardness or blunt refusal, so she uses “busy” as a gentler rejection.
- Boundary-setting: she wants to slow things down or keep distance without confronting you directly.
Signals that lean toward genuine unavailability
- Specifics and alternatives: she gives a reason and suggests or accepts another time (“I have finals, free next weekend?”).
- Predictable schedule conflicts: busy at the same times due to work/parenting commitments.
- Prompt, warm responses when free: messages remain engaged outside claimed busy periods.
- Short-term pattern: a temporary burst of busyness (project, travel) followed by re-engagement afterward.
Signals that lean toward polite/no interest
- Vague, repeated “I’m busy” with no details and no attempt to reschedule.
- Long response delays, short or lukewarm replies, little conversational reciprocity.
- Cancels plans repeatedly and doesn’t propose alternatives.
- Avoids in-person meetings while remaining active elsewhere (social media, other plans).
How to respond (practical steps)
- Accept the literal first: assume genuine busyness unless you see clear disinterest signals.
- Offer a low-pressure alternative: “No problem — want to try next Saturday?” or “When’s a good time for you?” (one clear option is better than open-ended).
- Watch the pattern: if she accepts/reschedules, proceed. If she consistently defers, treat it as declining interest.
- Limit pursuing: after one or two polite attempts with no positive response, step back to avoid pushing and preserve dignity.
- Maintain independence: keep plans and life active; availability should be a positive, not an anxious chase.
Timing and tone matter
- Immediate, repeated follow-up after a “busy” message often feels pushy. Wait a reasonable interval.
- Keep messages concise, upbeat, and not demanding explanations.
Examples (typical stories)
- Example A: She texts “Busy at work, can we do Sunday?” — genuine, she suggested a time and follows through.
- Example B: She replies “Busy” repeatedly without offering next steps and later cancels — likely polite decline.
- Example C: She’s active on social media but always “busy” when you ask to meet — red flag for disinterest or prioritization differences.
Final rule of thumb
Treat “busy” as an ambiguous signal. Give one clear, respectful opportunity to reschedule; use her response pattern to decide whether to continue pursuing or move on.
I think it depends on how she let you know she is busy. If she is to the point and doesn’t appear interested with her body language or words, it is very likely she isn’t interested. If she gives a reason, but suggests getting together later, she is likely interested. People frequently have busy lives, but if they want to get with you, they will make time, suggest another time to meet, or will take you up on another invitation later.
Women are either head over heels for you or they can’t stand you. If she’s head over heels, she’ll cancel open heart surgery for you. If she can’t stand you, she’s “busy.” Move along. And if she really was busy, she’ll find a way to get back to you when she’s not. This attitude may seem simplistic and harsh, but it’ll save you a lot of grief in the end.
Many are uncomfortable bluntly saying they’re not interested, so they may instead fall back on I’m busy. Often, busy does mean not interested. You just have to be able to read all of the indicia of the communication including look and tone. That said, it helps when the busy is accompanied with something encouraging, like how about another time. Without that I would at least consider that she’s not interested, and proceed carefully. I wouldn’t be melodramatic with calling it a rejection. It’s really just a not interested. Don’t be too invested in the choices of a woman you’ve never gone out wit
Many are uncomfortable bluntly saying they’re not interested, so they may instead fall back on I’m busy. Often, busy does mean not interested. You just have to be able to read all of the indicia of the communication including look and tone. That said, it helps when the busy is accompanied with something encouraging, like how about another time. Without that I would at least consider that she’s not interested, and proceed carefully. I wouldn’t be melodramatic with calling it a rejection. It’s really just a not interested. Don’t be too invested in the choices of a woman you’ve never gone out with.
Move on brother, if she was interested she would find time or make time, Everyone makes time for what they want to do, need to do, or what's important to them. Win $100,000,000 and you'd be surprised on how much time (everyone) has to give you. So Find out who has time for you, in return make time for them. Find someone who has time, don't waist your time on someone who has no time, your time it's limited. If she said I'll think about it or let me get back to you that's ok anything but im to busy not ok. She might find time for you later, so wait if you choose to, if you think it's worth the t
Move on brother, if she was interested she would find time or make time, Everyone makes time for what they want to do, need to do, or what's important to them. Win $100,000,000 and you'd be surprised on how much time (everyone) has to give you. So Find out who has time for you, in return make time for them. Find someone who has time, don't waist your time on someone who has no time, your time it's limited. If she said I'll think about it or let me get back to you that's ok anything but im to busy not ok. She might find time for you later, so wait if you choose to, if you think it's worth the time waiting.
Even the billionaires can find to cheat on their spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend….facts.
PS I just gave you some of my time by responding, I think your worth the time especially if this helps any.
It means that you are not a priority. When people want to be with you, they will make time for you.
Yes, when she says she is busy she is trying to deflect your amorous advance in her direction elsewhere so she won’t have to deal with it. She is busy trying to attract someone else, male or female, upon whom she can unload her amorous advance. She wants to do the knock-knee shuffle elsewhere and she is trying to avoid hurting your feelings as she does. You might do the same thing with someone you weren’t attracted toward, so it isn’t personal, it just is.
It depends. We all can be busy. No matter of gender and age.
When she say she is busy, if she wants to go out with you, she should suggest another day. However there is a but. If she continue doing this, suggesting another day over and over then it's a rejection.
If she only say she is busy but doesn't suggest another day, that is a rejection.
There are two kind of people. Those who see you when they have time. And those who makes time to see you. Be only with a girl who makes time for you. It doesn't mean she should quit her job or lie about being ill to hang out with you. But she should suggest
It depends. We all can be busy. No matter of gender and age.
When she say she is busy, if she wants to go out with you, she should suggest another day. However there is a but. If she continue doing this, suggesting another day over and over then it's a rejection.
If she only say she is busy but doesn't suggest another day, that is a rejection.
There are two kind of people. Those who see you when they have time. And those who makes time to see you. Be only with a girl who makes time for you. It doesn't mean she should quit her job or lie about being ill to hang out with you. But she should suggest another day if she is busy. Even if she can some days only see you like an hour for a walk in the park.
No one is more busy than someone who is not interested in you.
Yes, stop contacting her. Happens to everyone and will probably happen again. Forget about her and move on.
Yes, a younger man in particular finds it difficult to believe a young women is being straight with him when she says she’s busy. In possession of a tender and not fully developed ego, the young man doesn’t take well to admonitions the young lady is predisposed.
He thinks it’s all about him. Traces of normal narcissism may remain with the young man until he is well into his twenties.
Simple. If she said she's busy without offering an alternative day or time, it's over move on. Please do not offer another time to make her reject you a second time. If she's legit busy and wants to see you, she'll let you know.
It means she is busy or its a polite way of saying NO. You can ask her after two weeks or so. If its still no. Then it is a definite NO.
Usually If she is busy but interested, she would suggest an alternative. You too have your busy life. How would you respond if you are asked out when busy but interested.
It means she is busy or its a polite way of saying NO. You can ask her after two weeks or so. If its still no. Then it is a definite NO.
Usually If she is busy but interested, she would suggest an alternative. You too have your busy life. How would you respond if you are asked out when busy but interested.
If that's all she says with no counteroffer for another day and time to go out then yes she is rejecting him and trying to soften the blow. She has low interest level in him. Don't ever call this woman again and throw her number away.
Rejection happens to all of us both men and women. If I get 50 phone numbers then I'm probably going to end up throwing away 50%-60% of them. 25–30 of those numbers are from women who have low interest level. It really is a number's game. Not every woman who is warm and friendly when they talk to a guy is going to be in love with him.
It depends. How many times have you asked her for a date (or whatever)? When you asked her, was it a for a specific time and place or a general invitation? Regardless, if she said she was busy, seemed unexcited and unreceptive, and did not say that she would like to take you up on your offer some other time, these are definite signs that she isn’t interested. Try someone else.
It depends on 3 factors:
- Does she reject you often?
- Does she tell you what she's doing?
- Does she stay home or leave?
If you ask yourself these 3 questions and she rejects your offer, does not tell you where she is going, or leaves without telling you first…….that means there is a high probability that she is rejecting you as a person. If not, she is probably actually busy and she does not reject you. HOPE THAT HELPS!!!
If a girl says she is busy it doesn't automatically means she rejects you but it's some kind of excuse.
This merely depends on how her situation is during your proposal. You might wonder if she says she is busy but she is doing nothing. ….she will busy dealing with her mind maybe she is having some stressful thoughts. She might be in a tight corner by that time e.g if there are some people around whom she is shy to say ‘yes’ in front of.
Keep trying this might happen twice or thrice after then she will give a chance. Maybe she needs to prepare herself before she can talk to you, but this can't p
If a girl says she is busy it doesn't automatically means she rejects you but it's some kind of excuse.
This merely depends on how her situation is during your proposal. You might wonder if she says she is busy but she is doing nothing. ….she will busy dealing with her mind maybe she is having some stressful thoughts. She might be in a tight corner by that time e.g if there are some people around whom she is shy to say ‘yes’ in front of.
Keep trying this might happen twice or thrice after then she will give a chance. Maybe she needs to prepare herself before she can talk to you, but this can't persist for more than three times if she like you.
It means she’s busy, or not interested. If you are interested when she says she’s busy, you can ask if she’s free next Wednesday (or whenever). If she’s still busy, tell her you’d love to get together when she can, she can call you and give her your number.
I’m going to give You a bit of Hope and not shoot You down like some of the others. I’ll tell You from My current experiences. At My Job, I’m currently interested in a Puerto Rican Female who’s only been in the States for a Year. I got nervous to when to ask Her out. Carrie Fisher had a quote saying, “stay afraid but do it anyway, what’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait on confidence, just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.” Her Character Liea Organa says, “Hope is like the Sun, if You only believe in it when You see it; You’ll never get through the night.”
So this
I’m going to give You a bit of Hope and not shoot You down like some of the others. I’ll tell You from My current experiences. At My Job, I’m currently interested in a Puerto Rican Female who’s only been in the States for a Year. I got nervous to when to ask Her out. Carrie Fisher had a quote saying, “stay afraid but do it anyway, what’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait on confidence, just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.” Her Character Liea Organa says, “Hope is like the Sun, if You only believe in it when You see it; You’ll never get through the night.”
So this gave Me the Hope to ask Her number and ask Her out. She told Me that I was sweet, but She’s not looking for anybody because of a situation. Keep in mind that She get asked out all the time and tells the Guys the same thing. I then told Her, “well We can be Friends and get to know each other at work then when You’re available, then We can go out.” She replied, “I’ll keep that in mind.” You see, We have common interest, work well together, and get along with each other, You can’t beat that. She replied, ”Yeah!” She also mentioned that She thinks I’m a nice Guy and She likes that.
In short, I guess depending on the situation, like someone on here said, if She likes You, She’s not rejecting You, rather Her situation (whatever it is) is preventing Her from dating anybody. Look at Star Wars with some of the Couples, Ray and Fen, Ezra and Sabine, Han and Leia, Iden and Meeko, these People didn’t really hit it off until the conflict they where in was solved and over with.
Like I said, sometimes One’s current situation prevents them from Dating. They are not rejecting You (depending on the situation), but for some reason, they just don’t have the time in some form or fashion. Another Guy on here said, “it doesn’t hurt to be persistent.” However, don’t be too pushy and respect their space and boundaries. If they told You and they know You like them, just leave them alone about the subject and just be their Friend, that’s what I did. Eventually when the time comes, You’ll get what You desire. :)!
In that case, one and simple answer is not YES or NO but the great option is to understand the condition of each other. Maybe that person suffers from hard and tough times, stress, tensions so, that the guy have no time for sharing. Maybe that guy tries to solve their own life problems because no-one is free from problems, it is the truth. If you think that the guy said you I'm busy but on the other hand, give time to their friends or smartphone, don't clue yourself that the guy make reasons for you, the real fact is that, when you're tensed or in some tension, you give your time to someone wh
In that case, one and simple answer is not YES or NO but the great option is to understand the condition of each other. Maybe that person suffers from hard and tough times, stress, tensions so, that the guy have no time for sharing. Maybe that guy tries to solve their own life problems because no-one is free from problems, it is the truth. If you think that the guy said you I'm busy but on the other hand, give time to their friends or smartphone, don't clue yourself that the guy make reasons for you, the real fact is that, when you're tensed or in some tension, you give your time to someone who give your mind relief or calm, some peoples hang out with friends or family some peoples in a closed room.
That's doesn't means there is any type of rejection. Don't be so silly because you have your own life to, you have your own goals too, your own problems too, better is that focus on them and be motivated, you're a perfect person that no-one can rejects you.
Build up your own life, play your main role because you're more than you think.
Thank you
She's full of shit and texting other dudes at the same time. Your one of 5 options. Have some god damn self respect. And dump her. Your getting played and prob used for free meals when she's hungry. Women do this all the time in 2024 and it's disgusting behavior. Men need to wake up and protect themselves emotionally and financially. Not all but most women are pretty trash these days. They will use you and throw you aside like nothing. Most of them are pretty heartless. Protect yourself brother. Chances are she's giving her goods away to someone else for free whilst your paying for all the mea
She's full of shit and texting other dudes at the same time. Your one of 5 options. Have some god damn self respect. And dump her. Your getting played and prob used for free meals when she's hungry. Women do this all the time in 2024 and it's disgusting behavior. Men need to wake up and protect themselves emotionally and financially. Not all but most women are pretty trash these days. They will use you and throw you aside like nothing. Most of them are pretty heartless. Protect yourself brother. Chances are she's giving her goods away to someone else for free whilst your paying for all the meals and places to go when she's bored. And your paying full price for nothing. While Chad or Tyrone gets it all for free. F that dude. Dump her
Yes…..it's true. If he likes u no matter what he is doing he will find time.
I know everyone plays games, ghosts, is shady, etc. but all of those games are usually pointless, take a lot of time, cause drama and stress, and gives you endless time to speculate on the millions of reasons why a person may be behaving in a certain manner, likely most of which are wild and unrealistic thoughts. And unfortunately, if someone is doing this to you, the most likely possibility is that she just is not that interested - she may be busy for any number of reasons, but if she was really interested, she would find the time.
Honesty is the best policy in my book and I would rather just
I know everyone plays games, ghosts, is shady, etc. but all of those games are usually pointless, take a lot of time, cause drama and stress, and gives you endless time to speculate on the millions of reasons why a person may be behaving in a certain manner, likely most of which are wild and unrealistic thoughts. And unfortunately, if someone is doing this to you, the most likely possibility is that she just is not that interested - she may be busy for any number of reasons, but if she was really interested, she would find the time.
Honesty is the best policy in my book and I would rather just know than spend days/weeks/months trying to guess what the other person is thinking or feeling. Struggling with the highs and lows, holding out hope, constantly checking your phone hoping she will call - its pretty much the worst.
I know it can be intimidating but reach out to her and genuinely inquire about where things are going. Put it out there so you can either A) understand where her head is at or B) move on because she is not that interested. I would say something along the lines of:
“Hey, I really enjoy talking/spending time/hanging out with you, and I haven't heard from you as much recently. I absolutely understand if you are busy with school/work/etc, but if you are no longer interested I can accept that as well. I just would like to know where things stand with us.”
If you do something along those lines you will get one of the following results:
- A text back saying “I am so sorry, its been just so busy” but she will reciprocate in a way that shows that she is interested in you, and really is just busy.
- A text back stating that she isn't that interested anymore since you gave her the opportunity to bow out gracefully if she was worried about being nice and not hurting your feelings, and then you will know and move onto someone who IS interested in you.
- No response at all, which confirms - regardless of the reason - that she is not that interested, and again this gives you the opportunity to find the girl that IS interested.
I unfortunately learned this the VERY hard way, going through this with multiple people over a number of years. When I quit playing into the games and started being upfront about my feelings, my expectations, and quit letting the other person have control over me, I was much happier. I know it can be scary to wear your heart on your sleeve and to be honest about your feelings, but trust me, it is so much more zen than the other way around. And yeah, it sucks when someone is not that into you as you are them, it really does, but don't waste your time hoping they will change their mind. There are plenty of other people out there and you will find the right person when it is the right time. Or maybe she is the right person but it is just the WRONG time. Try not to take it personal, get some answers, and go from there.
Good luck!
It might and it might not. I’m busy could mean oh darn I wish I could but I have a previous commitment. Or it could mean I don’t think we are a good match, or it is a bad time for her.
I would try another time or 2 and if it is a I’m busy (again) I’d let it go with that woman/ girl and ask out someone else.
Watch how they eventually respond to you. If the arch is: apology and then proactive offer of action - they were just busy. If it's apology and no follow up action - they're ignoring you. Compare:
- Hey, sorry, I've been swamped with work. Let's meet next Friday for coffee!
- Sorry, I'm so swamped with work lately. It's the end of the month.
That is not what she says, but you are free to assume everything you think.
Asking her directly seems to be more productive. At least you would know if she would accept your confession or not.
It might. The way it is said counts a lot.
When I was young I was really busy. I would have said: call again in two weeks or whenever I was done with the exams.
Usually, but not always! Depends on how long you’ve been dating. If only a short time, probably rejection unles she has a real legitimate reason that’s proven.
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No girl would openly reveal the reason ( At least in India ), for rejecting guys because
* She doesn’t wanna hurt your innocent heart with the blunt truth. ( Such as you look unattractive or un-datable).
* She doesn’t want you to improve things and try harder.
It’s like getting rejected by a company and further getting blacklisted by them from applying for future openings.
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So, you got to use two
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No girl would openly reveal the reason ( At least in India ), for rejecting guys because
* She doesn’t wanna hurt your innocent heart with the blunt truth. ( Such as you look unattractive or un-datable).
* She doesn’t want you to improve things and try harder.
It’s like getting rejected by a company and further getting blacklisted by them from applying for future openings.
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So, you got to use two main weapons - Common sense and Intuition to decipher why you were not desirable and you should never go back to her, even if she is Emma Watson.
From what I see as the reasons for rejection.
* “Clingy” nature aka Emotional vulnerability- A Woman, no matter how strong or kind she is, would be needing emotional support and personal space , time to time.
She would also need guys who are efficient problem solvers of daily life.
Of Course, every man is strong enough to provide emotional support.
But Women have higher standards for that criteria.
When you constantly complain, constantly need her attention and validation, get too possessive about her, go through bouts of inferiority complex, she would consider you emotionally weak and outright reject you.
The emotional toughness aka “Confidence” of a man is one of the key criteria, most women look for.
* Career Graph - This is tricky.
A woman would give you a chance even if you are jobless but have some serious capabilities and up for something phenomenal.
But if you are stagnant in your career and are barely surviving without any progress for several years, she would consider you a risky investment for a lifetime commitment and walk away.
* Looks - It’s always tough to reject an eye candy.
How many girls do you think are ready to give up everything to date Ryan Gosling or Enrique Iglesias?
These guys may have major issues in their personal life, but girls would easily overlook those, just because of their looks.
You see, most women aren’t actually too keen to get only good looking ...
It means she's not interested. Girls never say what they're feeling, they only give hints. It's time to move on and forget about her, she no longer exists.
Repeat the process in the future when you experience similar behavior. Happens to someone somewhere every minute of the day, don't forget that.
We all make priorities in life depending on what we want. Is he too busy to eat? Too busy to go to the gym, too busy to go for a 30 minute coffee? Then maybe he's just not worth chasing because he's far too overbalanced and has no time for life
Or, if he does seem to have time for other things his priorities aren't toward you
Don't chase people, it's degrading. Respect yourself and the right people will find you
Wishing you all the best moving forward
Depends.
If she says she’s busy and never follows up with “how about this other day” or with a specific convincing explanation for why she’s busy, then yes, that’s the same as a “no”
On the other hand, if they are actually busy and do want to go out, they will invariably say so, or suggest another time, or at least make some attempt to continue to find a way to make it work.
Bottom line, if they say they are busy and that’s the end of their effort and enthusiasm, it is a resounding no.
It means “no”, always.
If she were interested she would have counter-offered with a day when she weren’t busy.
If she says she’s busy the first time she’s likely got plans for when you asked. If you ask again and she’s busy that’s probably be her way of saying no. At that point I’d just go talk to the next woman and forget about it.
I’m busy means not now ! For anything that makes her want space for the moment . Anyone who can’t respect that isn’t going to be a good cool person
When she says she is busy, she might actually be busy. If you question her, she might feel irritated and uncomfortable. Give her some time, And ask her again. Most probably she'll go. Otherwise you got your answer.
In my opinion, it depends on what she considers flirting. It's totally not your fault if her definition is different than yours. I was nice to my fiance's friends because they were my fiance's friends. They were not used to women just being nice to them. And two of the four were convinced I was flirting with them.
Or she's just a terrible person and likes to jerk guys around. If she is, I'm sorry.
Generally speaking, the answer is yes it does. Now granted, it depends on the context, and what his history is, and so on.
And then you have to be open to the fact that he could just in fact, just be busy.
I think the best way, although not the fastest way, to find out the truth is just… stop calling him. If you stop calling him, and he never contacts you… that is pretty much a game over situation. He’s moved on.
No. For the future, if that happens again, give her your number and tell her to call you when she's free. That way it's up to her. If she calls then she really was busy. If not…..write her off.
Short answer, yes it’s rejection, a man can never be too busy to see the woman he likes, even if he’s really busy he would have started his reply with an alternative plan.
Another option is he’s giving you the “Are you a nutcase? “ test to see if you’ll stalk him or not.
Either cases, he’s not seriously into you, it might be a sex thing that’s it.
It depends. Some people really are busy. It’s also possible that he has a lot on his plate to handle at the moment, is depressed, suffers from anxieties, etc. So it could be a rejection, yes. However, it could also mean that he asking you for patience, so he can sort through some of his problems. Without some context it’s hard to say.
Context matters. If he is calling you or initiating the contact (even once) and expressing the wish to see you again or planning a new date with you, then he is interested, just busy with other things. If he doesn’t do any of this, odds are he is rejecting you. Ke
It depends. Some people really are busy. It’s also possible that he has a lot on his plate to handle at the moment, is depressed, suffers from anxieties, etc. So it could be a rejection, yes. However, it could also mean that he asking you for patience, so he can sort through some of his problems. Without some context it’s hard to say.
Context matters. If he is calling you or initiating the contact (even once) and expressing the wish to see you again or planning a new date with you, then he is interested, just busy with other things. If he doesn’t do any of this, odds are he is rejecting you. Keep in mind though everybody can be busy from time to time, but saying I’m busy is also the easiest way to convey that he is not emotionally available for whatever reason, even if he is interested in you. Meaning it might not be a rejection, but you might be better off looking for love elsewhere with a more responsive person.
Thanks for the request.
Rejection might follow, it could be a response to feeling pestered, but generally speaking she just means that she is busy.
kinda. if she says she is busy and tries to set another date then obviously she wants to go a date but if she plainly says she is busy and nothing else with it then, she is saying no
If she's giving a chance or somehow interested she'll probably tell you the “I'm busy…” line along with “…maybe next time.” But if she just ended it with just I'M BUSY, well I think that's a NO from her own words. Girls have different languages and approaches towards boys and I'm not an expert I could only speak for myself.
But know what? If you're willing to still pursue until she gives you a chance it's still up to your brave heart, dude. Good luck!
Depends on the payoff. Is she busy for a few weeks, then her schedule will free up and she can go out? If that’s the case, and you really like her, do it.
Is it months? Years? Then it is unreasonable to wait. To wait around for a maybe is foolish on your part. She may be worth it, but she’s not THAT worth it.
It would be different if you were dating and she asked you to wait on getting married. There’s a commitment and a payoff. But to ask you to wait an indefinite amount of time to date without any guarantees that the relationship will work, puts all the commitment on you with no promise of pay
Depends on the payoff. Is she busy for a few weeks, then her schedule will free up and she can go out? If that’s the case, and you really like her, do it.
Is it months? Years? Then it is unreasonable to wait. To wait around for a maybe is foolish on your part. She may be worth it, but she’s not THAT worth it.
It would be different if you were dating and she asked you to wait on getting married. There’s a commitment and a payoff. But to ask you to wait an indefinite amount of time to date without any guarantees that the relationship will work, puts all the commitment on you with no promise of payoff. You have life to live, don’t waste it pining for a girl who won’t commit.
That means no. You could ask her out couple of times more, just to be sure.
Think how you would treat somebody you would like to get together with.
We all can be very busy. But no one is more busy than a girl/boy who is not interested.
So saying she busy and doesn't have time for you, means she is not interested in you.
So why keep texting you back and forth? One reason can be she just wants to be polite, because you are writing to her. If it's kind of flirty messages from her, then the reason can be she just keeping you as an option till she get the person she wants. She likes the attention she gets from you. Which means she is immature, if that's the reason.
When someone says they’re “busy”, don’t force the issue. it could quickly turn into a rejection if you press them further.
Most of the time, when she says that, it’s because she doesn’t want to go out with you.
So what do you do? You ask her a 2nd time. If she blows you off again, it's because she isn't interested in you.
Doesn't matter if she is busy, if a girl wants to hangout with you, she will find a way to hangout with you.
And the worst part of this, is the fact that us (guys) just want an honest answer like:
-Yes I like you
-No I don't like you
And girls think they are being nice, when they give excuses and avoid being upfront.
YT: CJX
Sorry to have to say this but the answer is almost certainly yes - unless she says immediately afterwards that she's unfortunately busy at the time you've asked her out, and could make another time.
I'm afraid that word ‘busy’ is extremely weighted, it covers anything from washing one's hair, catching up on Netflix, playing in a netball match, off out on the town with the gals, visiting a favourite Aunt and Uncle, running errands for the family…..if you can think up a ‘valid’ excuse, then you've got what ‘busy’ means in a nutshell. Sadly it also means she doesn't fancy going on a date with you.
Sorry to have to say this but the answer is almost certainly yes - unless she says immediately afterwards that she's unfortunately busy at the time you've asked her out, and could make another time.
I'm afraid that word ‘busy’ is extremely weighted, it covers anything from washing one's hair, catching up on Netflix, playing in a netball match, off out on the town with the gals, visiting a favourite Aunt and Uncle, running errands for the family…..if you can think up a ‘valid’ excuse, then you've got what ‘busy’ means in a nutshell. Sadly it also means she doesn't fancy going on a date with you. However don't get downhearted, there are plenty more lovely ladies who WOULD like to go out with you, so go find!
Tell her the offer to go out is available at any time offer your number and then leave her alone. If she is busy and likes you she will make contact. Sadly the chances are that she just isn't into you and is trying to put you off while keeping things civil. If you continue to ask her out she may feel unsafe around you.
Heya.
If she says she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks, then she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks. Give her the respect of believing that story even though it could very well not be true.
If you do, then you come out the better person willing to trust her, perhaps unlike many other guys in her life? Another point for you right there.
Regardless of the circumstance, you have absolutely no chance of knowing and neither do we. Don’t be uncertain of her, be certain of yourself. You are in control of whether you believe her and you’re in no way in control of whether she lies to you. Give her the benifit of the doubt an
Heya.
If she says she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks, then she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks. Give her the respect of believing that story even though it could very well not be true.
If you do, then you come out the better person willing to trust her, perhaps unlike many other guys in her life? Another point for you right there.
Regardless of the circumstance, you have absolutely no chance of knowing and neither do we. Don’t be uncertain of her, be certain of yourself. You are in control of whether you believe her and you’re in no way in control of whether she lies to you. Give her the benifit of the doubt and it could spell the difference between a healthy relationship or a crashing break-up.
If you’re in any way like me, you are going to wonder. You’re going to show doubts. You’re going to have thoughts brewing in the back of your head.. but force yourself back to the right path: Be certain of yourself, be the right guy, be the guy who gives her leeway to live her life.
And hey, if she wasn’t interested, she would still not be interested in 2–3 weeks. Also, she would be immature and disrespectful of you by not being honest with you. So she wouldn’t be worth it in the long run.
Fingers crossed.
If you like her, do the right thing.
Cheers.
