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[–]dollcopeland 160 points161 points  (0 children)

If I could meet 6 year old me,I would hug her,wipe her tears and tell her that it'll be ok and she'll get there. I'll also tell her not to wait till she's 31 to come out

[–]ennuienniEnny🩡she/her 109 points110 points  (2 children)

I don’t remember ever consciously realizing I was trans, but it’d be so nice to tell little me the option existed and she could be a little girl before the conditioning made her push it down😭

[–]Ha73r4L1f3Aurora | She/Her | Who is a Princess & Proud Mom? | Hrt:10/24/25 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yeah, mine got shut down hard before conscious thoughts on subject could be formed. All quit crying, you're a boy act like one remarks and other things didn't really allow me second to think being a girl or acting girlie was ok. Lucky that person was never blood related to me and by late teenager years he was gone.... damage done but atleast he wasn't there.

[–]PracticingGoodVibes 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I remember having the distinct realization and having a sit down to cry for a little bit, then a conversation with myself that I will take this to my grave because I would be disowned and I thought no one in the world would understand. And then one day I met people like me and found others online and started figuring out how to transition.

If I could just give myself a hug as a kid, I think I would break down crying all over again.

[–]mtkocak 69 points70 points  (1 child)

And call CPS immediately

[–]MelMarcy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same

[–]SplitGlass7878 46 points47 points  (6 children)

If I could go back in time I'd punch myself for being a moron for not realizing that the thought "I wish I was trans so I could be a girl" may have been a fucking sign.

Edit:   That comment sounds like I'm serious. In reality I'd sit myself down and explain it with kindness. I try to be kind to myself. 

[–]Helweg_gamingJas/Jasmine (she/her) 6 points7 points  (5 children)

I'd punch myself, cuz no way my little ADHD-riddled brain would even give me the time of day otherwise

[–]SplitGlass7878 6 points7 points  (4 children)

Counteridea: Headpat. 

[–]kodfish711✨️Ashyn She/Her ✨️ 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I love the headpat idea

[–]SplitGlass7878 4 points5 points  (1 child)

It'd definetly stun me enough to listen 😊

[–]kodfish711✨️Ashyn She/Her ✨️ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! I think the punch would make me resistant to listening

[–]Helweg_gamingJas/Jasmine (she/her) 1 point2 points  (0 children)

maybe I'll try that, I mean, I love them now, maybe I could get a head start with that too

[–]Lilly_in_the_PondLilly, She/Her or call me a cute princess πŸ’–πŸ‘‘ 19 points20 points  (5 children)

Even if I did, I couldn't change much. There's absolutely zero chance of getting my parents to allow younger me to even express being feminine, let alone start any kind of transition. At best, having them aware would lead to nothing happening. At worst, it would probably lead to me going to some anti-trans therapy that just makes me suppress my feelings even further and make things worse. Even more stupid is that they would constantly be told and fully believe that it's helping and somehow good for me.

My dad even said straight to my face that he believes being trans is bullshit. Entirely based on the fact that he doesn't understand it and can't be bothered to research anything beyond what fucking fox news tells him. Definitely glad not to be living with them anymore

[–]Sarabande_ 5 points6 points  (4 children)

Same. And expresses terribly about people like us. How are you doing so far?

Me? I'm starting transitioning this year. I might have to go live somewhere else cause of that same reason.

[–]Lilly_in_the_PondLilly, She/Her or call me a cute princess πŸ’–πŸ‘‘ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven't started anything. I'm still not even sure about actually being trans. I'm afraid to really do anything because my whole life up to this point, has been spent being told that it's wrong. Even being away from them for the most part, I struggle to express much like I still feel the need to hide it. I'm in my own house with people I know who are supportive because they're also genderqueer, and I still can't just let it out. I do little things here and there, maybe even build up some confidence, but then it all just comes crashing down again. I hate it and just want the ability to break free, but it feels impossible

[–]Lilly_in_the_PondLilly, She/Her or call me a cute princess πŸ’–πŸ‘‘ 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Sorry if that last response was a bit much. There's a lot going through my mind if you couldn't tell πŸ˜–

[–]Sarabande_ 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I completely understand. I've been repressing this feelings for a very long time. I also know they've told me it's wrong as well. Still, if I let it, I know I will be unhappy for the rest of my life. I need to get away and reconnect to my inner self. Sometimes I do my nails, practice my voice and dress up. I'm starting to do my make up and get together with my queer friends. Although I get your point. It's hard. Question is, is it worth the leap?

[–]Lilly_in_the_PondLilly, She/Her or call me a cute princess πŸ’–πŸ‘‘ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally doing my toe nails right now lol. I think the leap would be worth it, but how do I get myself to do it?

[–]xX_May1995_Xx 16 points17 points  (0 children)

same

[–]GriffinPireNene | she/her | bnuuy :3 16 points17 points  (2 children)

this is very unrelated to the point of the post, but is that akiyama mizuki from project sekai in the image

[–]Significant-Trick441Aubrey | she/her[S] 13 points14 points  (1 child)

yes :3

[–]GriffinPireNene | she/her | bnuuy :3 10 points11 points  (0 children)

hell yeah :3

[–]The_Constant_OrangeAmy I she/her I Still trans tho :3 πŸ³β€βš§ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same here, girl! I wish I was happier with myself sooner, but at least I’m happy with myself now!! :D πŸ«ΆπŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈπŸ«ΆπŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ

[–]enjarai 6 points7 points  (1 child)

i put my feelings on this into a little story a while ago. it can be heartening to look back sometimes

https://enjarai.dev/writing/how-far-youve-come.html

[–]Brilliant-Shift8888 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Great story! Also, that's the coolest website I've been to in a long time

[–]Rekonener 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being of those who only started questioning in my early 20s, I would either put the thoughts in my head sooner, or, tell myself the winning lottery numbers, because then their would be nothing stopped me (besides my squeamishness that would probably still prevent me anyway ;-; )

[–]Sp00ky-Nerdnot an egg, just trans 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do wish I could have talked to my younger self. But I'm torn . . .

If I knew transition was even possible, I'm sure I would have done it. But I have kids, and they wouldn't exist if I had transitioned when I was young. I wish I could somehow know what life would have been like if I had started transitioning as a teen. But I wouldn't want to give up my children either. There is no timeline I can think of where I wouldn't have something to regret.

[–]shiny_arrowπŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ Hayley 🌷 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Working with my psychologist, I've been able to, in my own way, go back and give this comfort to those younger parts of myself.

Re-parenting.

Still a work in progress but immensely healing :3

πŸ’πŸŒΌπŸŒ»πŸͺ»πŸͺ·

[–]Nice_Dream5463 4 points5 points  (0 children)

πŸ˜­πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈβ€οΈ

[–]MaggieSnay 4 points5 points  (1 child)

"Being a girl was an option this whole time???" My younger self would think.

[–]allegedly_a_peanut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same here sadly... fun fact: Trump made me discover this was possible, so he technically made me realize I was trans.

[–]TransFrogLady 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mizuki

[–]KUTTR- 8 points9 points  (5 children)

There is no time travel . Do not waste time worrying about how things might have been . If you know who you are rejoice in that .

Never regret a past that didn't happen πŸ¦‹

[–]JERealizeKendra (she/her) logicked out of her egg! 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I know I couldn't have realized earlier than I did, but I'm more worried about how I effectively 'hatched' on a fluke. (Yeah, your argument still applies, but... it still keeps me up at night sometimes.)

[–]KUTTR- 7 points8 points  (1 child)

That's familiar. ' hatched on a fluke ' . Happened to me 10 months ago .

Always an LGBTQ ally. Really got into it when the conservatives chose trans people as their new scapegoat. Really felt drawn to them , but never considered I was trans .

The fluke . After being supportive in the you tube comments section and getting haha egg jokes the last cis het comment I made was " I'd want to be a girl , but I don't need to be a girl " The next day someone commented back " Who's going to tell them ".

Being gendered as anything but a cis male at just the right time shattered the egg I didn't even know I had. No journey of discovery. No searching. Just I'm trans .

Looking back 54 years the signs were there, but society did it's job and kept me blind. Took way to long but I can at least finally be happy πŸ¦‹

[–]JERealizeKendra (she/her) logicked out of her egg! 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ouch.

I wasn't even particularly close to the LGBTQ+ community at first. I spent the 2010s making the same old jokes cis people made while never thinking once that I could be anything else but a boy. Going into the 2020s, I was slowly accepting them here and there, even though I hardly met any of them in real life. I just thought it was fair to give them courtesy given I'm also not taken kindly in public perception due to my being autistic. By 2024, I wasn't perfect (and still wouldn't have called myself an ally), but I wanted to try.

The most ironic part of all this was, because I was told I was a boy and my autistic self accepted it due to its propensity for working with rules (not to mention the multitudes of bad trans representation I was shown here and there), I never thought once to question why I didn't care to keep up appearances and take care of myself, why I was buying all this fem cosplay in the hopes of hiding myself in another form, and especially why I was fascinated by gender transformation stories. I didn't think at all anything could be wrong with me. Sure, I was weird, but just autistic weird, right?

The amount of times, the amount of egg moments I had, even a moment of self-reflection or two, nothing could get to me because I had that one rule and no information to challenge it. I never hanged around in the relevant circles or met anyone who pulled me aside and make me come to grips with it. It took going into a research rabbit hole after discovering that yet another gender transformation artist came out as trans for me to somehow challenge that 'rule', to solve that puzzle in one night.

It could have easily never happened. I could have easily spent years or decades more with no clue. I am glad I figured it out, but wow, am I shaken by how the stars had to align for me to get here.

[–]ennuienniEnny🩡she/her 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Still though, the thought experiment is great for practicing self love. I know I hated myself as a kid without knowing why, the thought of hugging and forgiving the child I used to be makes me feel warm inside :)

[–]KUTTR- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you can use it positively. I have also finally been able to love myself πŸ¦‹

[–]MadamMelody21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly same

[–]RogueFox771Kaitlyn πŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ (or Kate) 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My younger self would... how would he (wasn't ready for she at the time) have reacted...

I suppressed and denied that part of me for so long, and thought negatively of trans / gay people too. I was never vocal about it, but they were my thoughts nonetheless... I wish I could've helped by going back and saying it's ok, and to love myself... but I don't think I would've listened... Only hating myself to nearly killing myself was enough to finally do it. Glad I am me now, but it took a lot to push me to accept it and improve / change as a person.

[–]JERealizeKendra (she/her) logicked out of her egg! 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wrote a story about me going back to visit my university self during a particularly eggy moment in my life. It was cathartic and fun.

[–]Leather-Sky8583 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously the guilt and shame really was unbearable. I honestly thought I was the only one in the world who felt the way I did too.

[–]meeetballsloverClaire She/Her 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would have to be really blunt with child me because I was so fucking oblivious

[–]Dorieku 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would tell my younger self to invest in bit coin early then transition would really be an issue money wise now

[–]Throwaway-0-0- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's cool. I'd be giving myself winning lottery numbers and stock advice.

[–]CivetKittyslowly moving towards chaos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish future me would tell me this.

[–]possiblyautistic-_-either transfem or... transfem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

o7

[–]sora__drumsSora (she/her) – not an egg anymore, can't wait to start HRT 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just accept that life is about forgiveness:3

[–]Sea-Cancel-6743 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Preach

[–]minilinny1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I could go back in time I wouldve told my younger self to actually take the heart to run away from home for good .

[–]StrawberryGhostieThe most cis-feeling tgirl ever 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would just tell myself that I'm not obligated to choose a gender. I have never had problems with being trans, but I was pretty agender when I was a teen.

[–]Talohighflyer24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If i could meet my younger self, she'd call me Gay (insult) before I explain everything to her, the same way i always wanted to be told things, and they'd look at me with my crappy smile and say "So, We're happier like this?" "Yeah, Little Lady...we are."

[–]Helweg_gamingJas/Jasmine (she/her) 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd 100% go back and tell little 8-year old me that she better crack that fucking egg before turning 22, and if she doesn't belive me, imma drop the bombshell that cis people don't fanatazise about being of the opposite gender (something I realized less than a year ago)

[–]WholeRepulsiveizzy she/they 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who has had enough toxic shane casted onto me by my parents. I wish i could do this.

[–]garfieldmurderer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i honestly don’t know what my younger self would do with that information

[–]UnknownPhys6Andrea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My god if I had heard that a few years earlier I would still have hair. Things went downhill EXTREMELY quickly in that department after I finished highschool.

[–]ecapsback 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same

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