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New to WM Fashion TL here. Only been here about 90 days. We just got a new Coach about a month ago. So far it's not going well. She's tried to coach me twice in the last week. Today I got successfully coached on yellow. For mod integrity. On a mod an associate did while I was at Academy. There's definitely some favoritism because other TLs have mods I know are wrong and they're not getting Coached. First coaching was because I took 3 days to reprice and aisle locate all of infant/toddler/boys/girls clearance.
I guess... Is this the standard? Just immediately coaching people? I feel like at academy we stressed the importance of getting to know our employees and having conversations with them, before coaching and that's just not happening here, and I'm struggling because I still don't feel completely confident in my role already and now there's already reprocussions.
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Ok. So here goes nothing.
Boyfriend and I live together, and have been in a relationship for almost a year and a half now. I have two children of my own that live with us, and we just had our own child together three months ago.
Our relationship has always been extremely sexual in nature, from the very start. We were having sex very regularly, often several times a day. We moved in together in October of last year and the sex only intensified. We started trying to conceive about that time, and We found out January of this year that I was pregnant with our daughter. We were overjoyed!
Throughout the pregnancy, we maintained the frequency of our sexual relationship as much as possible, considering my size and all. I was very excited to have the baby so we could go back to our much more exciting pre-pregnancy routines.
Fast forward to now. I'm completely healed post baby, and have an avid sexual appetite once again, but we've only had intercourse twice. Every time I try to initiate it, he playfully tries to push me away. Every single time I try to initiate it. He will tease me, and playfully kiss me or smack my ass occasionally, at least once a day, but won't ever follow through.
Today, I chose to ask him about why he won't have sex with me, and he said, "Because he didn't want to." I asked him why he didn't want too and he told me, "He doesn't owe me any explanation as to why he doesn't want to, he just doesn't want to."
Now, in the background of our personal lives, things are kinda tumultuous. We're having problems with my two children (not his) misbehaving pretty often, and issues with my ex-husband. And we've been fighting pretty regularly unfortunately about these things.
So when we have had a calm day, where things are going really well, I approach him about the sex, and always get rejected. The rejection is really starting to get to me and eat at my self esteem, which is already low, because I just had a baby and gained like 50 lbs from that.
How do I bring it up to him, and get him to talk to me about it? Is there anything I can do to mend the relationship and get him to be intimate again? HELP!!
tl;dr: Boyfriend abruptly stops sexual part of relationship, and refuses to discuss it, amidst other issues going on in our lives. How do I begin to get him to discuss it, and or mend it?
