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sometimes the pain of all the things you went through creeps in and tells you that nothing will ever change, that things are desperate, hopeless, and it’s important that you don’t listen to it, and it’s important that you do the opposite of the self-sabotaging shit that it tells you to do (don’t isolate, don’t stop taking care of yourself) because this hurt isn’t all you have and it doesn’t make you unworthy and unlovable or a hopeless person

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i recommend telling yourself “this isn’t an experience i want to keep having” and stop entertaining things that are really detrimental to your health and don’t benefit you in anyway.

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truly the coolest people are the ones who are just unashamedly into their interests. passion is sexy. practice is sexy. not giving a shit what anyone else thinks is the sexiest thing of all.

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Human relationships are not transactional but they are reciprocal, which I think many of you with your ‘i don’t owe anyone anything’ shtick are too happy to forget

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Transactional: everything has to be exactly 50/50 all the time, pay me back for the £5 sandwich or buy me something worth exactly £5, I refuse to make an effort for you if there’s nothing in it for me

Reciprocal: you were there for me when I needed help, and I’m going to do the same for you, it doesn’t matter if one of us needs more or is capable of less, because the point is not equivalent exchange but mutual care

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People will be so mean to teenagers do you literally not remember what it was like to be sixteen. Every time I talk to a teenager I feel I should hold their hands and tell them I think they're one of the bravest people on the planet just for choosing to endure but I don't because I don't want to be creepy.

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intrusive thoughts don’t make you a bad person. they have no impact on your worth, value or anything else. you are so much more than these thoughts. you’re so strong for fighting your brain everyday. be kinder to yourself today.

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girls night

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so I read the article and the story is both less and more insane than it sounds.

basically, there's been an ants' nest near a vent shaft of this abandoned Soviet bunker for decades. the nest spilled over into the bunker itself at some point once it was abandoned and there was no way for the ants to make their way back up to the nest, no queen but a constant supply of new colony members raining down from above, and no source of food in the bunker other than the corpses of their fellow ants.

fast forward to some scientists looking for bats that stumble on what's basically a post-apocalyptic ant society. they go "holy fuck" start studying, and observe that, all things considered, the ants still pretty much act like regular ants doing regular ant things.

fast forward some more, and the scientists feel like they have enough data from observing the colony as-is, so they decide to try an experiment. they put a little walkway between the bunker colony and the og colony in the vent shaft so the bunker colony members have the option of leaving and rejoining the og colony.

spoiler alert: every single ant in the bunker immediately nopes the fuck back to the colony in the vent shaft. within days the bunker is completely empty. the scientists leave the walkway in place so when more ants inevitably fall back down the vent shaft they can just climb back up instead of starting up the cycle anew.

tl;dr it's not "oh noes evil ants are on a rampage", it's "ants forced into a horrible situation to survive get to go home"

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everyone in the crab bucket just wants to go home

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Its actually so crazy to me that it is still so stigmatized to have body hair as a woman like what the fuckkkkkk what the fuckkkkkk thats not even like a social convention associated with men thats just like a bodily function what the fuckkkkkk

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your words matter. whether good or bad, the things you say to people on the internet will leave an impression. you dont know what the person you're talking to is going through away from their monitor. the words you say to them could make their day a thousand times better or your words could be what pushes them to breaking point

choose the kind of person you want to be. choose your words carefully

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how do i put this. I think it's important to take some responsibility for the state of the world. I think it's also important not to feel guilt over it. That you are obliged to take some responsibility does not imply that you are guilty of something; it's just a matter of being an adult human being in society. The responsibility is to act to change things for the better on the basis of your actual ability & capacity. Guilt for things you did not do does not help you in that.

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One of my absolute favorite parts of this job is getting to see you in your skirts. 💛 Rachel (@libraries_and_lipstick) messaged me on Instagram: “Just wanted to say that I’ve bought three of your skirts since November and I am obsessed!” — which truly made my day. I love seeing how much you all love your skirts, and I especially love seeing how incredible you look in them. Thank you for sharing your joy with me. It means more than you know. ✨

mangothedoodlerReblogged akindplacebatmanisagatewaydrugFollowand what if I told you guys that virtually everyone you ever meet will turn out to be really interesting if you give them a chance 31720,55132,208
mangothedoodlerReblogged akindplacenotgreatbobFollow''i wasted those years'' who cares. you lived the only life you could've lived in those moments callmezeemonicYou did the best you could with all you had and knew. That was then. Here is nowcastarasprev tags correct11867,40579,864
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mangothedoodlerRebloggedvytaminsFollowsince quarantine started acnh has been the main method my mom and i have stayed in contact with each other and whenever i visit her i always dress to impress :~)vytaminsbonus: me n my mom vibin’ at her place vytaminsi took the photo late bc i got so excited i pressed the wrong button but MY MOM CAME TO MY ISLAND DRESSED LIKE THIS!! the tables have turned vytamins2026 - we’re coming up on 6 years since i made this original post so i figured i’d make an update. since our animal crossing phase, my mom has proceeded to play through pretty much the entire mario catalog available on the switch (and has even branched out to Kirby and Zelda games!). she keeps asking me when a new animal crossing will come out. meanwhile, i built a pc and got into pc games, and since then i’ve fallen down the rabbit holes of critically claimed MMOs (with an EXPANDED free trial!) and esports, in that exact order. When the 3.0 ACNH update came out in January my mom and I decided to hop on and start playing again!six years later, we’re both a little older, and definitely a little wrinklier. but some things will always stay the same. 5024,42742,306
mangothedoodlerReblogged akindplacecrazysodomiteFollowpeople refuse to understand the concept of "this isn't important to me but i understand why it might be important to other people" crazysodomiteor hell you dont even have to 'understand' or get it or agree with it you just need to understand that certain things you dont care about or dont matter to you are important to others. and you're not necessarily better or more correct for not caring 213,55218,652
mangothedoodlerReblogged akindplaceboybeetlesFollowA lot of people seem to mix up ‘community’ with ‘friend group’ so when they read ‘no one should be abandoned by the community. No matter what they did’ they think it means ‘you have to be friends with abusers’. When in reality it means ‘no matter what someone does they shouldnt be left to go homeless and be denied financial, housing, medical, etc aid’ You don’t have to be friends with these people, no one is saying that. It’s just saying that you should support rehabilitative justice, support programs that help homeless people, support funding for free medical services, and make sure they don’t turn away anyone who needs help. castametricsomeoneqimage description: quote by Tupac Shakur reading "Just because you lost me as a friend, doesn't mean you gained me as an enemy. I'm bigger than that, I still wanna see you eat, just not at my table." /end id27,15935,665
mangothedoodlerReblogged akindplacewhat-even-is-thissFollowAs an adult you must cultivate the skill of “Gross! Oh, well. Not my business.”what-even-is-thissApplies to everything from BDSM parties to your sister’s godawful interior design choices to weird bachelor pad meals eaten over a sink. Gross! Oh, well. Not my business. autumngracy403115,004122,311
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Describing how I experience my asexuality is wild because I feel like when I talk to anyone other than my wife about it, I get looked at like im saying the moon is landing is fake or the earth is flat.

The way I experience asexuality is like looking at a gallery of all different kinds of art. The feeling of having no sexual attraction, to me, is best described as looking at a beautiful painting of a landscape. You can see the flaws in it, the brush strokes, the colors, the perspective, and the technical ability needed to make such a thing, and you suddenly feel a divine sense of awe. But you dont want to fuck the landscape painting.

Thats how it feels for me to experience no sexual attraction. Because even though I dont have sexual attraction to anyone in particular (male, female, nonbinary, etc) i can still admit when someone is beautiful.

But being asexual, as many asexuals already know, doesn't mean you're always repulsed by the act of sex. I would consider myself a sensory seeking, sex positive asexual. Which to me means that while I don't experience sexual attraction to anyone, I can still desire the sensation of sex and the closeness I'd feel with a partner. I can still desire the sensory experience and pleasure of sex without feeling sexual attraction. But I also don't need to do it in order to be happy in my life or relationships. It's just a fun little added bonus if I have a partner willing. And just because I can have sex and sometimes want it doesn't make me any less asexual than any other ace.

RE-BLOG THIS IF YOU ARE ASEXUAL AND PROUD ♠️💜

I love you asexual straight men I love you aromantic straight men I love you straight aroace men

being an extremely sex repulsed asexual while still deeply craving intimacy and sensuality and contact is like. ultra mega hell torture chamber yo let me OUT

Okay let's get this straight.

"Asexuals can still have sex" does not mean that asexuals can begrudgingly put their sex repulsion aside and force themselves to please their partner. It means that because asexuality is simply defined as a spectrum of little to no sexual attraction and one's sexuality consists of many different factors other than attraction, such as sex drive and emotional connection, there are individuals on the asexual spectrum who can and do enjoy having sex even though they lack sexual attraction.

"Aromantic people can still date" does not mean that aromantic people can lie to themselves enough to go against their actual wants and get into a romantic relationship and pretend to be "normal". It means that because aromanticism is simply defined as a spectrum of little to no romantic attraction and human relationships are very much complex and romance itself is loosely defined, some aromantic people do in fact desire a romantic relationship while not experiencing romantic attraction because of other factors such as companionship and intimacy

The Invisible Pressure: Asexuality, Relationships, and Consent

There is an insidious, quiet violence that asexual people, particularly sex-repulsed aces, are subjected to in relationships. It’s not loud. It doesn’t always look like abuse. Sometimes, it’s dressed up in the language of “compromise”. Sometimes, it’s even endorsed by therapists and relationship “experts.”

But at the root of it is this one idea: That sex is the cornerstone of every valid relationship. That if you don’t want sex, something is wrong with you. That your partner is entitled to sex. That you, as an asexual person, owe it to them because that’s “just how relationships work.”

Asexual people are constantly navigating a world that tells us our love is incomplete unless it includes sex. That our boundaries are just hurdles to be negotiated. And that if we’re not careful, we’ll be the one accused of being selfish or withholding.

And the truth is, this pressure doesn’t only happen in unhealthy relationships. It can exist even in good ones. Even in the ones where your partner is kind and respectful and never once demands anything of you. Even when your partner is loving, patient, supportive—the ideal partner. The pressure doesn’t just vanish because the person next to you is good. Because the pressure isn’t coming from them: it’s coming from the world around you.

So even in the safest relationships, we still carry that fear. That if we say no too often, too permanently, we’ll eventually be left behind—not because our partner is cruel, but because we were never what society told them to want. And that’s what makes the pressure so hard to name, so hard to fight. So easy to internalize.

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