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My cousin is 30 and told me that he doesn't tell people he's attracted to underage girls because he's scared they won't like him. When people ask him what type of girls he likes, he gets nervous and tells him he's only attracted to women his age.

However, he told me that he's fantasized about fucking underage girls several times before, girls as young as 12. He says he fantasizes about having a little sister (like age 12) and fucking her. He fantasizes about being in a position of authority (like being a high school teacher) and having sex with his female student. He feels attracted to teenage girls, especially if they're virgins.

Is this normal to have these sexual fantasies? He says he doesn't have them all the time, maybe only 20% of his fantasies involve this, he mostly feels attracted to adult women.

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Lost my virginity to girl in pic rel (yes she was pregnant at the time) and now she wants a relationship. She is kind of crazy as you might be able to tell, but otherwise we have a ton in common, she's fun to be around, and it's a little weird but I do enjoy the sex. Do I go for it?
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>>34266380
lmao
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>>34263707 (OP)
God I want to stick my black dick inside that so badly. Come on OP be a good cuck and give her to me.
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>>34267706
She even looks similar.
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>>34263707 (OP)
HELLLLLLL NO
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A single mother?

No, are you fucking retarded?

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Im weirdly attracted to my cousins ass and i dont know what to do.

We spent the last summer on our grandma house on italy together. In a few occassions i gave her massagges and i think she knows she is blueballing me.

I dont know what to do. On one side i want to ask her to show me her ass once. On the other, i really want to forget this feelings towards her.

What can i do?
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>>34267897
I dont really get what do you mean by this hahaha
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Shameless bump
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>>34265694 (OP)
Familial attraction is normal. Acting on it is not. Don't ask to see her ass OP but if ya get a peek... spank bank.
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Just marry her and enjoy shameless life with the girl you like.
What prevent you from marrying your cousin , it is halal in Islam.
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>>34267734
>I think seeing her ass one time would erase this desire for me.

Unfortunately, that's not how it works. If you see it, you're most likely going to want to see more, and then you'll want to do more. It has to stop here.

Tell yourself that there is nothing inherently special about your cousin's ass. Even if it's a good ass, there are many other women out there irl who also have a good ass (who aren't related to you). This kind of thinking works for any girl you want to get over, really. You may think she's special, but there are plenty of other women who are just as special as her.

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I have determined with utmost certainty that passive nihilism is the only logical conclusion of nihilism, however I am still incapable of overcoming guilt which I feel due to the passivity and the self-destruction that follows from it. I wish to accept that it does not matter whether I destroy my life or not but my feeble human mind is incapable of accepting this as the truth, as it still thinks my life is worth something.
How do I convince myself that I am as worthless as an insect and that I am fully permitted to destroy my life for as long as I wish?
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>>34268939 (OP)
You know you can realize nihilism is retarded AND start to live a good life for the sake of it.
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haha white boy first world problems
get a fucking job cracker
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>>34268939 (OP)
Shouldn’t nihilists actually be the people that try the hardest just to prove their own theory wrong or right? Sounds more like defeatism, but i doubt OP has ever tried, so it’s more like ignorance with an pseudo-intellectual excuse for ignorance bc it’s easy
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>>34268948
by being passive and having no will to do anything.
I should ultimately be permitted to do this according to nihilism as it all wouldn't matter one way or another, but my conscience doesn't allow me to.
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>>34268974
It's not that simple like if your sink is broken and you don't fix it then you have a broken sink. Think about all the broken sinks.

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Swore at my neighbour repeatedly because my dad abandoned me.

Now he's pissed off because he's taken it personally because he's retarded.

Trying to ignore it but he clearly wants to "get even" which idk, to him is probably some ridiculous fairytale about how I have abused him repeatedly for months or something.

Yet I have repeatedly in the past given him free shit, written notes to him to explain my situation, nah he doesn't fucking care because he is some foreigner retard who can barely speak english.

What do? Why is he such a cunt?
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>>34268792
>Nobody in human history has ever shot another person in the face because they were deeply wronged by society, it never happens.
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>>34268836
No one said get over it. They said stop taking it out on people. You are either unwilling or unable to practice self control, and worse you're not expressing remorse after losing control.
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>>34268949
I am extremely on edge, and to mention my father, he made a joke to my face about how in my current apartment they hope I don't "smash the place up".

How do you think that makes me feel? To have people who don't know me be that careless with words?
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>>34268456 (OP)
>Swore at my neighbour
>Why is he such a cunt?
>>34268491
>Read the fucking post you fucking retard

Anon you need to calm down and find peace. This isn't to insult you its just you seem incredibly angry at everyone and its probably not helping the situation with your neighbor
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>>34268971
No one is doubting that you have reason to be upset. They're criticizing how you handled it and continue to handle it.

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Recently, I developed a crush on this barista at a local coffee shop. I have a weekend job so I see her every weekend to the point she knows my order and starts making it when she sees me. Since, I'm not very good with interactions I just ask her how her week went, thank her for making my drink and tip her $20!
That's as far as I go, however, I don't want to be seen as the creepy stalker, since some of her coworkers have seen me walk by and if she's not there, turn around and come back later when she's there.
So, is this creepy behavior? Should I stop , because I really don't want to make her feel uncomfortable.
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>>34268904 (OP)
>I developed a crush on this barista
Yeah, that creepy.
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Crushes are for faggots and teenage girls. You either try to smash or forget about her. Simple. don't be a fag.

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I have a unique problem I could use help with. Does anyone else deal with having kinks and fetishes that turn you on TOO much? I've read that PTSD and hypersexuality often go together and I wonder if I need to avoid the topics that make me hyper-aroused. I don't like how turned on I get by it and usually it keeps me in a gooner mindset for days on end if it starts. It's not just porn related triggers, but also stuff that can happen day to day. The amount of lust that I feel can easily feel like 3 to 5 times the amount that I'd normally get and I actually get light-headed and turn feral inside.
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>>34268898 (OP)
I wish coffee didn't make you shit that's like it's only flaw as a beverage
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>>34268936
That's why I do green tea instead. Also alleviates the anxiety.
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>>34268963
But the stones bro
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>>34268973
Every beverage has a price

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Any advice on quitting porn? I spend too much time jerking off and it's eating my life away. I'm not trying to quit masturbation, because I think that it's unreal in my circumstances. I think that If I'll stop watching it, masturbation becomes less enticing.
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like any addiction that has no obvious short term detrimental effect, you need to aim for a reduction of frequency, not for quitting. if you aim for quitting, you are very likely to fall back into it, which will register as a failure to quit, which will make you think you tried and you have no free will over it.

instead, you need to negotiate something reasonable with yourself. for example, once a week. or twice a week to start with. the aim is to set a goal that is easy to achieve while reducing your consumption. it will be easier to not watch porn on a certain day because you know you are goign to allow you to watch porn in the upcoming days.
this will feel like you're succeeding (because you are) which will be a good motivation to not break the rule. but most importantly, you brain will slowly get used to have less porn. this is the real win, because from once a day it's easy to go to once every two days, and if you keep it once every two days for a couple months, it will be easy to go to twice a week. and your brain will get less and less addicted.

remember, it's way better to watch porn once a week than to not watch porn for a month and then fall back into it like you never stopped.
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>>34268667 (OP)
Don't use this site dumbass.
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get a fleshlight and use it without looking at porn, kinda worked for me at least.
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>>34268688
No OP but I stumbled into this thread
I haven't heard of the flying tiger method before.... but now I feel inspired
I didn't have the intention to today, but I think I'm going to try to quit
Thanks man
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>>34268667 (OP)
You will never find the perfect content. All you lose is time. Notice how fast it passes. For what? You will never find the perfect content that does what it promises.

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The world of adults is really phony. I started working last year and I finally got to understand what that guy Holden Caulfield was saying. Everyone lies and sucks up to people to their own advantage, especially the boss. You have to learn to put a good face on people who are boring or annoying. Also people are fucking assholes for no reason. I mean the boss was a fucking cunt and everyone just sucked up to her and put on with her bullshit for her money. How can someone live with themselves knowing everyone just likes them for their money? I guess I've been living in a bubble so I don't understand these things. I genuinely feel like a child among these idiots. I just dont have those skills to suck up to people and pretend like i'm interested in them when I'm not but my job requires me to do it. How do you learn these social skills? I feel like I want to kill myself when I pretend liking someone I don't genuinely. Also I have the social skills of a 15 year old with asperger
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>>34268912 (OP)
You can start by making more interesting threads
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>>34268912 (OP)
>Holden Caulfield
Your mind is infected with memes that will guarantee your unhappiness.
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>>34268912 (OP)
Yup I don't long for my highschool days but I do miss how everyone is on an equal playing field. Like rich people get bullied the same as normal people if they're losers. Funny people are funny, smart people are smart... etc. In the adult world people expect you to suck up to people with resources and 3/10 women magically become solid 7s and 8's and as a guy you can win at life easymode by moneymaxxing.
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>>34268912 (OP)
>How can someone live with themselves knowing everyone just likes them for their money?
It's a dual stratified society. There's these "normal people" where money is everything, and then there's old school boomer types that have surprisingly normal values like "family" and stuff. The money minders like to infiltrate all the time and pretend to be normal. They say things like "everyone has a price." Just don't expect much out of them.
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>>34268912 (OP)
You just see through the bullshit and have trouble accepting that everyone just goes along with it. I'm the same. It just means you're a genuine person. After a while, I learned to just go with it when it's needed. I hate the fake pretend stuff. It's like everyone's playing along, following a script but not saying what they really feel.
It's better to stop thinking too much and just go with it, you'll be happier. I kind envoy people for who it comes naturally, but I couldn't be friends with them, I tend to surround myself with people who think similarly about these things.

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Is it worth cancelling a $10 subscription I don't really need? Will it really make a difference for my finances?
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>>34268934 (OP)
Yeah.
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Call the fuckers and cancel, don't support the cancer economy.
>just one more sub bro

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How do I get women in their late 20s - late 30s as an 18 year old?

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I'm starting one because I want to get it out of my chest.
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>>34268868
Dude you might not look like a loser to yourself but you do to everyone else. Just succeed in your own lane without being obsessive about other people. That's the only reason they think of you anyway.
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put myself into loads of debt, spent four years of my life studying just to get a shit job i fucking hate.
smart cap only for me.
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>>34268889
That's very funny. I don't have people with XY chromosomes that I hate living rent free in my head, hower I am living rent free in the head of someone that never was a friend of mine, despite him having pretended he was for a long time.
And don't make mistakes, I do see myself as the loser I am.
If you have any questions feel free to ask.
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i wish the people i know gave enough of a fuck to ask me how i was doing
i wish i didn't only exist when more interesting people aren't around
feel like i'm falling through the cracks
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>>34268919
It happens sometimes. Do you think it's better or worse than having a talent for something you really don't like doing?

>>34268937
Well, how are you doing?

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I need some advice on how to get back at some people.

theres a person whose been talking shit about me, calling me a bitch, insulting me and the likes. She's been siding with some people who hate me, but to my face she acts like she's a close friend, asking me questions thinking i don't know she's just reporting back what i say.

another person has been doing the same to a similar group, but in a 'double agent' type way, she'll tell me what they're up to so i feel like i can tell her what i'm up to, little did i know she's been repeating everything to this cuckgroup, and one of the members there is my ex.

What should I do next here?
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>>34268100 (OP)
Try being a virtuous person.
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>>34268100 (OP)

The only way to "win" at their game is to be the lesser person.

Don't do that.

Just walk away. The best revenge is a happy life.
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>>34268100 (OP)
Unless you have another group to talk shit about them to, I don't see an easy revenge opportunity here. Fuck what the other person said about "the best revenge is a happy life" that's what losers who can't stand up for themselves say.
I'd call out both of them and just say what you said here then cut em' off. Practice it and know they'll probably try to spin it on you so stay cool and don't get emotional.
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>>34268100 (OP)
You do nothing. There is no winning move in gossip games like this. Anything you say or do in retaliation becomes vindication to the other party. People talking shit about you behind your back literally doesn't matter and anyone worth keeping around already can already discern the truth from being a gossipy fag.

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Been a week on Tinder, have about 50 likes rn. Out of those likes, 30 are matches, the rest are fatties and trannies. Out of those 30, 15 are interested in conversation, the rest never responded to anything. Out of those 15, I managed to date 3 right now. First date went nowhere, we just had a few drinks, some laughs and she went home. No vibe. Second date went surprisingly well, we had fun, kissed she even touched my dick but sex never happened. I drove her home and kissed the fuck out of her. Texted her a few days later and she never responded.

Tomorrow I'm having the 3rd date. I have a big feeling it will go to shit as well. Is something wrong with me or is the dating market done?
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>>34268617 (OP)

3 dates out of 30 matches is a PHENOMENAL success rate for a man on Tinder. 30 matches in one week is, likewise, very good compared to the average. Your experience is already better than the average male on those apps.

That said, you are on Tinder. Most women on Tinder do not know what they want, and mainly use the app for validation. By the time you've liked her and complimented her a few times, your usefulness to her has worn out.
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How old are you and are you still in school?
If you are, date around at school.
If not, you need to go where women are. Join meetups centered around female activities like arts, cooking or whatever is in your area. During breaks talk to anyone and set up dates.
Just make sure you don't sound insecure.
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>>34268617 (OP)
Dating world is kinda cooked ngl.
Women crave novelty and can't commit to shit until they realize they can't support themselves like a man and their looks are fading. I don't trust them for the most part but figure 27-30 is the ideal range for a committed partner. Try to find one that doesn't think getting ran through is empowerment.
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>>34268617 (OP)
Where do you live where you, as a man, have gotten 30 matches in a week on Tinder in the year of our lord 2026?

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I’m 21. Is my hairline receding?
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try baldmaxxing as you age.
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>>34267321
That‘s not a widow‘s peak.
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>>34267314 (OP)
Nah, mine looked like this when i was 16 and still looks the same at 32. Some barbers told me i will be bald at 20yo but i got longer hair than you.
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>>34267314 (OP)
>>34267317
receded*, but let me explain.

All men start with their adolescent hairline. Once you go through puberty, your testosterone increases, and with it, your facial hair grows in, and also your hairline recedes, and you lose your adolescent hairline and get what's called a "mature hairline". Your temples recede, generally, in this process, and you get that more manly look. Most guys get their mature hairline at the end or after puberty finishes (16-23~).

From there, your hairline will either:
>stop receding. These men never bald.
>keep receding, but so slowly it doesn't matter. These are guys who go bald by the time their 80~
>keep receding, but at a fast enough rate that you will lose your hair too young. This is male pattern baldness (MPB)
You have a "mature hairline". You have went through puberty and got your regular expected recession and now look like a man. But right now, it can either keep receding or not, you don't know. What you need to do is watch it like a hawk. Take pictures every month (the top of your head and your hairline), and you need to monitor it and see if it recedes more and if so, how fast. If you notice it recedes further, you can go to a doctor and hop on finasteride. The earlier you spot it, the better.

This is all up to genetics btw. I had a friend who went completely bald at 18 years old. Another that slowly went bald from 18 to 30. I personally... got my mature hairline at about 17, and it just stayed that way forever, never budged an inch. It differs for every guy and it's up to your genetics. The best indicator is your dads/grandpas. If the men in your family are bad, that's a higher chance for you. The rate of recession after you get your mature hairline is also important. Generally, men with MPB lose it quickly after they get their mature hairline, like my friends did. but BEWARE the "norwood reaper". It's when guys don't monitor their hairline and it creeps up on them slowly. Take.. pictures.

good luck
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>>34268935
and if it wasn't implied, you need to watch out for not only recession, but thinning too. Both are forms of hair loss.


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