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TransFem Space: A safe space for TransFem individuals and allies. Together, we build a stronger community!

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Here's a thought experiment for you:

Imagine a dragon. Is it scaled? Furred? How many limbs does it have? Can it fly?

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@vlpatton
crying my heart out relating to a character's experiences in a movie, while my gf gets more excited about the gay men :neofox_cry_loud:

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I hate this I hate this I hate this I hate this I hate this
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My reread of Cosmic Fishes continues! Spoilers incoming.

Chapter 6: Sticks and Stones
Acantha said no, Bells. Guardians (or at least Bells) are anosmiac. We don't get represented in comics very often. Wow, the dialogue between Acantha and Bells is heartwrenching. Hessa seems happy to see Gallo. Bavel does not look amused.

Bells asked humans for food and gives it to Acantha. Now we get Acantha opening up about why she hates Bells. The collar hurts her every time she gets angry. Bells reaches to take it off, but Acantha refuses, asking if it is stopper her from changing into a monster. Wow, everything is so sad. Acantha has survivor's guilt. Suddenly we get translations of Bells' signs, which give us more precision in her meaning. Now we jump back to Bavel, Gallo, and Hessa. Not telling Bavel is a bad idea. Oh guardians, I love that the author tagged the page "Gallo you better not be using the honesty comment as an excuse or validation for what you did back in chap 3." There's a world of difference between honesty and breaching confidentiality.

Back to Acantha. Are those teardrops in Bells' eyes? I don't see any in Acantha's eyes. I love the effect of Bells' speech bubbles showing flashback images. Acantha, you are still blaming the wrong person. It isn't Bells who is responsible for you ghostifying: it's Schnell.

Now we're back to the other ghosts. Bavel has run away. Hessa wants to "fix" things without involving Schnell: are the other ghosts starting to get the hint about him?

Scene change again!


We're back to Acantha thinking about Ramus. She gives us exactly what we need: speculation about the physics of Guardian hair. It's Dehra, appearing in the main story for the first time! In "The Toy," Dehra seemed the friendliest Guardian aside from Bells, but Acantha still has to be terrified.

Scene change back to the other ghosts.



Bavel is with Fanud, the Guardian of Earth, who is also appearing in the main story for the first time. Bavel calls the guardian "Candir" for some reason? And the author comment links to a now-deleted Youtube video. Gallo comes to the rescue, but Bavel has transformed into a more horrifying form. She wants to know why the guardians killed Ramus. This is an example of why keeping secrets from kids is a bad idea.

Now we're back to Acantha and Dehra. "Grass-hole", heh. What is our girl doing in this temple? Oh my Guardians, I love the imagery of the red vines coming out of Dehra and grappling Acantha. Bells to the rescue! Acantha maybe you'll wanna apologize to Bells when you get a chance? Ah, the star thing translates Dehra's words. Acantha is starting to see Bells wasn't the problem.

Back to the other ghosts, Fanud brings down a giant fist right over Gallow and then...stops. Is Fanud more willing to tolerate the ghosts than Dehra, or does Acantha get less leeway due to her estrangement from Schnell? Fanud only got half a page in The Toy, so this is our first real sense of who she is. And we don't get much time before jumping back to Bells and Dehra. "Broken Raju, do your role:" I love how small and scared Bells looks hanging on these threads.

Oh yeah, this is also the page where a linguist fan deciphered the guardian language in the comments, and the author confirms and expands on it. I'm glad I'm reading this on the website.

Finally, at long last, we have Acantha teaming up with Bells! Dehra is small when you take him out of his bush. Now we get the real threat: the other guardians can "reset" Acantha, killing her current incarnation and taking some of her memories. And her next incarnation might not be as friendly to the ghosts.

Now we're back to the other ghosts, with Bavel talking Fanud out of hurting them. I love the older ghosts' reactions.


Bavel relays the bad news: Syias has decreed that the guardians must kill all ghosts, voiding their past agreement with Schnell. Fanud doesn't want to do it, but the other guardians aside from Bells likely will. It's gotta be terrifying to learn the gods have all decided to (re)kill you. Hessa finally realizing keeping things from Bavel was a mistake, as the trio head for Gallow's family's home. Is that Schnell in the grass? He's not tagged, but I bet it's him.

Scene change, I love the irony of Acantha telling Bells that Bells is not broken. Oh right, the author commentary tells us the guardian language is called "Anshais." Acantha should take her own advice. Our unlikely duo heads back to Adaluxen to say goodbye to Ramus. The sunrise is beautiful. End of chapter!

This was fun. We get to see a side of the guardians, all of them, that we've never seen before. Acantha and Bells finally team up, and we move into a new phase of the story.

Next there's some cute guest art before another Gone Fishing.

Gone Fishing 4: Monster King
I don't know why the only ebooks for Cosmic Fish are Gone Fishing 1 and Gone Fishing 4, but it's time to reread the second of those ebooks. Also, it's in black and white. The author comment says it's a legend told by humans, so it may be inaccurate, and that it's the darkest story so far. We begin 250 years ago, with the King of Kiden going through existential angst. Monsters only appeared "recently" as of 250 years ago (as far as humans know, anyways), and the King things he can exploit them as beasts of war. Is that Schnell in his dream? Ah, maybe I should be following both the ebook and the online version, since Schnell is indeed tagged online. So the "Monster King" imprisons and enslaves a bunch of monsters and things he's helping, and he's causing so much pain that Schnell comes across as the reasonable party. The Monster King claimed he was fighting for peace, but he refuses a treaty that would give him everything he initially asked for. He's become the true monster, until he is abruptly killed by his mount.

Concept art and commentary! The author wanted this story to read completely differently if someone from a human (in-world) perspective hears it than if someone with the perspective of the ghosts hears it. I guess I only really got the ghost perspective, because that's most of what we've gotten in the story so far.

Okay, bonus pages where the statue of the deceased Queen Efraisa is talking with Schnell. She was sympathetic to ghosts, ever since seeing one in her childhood. Was that a ghost who came before Schnell, or is Schenll already older than a human at this point? I love the image of the statue crying: Niobe comes to mind. End of story!

One thing I wonder reading this story is whether Schnell was already sabatoging the guardians even then?

Back to the online archive, we get a "Chapter 1-6 recap," narrated by Schnell. Schnell is aware that we weren't reading in chronological order: I like that. Schnell talks about Acantha wasting the oppertunity he "gave her," neglecting to mention his role in her creation (which makes sense since this is a recap and we haven't learned it yet.) But the suspiciously says "I'm partly to blame." Ah, I like how he draws attention to the question of Phil's species, which is definitely not a type of monster. Schnell calls Syias "McPointyfeet." Ah, Schnell demonstrates he is unhappy that Bavel convinced one of the guardians not to kill her. For all his talk about helping ghosts, Schnell really is the most sadistic monster. And Schnell almost gives us a title-drop for the first time in the series, but stops just short of doing so.

#Webcomics #CosmicFish
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Hey everyone,

We've had unexpected expenses this month. I've been able to get a scanner in 5 days in a private hospital, and have other medical fees (GP, ultrasound). I got diagnosed with a degenerative lungs chronic illness.

We really need to get a dehumidifier please; still living in an unsanitary appartement.

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I'm still doing the donation incentives, see here: https://ko-fi.com/post/Moving-Expenses-Goal-H2H81QQW7T

I'm going to be tomorrow getting back on my original commission queue alongside the outstanding donation headshots, but any help would be appreciated aaaaaaa
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@puppygirlhornypost2
what bothers me about corporate owned social media instead of community ran spaces like this one is the fact that a corporation at a whim can just remove you from all your friends, erase your entire presence and there's nothing you can do about it. I've watched discord become increasingly hostile and overzealous with bans, taking action on all accounts that have interacted with a particular discord message (there was this huge thing with the Marvel Rivals discord one of the announcements got falsely marked as child exploitation, everynyan who even so much as reacted got terminyated). It's just the thought of a platform having so much control over you like that, the ability to just erase years of your presence without a second thought. there's nobody to hold accountable either, at least on here there's actual humans for you to talk to.
Vale
@etherealvale
@puppygirlhornypost2 I'm not saying it's even remotely good, but what alternatives to Discord are there? Matrix? That's got its own problems. Signal? No.
Luna Lactea
@jackemled@furry.engineer
@etherealvale @puppygirlhornypost2 Discord severely needs more competition, even if it's FOSS that doesn't even compete. Partially because Discord is shit & partially because Matrix, the only notable alternative to Discord, is shit & also IRC is just too old & doesn't meet modern standards.
Luna Lactea
@jackemled@furry.engineer
@heathen_cat@furs.social @etherealvale @puppygirlhornypost2 If only IRC had native attachment support instead of requiring you to upload something to a file server & share a link it to. DCC doesn't count.
Softwarewolf
@faoluin@chitter.xyz
@etherealvale @puppygirlhornypost2 Signal is definitely more secure, and arguably just as accessible as Discord, but it's still centralized and it doesn't have nearly the amount of features or people on it as Discord.
Alexia ฮ˜ฮ”
@alexia@app.wafrn.net

potentially unwanted advice?

@puppygirlhornypost2 @etherealvale sadly this is something that, today, does not have a "fits all usecases" kind of answer.


For a small group of friends the options you listed might be perfectly fine, for a large community they might not be, and for anything in-between that may be a question up in the air


That said, not all hope is lost, and I do have some things on the horizon that I know of which might work for many in the future


one project I've been following that seems really promising in this regard is Polyphony, which is working on not only making their own federated protocol, but also making it have near-1:1 compatibility with Discord's API so that in the future developers can easily port their favorite tools, and the polyphony apps might even work for signing in to Discord.com; The project is still early but it is slowly progressing, right now they are working on the server software and I've seen some demos of them logging in with some Discord-compatible clients


https://revolt.chat/ is another one that falls into the "vaguely a discord-clone" category, and they are considering implementing polyphony's tech in the future, but for now it is independent. There have been some struggles in the past with people complaining that some parts (e.g their moderation dashboard) weren't/are not open-source but apart from that it's been pretty nice. They recently released their Android app into open beta and are working on an iOS app and new desktop app. โ† Together with the apps, they're planning to release a revamped voice & video chat feature, but that is blocked on the new apps actually being done first


Truth is, Discord is doing the typical "release a good product, then make it worse and worse and see where the line is"; 'The Line' being at which point users start leaving from you having pissed them off too much. Whilst people are building alternatives and are building solutions, it takes time, and we might not see something in a few years. It does not help that many attempts at disrupting Discord in the past have been done by equally shitty companies, or have been bought out by equally shitty companies (e.g Guilded and them being acquired by Roblox Inc.)
Vale
@etherealvale

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@alexia@app.wafrn.net @puppygirlhornypost2 Revolt lies to users on their website.
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Amber :neodog_box:
@puppygirlhornypost2
@etherealvale I don't know. it really depends on what people are looking for. One of my pet peeves is the push for signyal, because I don't use discord for E2EE. I use it to hang out with my friends, to play games and such. I do not need an encrypted chat platform for that my friends have my signyal we use signyal when we need it.
Luna Lactea
@jackemled@furry.engineer
@puppygirlhornypost2 @etherealvale End to end encryption should be normalized though. Using it everywhere is good because then it's less obvious when some encrypted information is sensitive. If you only use encrypted communications for sensitive information then it's very obvious that those communications are sensitive. If only Matrix was good.
Liv :trans_verify:
@phenolfight@catgirl.center
@puppygirlhornypost2 @etherealvale maybe Teamspeak 6 if they actually ever end up releasing server binaries for 6? It'd be kind of funny and be coming full circle.

I've not done deep digging into it since I saw the server binary they have up is still for TS3 and while 6 can access 3 servers, 3 doesn't support screenshare with 6 clients.
Vale
@etherealvale
@puppygirlhornypost2 Exactly. People are also unwilling to create accounts on new services, because all of their other friends are on Discord.
2something
@2something
@puppygirlhornypost2 Ironically when I try to convince folks to join fedi a lot of them say "I don't want to join a platform like the fediverse because I don't want to be beholden to a tyrannical instance admin. I'd rather be free to interact with whomever I want on [Discord/Facebook].
Luna Lactea
@jackemled@furry.engineer
@2something @puppygirlhornypost2 I get the same reaction.
Amber :neodog_box:
@puppygirlhornypost2
@jackemled@furry.engineer @2something ok but im only tyrannical when im hangry. make sure to feed me treats and headpats maybe i wont bite
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Meta - Grumpy X-er, But I Repeat Myself

@2something @puppygirlhornypost2

For the people my own age, none of this is even close to their first rodeo with corporate shit, so I'm forced to conclude that the risk of being undone in this manner is part of the lure for them. The excitement of a possibly 50-car pileup with flames, etc. Even if they themselves don't know it. Helps explain why they go back over and over again.

:(
viv sharkitty
@carbonated_estrogen
@puppygirlhornypost2 a fair amount of new users to fedi aren't familiar with making data backups in case their instance gets borked, i wonder how data ownership can be made easier to understand and do
Transbian_Arsonists (Seraphine)
@Transbian_Arsonists@catwithaclari.net
@puppygirlhornypost2 One of the biggest problems with discords overzealous moderation is that it scares people from actually reporting stuff. Idk how true it is but I've heard that you can get banned because you were in a server that get's mass banned, even if you were the person that reported them in the first place. It doesn't really matter if it's true or not because most people aren't going to risk it.

- posted by Seraphine
:labrys-xf-p: HighPriestessTerra :labrys-xf-b: :xf_lesknife:
@Mondobizarrro@social.xenofem.me

cw mention if nazism, mass shootings

@Transbian_Arsonists@catwithaclari.net @puppygirlhornypost2 this was how i lost my original discord account actually. in 2019 i was in the process of unlearning nazi bs and was still in one of those servers trying to get people to leave. it was a dumb decision in hundsight. immediately after the christchurch shooting (like the day after) the server is deleted by discord with all accounts deleted. i def deserved it for being there and obviously i dont stand by that shit now.

i was being actively groomed as a teenager to believe that hateful shit. im obviously the furthest thing from a neo nazi now. the fact i was being groomed into that shit keeps me up at night. i shouldve known better
Amber :neodog_box:
@puppygirlhornypost2
@Transbian_Arsonists@catwithaclari.net you can get banned for being in a discord server that's been banned. discord loves group punishments, you can be inyactive in it and active in other discords that don't break the rules but if you are in the member list you get shafted
Amber :neodog_box:
@puppygirlhornypost2
there is a reason the tumblr ban waves were so big. they deleted accounts (without warning, and at least when i got terminyated they didn't even tell you the reason.) It erased years of people's interactions right out from underneath them. It was genuinely so fucked up and I remember people crying over it. I would cry too, imagine spending 5+ years on a platform just for some assclown to throw a temper tantrum and remove you from the site
Dianora (Diane Bruce)
@Dianora@ottawa.place
@puppygirlhornypost2 It's how many of us felt when twitter went bad. I'll never trust a commercial social media company again.