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Just Cuddles?

I know that this might sound a little weird, but why do so many boys want to sleep with a woman and have sex? Am I the only one who wants someone to hold me and cuddle at night? Like, is it just me, or is being comforted by a woman just better than the quick gratification of sex?

(I’m sorry if this is weird. I’m just genuinely curious if I’m the only one that feels this way.)


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Cuddles > Sex

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nah fr me and my gf sleep together all the time, just naps and shit. no sex, not before we get married at least

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Respect ngl

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No I'm so there with you. I think it happens after being single for a long time...

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Long time?homie we are teens its gonna get worse

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As someone who's already considered an adult even though I still feel like a teen, I hate how right you are. To all the teen boys out there, don't be like me. I hope you all get girlfriends or boyfriends while you're still a teen. It feels hopeless for me.

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you can have/want both lol

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nahhh you're not the only one I'd prefer cuddling over sex anyway. people actually get paid to cuddle.

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Wait… what?! People get paid to cuddle?

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Why do so many boys want to have sex? Uhh.. testosterone?

Cuddling is nice, but I still want to have sex.

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Cuddles are just good, knowing that you can keep your girl safe is awesome.

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Same, but that's probably me being asexual

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I get this and won't judge you for it lol. Cuddles are great and I would take them from my girlfriend whenever.

But... After you have sex with someone you love for the first time and they're pretty damn attractive... It's a little hard to just want cuddles after that 😂

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No, you aren’t.

Sex CAN be a way to demonstrate love and closeness, but sex just for pleasure isn’t half as fulfilling. Unfortunately, society has normalized sex just for pleasure, so something less fleeting becomes more appealing to people seeking actual love. You can argue that with how sexualized modern culture is, something like cuddling shows more affection as taking the time to hold and comfort someone is an act of genuine selflessness rather than, as you said the quick gratification of sex.

Now I know this isn’t universal and there are people who want sex to be something special between them and a partner. And that’s completely fine. All I’m doing is offering an explanation to the best of my ability.

So TL;DR no, you’re not the only one

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Both, both is good

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Yeah i want cuddles sex is a big step and a little gross

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I want sex, but cuddles seem so much better. Instead of a quick release, you get genuine affection + you don't have to deal with sex problems (STDs, Pregnancies). I wish I could get cuddled 😭 (by a women of course)

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Cuddles>>>sex

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This is a stereotype and generalisation honestly, I wouldn’t say no to sex with my gf (if i had one) but more so I would never refuse cuddling

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You care more deeply than they’re used to so they call it strange. But that depth? It’s your strength, not a flaw

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Are you asexual or is it just sex with the people you know that you find repulsive

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would you rather

fun but annoying piss child

barely less fun and actual relationship building

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Nah bro I don’t want sex, I’m waiting until marriage to have sex. But yeah I’m with you on the cuddling

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Sex is just an extension of cuddling

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Not gonna lie, but I never thought about it that way. Thanks!

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Cuddles are equal to sex imo

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Not like cuddles always leads to sex but I mean cuddles are as good as sex

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