Most of the time, when she says that, it’s because she doesn’t want to go out with you.
So what do you do? You ask her a 2nd time. If she blows you off again, it's because she isn't interested in you.
Doesn't matter if she is busy, if a girl wants to hangout with you, she will find a way to hangout with you.
And the worst part of this, is the fact that us (guys) just want an honest answer like:
-Yes I like you
-No I don't like you
And girls think they are being nice, when they give excuses and avoid being upfront.
YT: CJX
This is not complicated at all people. No you do not ask her out a second time. You made the move she knows you're interested and if she's interested back she will suggest an alternate time or date.
Do not say the offer stands, or let me know if you ever want to. The so-called put the ball in her court comment. That is completely passive aggressive and will kill any attraction she has for you.
If you have asked her out properly, you did your part. No further action is needed on your part other than to not be a passive aggressive beta boy.
Leave the door open. She’s telling you that she’s busy for one of two reasons…
- She’s not interested in going out with you, and she’s politely saying no by just telling you that she can’t go out (when in reality she just doesn’t want to).
- She actually is busy (but might still want to go out with you).
Now is not the time to probe. Nothing good can come from probing. If she’s not interested, you’ll just make it worse for both her and yourself by trying to get the backstory of what she means when she says she’s busy. If she actually is busy, you’ll come across as nosy and invasive - and if she was i
Leave the door open. She’s telling you that she’s busy for one of two reasons…
- She’s not interested in going out with you, and she’s politely saying no by just telling you that she can’t go out (when in reality she just doesn’t want to).
- She actually is busy (but might still want to go out with you).
Now is not the time to probe. Nothing good can come from probing. If she’s not interested, you’ll just make it worse for both her and yourself by trying to get the backstory of what she means when she says she’s busy. If she actually is busy, you’ll come across as nosy and invasive - and if she was interested in going out with you in the first place, that’s likely to have a deteriorating effect on that feeling.
So, how do you respond to the “I’m busy” claim respectfully, but without losing the opportunity to possibly go out some other time? Acknowledge the claim at face value, while leaving the door open for her to take you up on your offer at a different time. I’ll give you an example scenario…
You: How’d you like to go for dinner tomorrow night?
Her: Oh, sorry, I can’t! I’ve got yoga tomorrow night.
You: No worries. Hope you have fun at yoga! Let me know if there’s another time you might be free.
Now, the ball is in her court. If she’s interested, you’ve made it super easy for her to make a plan with you on terms that work for her. If she’s not interested, this dialogue has sufficiently been closed off with an absence of enthusiastic interest on her part - as well as an absence of any follow-up on your offer that, if she was interested, she would have taken you up on.
Interpret “I’m busy” as one of three things: a soft no, a genuine scheduling conflict, or a boundary. Your response should be calibrated, low-pressure, clear, and respectful. Use short, specific replies that leave room for clarity without escalating.
Suggested responses (pick one that fits tone/context):
- If you want to stay casual and open:
- “Totally get it. When would work better for you?”
- “No problem. Want to pick a time that suits you?”
- If you want to be specific and reduce flakiness:
- “Cool. I’m free Saturday afternoon or Sunday evening — either work?”
- “I’m free Wednesday 7pm or Friday after 6.
Interpret “I’m busy” as one of three things: a soft no, a genuine scheduling conflict, or a boundary. Your response should be calibrated, low-pressure, clear, and respectful. Use short, specific replies that leave room for clarity without escalating.
Suggested responses (pick one that fits tone/context):
- If you want to stay casual and open:
- “Totally get it. When would work better for you?”
- “No problem. Want to pick a time that suits you?”
- If you want to be specific and reduce flakiness:
- “Cool. I’m free Saturday afternoon or Sunday evening — either work?”
- “I’m free Wednesday 7pm or Friday after 6. Which is better?”
- If you want to give her space while showing continued interest:
- “Alright. If you’d like to hang out another time, let me know.”
- “Understandable. I’ll check back in next week unless you want to suggest a time now.”
- If you suspect it’s a soft rejection and you want a graceful exit:
- “Thanks for letting me know. Good luck with [whatever she’s busy with].”
- “No worries — take care.”
How to read her follow-up:
- She proposes an alternative time → genuine interest. Confirm concretely.
- She gives an indefinite “sometime” or no alternative → likely low interest; don’t persist.
- She avoids rescheduling repeatedly → treat as a no and move on.
Tone and timing rules:
- Keep messages brief and confident. Long justifications or pressure reduce attraction.
- Avoid immediate repeated messages if she doesn’t respond; wait several days or move on.
- If you really like her and want clarity once: one concise follow-up after a week is acceptable; then stop if there’s no engagement.
Examples of poor responses to avoid:
- Begging, guilt-tripping, long explanations, or trying to out-persist ambiguous signals.
Final principle: be direct, specific, and respectful — offer a concrete option, accept an honest “no,” and preserve your dignity if she doesn’t commit.
99% of the times it means that it's a big fat NO and she is just saying that she is busy to avoid being mean and rejecting you.
So in a scenario you should respect her and not take it to your ego and just say “okay cool" or “fine". Or just don't reply and move on in your life. Plenty of people to ask out.
If you keep on nagging her about when she is not gonna be busy and give an answer it will just be a display of your desperation which girls totally get turned off by. Just leave it be.
In the 1% case where she might actually like you back and wants to go out but is a bit confused (which also hap
99% of the times it means that it's a big fat NO and she is just saying that she is busy to avoid being mean and rejecting you.
So in a scenario you should respect her and not take it to your ego and just say “okay cool" or “fine". Or just don't reply and move on in your life. Plenty of people to ask out.
If you keep on nagging her about when she is not gonna be busy and give an answer it will just be a display of your desperation which girls totally get turned off by. Just leave it be.
In the 1% case where she might actually like you back and wants to go out but is a bit confused (which also happens a lot) she'll get back to you eventually.
Take Care.
“Okay, fair enough, no problem.” Then I back the heck off and move on.
What else do you expect? Some magical advice to change the mind of some girl you have the hots for? Sorry, not happenin’.
Depends upon how she says it, her tone and body language.
If she looks at you something like this:
Then she may indeed be busy, but she doesn’t look like she wants to go out with you, regardless.
Just say ,“OK, cool”, and move on without a backwards glance.
Now if she’s something like —
— then suggest another time, or ask her when would be a good time to go out?
If you’re not sure then you can do what I did and use a simple rule of thumb: three strikes and you’re out.
If you think she’s truthfully that busy, give it three tries. No matter how busy someone is, guy or girl, if they actually want to go
Depends upon how she says it, her tone and body language.
If she looks at you something like this:
Then she may indeed be busy, but she doesn’t look like she wants to go out with you, regardless.
Just say ,“OK, cool”, and move on without a backwards glance.
Now if she’s something like —
— then suggest another time, or ask her when would be a good time to go out?
If you’re not sure then you can do what I did and use a simple rule of thumb: three strikes and you’re out.
If you think she’s truthfully that busy, give it three tries. No matter how busy someone is, guy or girl, if they actually want to go out with you they’ll rearrange *something* by that third ask. If she’s still says she’s busy on ask 3, she’s not busy, she just doesn’t want to be busy with you. That’s cool, accept it and find someone who does want to go out with you.
In the moment, you say “Okay, well the offer stands if your schedule is free later!”
As a rule, you should always make it easy for someone to turn you down for a date. Don’t be mad and don’t accuse them of making up excuses. It’s just a date, which is no big deal in the long run. If you cajole, insult, guilt, accuse, or coerce in any way, there’s a tiny chance that you can turn a no into a yes, but it’s going to be a bad date where the woman felt conflicted. Moreover, you don’t want to get a reputation as the guy who gets angry at everyone who disappoints him (that guy doesn’t get many dates).
N
In the moment, you say “Okay, well the offer stands if your schedule is free later!”
As a rule, you should always make it easy for someone to turn you down for a date. Don’t be mad and don’t accuse them of making up excuses. It’s just a date, which is no big deal in the long run. If you cajole, insult, guilt, accuse, or coerce in any way, there’s a tiny chance that you can turn a no into a yes, but it’s going to be a bad date where the woman felt conflicted. Moreover, you don’t want to get a reputation as the guy who gets angry at everyone who disappoints him (that guy doesn’t get many dates).
Now, back to the woman’s response.
The problem with this response is it’s not 100% clear what it means. It’s probably a polite brush-off, but it may be that this woman is very busy right now and doesn’t have time to date.
Back in my dating life, I made a rule for myself to follow to take the stress out of these situations. If someone gave me a response like this, I’d wait a few weeks, and if I was still interested I would ask them out again. The rule to follow is that if the person says no a second time for whatever reason, I would forever after assume that they were not interested and never ask them out again. Two ask-outs is plenty for them to realize that I’d like to go on a date with them, and they could always come to me if they changed their mind. Still, from that point on, the ball is in their court.
Now, most of the time this turned out to be a polite brush off, but a surprisingly large amount of the time (maybe 30% in my experience) I would get a “yes” on the second ask-out.
I suggest you adopt this rule in your dating life. It will save you a lot of headaches. It will help keep you from missing opportunities by assuming that every “I’m busy” means “I don’t like you”, but it also will stop you from trying too many times and becoming stalkerish.
Sadly, she is saying that she is not interested in you.
If she did find you attractive enough, she would MAKE TIME in her life for you.
Look elsewhere. There are so many fine partners for you.
Most of the time, a girl will say this because she wants to spare your feelings.
However, if she says she is busy, but still makes an effort to find a different time when you are both free, then that means she is willing to give you a chance or she might like you.
If she says she is busy, just accept it graciously. The ball is in her court now. She will have to make it clear if she wants to fit you into her schedule. If she doesn’t try to fit you in, take the hint and move on.
The correct answer is to never get into a relationship with someone who says they’re busy.
Three possible things
- She is actually busy. She won’t have time to go on dates with you
- She is not interested in you. That’s just a nice way of rejecting you.
- She is playing games. Do you really want a women that plays mind games.
All possibility situations have one thing in common. What you should do next, and that's is move on and forget about her.
Rule of thumb: when a girl likes you, she makes herself available for you. It's actually hard coded in the girls’ playbook of dating, “girls make themselves available for the guy they like.”
I'll let you take it from there.
If she actually uses the words “I'm busy, I've got no time", then I would suggest you walk away and forget her.
If she wants to go out with you but genuinely has something on, she'd use kinder words like “I would love to, but I can't cos I'm meeting mum for dinner. Ask me again another time ok?”
If you like her and she tells you she is busy either she is actually busy or she’s not interested. If you don’t and your just friends then she might be mad or she might really just be busy. If you feel that she’s mad then just ask her if everything’s okay. That will go a long way trust me.
Let her be. If you know her well enough to ask her out, she'll be able to get in touch to make plans now that she knows you're interested. By letting her be, you're allowing her to not feel obligated to make some excuse if she's not interested (because too many people don't just take no for an answer) or to suggest something if she is. You've let her know how you feel, the ball's in her court.
Be careful only because women tend to make excuses instead of flat-out saying “no.” If this happens again, she's not interested.
It's different if she offers a different date to hang out, because people are genuinely busy sometimes. This means she's interested and would like to make plans with you but the day you asked for doesn't work.
Otherwise, don't waste your time and take the hint(s).
That's a pretty normal response that I get from women. I just let them know that I'm interested and they can contact me when they have free time. No sense pursuing someone who doesn't want to be caught. I wait and see what their response is.
Treat this as you would respond to any other person, not just her, with something to the effect of “contact me when you do have free time”. Phrases like this put the ball in the other person’s court. He or she will know you’re involved but not desperate. If there’s no response after your tolerable amount of time (week, month, year?) then move along.
Odds are a person who gives the ‘have no time’ right off the bat aren’t remotely interested in many ways. A person who slightly cares the least bit would reserve some time to fit you into his/her schedule regardless of how “busy” he/she is.
“That’s fine,” “okay,” “no worries, just let me know when you’re free,” etc. If she’s doing this as a way to avoid talking to you - don’t respond and let her go.
Either she is really busy and tells you herself when she will have more time.
Or she plays hard to get or simply has fun wasting your time.
In the second case,
- I either tell her I am busy too
- Or I invite her to become my caddie at a golf game.
Move on brother, if she was interested she would find time or make time, Everyone makes time for what they want to do, need to do, or what's important to them. Win $100,000,000 and you'd be surprised on how much time (everyone) has to give you. So Find out who has time for you, in return make time for them. Find someone who has time, don't waist your time on someone who has no time, your time it's limited. If she said I'll think about it or let me get back to you that's ok anything but im to busy not ok. She might find time for you later, so wait if you choose to, if you think it's worth the t
Move on brother, if she was interested she would find time or make time, Everyone makes time for what they want to do, need to do, or what's important to them. Win $100,000,000 and you'd be surprised on how much time (everyone) has to give you. So Find out who has time for you, in return make time for them. Find someone who has time, don't waist your time on someone who has no time, your time it's limited. If she said I'll think about it or let me get back to you that's ok anything but im to busy not ok. She might find time for you later, so wait if you choose to, if you think it's worth the time waiting.
Even the billionaires can find to cheat on their spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend….facts.
PS I just gave you some of my time by responding, I think your worth the time especially if this helps any.
If she said she is busy but suggested you to meet another day, it is true that she is busy and she is interested in you.
But if she only said she is busy, most probably she doesn't interested in you but doesn't want to hurt you by telling the real reason.
Take the hint; she's NOT interested in you
Guys, instead of chasing girls that don't want you; Hook up with the ones who do. You’ll be amazed at how different some girls look at the right moment
I go with, “sorry to hear it, but totally understandable. Let me know if there’s another day that works better!” I might also mention one or two alternative activities that I’d be happy to have company for.
If she responds in a way that suggests that she MIGHT be open to it, I’ll leave it to her to follow up. After a week or two, while I’m still reasonably fresh in her memory, I’ll try again and be a bit clearer about my intentions. I’ll also explicitly offer her the option to say no.
If it’s someone who crosses paths with me regularly or semi-regularly, I’ll pay attention to what the vibe is fr
I go with, “sorry to hear it, but totally understandable. Let me know if there’s another day that works better!” I might also mention one or two alternative activities that I’d be happy to have company for.
If she responds in a way that suggests that she MIGHT be open to it, I’ll leave it to her to follow up. After a week or two, while I’m still reasonably fresh in her memory, I’ll try again and be a bit clearer about my intentions. I’ll also explicitly offer her the option to say no.
If it’s someone who crosses paths with me regularly or semi-regularly, I’ll pay attention to what the vibe is from her next time we’re in the same space. If she seems a little distant towards me, I’ll give her space until she warms up to me again, and won’t try a second time until then (if it ever happens).
“Tough luck babycakes” and simply walk away.
(We dont know each other,please read post before commenting. Thanks
I have read the post in its entirety. Here is my take on it. If a woman is truly interested in you, she will show it and not play any games with you. She won't play hard to get etc. She would not want to risk rejecting you and then you lose interest.
When we really like someone we often look for “signals" that they like us back. It is all to easy to see something and really want to believe it's a s
I have read the post in its entirety. Here is my take on it. If a woman is truly interested in you, she will show it and not play any games with you. She won't play hard to get etc. She would not want to risk rejecting you and then you lose interest.
When we really like someone we often look for “signals" that they like us back. It is all to easy to see something and really want to believe it's a sign they like you, but it isn't. If she really liked you and was super busy, she would suggest a time when she wasn't or, find time to see you. I know it really sucks. Women are rarely direct when they reject a guy. They don't want to hurt his feelings...
Depends on if it’s likely true or if she’s fobbing you off .
It also depends on what you think of her.
Persistence is ok if she likes you but I think this is simple code for saying no..
Millions more out there
I know everyone plays games, ghosts, is shady, etc. but all of those games are usually pointless, take a lot of time, cause drama and stress, and gives you endless time to speculate on the millions of reasons why a person may be behaving in a certain manner, likely most of which are wild and unrealistic thoughts. And unfortunately, if someone is doing this to you, the most likely possibility is that she just is not that interested - she may be busy for any number of reasons, but if she was really interested, she would find the time.
Honesty is the best policy in my book and I would rather just
I know everyone plays games, ghosts, is shady, etc. but all of those games are usually pointless, take a lot of time, cause drama and stress, and gives you endless time to speculate on the millions of reasons why a person may be behaving in a certain manner, likely most of which are wild and unrealistic thoughts. And unfortunately, if someone is doing this to you, the most likely possibility is that she just is not that interested - she may be busy for any number of reasons, but if she was really interested, she would find the time.
Honesty is the best policy in my book and I would rather just know than spend days/weeks/months trying to guess what the other person is thinking or feeling. Struggling with the highs and lows, holding out hope, constantly checking your phone hoping she will call - its pretty much the worst.
I know it can be intimidating but reach out to her and genuinely inquire about where things are going. Put it out there so you can either A) understand where her head is at or B) move on because she is not that interested. I would say something along the lines of:
“Hey, I really enjoy talking/spending time/hanging out with you, and I haven't heard from you as much recently. I absolutely understand if you are busy with school/work/etc, but if you are no longer interested I can accept that as well. I just would like to know where things stand with us.”
If you do something along those lines you will get one of the following results:
- A text back saying “I am so sorry, its been just so busy” but she will reciprocate in a way that shows that she is interested in you, and really is just busy.
- A text back stating that she isn't that interested anymore since you gave her the opportunity to bow out gracefully if she was worried about being nice and not hurting your feelings, and then you will know and move onto someone who IS interested in you.
- No response at all, which confirms - regardless of the reason - that she is not that interested, and again this gives you the opportunity to find the girl that IS interested.
I unfortunately learned this the VERY hard way, going through this with multiple people over a number of years. When I quit playing into the games and started being upfront about my feelings, my expectations, and quit letting the other person have control over me, I was much happier. I know it can be scary to wear your heart on your sleeve and to be honest about your feelings, but trust me, it is so much more zen than the other way around. And yeah, it sucks when someone is not that into you as you are them, it really does, but don't waste your time hoping they will change their mind. There are plenty of other people out there and you will find the right person when it is the right time. Or maybe she is the right person but it is just the WRONG time. Try not to take it personal, get some answers, and go from there.
Good luck!
Try to adopt some of her common sense, relationships tend to being overpoweringly time consuming. If she is your good friend already, which she should be seeing as you have asked her out, nothing lost, continue to enjoy the friendship. Friendships tend to being far more successful than relationships anyway. If it is the case that you are not sufficiently interested in the friendship then a relationship would have stood absolutely no chance at all.
www.celebritydiscodave.co.uk
Take her word and stop interaction. May be she is not interested to talk to you. If she is genuinely busy, she may return the call and talk.
She's full of shit and texting other dudes at the same time. Your one of 5 options. Have some god damn self respect. And dump her. Your getting played and prob used for free meals when she's hungry. Women do this all the time in 2024 and it's disgusting behavior. Men need to wake up and protect themselves emotionally and financially. Not all but most women are pretty trash these days. They will use you and throw you aside like nothing. Most of them are pretty heartless. Protect yourself brother. Chances are she's giving her goods away to someone else for free whilst your paying for all the mea
She's full of shit and texting other dudes at the same time. Your one of 5 options. Have some god damn self respect. And dump her. Your getting played and prob used for free meals when she's hungry. Women do this all the time in 2024 and it's disgusting behavior. Men need to wake up and protect themselves emotionally and financially. Not all but most women are pretty trash these days. They will use you and throw you aside like nothing. Most of them are pretty heartless. Protect yourself brother. Chances are she's giving her goods away to someone else for free whilst your paying for all the meals and places to go when she's bored. And your paying full price for nothing. While Chad or Tyrone gets it all for free. F that dude. Dump her
Respect that and leave it at that. Sounds like she is probably not interested. If she is but busy, make another very polite, unobtrusive attempt in another couple weeks or so to see it the response is different, if not leave it at “hope to hear from you again sometime” and stop trying.
If she’s shy or socially awkward, you could suggest another day. If she says no again, don’t continue to pursue her. It’s possible it was difficult for her saying no twice. If she’s a very self-assured, self-confident person, take no for an answer.
Just take the hint , that she is not interested
She’s probably….busy.
Ive been dating the same guy for a year now and we are very serious but that’s doesn’t mean there aren’t still some times he’s too busy to see me with school or I’m too busy to see him with work.
I can understand your concern because you guys haven’t been seeing eachother long, but I’d say if she’s gone on more than 3 dates with you, you should be fine.
Also, I have anxiety and depression which make it very hard to socialize and are both very hard to talk about. With my boyfriend now I would just straight up tell him I’m too anxious or too depressed to go out. But with a new
She’s probably….busy.
Ive been dating the same guy for a year now and we are very serious but that’s doesn’t mean there aren’t still some times he’s too busy to see me with school or I’m too busy to see him with work.
I can understand your concern because you guys haven’t been seeing eachother long, but I’d say if she’s gone on more than 3 dates with you, you should be fine.
Also, I have anxiety and depression which make it very hard to socialize and are both very hard to talk about. With my boyfriend now I would just straight up tell him I’m too anxious or too depressed to go out. But with a new relationship or even a friend or family member it would be hard to admit these things and I’d just say I’m “busy.” I’m not saying she deffinetly has anxiety or depression, but she could have any number of mental or physical health challenges, or other personal challenges she is dealing with.
Thank You then walk away
Depends on the payoff. Is she busy for a few weeks, then her schedule will free up and she can go out? If that’s the case, and you really like her, do it.
Is it months? Years? Then it is unreasonable to wait. To wait around for a maybe is foolish on your part. She may be worth it, but she’s not THAT worth it.
It would be different if you were dating and she asked you to wait on getting married. There’s a commitment and a payoff. But to ask you to wait an indefinite amount of time to date without any guarantees that the relationship will work, puts all the commitment on you with no promise of pay
Depends on the payoff. Is she busy for a few weeks, then her schedule will free up and she can go out? If that’s the case, and you really like her, do it.
Is it months? Years? Then it is unreasonable to wait. To wait around for a maybe is foolish on your part. She may be worth it, but she’s not THAT worth it.
It would be different if you were dating and she asked you to wait on getting married. There’s a commitment and a payoff. But to ask you to wait an indefinite amount of time to date without any guarantees that the relationship will work, puts all the commitment on you with no promise of payoff. You have life to live, don’t waste it pining for a girl who won’t commit.
“Almost sure’
Let me put it this way: if you don't ask her out, you're guaranteed not to get a date. For all you know, she's quietly hoping you will. But you won't know until you try.
But if she does decline, be a man about it. Don't cry or moan in front of her. Don't plead with her to change her mind. Smile, say ‘thank you for your honest answer,” turn and walk away. She'll appreciate that you're a gentleman about it.
Then cry when you get home.
Do what I tell them: “cool. No problem. Maybe next time my expectations are as low as today, I’ll ask you out again!” … I just walk away
Edit: my answer was supposed to be sarcastic. If a woman turns me down and offers no alternative, I don’t take offense. I just say thank you, wish them well and walk away.
Accept the fact that they’re busy and stop asking. Be sure to be nice to them after as you were before you got turned down.
You smile and say “I hope you'll be busy doing something fun! Could we plan a date for another time?” Then wait for the other person to respond.
In that case, one and simple answer is not YES or NO but the great option is to understand the condition of each other. Maybe that person suffers from hard and tough times, stress, tensions so, that the guy have no time for sharing. Maybe that guy tries to solve their own life problems because no-one is free from problems, it is the truth. If you think that the guy said you I'm busy but on the other hand, give time to their friends or smartphone, don't clue yourself that the guy make reasons for you, the real fact is that, when you're tensed or in some tension, you give your time to someone wh
In that case, one and simple answer is not YES or NO but the great option is to understand the condition of each other. Maybe that person suffers from hard and tough times, stress, tensions so, that the guy have no time for sharing. Maybe that guy tries to solve their own life problems because no-one is free from problems, it is the truth. If you think that the guy said you I'm busy but on the other hand, give time to their friends or smartphone, don't clue yourself that the guy make reasons for you, the real fact is that, when you're tensed or in some tension, you give your time to someone who give your mind relief or calm, some peoples hang out with friends or family some peoples in a closed room.
That's doesn't means there is any type of rejection. Don't be so silly because you have your own life to, you have your own goals too, your own problems too, better is that focus on them and be motivated, you're a perfect person that no-one can rejects you.
Build up your own life, play your main role because you're more than you think.
Thank you
Heya.
If she says she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks, then she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks. Give her the respect of believing that story even though it could very well not be true.
If you do, then you come out the better person willing to trust her, perhaps unlike many other guys in her life? Another point for you right there.
Regardless of the circumstance, you have absolutely no chance of knowing and neither do we. Don’t be uncertain of her, be certain of yourself. You are in control of whether you believe her and you’re in no way in control of whether she lies to you. Give her the benifit of the doubt an
Heya.
If she says she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks, then she’s busy for 2 to 3 weeks. Give her the respect of believing that story even though it could very well not be true.
If you do, then you come out the better person willing to trust her, perhaps unlike many other guys in her life? Another point for you right there.
Regardless of the circumstance, you have absolutely no chance of knowing and neither do we. Don’t be uncertain of her, be certain of yourself. You are in control of whether you believe her and you’re in no way in control of whether she lies to you. Give her the benifit of the doubt and it could spell the difference between a healthy relationship or a crashing break-up.
If you’re in any way like me, you are going to wonder. You’re going to show doubts. You’re going to have thoughts brewing in the back of your head.. but force yourself back to the right path: Be certain of yourself, be the right guy, be the guy who gives her leeway to live her life.
And hey, if she wasn’t interested, she would still not be interested in 2–3 weeks. Also, she would be immature and disrespectful of you by not being honest with you. So she wouldn’t be worth it in the long run.
Fingers crossed.
If you like her, do the right thing.
Cheers.
If he or she is busy then she said so
move on and leave it be,,may she does. not need your. Company
or she is really busy
If this person was really into you also they would make time for you. Or if they in fact are way too busy to see you more than once a week they would make sure that one time counted and that they are reminding you throughout the week how they wish they could see you more often. If there is no reassurance and you are constantly uncertain as to how they feel, you need to either ask about it or move on. You are only a month in and there is no point to get more invested and risk getting hurt if the feelings are not mutual. I hope this helps, and i do not mean to be blunt. I’ve been there and wish
If this person was really into you also they would make time for you. Or if they in fact are way too busy to see you more than once a week they would make sure that one time counted and that they are reminding you throughout the week how they wish they could see you more often. If there is no reassurance and you are constantly uncertain as to how they feel, you need to either ask about it or move on. You are only a month in and there is no point to get more invested and risk getting hurt if the feelings are not mutual. I hope this helps, and i do not mean to be blunt. I’ve been there and wish someone had given me this advice so early on in the relationship. :)
Laugh in her face and tell her to get over herself. Are you kidding me? Be glad you dodged a bullet because this chick sounds like a nightmare.
People who respect and value you make time for you. If she thinks her time is so much more valuable than yours and that her life is so important that you should put yours on hold until she sees fit to squeeze you in, why would you want her? People way more important than this girl make time for relationships.
And anyway, she's not available, and you don't invest into anyone who isn't available. Even if you did end up with this girl, whenever she has noth
Laugh in her face and tell her to get over herself. Are you kidding me? Be glad you dodged a bullet because this chick sounds like a nightmare.
People who respect and value you make time for you. If she thinks her time is so much more valuable than yours and that her life is so important that you should put yours on hold until she sees fit to squeeze you in, why would you want her? People way more important than this girl make time for relationships.
And anyway, she's not available, and you don't invest into anyone who isn't available. Even if you did end up with this girl, whenever she has nothing more important to do, whenever that might be, the relationship would be way too unbalanced. You will have already started from a place where she is more important than you. She'd never respect or value you and she wouldn't ever feel like she had to, because you would have already taught her that she doesn't have to respect or value you in order to have you.
The best relationships have a nice balance of safety and fear. The person you're with should feel comfortable and secure in the relationship and in your feelings for them, while respectfully aware that you could walk if they don't treat you right. This girl is already too comfortable and not at all worried. Waiting around for her like that would just make it worse.
We all can be very busy. But no one is more busy than a girl/boy who is not interested.
So saying she busy and doesn't have time for you, means she is not interested in you.
So why keep texting you back and forth? One reason can be she just wants to be polite, because you are writing to her. If it's kind of flirty messages from her, then the reason can be she just keeping you as an option till she get the person she wants. She likes the attention she gets from you. Which means she is immature, if that's the reason.
Respect it OR Say “I am busy too” so we get together Thursday from 4:30–5:15 pm I need you to help me….
Thank you for asking this! :)
Give her space to get her things done. Write her a nice encouraging message from time to time, saying that you think of her and wish her well.
Nothing worse than a guy who demands time and attention, or gets upset when the girl is busy, that actually kills love :(. It puts so much pressure on a woman when she likes you and wants to spend time with you, but is too busy to do so.
It can actually push her away as a stress reaction.
It was one of my biggest struggles when dating at university. I had 2 jobs and my classes, bills to pay, deadlines to meet, papers and resear
Thank you for asking this! :)
Give her space to get her things done. Write her a nice encouraging message from time to time, saying that you think of her and wish her well.
Nothing worse than a guy who demands time and attention, or gets upset when the girl is busy, that actually kills love :(. It puts so much pressure on a woman when she likes you and wants to spend time with you, but is too busy to do so.
It can actually push her away as a stress reaction.
It was one of my biggest struggles when dating at university. I had 2 jobs and my classes, bills to pay, deadlines to meet, papers and research to finish, a GPA to hold up. So when I liked a guy i mostly didn't have time to date. So he would demand more time than i have. The struggle was real. So i gave up on dating. I simply couldn't “afford” to date or meet friends.
I always wished for a guy who would understand that. I never met one.
The funniest guys are guys from abrahamic religions, that expect women to be there for them at all times, to bear children, to care of them and for their family, while at the same time women should provide and pay the bills and have a job (money), and be socially active in praying circles /church, oe… come on guys, seriously?!
Oh and i forgot, she should always look like a top model off stage, but shouldn't need any time or make up (money) for that…
Pfff.. I never dated such guys. I had them as colleagues and acquaintances. It baffles me what kind of complains they have about women (incl.their own), while bringing so little to the table themselves!
So, if a girl is busy while she likes you (apparently she made sure you know she likes you :)) please give her some space and time and build an equal relationship. :)
Also…if she is a care taker of her family, oe, maybe there is something you can help with. This would show her that you care for her too:)
6 times? Hmm. If she did not like you, after 2 or 3 dates she would have avoided you. Going out you mean dinner/movie dates without physical/sexual contact?
Did you go too slow on her? Maybe she wanted you to go faster and be bold. Maybe you were too nice and she pushed you into “friend zone”..in that case just ignore her for sometime (a few weeks or more) and ask her out again…and do something new. But always make her laugh, tease her a bit…speak only about positive things…
It means that you are not a priority. When people want to be with you, they will make time for you.
Being “hard to get” is an out-dated concept. If I’m actually busy when I was asked to hang out, but I want to hang out with the person, I’ll make an effort to find a different time. Most girls (and most people) will do the same.
First off, this is not a good sign. People who are interested/attracted will offer options and clear up their schedules if they see spending time with you a real opportunity.
If they don't see value in spending time with you, they will usually give you excuses or delay giving you an answer to avoid the guilty feelings associated with rejecting you.
Did this happen in person or via text? It matters.
If it was in person, you should have asked her to clarify. "I won't be at work tomorrow so its not gonna be easy to talk to me."
If it happened via text, your best bet is to wait for her response. If
First off, this is not a good sign. People who are interested/attracted will offer options and clear up their schedules if they see spending time with you a real opportunity.
If they don't see value in spending time with you, they will usually give you excuses or delay giving you an answer to avoid the guilty feelings associated with rejecting you.
Did this happen in person or via text? It matters.
If it was in person, you should have asked her to clarify. "I won't be at work tomorrow so its not gonna be easy to talk to me."
If it happened via text, your best bet is to wait for her response. If she never responds, then you have your answer. She isn't interested.
The most needy thing you can do is to keep pushing for her answer. If she was interested, she would contact you and make it happen.
As an old man, I can recall many times in my youth in which I asked a young lady out - and she was “busy”.
Here’s the deal: in our western society, the guys (in general) do the asking and the ladies (in general) do the accepting/rejecting. Just as it’s hard to ask a girl out, it’s also hard for a girl to say no because that puts her in the role of the “bad guy” and that’s not something most women enjoy doing. So what do they do? Rather than just saying “NO” they instead drop hints and expect that YOU will pick up on the hint.
Saying “I’m busy” is their way out of that social jam. “You want to go
As an old man, I can recall many times in my youth in which I asked a young lady out - and she was “busy”.
Here’s the deal: in our western society, the guys (in general) do the asking and the ladies (in general) do the accepting/rejecting. Just as it’s hard to ask a girl out, it’s also hard for a girl to say no because that puts her in the role of the “bad guy” and that’s not something most women enjoy doing. So what do they do? Rather than just saying “NO” they instead drop hints and expect that YOU will pick up on the hint.
Saying “I’m busy” is their way out of that social jam. “You want to go out? Oh, I’m busy that Friday. Saturday too. The Friday after that? Yeah, still busy.” The ladies think you’ll get a clue and realize that it just ain’t gonna happen. Some guys pick up on the hint and go away. Other guys don’t and apparently you are one of those guys.
If she’s always too busy, that’s girl-speak for “I’m not interested in you. Please leave me alone.” Now suppose you’ve got a girl who is truly busy - but she IS interested. When they then do is this: “I’m busy Friday. Saturday too. How about something on Sunday afternoon?”
If she’s busy but really interested, then she’ll tell you an alternate time. If she’s just plain “busy”? Move on. It ain’t gonna happen. If you continue to pursue her, you’ll just become a pain in the ass. She’ll think you’re a stalker and if you’re too persistent she might even get a protective restraining order.
"Wait, let me post this on Quora, I'll be right back"
My rule of thumb as a young man was I'd ask any girl 3 times. If we couldn't make it connect in three tries, someone wasn't very interested.
Its not guaranteed. I can think of at least one time when I'm pretty sure it failed me badly, looking back. But when you don't have the confidence in yourself to make a judgement otherwise, it prevents a lot of hair pulling.
Flash news: She found someone else to go out with.
Sorry that wasn’t funny, she didn’t probably enjoy your company anymore after few times you go out with her, or maybe she’s busy.
This may sound rude but Girls just go out with guys who could really take her out or she observe something about your times with her when you asked her out few times and did think that it’s not gonna work.
Short answer, yes it’s rejection, a man can never be too busy to see the woman he likes, even if he’s really busy he would have started his reply with an alternative plan.
Another option is he’s giving you the “Are you a nutcase? “ test to see if you’ll stalk him or not.
Either cases, he’s not seriously into you, it might be a sex thing that’s it.
