What keeps you going in the face of genetic determinism from an disadvantageous position?

i am so alone it is eating me: i have zero friends and zero family. 20. i live around people that hate me and that i also hate. i have no focus anymore. assignments or studying now takes 4x as much time. there is literally no point to living a life like mine i go to classes and back and whatever i do people look at me with disgust. i used to get high grades in hs and now im failing. i just dont see a point in it all. im in cs idek what id do with my degree. ive been lonely my entire life but this is something new. i try to gaslight myself and say it doesnt affect me but i cant go on like this. it does not even feel right to be complaining about something like this like a girl but idk. ive tried all the normal advice. it doesnt work. i cant be normal having my face alone. im irredeemable. i used to have one person that i thought was my only and real friend but that is gone also. why or how do i not just be a low iq crashout/dropout at this point. really there is nothing to look forward to.

are females actually just psychopaths?: why cant girl like loser men like men like loser girl wtf is wrong with girl do they only learn how to leech off of people are girls lowkey psychopathic and competitive to the core? i cant think that females would want to help anyone in general without some higher agenda are they aliens

Best place to live in Boston to be around baddies: Mid-late 20s, moving to Boston soon and want to live somewhere with plenty of opportunities to be around girls. I'm talking normal, white girls, not alt tatted ones. Others have recommended Southie but need more concrete recommendation on the specific area. Budget irrelevant.

Is it normal to not want to work the same job twice due to social anxiety? Also is it normal to get sad visibly sad and anxious inside of ugly crowded workplaces? Like how you're exposed to the public and waxed floors working at a grocery store, or always nearby dirt/grime/machines in a warehouse/factory? Am I just a fucking pussy? What can be done about it? People think I suck

I need help worsening my mental health: I am schizophrenia and I want neetbux, but I currently am able to work, how do I worsen my mental health to such a degree that the government will have no choice to support me?

Girl on dating app says she's just looking for friends. Should I waste my time hoping she'll want a boyfriend?

Surviving LA an incel: Any tips? I’m here to study but it is just not fun for introverts

I can't fucking sleep: Every night I go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time in the morning. However, every fucking night I wake up cause I need to take a piss one OR MORE FUCKING TIMES PER NIGHT, and every time this happens it takes a long time to go back to sleep. I'm losing my mind. I don't drink water before bed. If I don't drink for a long time before bed then I WAKE UP THIRSTY instead. >exercise o algo I go to the gym 5 days a week

Genuinely thinking about smoking again: >spent entire teenage years and early adulthood with a constant non-stop feeling of dread, anguish and anxiety >very noticeable on my chest if that makes any sense >start smoking due to college friends >suddenly that awful feeling is gone >productivity and overall mood gets better because I'm not worrying 24/7 >smoke daily for 6 years to the point that I smoke at least 3 packs of cigs per week + vape >make an effort to stop because I get out of breath by doing something as simple as climbing some stairs >succeed almost effortlessly stop smoking for 6 months straight after a whole 6 years of smoking daily >however, those dreadful feelings come back and don't stop >can hardly muster the motivation or guts to do anything anymore after work because I'm constantly feeling anguish, feel the same way I did when I was a teen I am genuinely thinking about going back to smoking. It's not exactly like I miss smoking (I know how that feels, I felt it during the first month of abstinence), I just miss not feeling anxious or worried 24/7. It's not like my abstinence is going to get better because I'm already feeling the same way I was feeling before I ever started. I feel like this is a retarded thread to make, obviously going back to smoking is not the sane choice, but the alternative would be picking a different type of dope. What should I do?

I am an ugly woman and also disabled at that so I have never had a normal life becuase of this. I've been bullied out of school and just treated like shit. I just hate my life so much and to think it will just get worse as I get older makes me want to rope so I can escape this clown world. I can't looksmaxx since my flaws are too expensive to fix and I am neet. I wish could be one of those autistic quirky girls that are on YouTube with weird pets. I want to visit museums and be quirky and stuff bit I am scared to leave the house since im ugly and will get bullied like always. How shoud I improve my life without suicide lel

Plapjak Advice: >be me, white, getting older, waning confidence after a few bad relationships, but somewhat /fit/ (BMI: 22.5) >meet mixed hispanic chick online who is a little quirky, seems tolerable, fun and easy going, 10 years younger than me >talk for a while and mostly avoid the subject of sex, start getting attached, talk about my past and even show her some of my flaws and she seems very forgiving (maybe desperate like me) >we eventually cam and she's fat (BMI: 30), seems to carry it well (might be angle frauding but shapely tits and ass, no cottage cheese) >seems eager to please, submissive, does what I ask, showers me with validation >supposed to meet up and might stay with me at my beach condo during her spring break How do I handle this situation? She's submissive, she says she wants to suck my cock, she started going to the gym recently... but she's BIG and I don't see myself being long-term with someone who weighs more than me. I've been with a slampig before and it was bad. The last one seemed "cool" at first but her pussy stunk and I just was not attracted to her. I was just desperate and wanted sex and it ended badly, although that one was bad at sex and wasn't eager to please like this one is. I made reference to this and talked about hygiene a few times and this current girl implied she'd make extra effort to be hygienic. How do I make sure this doesn't result in catastrophe for anyone? I'll admit that I initially thought she was thinner, and I'm a little worried that she's just doing a pickme routine to get me hooked. She presents as innocent but she definitely ain't. Still, I'm craving sex and affection after years of neither. What do?

Dating different kinds of women?: Do you think you have to strategize in how you date women from certain backgrounds? For example, I live in between an area that is pretty rural and an area that is mostly city. Do you think you'd have to approach dating a woman from the city compared to dating a woman from a more rural area? Like when I am on dating apps, I can almost immediately tell when a woman is from the city because she will have the "instagram baddy" makeup or camera angles going on. Whereas the profiles of women from the smaller area are more "normal" seeming to me. I have dated women from both areas(and failed). Also, do you think you have to approach dating women from different racial backgrounds differently also? Assuming all the women are from the USA. Like regardless of race, would you date every woman the same way? Or maybe at the end of the day, a woman is a woman no matter what walk of life. Maybe it really just boils down to age range and cultural background. I only date women who are basically from the USA. I don't like to date women who are like brand new to the USA. Like I'd date a chinese woman who was born and raised in the USA. But wouldn't date a Chinese national who just got a visa or something. What do you think? Maybe there is no real strategy to this.

Why do waman leave me for the beatbucks?

I think i've developed premature ejaculation from years of sneaky masturbation, I always cum in less than 3 minutes this wasn't really an issue but I recently got myself into a relationship and am worried about disappointing my girlfriend in bed is there anything I can do to make myself last longer? The only way I can really attempt to is if I take like a 30 second break every few minutes where I don't touch my penis but I imagine that would get frustrating during actual sex, is it something that can be trained over time or am I screwed? I don't exactly have the courage to discuss this with her since it's a touchy subject and we don't know each other well enough yet

Is it Irrational to Feel Bad About Taking Severence?: I was laid off and offered 3 months pay. It feels scummy to take it since this company has been paying me for almost 4 years now (3 years 9 months) and now I'm basically going to be paid for 4 years despite not working there as long. It's also super generous, over $15k. I will also get EI from what I've seen since it's firing without cause. Is this normal or should I take the bag? On one hand it sucks to get fired but at the end of the day I wouldn't be fired if I never got the job in the first place.

How do I move on?: I used to be part of a friend group with 4 other people. However, last year, one of the members of the friend group started to randomly pick a fight with me for no reason. I got sick of it so I just told him "kys" (please note that in the friend group, this was normal and common, so there wasn't any hard feelings about it, it wasn't anything more than a "shut up"). He became extremely angry with me even though this was normal, and amped up the obsessive behavior to the point he stalked my twitter and took screenshots of my posts out of context, claiming I was a alt right racist person, which I'm not. I was able to debunk these claims immediately, but the rest of the group still chose to pick his side. Because of this, they cut contact with me immediately. This happened last year, and I still can't move on properly. I found new friend groups and I try to remind myself "don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened" but the worst part is that even though they picked his side and discarded me like I was nothing, I can't get mad. The memories I made with the other 3 people were so good that I can't get mad. I tried, I swear. If I could get mad, I swear I would be able to move on extremely easy, but I just can't. I know it's not my fault, I am not being delusional. I understand that they are human and they made a decision, him over me, I get it. I just want this feeling to disappear so I can live my life without remembering them and feel sad because of people that probably don't think of me anymore.

hello f22 and i am quite right leaning, i am homophobic and a bit racist but mostly bc it’s funny. should i work on that

I'm an ICU nurse. I got shot because I wouldn't go with a guy who approached me when I was on my way home from work late at night. He hit my arm bc I threw my bag at him when I saw the gun and it messed up his aim. He ran off after firing the shot since it got a lot of attention and I guess he had hoped everything would've gone easier. I came out of things pretty much fine, but I got a bullet scar on my arm that I think makes me look kind of cool. I know that everything was dangerous, but everyone is more freaked out about it than I am. My dad is urging me to buy a gun to keep in my purse, and my husband wants me to change shifts so he can pick me up from work from now on. I feel kind of steamed that I didn't get any recognition for having the presence of mind to handle the situation well in the moment, and everyone's acting like I'm made of jello or something. I'm changing my shifts like my husband asked, but I'm not getting a gun bc I don't believe guns are morally acceptable. Why won't my family calm down and see that I handled myself fine without a gun?

i goon to 'p, basedtan bnwo and miss circle futa how do i stop

Hey guys I need help, I am 28 years old and do not like the trajectory my life has taken. I mainly just rotate between work and home, no close friends, no experience with girls, etc. I make decent money and have been working out for years but struggle socially. Here are some goals I've laid out that I struggle to realize or find a path on >Find a church, determine denomination >Find out where I want to live (move out of NYS) >Find out what I want to do with career and life (dissatisfied with current career) >Find a woman, friends, social circle >Find new hobbies, at least one active and one creative Any recommendations where to start or what to do? I've considered going back to school although am not sure what I would pursue.

I’ve been talking to a girl for a few months. She says she has BPD. She often acts very childish and doesn’t take responsibility for her actions. I’ve blocked her a couple of times before, but I unblocked her again. The reason I blocked her was because she was very unstable — one day she wanted me, and the next day she would ghost me. I got tired of the inconsistency, so I blocked her again. We didn’t talk for about three weeks. Then, one or two days ago, she opened a new Instagram account and told me she missed me. What should I do? i kinda like her but she makes me wanna kill myself

What to do in my situation?: Hello. I am a 20yo girl. I was officially diagnosed with BPD by my psychiatrist this week. I have major depression and general anxiety disorder. My parents treat me like shit. They have constantly yelled at me and eachother ever since I was little. My mom is extremly inmature and probably has BPD like me. My dad is really frustrated. He has huge control and anger issues. I had to quit school because of my mental health and physical health (I got sick). Ever since I've become a neet they treat me even worse. My future husband lives in the US while I live in Europe. It will take us two years until we can live together. I currently have no money, no skills, no hobbies. I don't know what to do with my life. I must fix myslef and become somebody before I live with him. I want to study programming but my mental health is not helping. I don't even know where to start. I will probably take a two year course before I move to the US with him. My plan was to live with him for three months so I could spend more time with him IRL, but I have to regularly assist therapy in order to get into a BPD program. I also have no money and would depend completly on his generosity. I don't know what to do. Maybe I should stay in Europe instead of visiting, get a job so I can rent a room and leave my house. I can't take living with my parents aymore. I feel empty and lost, and therapy doesen't help me at all. I just want to be with my boyfriend, he is all I care about in life. I would die for him. I want to be a great wife and mother. But I don't know how to get from my current self (a mess) into the actual woman he needs.

seething eternally: I'm a young man and I recently moved for school and do not have access to any organ anymore. My brain is as plastic as it will ever be and I need to keep playing organ or I'll be fucked. What the fuck can I do? I want a Hauptwerk organ so bad but they cost thousands of dollars and I'm a poor student and I'm going to be a poor student for 4 more years. This is actually genuinely terrible and society honestly shouldn't even exist if I can't have an organ. WTF can I do? How is it OK that this is a country of pornographers and war mongers and drug dealers and degenerates that get private planes and millions of dollars but an actual solar young man can't even get an instrument? It's a fake country.

I'm 30 and I think about having sex with teenage girls. Am I gross?

Do people care if you bite your toenails? I'm autistic and have never used a clipper. I'm also Brazilian, so I use sandals sometimes, and I think that made some people give me stares. Never had a gf so only my parents have seen me barefoot, and they stopped caring past a certain point.

Tmi ig I just finished purging for the 3rd time this day. Genuinely I am so sick and tired of living with this disorder. I remember thinking id “never let it get this bad”,i seriously convinced myself i would be able to control the urges, and here i am a year later and its only gotten worse. Anytime I see people on twt or tt asking for tips I feel the urge to cry. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. You will no longer have control over anything in your life. You’ll keep saying tomorrow you’ll stop, then it backfires and your throats bleeding again. I guess this isn’t me asking for advice, altho id gladly take it !!!!!, but it's more of me begging anyone (especially girls), to please for the love of God don’t let curiosity get the best of you when it comes to this, this will ruin friendships, all sorts of relationships in your life, and most importantly your relationship with food. It's gotten to the point where I sometimes look forward to doing it just because it's the only time I feel like I'm really ever in control of anything. But its just not worth it. And no, I wont lie, yes i did lose a crazy amount of weight at the price of my health, and i get compliments on my body. But in the end, it was never about the weight or the scale, it's all in the mind. It doesn't matter how much you lose, you're only really losing yourself here. I hope we can all be okay in the end

Is 5'7 a normal height for a man?

Chances of getting a gf currently?: Yet to turn 23 in a weeks and currently living off my parents' retirement lump sums as a mediocre law student that couldn't be bothered. Too frugal and enjoy too much of my time alone to go out to places where I can meet girls. I don't think I'm in the mental or emotional disposition to handle a relationship either. Last girl I fell for and much of the girls I've had some interest in or that I've found to be most interesting turned out to be lesbian or some form of queer. My only solid circle of friends are fellow guys in my class. The guy I personally know that I've considered to be the coolest so far is my undergrad professor who, while admirable for his knowledge, is now essentially an unmarried bachelor was past middle age. Professor I've found to be coolest so far too in law school (even if he seems rather erratic) is a bachelor in his senior years. My dad, whose influence has rubbed on me the most compared to my mom, didn't get married until he was 41 and they started their relationship when he was about 38-39. Prior to meeting my mom he thought he'd never get married.

My girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me: So basically we were together for six years, long distance, and it wasn’t some casual thing. We planned marriage, talked about our future, built everything around the idea of us. I was always the one holding things together. Whenever we argued I would calm things down, apologise first, fix it. She could be warm and loving but also distant when things got heavy. She admitted at times she treated me badly and felt guilty about it. When I tried to set boundaries she would sometimes jump straight to ending things, and I would soften and pull us back. About two years ago we almost broke up. I reached out quickly and we got back together. Nothing really changed though, the same dynamic stayed. Over the last few months we argued more. She said she loved me but didn’t feel the spark, that in the beginning she did not even know what love was and maybe dated me out of confusion. That hurt a lot. She asked for a break. I reached out during it and that is when it ended for real on January twenty second. Now it has been about three weeks. She is studying, going to the gym, functioning normally. She has not deleted our shared photos or closed shared accounts. That tells me she is not fully detached, but she is also not reaching out. I am stuck in this space where I would do anything to fix it, but I know if I chase again I just become the stabiliser like before. If she comes back it has to be because she chooses to, not because I rescue it again. That is the part that is killing me. Please kill me. :(

How do I become more attractive for my girlfriend?: He likes the manly side of me; that's as much as I can say. Please help me.

I am a 25 year old zoomer/boomer. I quit my job thinking I would get rich online on the advice of TikTok lunatics but I have severe ADHD and cannot pick one idea or take the action needed to get traction. I hated the job while I had it, but now having nothing to do all day I miss it, the grass is always greener etc etc. Should I go all in on creating an online business when I have the time and money, or should I try and get another job, or contact my old job that I left very amicably and try to get it back? I don’t want to work but the other side of that is having zero structure which I am now realizing I desperately need to be happy and functional.

How to get out of my situation: > I need help with mental health and finances

how do i get over my addiction for attention: does anyone usually really fucking adore attention to the point of like giving away money to have it, or idk wtv degenerate acts you can think of? is this normal? like do others go through this too or am i alone on this i am a guy so its not really "normal" for me to behave or act like this its NOT socially acceptable at all which is boring and annoying my main question is if others get kind of "high", ecstatic from being liked and receiving attention (likes on social media, being talked to, even if it meant getting hated) and going out from your own way to find attention

I have an uncontrollable stress diarrhea I just missed another phone interview because I was busy on the toilet since I always have to poop when it's time I've thought about just taking the call on the toilet but I figure if they hear me ass blasting I won't get the job anyway and I'll get a reputation as a freak who enjoys tricking women into listening to him poop I think next time I will fast for a few days before the interview, but I worry I will sound weak if I'm so hungry

Hacking russians: Please give me ideas on how to hack russian war front systems

How do I get myself fired from my current job

>create tinder account >match with skinny stacy with bikini pics >I start the convo >she throws herself at me >I ask her if she has weekend plans >she unmatches What did I do wrong?

SSRIs: Should I continue them? I was on a tiny dose of escitalopram but the nightmares were intense. But they seemed to work? Lower the dosage?

I'm never going to have friends or any kind of romantic relationship. What can I give up on? Here's shit I've came up with so far: 1. Drugs (never used them in my life) 2. Eating out. 3. Sitting on the couch watching movies. 4. Staying up late. 5. Going out to a social venue e.g. bars, nightclubs, concerts

Help me fight executive dysfunction devil: I have ADHD (if it matters). I need to do a lot of shit today (have had to for a while, been trying. i cleaned the entire house instead for a few hours instead of posting this.) I took my meds ate and made coffee. I don't mind doing shit honestly, I just fucking can't start them its like a block. being a dysfunctional creature is ass i don't wanna waste my potential How do you guys usually deal with stuff like that. also share stories if you've had similar experiences.

Worth plapping in this dating economy?: >2025 >24yo virgin (excluding escorts) >lose non-paid virginity to a hot foid who later tells me that i'm basically too nice and caring and she's used to dating scumbags who cheat on her >incel for months afterwards >fast-forward to last month >get approached by a fat foid at a bar, we go back to her place and fuck >somehow continues texting me Out of all the foids who ever approached me/ asked me out, she's the only one who didn't lose interest/ ghost me after getting to know me for more than a few days. She's keep asking me to come over and fuck her and I reject her the majority of the time and yet she's still texting me. I never had something like that before. The problem is that i'm just not that attracted to her body. I couldn't even coom despite fucking her raw. Can I train myself to like her or should I just give up? How should I even let her down gently?

I have no idea what I'm doing. Almost everyone who has known me for while thinks im a lazy bum and it pisses me off because I'm trying what I can. I've been looking for a minimum wage job but I've been struggling with that, since thats not working I've been trying to think of ways to make money from my artwork because thats the only thing im decent at (im too low iq to learn science or math stuff), So I tried posting trendy videos to gain an audience but that has been fruitless and I feel fucked, I don't know what to do and all these fuckers just think im a lazy bum.

Already have a bachelor's and don't know what to do: Am an American and I have a bachelor's in cybersecurity but couldn't get any internships or anything similar. Kind of hate having to be au courant with everything in the field though and I probably just hate IT/CS in general now. I have no further interest in making cybersecurity or tech my routine. I'm currently working a low paying job and might have the opportunity to do their program that involves WGU and similar opportunities. I don't how to make use of it though and can't see purpose in this tunnel I'm in. Maybe continue with certifications and hope to land in a job where I deal customer support and tickets?

can girls looksmaxx?: my basic question is if girls can looksmax and if so how ?? i dont like how i look so how can i become true eve and ascend ?? but the only ppl i see in looksmaxxing communities r dudes so idk

help: I think im mentally ill, i have this very weird issue with me and i really need help how to solve it. To begin with, i am absolutely disgusted of everyone. i wash whatever body/nonbody part of me that has been touched... shirts, pants, hands, hair, lets, slippers. all of it. i keep a damp towel to wipe everything that touches me or my stuff. someone touched my bed? i wipe where they did. my shirts? i wipe where they did. my blanket? i wipe it all. I'm genuinely so disgusted of everything, and i hate it. even even when i touch some parts of my body, i feel disgusted and go wash/wipe. for example, my eyes, eyebrows, nose, feet, pubic area and my armpits. im pretty sure this started because of my disgust of painted fingernails yeah haha weird? its just paint, why am i so disgusted of nail polish.. looking at them makes me wanna puke. i really want help, someone how do i get over this shitty phase. and no i cant visit a therapist, my financial situation isnt good at the moment. thought id say all of this, and im really disgusted of myself because of this i might actually kill myself because of it

Losing a Best Friend: Any advice for overcoming the loss of friendship between me and my best friend of 10+ years? We were friends since high school and I have always been there for him. Unfortunately my life choices and his religious beliefs caused a barrier that I don’t think we can work through. He became very cold towards me in group calls and stopped reaching out to me directly for one on one chats after we would talk to each other every night. It feels like this sharp pain that stings whenever the thought crosses my mind. I want nothing but the best for him but I made the decision to step back and stop joining calls last November because the coldness and dismissive actions towards me and I’ve recently tried engaging in group activities again only for the same thing to be happening. Any advice would be really appreciated, thanks

what drugs/substances should i take if i have severe social anxiety? legal or illegal open to unconventional things i tried ssris and they didnt do anything

ENTJ issues: Greetings 4channel, I was just wondering why's there a disdain towards ENTJ types in general? I mean, we're social, usually well intended, and even decide quickly, even in stuff like compatibility with others (think of like Wine/Proton and Linux/MacOS). From what I've seen, many, especially those online on places like Discord, find our friendliness and straightforwardness to be fake or even as something that's bad. But I know that I'm not fake; I am just a happy guy in general. What I'm irl is what I am online; a happy idiot. However, I do learn that they talk about me for a while, so I guess I leave an impact? /Shrug And no, I am not a lonely person. I do in fact have a girlfriend. All I am wondering is why do I care about others opinions? Why do I get sad when I am unwelcomed? It just irritates me. Even worse, why's my social aspect unwelcomed? For treating you like a normal human being? I'd also be happy to know how other ENTJs feel about themselves.

What should I choose for my master’s degree? a) Accounting & Finance b) International Management c) Data Analysis I have work experience in all three fields and want to still have a job when AI becomes smarter.

Time management & resume gap: >be sick for first years in uni >barely get anything done >heal up after a while >speedrun all courses to make up for lost time >2 problems: time management and it still took me 1.5x as long to finish my Bachelor's either way (plus my grade average still sucks due to prior exams of when I was sick) How do I not let this fact become a demerit when trying to get employed? And how do I survive uni (2-3 classes and bachelor work), a minijob, helping out with my siblings' homework, cooking for the family, gym and hobbies at the same time?

Make quitting to smoke easier?: 10 year chainsmoker here. I have low impulse control so the normie advice on google doesent help at all. Thought about staying awake for 2 days and then drink till i pass out so i might sleep a whole day or longer so i got the worst withdrawal behind my back. Did you guys had any smart tricks to support yourselfs when quitting?

Don't know how to be normal: That's vague and unhelpful but it's the best word I can think of to describe it. Everytime I try to be normal (fill in the blank with whatever, friends, goals, hobbies, etc.) it's like my brain makes me unable to do those things. It's like when people give me advice it works for everyone else except for me for some reason, and I'm not sure what the issue is. Maybe part of it is some kind of brain damage or something? I don't actually think much at all most of the time unless it's a game or a book I like. Even just thoughts on what it is I'm trying to figure out would be nice, not even advice.

Why do people online seethee in such a manner when they see a ugly man with A good looking foid?

Worried about skin spot: I have health anxiety and OCD. I noticed this spot on my finger that I am quite worried about. I am trying to get into dermatology to look at it, but if anyone here knows about skin cancer and look at these photos to let me know what you think I would greatly appreciate it

Should I lose weight to look more androgynous or will it ruin my chances with women?

Legal anons, I need your help: Family member in jail. 5 counts of 1st Degee Recklessly Endangering Safety 1of Domestic violence (she's a woman (female)) Probably resisting police and alcohol. Children were present. I would like any amateur lawyers let me know how fucked my family member is please.

>me horny always because if I'm not I'll kill me >bust one, 30 min hard again >can't do shit can't focus on anything else all in my head fingers and waking it >Only way to stop is get high >I'm high, always dancing laughing for no reason and in serious talk >ppl first time meet they get scared cus all I do laugh at what they say Please what do? Idont want horny I don't want high I want to sit on a swing, listen to birds do sound

So I'm playing around with my phone while I'm sitting next to somebody, and I accidentally press the flashlight button. Suddenly the guy next to me starts threatening to beat me up cause he thought I just took a photo of him. What should I do?

I do not know how to get out of this rut: Im almost 26, I have wasted my twenties and actually made this kind of post a million times on reddit and here. Was diagnosed with autism at age 6 and I am sick of my life and I cant stop wasting time. I wake up at ridiculous times and drive around for no reason, spend my money on mcdonalds and junk food. I eat like shit and do nothing with my life. I have one hobby that involves people which is a band, but I put next to no effort into that either. I havent had a gf in 8 years due to every relationship Ive ever had being toxic, first one accused me of being abusive so I failed school due to depression thinking "my life is over now and I will always be labeled as a woman beater" my second relationship tried to trap me into having a kid and the third one ruined my self confidence entirely. So thats that. Im a recovering alcoholic and been sober for three years which is my only good trait as it happens. Im just here, no purpose at my folks house with no incentive or discipline to do anything. Wont use motivation since thats only temp anyway. But yeah, I have no idea what to do. I keep trying to diet and failing miserably because in reality I don't care and despite being fat as hell with a norwooding hairline, I couldn't give a shit whatsoever. I guess I've never had to struggle and have been enabled by my family because I'm always viewed as the autistic son who doesnt know any better. In reality while I've always struggled with maths and to a degree english, I used to play it up in my younger years to get out of doing things. I've done this to myself. There's been small periods where things improve a little bit, I go outside and socialize with my band or I get my sleep schedule fixed for a while and be more productive. It never lasts Am I low IQ? Most likely and probably a narcissist as well. But now here I stand wishing I could do more with my life but cant even wake up at a decent time and clean my room, I don't understand why I've let this happen to my life.

Need advice with this girl I’m talking to: So I matched with this girl on bumble about a week ago and I need some advice. We went out to the bar a few days ago and things went well, we made out and she said she really liked me and invited me back to her place. We watched a movie and ended up having sex. A combination of anxiety + whiskey dick kind of gave me some trouble getting hard. She rode me for a bit but I couldn’t really fit it in when we tried to do missionary, partly due to whiskey dick and partially because she was way too tight. I ate her out for a bit and then we chilled until I got home. We’ve been talking still but I feel like I fucked up by not fucking her good enough. She stills responds to my texts almost instantly (she’s been doing that since we first started talking and she told me she only replies to texts fast if she actually likes the guy) but when I asked her if she wanted to go out again on Wednesday/Thursday she said she might have to pick up a shift so she’ll let me know. From my experience “I’ll let you know” is usually a soft no but she’s still texting me pretty fast so I’m not sure what to do. After she said that I just liked the message and didn’t text her until like 11 hours later and she ended up replying again instantly, like within one minute. How should I proceed? I was gonna ask her to join me for happy hour tomorrow when I woke up but I’m kinda nervous she lost interest because my pipe game was kind of weak. She was moaning a lot and she said she loved my dick and I noticed after she was riding me she was shaking like crazy so idk if she came or not but I’m kinda nervous she dosent really fuck with me anymore. How should I proceed?

Is it true that one's mentality doesn't change after your late 30s?: If so, I'm completely fucked, and I've wasted my life doing shit that left me unable to overcome my insecurities and negativity to become socially adjusted. I'm a perfectionist, I never let myself deviate from the path that would supposedly help me get a better life (I was born to a poor single mother). It worked, but that path meant a lot of sacrifices, like rejecting women until my 30s (because I wouldn't want get one pregnant), not socializing much, not partying ot doing drugs or alcohol, &c. I'm in my late 30s and I've only had 1 gf. I never told her that, even though I'm good looking, tall and shit, I never had much experience (love or sexual) before I met her. She just assumed a lot of stuff about me, I guess. I left her after almost 3 years of living together, the day after she told me, among other things, that I behaved like a child... Next day I ran away. I didn't know wtf to do or say, and I couldn't deal with that and other stuff about her. I never talked about this episode to her. She probably hates me now. I realized months later that she was right about everything. I'm socially retarded, which is not a surprise, but the problem is that I am DEEPLY SOCIALLY RETARDED, and a mess in terms of dealing with personal life. And I'm a coward. I know exactly what to do at work, with money and stuff, yet I don't know how to deal with women, I can't delegate. I can't stop being stingy. I have a hard time controlling myself sometimes and go to bed really late most of the time, and I barely even socialize anymore. I don't trust people much, even therapists or people I love. I don't even watch news/series/movies because I think they are manipulative. I was a NEET once, and my life looks exactly like that again, except with money and a WFH job. I don't know wtf to do. Please help me.

marriage: im young and one question doesnt leave my mind. i dont want to see my lonely ass at 45 regretting not building a family. but also i dont want to be divorced and divide my half of the estate to a woman in the future. so, would i not regret staying single to gain peace in a long term meaning and be the cool uncle or marry and it is actually worth it and a meaningful commitment? it would be great if people who have seen both sides answer it.

Why the FUCK does every 4chan page load twice?: Every time I open a page on here the basics load in, but the reply numbers, post count, update button, and other elements take a few second longer. This shit is driving me mad, what is doing it? Is it happening for everyone else?

ATOGA - Ask The Opposite Gender Anything: Previously: >>34246199

What food to make for an extremely picky eater: My boyfriend is autistic and when growing up his mother would just cave and make him the same meal every night, we're actively trying to get him to break out of the habit, he likes fast food but I hate buying it, and he only likes it like once a month I'm a very good cook, which is why I cook, but he's honest and will tell me when he doesn't like something, which is most thinks, and he's happy to keep trying stuff until he actually finds a meal he proper likes, instead of just salted pasta with garlic, I've been trying for at least 8 months now, and I've completely ran out of ideas

what the fuck are you supposed to do when you are ugly lmao like deformed 3/10.. ts so ass wtf

should i finally let go of my friends and find new ones?: on one hand: -my friends talk to me in group settings -my friends and i have hung out all together in-person a few times -almost everyday, i would join a discord call with my friends and play games with them on the other hand: -none of my friends reach out to me to talk one-on-one -my friends rarely answer my calls, nor respond to my texts -my friends repeatedly insult me (in the past, they would do this relentlessly) -none of my friends care about how i spend my time, but i could tell you all about my friends hobbies and interests -friends have never treated me as an equal. as a minor example, my friends have made multiple tier lists of our friend groups for different categories, and would always put me in lower ranks -there were AT LEAST three different people who we would constantly talk about behind their backs (not proud of this, but, in my defense, these people said and did some unambiguously awful stuff) -when opinion changed on one of our gossip subjects, my friends used me as a scapegoat, pointing to me as source of all gossip -all our conversations are superficial, consisting mostly of jokes -hate the video games that my friends chose to play with each other -always feel drained after spending long period of time with friends while i have tried to let go of my friends more than once (including blocking their phone numbers and avoiding them in person), i keep crawling back to them, each time making up a new excuse as to why i was gone. to be honest, i wish i could just ghost them all guilt free, move on with my life and make new friends can’t believe im a 22 year old man and im complaining about my friends like a pre-teen, but this is the point im at

Whenever I hear a noise that sounds similar to it, I think I’m hearing screaming, either of the sad variety or bloody murder variety What mental illness is this? I am diagnosed with Autism, ADHD, Bipolar, and depression for the information

Married but still insatiable thirst for other women: I absolutely love love love fucking women. I love everything about fucking a woman , the sights smell the taste the sweat the sensuality the passion the power dynamics, and I love how every single women is different and unique and its such a beautiful thing to understand every single woman for who they are sexually and then do all of that to give them orgasms that take them to every single level of heaven. Thing is that I'm married. And I love her deeply and for ever. I have no interest in cheating or opening up the relationship or any of that. I still fuck my wife with the zeal of the 23yo that met her almost a decade back. The thing is that even after all these years, I can still walk around see a pretty girl in public and think of every single passionate or nasty thing I can get her to do or think of how badly she'd beg for me to cum in her mouth. And the weirdest thing is that I don't even watch porn or anything so I ain't pornbrained . I just fuck my wife everyday and every single time I fuck her, I get this weird animalistic desire to cum and conquer her and then in every single attractive woman I see. It's kinda a curse to see a woman randomly at work or outside and my immediate thought is how much they'd beg for my dick after I tease them for a good 20 toe curling minutes So what do I do? How do I balance my insatiable desire to fuck every single women around me while maintaining my marriage?

It's a 9/11 in your nostrils!: >Be me >Chilling in college dorm, doing anything >Nose feels funny >Look down >Chest soaked with blood >Run to bathroom to plug nose with toilet paper >Have to clean up after i'm done because it looks like Ronnie McNutt livestreamed in my shitter >2nd time today Seriously, It's like they've put a Havana syndrome style sono-hemorrhagic weapon of mass destruction in my dorm. Sometimes it's once a day, sometimes twice, one time it was like 4. It's super annoying to be on my nose period when I'm trying to get stuff done. Is it the A/C? Is it my diet? Does my nose have autism or something? How do I make it stop?

Where can I meet, sext and fuck thicc fembois?: Hi! I'm a masculine dominant strict top and looking to sext up or meet up to fuck thicc and phat femboys exactly like playboyzach who's strictly bottom and feminine, philosophically and religious, top are meant to be man because their the man and a bottom must stay as a strict bottom because she chooses the womanly role and must stay in that role for a top. Same goes for lesbian relationship too. I've met and fucked bois like playboyzach and oh my goodness it was the best sex I had. It's like they know how to make me feel a man and do girly things to turn me on. So how can I attract one? I haven't fucked a thicc bottom femboy and I'm getting sexually hungry to fuck and dominant one. I'll be grateful to even romantically sext one as long he's authentic and real delicious body and feminine mind.

Terrorism Charges: I live in the UK. I’ve been charged with terrorism despite only trying to bring attention to an issue I care about. I already have a lawyer, but I was wondering if any anons have been in the same position. I know it’s crazy, but the police post here to entrap me. Also they just post on my shit to mess with me frequently too. What should I do, bros? I could even show you some posts that got made to intimidate me.

So I just recently quit and deleted my gacha account I had for 6 years. I need something to help deal with my shitty gambling problem. What's the best way to overcome this faggotry?

How do I cope with just being one person in billions? I write but my writing is just lost among all the other crap online. In real life I have no one I'm close with or whose lives I touch.

Total mental breakdown over ex that left 3 years ago. How do I cope with dying alone?: GF of 8 years left me 3 years ago. We couldn't see each other a lot over covid, but we were just about to start things back up again, or so I naively thought... After months of excuses not to see me, she broke up over a single text message then deleted and blocked me on everything. No closure, no nothing. The only relationship I've been in and the only person I ever thought I could trust. For the past 3 years, my life has been falling apart and I haven't had a chance to grieve anything. I've just been dealing with stress from family dying and a lot of health problems, all while thinking about her and trying not to kms. This year, on our anniversary, I got a terrible flu and it destroyed my brain. I know, it's stupid, but I spent a week and a half having fever dreams about her where she broke my heart over and over again. Now, I can't get her out of my head. I'm being haunted by her and I need some kind of closure or understanding, but she won't give it to me. I tried writing a letter, email, calling, texting, I even got so insanely desperate that I messaged her mom...nothing. All day every day I'm either in bed crying or walking in circles outside mumbling that I'm dying or gonna kms, no exaggeration. I don't know what happened to me. My brain is totally broken. The heartache is physically painful and my head spins all day with thoughts of her being with somebody else. I've tried thinking about her flaws and how she betrayed me, but I still can't bring myself to hate her. She was somebody I thought couldn't do any harm and only had nice things to say. I had never seen hate from her until it was directed at me. It's destroying me. I was with her during the hardest time in her life, and stuck with her because I loved her and wanted to grow together, only for her to abandon me as soon as she got bored.

All the things wrong with me, how to make life worth living?: 1. Identity At the heart of my turmoil is undoubtedly an identity issue. I grew up in an African-Muslim immigrant household and have drifted far from it. I hope to make the nature of this distancing abundantly clear. Maybe my complaints here are expected for my class, but I have yet to find anyone --certainly not on reddit/x/discord-- that has the same perspective. Anyways, as for the nature of my distancing, it's been constant, consistent, and long-standing. I'm a young guy now <25, but I remember my opposition, and 'outcast' feeling with family starting as early as 6. Growing more so when I informally left the religion and grew to actively despise it. I think this result was inevitable, what make me so sure of that is how it's been maintained as my world view has shift from traditional-Islamist to atheist-auth-lib to agnostic-auth-right. Through varied lenses, I've maintained the same core ideas: my parents are shit parents, and my heritage is embarrassing. Back when I was a strict Muslim, they often fell short in following the religion properly (minor stuff like hand placement during prayer, to cherry-picking scripture when convenient, e.g., "the Quran forbids beating kids and I hate it when you hit me lol" totally dismissed even when I tried reasoning with them). From a secular angle, the family divide is likely obvious. I think my progressive phrase was mostly rooted in this pity, because the chief principle behind all my arguments were pity. I remember that feeling of pity sitting behind every social-political discussion I had between 11 and 19. It was pity behind me excusing my parents low income, when other immigrant families had much more wealth than us. It was pity behind me excusing my identities propensity to violence, criminality, and a general victim mindset.

ok literally how do you get the autistic girl to like you it seems impossible

Why should I not just give up?: It all does not matter anyway. Why should I not then pick the path of least resistance? We are meant to escape the pit of self-destruction, but why not embrace its emptiness and gloom instead? Self-destruction is the ground state. We only lie to ourselves by trying our best to have a good and 'meaningful' life. We never see who we truly are: rats stuck in a hole. We deny our vermin existence by attempting to climb out of the hole our whole lives. But why not sink as deep as we can? I am 18 now and I am meant to pick which life I am going to live from now on. I do not wish to continue my evasion of my base reality, and yet it feels wrong to give up, even though I see no reason not to. I am truly lost.

What's life for all of those who will die alone? for those who were rejected by society from the very beginning? for those whose options are decreasing year after year? were all our efforts and emotions in vain?

Is it over?: this is such a stupid post and I think im gonna regret it later but wtv I don't know if its worth mentioning, but im f18, also mentally ill.(diagnosed bi-polar. now unmedicated, dont know if it'll add to my post but whatever) I spend alot of time online, like a concerning amount. I used to be able to balance my social life with my online life and keep them completely separate. but after some events with both I'm at a complete loss I lost my irl friends out of petty drama, people grow apart thats fine. in that same month I lost my online group too because of chronically online bullshit that divided the group completely. I'm aware discord users are just weirdos but it still hurt(mid october, 2025). Since then I feel like I've lost myself completely. I haven't spoken to anyone since. not on discord or irl. I literally spend all of my time in my room watching youtube videos and scrolling now. Its kind of chill, but I miss having people to talk to. I've noticed now when I try to make friends my brain makes the dumbest decisions known to man. I used to be able to just walk up to people and chat but I've literally regressed. like my heart sinks and I freeze up or I say something insanely unfunny. in an online sense I do the same thing?? sorta? like if a joke fails I literally die. What do you guys recommend I do?? Do any of you guys want to be friends?? How would you even become friends with someone on 4chan if the entire thing is anonymity?? im rambling sorry

How can I know if my existential dread and obsession is because of narcissistic abuse or because of me? In other words, how do I know if I'm being manipulated and controlled or if I'm actually in the wrong?

I'm 21M and 5'7, I plan to get limb lengthening surgery to become at least 5'11. The problem is that I have no money. I'm also scared my proportions will look weird and it would be painful and I might not be able to run or exercise again. My family might also notice that I got surgery and make fun of me. Do you think it's worth it or not?

my parents neglected me as a child and now after being in my early twenties i find myself craving kind of toxic relationships with men. not the ones where i get hurt bit very controlling ones. i really feel as if i need to be told what to do. i want someone to control my life for me. this has not happened yet because i am introverted and shy so i don’t get into a lot of situations where i would meet men. where do i find men like this? i am f23

how are normies coping with the current economy situation? for years (especially since corona), doomers on this website have been saying how bad things are. now, with the release of the latest claude models even the most optimistic of normies should realize that white collar jobs and with them the middle class is getting completely decimated. like what the fuck do those people who do not have depression, social anxiety, BPD, who are not bitter incels, how the fuck do they react? surely a normal person could find a way out when he is enrolled in a college major which is getting more worthless every month? and the big AI crash and lay off wave is not even here yet. please convince me the worries are just in my head.

GIOYC: Last Thread Died Edition

How do I find a low self-esteem girl who’s insecure about not having a bf this Valentines Day and make her my gf?

Need some advice on life stuff, 20F: I saw a post similar to what I'm going through, and got the girl-balls to actually make one of my own and maybe get some good advice on my situation. I'm 20 year old girl from Austria (yes, not trans) and for the past two years I've been unemployed and just feel hopeless with literally not a single shred of confidence. Life was going okay until middle school, unbelievable bullying (i mean shit like being beaten up by a group from time to time for no reason), eventually my fears and other shit I probably picked up from that turned into a mental illness I had where I just pissed myself without being able to control it. This added to the bullying of course and I tried to stay out of school as much as possible, act sick, etc. Doctors said it was some bullshit with puberty but no medicine fixed it, just had to bite the bullet until I grew out of it. Grades dropped all the way to high school where I struggled to even pass. I just couldn't focus in class, was always doing other shit, I couldn't help it (was an it school so we all had a laptop, which I just played pokemon showdown on) Despite humiliation I redid a grade, tried my very best, worked out, actually made some irl friends but I still couldn't pass. Eventhough I really did my best. At the same time, my friends hangout spot closed down, and two friends tried to get me drunk to rape me despite me being in a relationship (which ended soon after because they couldn't handle my growing depression) Now I'm just a NEET, living off of my single moms back. I was too stupid for school so there's no chance any jobs want me. My parents always wanted me to achieve something grand like my dad did, he's currently fighting cancer. He'll probably die knowing his oldest child is a disappointment. I tried to apply to jobs, literally every IT apprenticeship I could find but nothing. You'd be a tard to employ someone with my grades and gaps in work. And it's all my fault for not trying hard enough and being too incapable.

bulimia: f22 losing myself to bulimia. had it since i was around 15. i can tell my health is declining. underweight, passing out, teeth fucked up, spend all my money on it. i hate it so much yet i can’t stop despite trying. no one in my life knows. parents stopped reaching after i moved out (not that they did anything before they just got angry and yelled). i think if i continue i might actually die and sometimes i think it might be for the best my life sucks. i just don’t know what to do. i tried therapy multiple times. i went to the mental hospital. they just fatten u up and send u home. once i am on my own it continues. i feel so helpless it consumes me i really don’t know what to do.

Self-medicating: >went to a psychiatrist for ADHD >gay as fuck experience >nothing got resolved >got sent to a clinical psychologist >on track to lose another year of my life before I even get a diagnosis Should I skip this clown show and buy the meds "illegally"?

I want to talk to the girl I like. I'm a guy, we're both 18. She's very pretty, too pretty, popular, and intelligent. I don't think I have a chance with her. The thing is, we were friends in kindergarten and ended up in the same high school, in different classes in the same year. She's wanted to talk to me several times and asked me to, but I get nervous, and I don't want to feel so good and embarrassed at the same time. And I avoid her because I'm a depressive person who tries to be cheerful, but always ends up sad for some reason. I'm paranoid and I distrust people too much. I don't have any talents or hobbies. And above all, I don't consider myself likable.

GF and I are growing apart because of her friend: So last night I got into a small argument with my gf over wanting to go with her to a sporting event. While we both agreed we would like to go, she wants to invite her whole friend group as well. She has been doing this for a while, because they have some sort of retarded book where to write what whacky adventures they should do like kids. I've been telling her over time it makes me feel upset because we don't have intimate time together anymore, and I blew my fuse yesterday and told her I was getting tired of the whole Barney and friends shit going on. In typical woman fashion she spoke to her friends about it, and they have been telling her to cheat on me or ditch me over it. They are telling her that I am demanding and controlling just for wanting to do more activities together. She's not a bad person just caught up in her toxic friend group. Is there anyway to salvage this or should I just leave?

Should I switch careers?: I've got a CS degree and some internship experience, but I can't find any entry-level jobs. And the future of tech in general seems pretty dismal, especially since LLMs keep improving. So should I double down and keep applying, or find a different job, and if so, which jobs would you recommend?

How to deal with AvPD?: I'm tired of shutting myself off from friends and the whole world. I'm tired of being afraid to say anything. I'm tired of caring about what other people think of me. I'm tired of constantly putting myself down for no reason. I don't expect to find help here, but I just want some advice on how to ease the stress, pain, and self-deprecating thoughts in my head.

Can’t even apply for a job right: I am such a retard, how do you guys get over this block of sending in the application

What is a good job that the average 21 year old male man should have?

How can I tell if this girl is interested in me?: I'm 35 years old virgin university student working part time in a bookstore. Recently our manager hired a shy and a bit insecure 21 years old girl as a new worker. I have been mentoring her through all the know-hows of of the store and treated her kindly. She's been very friendly with me as well and often actively seeks my company. We talk often but I feel the generational and life experience gap makes it somewhat difficult to find shared hobbies other than books. She never asked my age and I haven't said anything about it because I don't want to scare her off. She might be thinking I'm in my late 20s. I'm kind of interested in asking her out at some point in the future, but I wonder if she's simply insecure and naïve and see me just as a friend?

I have OCD and I regularly uninstall programs, clear out folders and delete large amounts of data from my computer. It is getting to the point I can't even keep a file on my PC for longer than a week. I am afraid to start new projects because it feels like I just randomly get the urge to delete everything. I want to change but I don't know how, this seems like an extremely niche issue to have...

What are some things you can do to improve your mental health?

I'm insecure because I have no experience with women and don't know how to ask them out. I am 28 years old, have a decent career (but thinking about switching or going back to school), and am in ok shape. Where can I find women in a similar situation to me who would want to take things slow? Like I mentioned before I've been thinking about maybe going back to Uni and switching careers but don't know what I would go for and can't make a decision to save my life. Also going back at 28 how would I make friends and meet girls? I've also been thinking about moving, I live in a deep blue state and its miserable. Some guidance or advice would be much appreciated

non shithole in uk: does anybody actually know where is good in the uk for a young person to live? im from a small town in the north east and everyone my age is either an inbred farmer, in and out of prison, or at uni.

Ever since the covid hoax I stopped interacting with the goyim cattle. I just look through them and pretend they don't exist. I don't even greet them or acknowledge their presence. I'm not staring either, I'm just looking straight through them as if they weren't there. My life has significantly improved. I am at peace

How do I get a chubby Latina to date me?

How to prevent myself from becoming a retard?: I was a gifted 140+ IQ child getting best grades in class all the time and winning a bunch of maths competitions up until the age of about 15-16. Since then I turned into a complete brain damaged retard who does not want to think anymore. Literally, it became so much effort for me to engage in active thinking that I simply don't do it anymore. I do things solely on autopilot. I can't use my memory either. I can't study. Even if I do, I will forget everything in less than 5 minutes. Obviously my grades have gone down. All of this has happaned in the span of less than a year. This makes me want to fucking kill myself I can't bear my retarded invalid existance. Maybe it's brain fog, maybe it's the lack of focus, maybe it's plain laziness. I don't know. But I can't keep going like this for much longer. What should I do before I become an eternal NEET? Maybe I was never smart, maybe it's just the pressure from my parents that carried me that far, and now when there is no one to push me I am back to being an idiot.

I just watched two dudes get into a verbal altercation because one thought the other called him a word. Now I'm too chicken shit to ever get into a fight like that. How do I grow the balls to do so?

What am I supposed to be doing in life? Nothing is fulfilling, meaningful, or brings any amount of joy. Currently I'm just waiting to die.

Just turned 20: I’m a 20 year old girl and I feel like my life is over. I have undiagnosed ADHD and severe RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria). In school despite good grades, teachers judged me for careless mistakes, girls excluded me, boys would prank each other to dare ask me out, I hid in the bathroom and my family was too dysfunctional to pay me any attention or care. I’m extroverted and friendly but I’ve spent a life time being the ugly naive girl used or bullied by nearly everyone. No one sees me as a human being with feelings. And to the very few who cared I let my feelings of inferiority scare me into withdrawing- “anxious avoidant attachment style” I constantly feel unwanted, unwelcome and shameful no matter. A few months ago I tried to go to a school reunion but stood outside after taking hours to get ready, broke down crying and left. I’m plagued by dark thoughts and my raging self hatred that keeps me up every night. I can’t maintain any commitment, friendship or deadlines (on verge of dropping out of college despite top grades). For my 20th birthday I woke up at 4pm after a night kept awake and spent the day alone as I do everyday. For 3 months now I have been in total neet isolation, as I was during covid and every holiday or chance I got. It’s my baseline. I desperately want to be able to function like a normal person, I want friends, I want a bf, i want to feel accepted for the first time, I want to do well. I’m so so stuck after years of trying to fix myself all I’m left with is more shame and despair. Am I not made for this world? Do I have something to offer? Can I ever actually fix myself? Even if I did, do the dark thoughts ever go away? I’m so so tired guys

How do I avoid a butt crack when I bend down. A belt doesn't work, I have 3 pairs of pants who do the same thing. Losing weight seems to be an option I'm going for, but on the meanwhile, what should I do?

How do you get a gf if you are someone that is very quiet and asocial and rarely talks?

How do I channel my autism into something productive instead of useless niche shit?

How do you even talk to a women that looks like this without coming off as a complete phony? How could you ever be yourself knowing how easily you could fumble this girl and never get a chance at that rack? I would be second guessing myself every second

Useless rambling coming through, read further if you want to waste your precious time. It just hit me that the reason I'm unemployed is that I hate the idea of working, so I'm not really putting my back into it. There isn't anything I want, I used to play vidya, draw, write, I even 3D modeled and gamedev'd for a while, but I hate all of it, I don't want to do anything. It's all so fucking gay, everything is shit and retarded, including me. Even if I got a job what would I do with the money? Just prolong this worthless rat race. I can afford not to partake in it because I'm a silverspoon, son of landlords. I'm a leech of leeches. That's it. Fuck you and goodbye.

>neet who has never held a job >graduating into wizardhood this year >had wanted to be a programmer when I was a bright-eyed young man >now it seems that there are no more jobs. For years I thought "my time is running out I need to develop my skills." Now it seems like my time actually is out. I have no future. I feel doomed. I don't know what I'm gonna do.

Retardation Strikes Back: Hey /adv/ I have been on dating apps for some time now, without much luck. Instead, I put out a local reddit post looking for friendships. A woman reached out to me and she is absolutely stunning. I went full retard and now I have an unhealthy amount of crush on her. She reached out to me through my friendship ad, so it would definitely be weird for me to suggest dating. Should I even be friends with her if I am hoping for a romantic relationship to come out of the friendship? That feels wrong and unfair to both parties, Should I: 1) self-sabotage by cutting the friendship short, letting my low self-esteem guide me, but ultimately save myself from a potential heartache 2) be friends with her and probably regret it, convincing myself that I can't be with her I've already told myself that I lost the battle, but I am stupid and hopeful. I would love to hear the internet's perspective

Signs a guy doesn't like you?: How can I tell if a man is busy or simply is just not that interested in me? Basically I have an e-bf that gives one sentence responses to the paragraphs I send, and i'm always the one texting first too. It's been a week and he still hasn't even checked up on me. I'm mentally ill so I literally could have killed myself or something and he wouldn't even know so Idk im just sad since I have no one and I feel like an incel

i think im shadowbanned on tinder. I was catfishing when i was younger but i want to take it serious now. I connected on my wifi and it wouldnt load then i changed to data and it did. It knows. Therapist with a faggot mustache told me to get on it, also the hooker I visited recently that told me she has 99+ matches. How am I supposed to get a girlfriend now?

faking employment records to return to university: I fucked up my academics a bit and now I'm on academic suspension and need to appeal to re-enroll. Additionally I'd like to drop some classes retroactively but anyway, I've been NEETing since January 2024 so I don't know how to fulfill this requirement: >Showing readiness to return to [UNI] can be done by taking courses at another institution and transferring them back to [UNI], demonstration of employment while away from [UNI], volunteer work, mental health counseling, etc. In an appeal, providing details about what you have been doing to illustrate readiness is important. And whatever you can provide to show proof of this, i.e. time cards, work schedule, letter from employer, etc. Does anyone have any experience with this by chance? I'm fine now I just want to go back to school

My girlfriend's friends threw a party, a party which I reluctantly attended since I'm almost ten years older than everyone there and always feel out of place in said events. At some point, my girlfriend’s "best friend" got drunk and kissed her on the lips. I grabbed the friend by the neck and shoved them to the ground. The problem is that it happened in public, and since the friend is a woman, everyone at the party freaked out. No one tried to step in, though, because they knew I was armed. I did't show anything, but the bulge in my clothes was obviously a gun. I drove home and silenced my girlfriend's notifications until tomorrow. But i called my friends and one told me I shouldn't feel threatened by a dickless woman that i over reacted, and another said I lost my chance for a threesome, which I was never interested in anyway. I don't find the idea of being cucked in front of me appealing, even if it's with a woman. Did I truly over reacted? How should I reacted? She kissed my woman.

I posted myself on 4chan not realizing itd be archived forever and honestly im sick with regret and now am going to live in constant fear that someone i know will see them. I wish I were dead really badly and hate that my attention whoring tendencies and alcoholism brought me to do something so stupid and pathetic. How can I cope with being on the internet forever

Why do I not develop a dissociative disorder? I am constantly hurt and no matter how much I suffer, I cannot dissociate from this painful reality.

Is 5'7 a normal height for a man?: I'm 5'7 which is apparently only 2 inches below average in the US, which means that 1 in 4 guys are my height or shorter, however it feels more like 1 in 10. I rarely see any guy my height, I see way more 5'11-6'1 guys than 5'7 guys when I go outside. In fact, I see more women than men my height. Why is this?

I can't use Reddit anymore: I was banned on Reddit like a year ago, and I can't use it since. I've done everything, used a VPN, cleared my cache, even moved to another location, and I still get banned whenever I make a new account. How do I fix this?

I live in my car because I cannot commit to society: I worked for a couple years before quitting and saved some money but I need something else to do with my life. I'm not even sure what I want to do with my life because I didn't really prepare it. I like drawing cartoons but maybe not enough to get good and work professionally. In my head, the best-version of myself is running some kind of production studio for cartoons. I'm a deeply insecure 27 year old trans-thing, never been in anything close to a relationship. I don't have any of my HS friends anymore because they're all living their own life. Now I'm just in my car, too anxious to even bring my laptop inside the library. My thoughts are extremely trapped inside my own head and it feels nearly impossible to break free and do the things I actually want to do with my life. Any advice or stories are appreciated. Thanks

Basically, there's someone I want to make jealous and I want to pay a girl to pretend to be my girlfriend. Or date me while just being a golddigger. I still have strong feelings for a girl so I'd feel bad pretending to date someone who was actually interested in me just to get back at another girl. And I wouldn't really be interested in banging them. Just like a few dinners we take pictures, maybe I bring her around and rub it in. How do I go about this? I have dating apps but idk how to really flaunt my money and bring up the openly transactional nature of what I want. I have some designer stuff but no real good pictures of me in them. Any ideas?

Pro Mia advice :) (bulimia): If there are any pro Ana/Mia girlies on hereee I just wanted to share my knowledge and answer questions to help! the pic is now and since my journey I’ve lost about 10kg so yeah I mean I’m not like at my goal weight yet but Ik the strats also no creeps plz

Box of chocolate: I am going to give a girl an elaborate hand made box of chocolates for Valentine's Day. She is just a friend. We will find out soon. Nothing any of you can do to stop me.

how do you know if you should kill yourself?

So uhhh: I need advice because im playing this really intense RP game in Roblox. The players are serious and I am taking the game very seriously. Essentially this, I play an RP character that owes several shady characters approximately 50-60 Gs. I say approximately because the juice grows to an unpayable rate and thats how much I think i owe right now. I also owe the server's tax authority characters 20 Gs. Right now, I have about 200k liquid, which would be 100k after taxes owed and future owed. Which would be 20k maybe by the time I pay the shady characters. I do not want to do any of this. What are my options? I am thinking maybe pax the taxes I owe and then moving to Europe somewhere. Im not sure. I need advice

How to Make my Life more Balanced and Consistent: As the subject suggests I have issues with keeping a regular life going for long periods of time Essentially I go through periods where I am interested in doing my hobbies, followed by longer, generally 3 months or longer, periods of time where I just completely drop everything and do next to nothing This isn’t a depressive state but just neutral, drab, nothingness I have no found a cause for starting or stopping stuff Although I did have a 6 month break of nothingness when starting working full time last November…awful After this period is done, I go back to doing the things that I enjoy again and feel extreme pleasure doing them (no, not some bipolar II state), and think to myself “I knew I liked this! How could I ever go without doing this every day” And afterwards begin trying to be as maximized and efficient as possible with doing things I enjoy in the free time I have Maybe it’s burn out idk Even something like reading a book is something I can only do every few months, or watch anime, or study a language - everything Rinse repeat Is there any way I can stop forgetting to do things I actually enjoy, stop the pointless meandering, feel like doing things, enjoy things, feel excitement, not just be on middle of the road autopilot forever

How am I going to get a gf if I am going to study in a desolate place?: From kindergarden to HS I have had a total of 5 female classmates out of a total of 163. 2 of which were single moms by age 11/12 respectively, the dads were homeless early 50s yo gypsies. 2 which had birth defects which made them invalids (to the point one could only drool and only used her limbs to reach out to her mom if she was nearby otherwise someone had to push her wheelchair around, the other was severely retarded but could count and spea, had a mustache and was morbidly obese by 12) and the last one advertised her OF when she was 14 on the same social media account her family, grandparents, highschool and middle school acquaintances knew her on. This is the dating pool which I locally have access to. I am going to an eastern european engineering university where for the past 5 years there hasn't been a single female graduate and historically very few if any women attended. I intend to work in the merchant navy since it's the only way to make above 1k usd legally here. This town is a semidecrepit and most of the people are in their late 40s and 50s. The youth if they can, move away. Whoever remains are generally losers, criminals, prostitutes and a small segment of people which attend this one university as it is the only maritime university in the entire country. In such an environment how am I supposed to get a gf? I am 20 now and also am interested in commisioning as a reserve officer in the navy while studying to minmax military and civilian benefits. Will probably be a conscript this year to get more admission points for the reserve program as I would be "prior service".

am I too autistic or she never liked me?: male, mid-20s, student, formerly super-obese, now fat, kissless virgin. Met a girl in my year about six months ago. Early on, I thought she was fake/attention-seeking and even called her “pick-me.” Instead of backing off, she chased me: asked why I didn’t respond immediately, why I ignored her, why I didn’t publicly like her, when I’d stop “hating” her. She sought my attention constantly. Over months we became close. She helped me a lot with exams, invited me to her place multiple times, and there was some kino-hugs, touches,but never fully 1-on-1 alone at her place. Invited me to coffees, to play games with her, etc. She praised me a lot (“smartest guy, one in a generation”, "we are all puppets on a string for you", "self-confidence never seen before", etc) and shared personal stuff, multiple times compared me to her father, but her parents are divorced, and father is tough-conservative type of guy "you can bleed out next to him, if you're not on good terms he is not going to care about you". Emotional intimacy was high, romantic escalation slow. I gradually developed feelings. Mid-December, I told her I was going ou5 on coffees with her because I liked her and wanted to date her, but I don't like her anymore (reacting badly to something about her ex), that I am indifferent. When I came home, I couldn't go to sleep, all I could've thought about is her. Wrote her the message telling her I'd love to see her and that I am not indifferent towards her. Then the next day reversed what I said the day before and said I did like her. She said she likes me too, but she’s “a lot to handle,” has male friends, and it wouldn’t be simple. She later called that“our first date.” Will continue in reply

is anyone on here clinically diagnosed bpd: *subject*

talking to tall girls: i have this obsession with tall women i find them really hot but I've never dated one tbqh they're so attractive to me but i can't muster up the courage to talk to them every time i see a tall woman (which means 187 cm or above, because I'm 187 cm) i just can't approach them I'm so helpless in their presence I've been dating girls smaller than me my entire life and i always feel unfulfilled but with all the blackpilling on here i feel like the tall girl won't like me back anyways because they would want an even taller man how do i break this cycle? i can feel the jealousy of my gf every time we walk by a tall girl and i can't help but stare we will both be unhappy in the long run if this continues today i saw a girl, so perfect. i hate myself for not mustering up the courage to talk to her... she must've been a full two inches taller than me, looked like created by God himself. everything was so perfect about her... >picrelated is how i feel every day about my gf... i know it's not fair

I find it incredibly creepy when people think they can find me in whatever room I'm in at whatever time of day it is cause they think I'm so predictable. How do I stop people from doing this to me?

How the hell do I get a normal full time job? I'm not stupid, I'm not a slob, I'm not a neet, I don't have mental illnesses, etc. but I can't fucking get one. I've applied all the advice I can find online about crafting resumes and so on, but there is never any success even when I do hundreds of applications. It feels like I'm just endlessly gambling against this amorphous force and it's rigged to always give me nothing. >Oh the economy is bad now The economy is always bad. I can't just pay for things with thin air until the economy gets good. >Do a trade Takes years of being an apprentice, and who is going to support me while I do that? I've gone over the allowable government payment time (australia) for my uni degree as it is. >get X qualification Takes money to get I'm so sick of this entire process. I've overcome every other problem in my life through my effort and talent, but now that I'm ready to move on, get married, start a family, etc. the final obstacle is a place where effort and talent doesn't mean a fucking thing. How do brainless NPCs manage to get cushy full time jobs while I can't get a thing?

> Be me, 20Y, look better then 99% of people > Improve my appearance constantly, people treat me better > Realize im still the same person I feel disgusting and ugly 24/7 > Constantly underestimate my self > Am i retarded ? How do people that look horrible live without constant pressure feeling in their head from how awful they look and feel > Would you rather be attractive and a mentally ill , or ugly but free ?

ex on Hinge 2 weeks after breakup: Hi guys, real fag post but I saw my girlfriend of a year on Hinge 2 weeks after she broke up with me out of the blue. All her pictures are photos I took of her on holiday, ig its just life but it just feels like a knock down drag out situation. IDK im just bitching, it's just a lot and yes im on hinge too but i just don't want too be lonely on Valentines I just want some WAGMI style advice, I feel a bit down and out

Advice Regarding Escort: I have got seriously mixed feelings about my latest visit to an eescort. This was the 5th time I've seen her. Didn't go so well this time. Started off well, kissing was passionate, nice cuddling, she encouraged me to spank her, but for some reason I was struggling for hardness when I tried penetrating her. She was understanding and I eventually came while she gave me a blowjob/handjob but I'm a bit pissed off I couldn't stay hard during penetration. We just cuddled and talked for the last 30 minutes or so. idk why this happened. Last two times have been fine, I went on top and finished inside her (condom on obviously). She says I overthink things which is true. At the end I asked her about meeting again in 2 weeks and she said yes instantly and kissed me but something about her demeanour made me worried. She seemed a bit colder than normal at the end. I've texted her saying thanks and that I really enjoy getting to know her. But I am worried. Is my problem that I'm too emotionally/intellectually attracted to her? Why couldn't I get hard this time?

How to stop being depressed over my fiancé leaving me: >Date gorgeous Mormon gf for around 5 years (even prettier than pic related) >Has all the same likes as me (retro videogames, comic books), is a cowgirl, cooks amazing food and exercises daily >She leaves me when we were engaged >Nearly 5 years since and I think about her every day >I refuse to settle down with a worse woman but also know it would be near impossible for me to find someone as good as her again >Feel like my chance of having a happy life is over and feel depressed for hours a day every day about it Is there anything I could do? I just want to stop wanting to die.

I want to shoot amateur porn videos on my phone: What the title says. I want to pay women (18+ obviously) to make POV porn with me. The videos will not be sold or showed to anyone else, it's just for my own personal enjoyment. I would be the only one who can view them, unless the woman wants to view them as well. I would find a place (the girl's place or a hotel/motel seems the most likely, but my ideal would be a near empty apartment or condo that only contains a couch and bed), and record it there. Here is the fun part: I would like to contact girls through Instagram or Snapchat and take it from there. I think a sizeable amount of women would do this if the pay is to their liking. Many women are whores like that. Using one or both of the aforementioned apps, I would reach out to random girls I have never met, girls who I have met or talked to in the past, and girls who are already posting porn. If she is interested or at least open to the possibility, we would discuss her pay (which would be per video-session), availabilities, condom use, outfit requests if I feel she is open to that, etc. I know there is one somewhat popular onlyfans girl in my city so maybe I can shoot her a message on Instagram? What do you think? How should I go about this? This is something I want to do.

How can I get a nerdy gf?

Is it wrong to send a message to a ex-GF who is dating someone telling her i miss her and asking forgiveness for my mistakes?

for those 19 and above: does it ever get better

/htgwg/ - How to Get Women General #337: >What is /htgwg/? How to Get Women General is by men, for men, about women, so bring all of your questions about getting and dealing with women here. Some anons on this site actually get laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date women, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro. >What is /htgwg/ not? These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, volcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating women is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htgwg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM! >How to ask for advice Context is important: be more specific than "This girl ghosted me, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, this chick was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with the girl? How long have you known her? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question. >Resources and Books https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach) https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612 https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/ https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (Leykis 101) https://dokumen.pub/why-women-deserve-less-firstnbsped-1467978302-r-1917433.html https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating (new suggestions with working links are welcome) REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual women in the real world. Prev: >>34205691

losing your virginity at 23+ stories: Can we have a thread of stories about losing your virginity at 23+? What was it like, and what do you consider key for the first time when you're clearly too old to tell someone it's your first time, even to a girl you're dating (and you don't want to risk sounding too beta on the first few dates)? If your position is "it doesn't matter, just let her know you're a virgin", how do you do it without ruining the moment? Girls in their 20s aren't exactly in sex-teaching mode yet; I'd say it's usually the opposite, based on everything I've heard

Any advice on fucking jeetas? I fucked pic related a few months ago, she was really annoying but eventually let me fuck her. Hottest girl I'd fucked so far, besides being brown. Very sheltered too. She was scared of us being seen together in public. She said her "friends" might see her. I think she was afraid someone might see her with a white guy and honor-kill her. Just super paranoid. Said she liked how confident I was, which was only because I didn't really care about her, just fucking. Anyway I've been wanting to fuck another Indian girl and I don't know where to find them. There's a decent number in my area, but I hate indian food, so indian markets are right out. Convenience stores maybe? I guess I could chat one up a bit, ask her if she likes working there, see if she smiles, then maybe eventually slip her my number. I fantasize about fucking sheltered jeeta females. Any advice?

When is it appropriate to cuss at people like the way Samuel L Jackson would do?

Is it weird for me 19M to find some 16/17F physically attractive? and if so what do you think i should do about it

spergs: I really like this guy I'm always running into around college, but we're both clinical actual spergs and say nothing when we're around each other. I think I might have a chance because his friends leave me alone with him, we text, he always tries to help me out, etc, but it is so awkward irl. I run away whenever I see him because I become very nervous. I know this will probably drive him away. What do?

I am incredibly resentful over having been circumcised. I think about it every day. How does one deal with this level of betrayal?