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How #MeToo Destroyed the Author of ‘13 Reasons Why’
Jay Asher's life was blown up by anonymous comments on a blog post. Now, he is telling his side of the story.
Jay Asher, who wrote Thirteen Reasons Why, says he was guilty of infidelity—but not of the misconduct allegations that ended his career. (Rozette Halvorson for The Free Press)
By Kat Rosenfield
01.21.26 — Culture and Ideas

Kat Rosenfield is a culture writer at The Free Press and the author of five novels, including the Edgar-nominated No One Will Miss Her. Prior to joining The Free Press, she was a reporter at MTV News and a columnist at UnHerd, where she wrote about American culture and politics. Her work has also appeared in Vulture, Playboy, The Boston Globe, and Reason, among others.

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“I instantly went numb.”

Jay Asher is describing the moment he knew his career was over.

It was February 2018, and the rumors had been swirling for days, as a #MeToo reckoning descended upon the world of young adult fiction. At that time, in that world, Asher was a star: the acclaimed author of four novels, including the internationally best-selling Thirteen Reasons Why, which had been adapted into a hit Netflix show that was about to release its second season.

He doesn’t talk about that show now, or about his career as an author. Instead, when he meets new people, he pretends he’s never written anything at all. “I hide that part of me from everyone I meet because it leads to questions,” he told me. “I don’t let myself get into getting-to-know-you conversations anymore.”

All because of accusations made eight years ago, in the comments section of a blog post from School Library Journal, a publishing trade magazine. To be clear: Asher has never been formally accused, in any forum, of harassing or harming a woman—nor ever investigated, let alone found guilty, for such an offense. But he has lost pretty much everything—not just his identity as an author but his agent, his publisher, his livelihood, and his reputation. His marriage is over. He’s been virtually unemployable since it happened, he says (do an internet search for his name and you’ll understand why) and his life savings are gone. And his downfall started with anonymous comments like these:

I find it bizarre and horrifying that nobody has named Jay Asher.

I heard about Jay Asher back in 2005. It is so well known, his agent HAS to know.

People want us to name names. They want to know ”who.” I will say the name from my story: Jay Asher. Happy, now?

I, too, experienced predatory behavior from Jay Asher. . . . When I discovered his true nature, I cut off all communication and tried to warn other women through the whisper network. He found out and used threats and intimidation to quiet me. Well, Mr. Asher, the intimidation stops NOW. We will no longer whisper.

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Kat Rosenfield

Culture writer, novelist, and podcaster. On Twitter at @katrosenfield.

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