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Look into PLMD

Here for the follow up novel!

MVP MVP! 🏆

OP, can you share what you found that you liked? In the same boat and I’m so tired of wasting money on bad mascaras!

ChatGPT predicts Trump 😬 Vote babes!

Leo: Jawline.

My dad is also not my “bio” dad. Let me tell you, in my eyes, that man hung the moon.

I’ve done this through TruDiagnostic. Learned so much about myself and how to best take care of my body.

Babe. He knows it’s you.

I am that girl. She’ll regret it for the rest of her life.

I know Hollywood 5 when I see it

Could’ve written this. I highly recommend joining the FB group “Should I stay or should I go: Kate Anthony” there’s also a book by the same name. Watch the posts for a few weeks and I can almost guarantee you’ll know your answer. Good luck.

Absolutely yes. Your report will be anonymous, they’ll do a thorough inspection before removing children from the home.

Good call. I believe an officer mentioned something about how the captor is usually someone who knows or is close to the family.

Nicole Kidman

It’s a shame you’ll have to end the friendship.

Not ULPT but you can purchase an ultrasonic device

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Love her little shimmy! She’s SO CUTE

You sound similar to my husband and finding out his enneagram number has been life changing. He is a type 5. If you do a Google search for Enneagram quiz, you should find a few to try. Also read each type (there are 9) and see if any stick out to you. Often the description you don’t “want to be” is your number/type.

Hi! Thanks for checking in. :) On the mend, a little bleeding under my boobs (like a tablespoon?) but nothing like before. Hopefully it all goes up from here!

Look up L’Oréal Wonder Water on Amazon and thank me later. Game. Changer. It’s the only I have on subscribe and save and I get compliments every single time I use it.

Not rude at all, happy to answer! According to my doctor, recovery is supposed to be easier and faster. I actually asked for anesthesia, and she made me feel weird for pushing it. "We rarely have patients who request it... it's just not necessary... you'll recover quicker without it..." I'm not sure my recovery was any better without it; in fact, I'd say I had more bleeding than most (see my post history), but I can't say that wouldn't have happened had I gone under. All that to say if it actually is the preferred route, being awake wasn't that bad.

Honestly, I felt pressured by my doctor to go that route. According to her, she rarely uses anesthesia for a breast reduction. She said recovery is generally easier and faster without it, not sure if that's true.

They put up a curtain. I could feel everything other than my boobs. I had Valium before and they gave me Versed twice during the procedure but it didn’t last long. They talked a lot — mostly about politics (that I don’t agree with) so it was kind of my personal version of hell on earth. The worst part was the lidocaine shots and at certain times I could feel the “sawing” not like the actual blade, just the sensation of it. I had AirPods in and planned to listen to a podcast but didn’t end up using them. I was very anxious but kept focusing on the music and my breath.

This is good to read bc my underboob just started bleeding again. Guessing you healed okay and didn’t have to do anything special?

Thank you! Not sure what caused the bleeding but thankfully it seems to have slowed. The doctor doesn’t seem concerned. I plan to call my GP if it starts up again.

I do. My husband is with me this week. It seems to have slowed but I’ll definitely call my GP if it starts up again.

Oh man.. questioning my decision big time after reading this. Thanks for sharing!

Thanks for this! Doing some research now!

Thank you!! Message sent. :)

Oh wow, thank you for taking time to respond, this is helpful! Would you care if I DM you?

Congrats!! I decided to wait until 11/3. Excited to hear how yours goes! Please share!

Oh please post an after pic! We’re boob twins!

Thank you!

Thank you!

Balls are not actually blue.

They close their eyes when they’re listening

But pizza would’ve at least been worth it.

At least we can all get behind unmarried sex.

I once read, “Are you your dream version of yourself?” That stuck with me and so will this post.

Look up enneagram type 5.

Yes, I should’ve mentioned in my post that I’m actually fine with him putting it on me. I told him to do that if it came to it but I would prefer she thinks we share the decision because she’ll care more if she thinks he has a problem with it.

He didn't. This was a bad judgment call on my end. I asked her to come; he told me he had it on his own and I didn't listen.

Our relationship has improved over the last year (because she moved 10 hours away), and I stupidly let my guard down. I know I messed up. Lesson learned.

Her coming to help is completely on me. He is actually VERY hands on — does most of the diaper changes, pickups, bedtime routine, etc. I’m a control freak and thought he’d need the help, he told me he had it on his own and I didn’t listen.

I agree. I told him the dog should’ve never stepped foot in our home and he should’ve said something at the porch. He agreed but said, “You know I don’t like confrontation, I handled it my way.” It then turned into an argument and I pointed out that once again his mother is at the center of a disagreement between us. He doesn’t know how to push back — even when I give him the words.

According to my husband, in her her mind, he’s not aggressive, so it’s not a real problem. Yet when she got to our house she kept him on a leash until the baby was off the floor.. which tells me she KNOWS he’s a threat.

We had a no dogs rule until her golden got sick and was “close to dying” so we allowed the ONE mild mannered dog as a courtesy.

My husband thinks she thinks one dog is okay so she thought she had a free pass. I don’t agree, she knows how we feel about dogs other than the Golden in our home.

This is what I needed to hear, thank you.

I agree. They live hours away. This was a one-off thing but never again.

It's today.. I'm up tossing and turning dreading it. Ugh. 😕

I tried reading a few of the posts to him tonight, and it didn't go over so well. I might print a few for him to read on his own time. Better luck tomorrow. Thanks for the support!

I loled at this but I think it's genius.

You're not too late! The dinner is this Saturday, 9/29. MIL let us know she'd be in town a few weeks ago but she has used Time Pressure in the past. Like when she asked if SILs could drive our SUV to the beach hours before we left. My husband felt like he had to say yes or he'd be the villain. I warned him that she was a bad driver and said I didn't want her driving our vehicle, but he didn't want to upset anyone. That said, I'm going to read your advice to DH, so we know how to deal with this in the future, thank you! She did send a text with three date options, and we said we could do 1 of the 3. She didn't seem too pleased. Oh, well. She knew DH left to go OOT for work yesterday and she's texted him saying she "misses her sweet boy" and asked him to meet on Thursday, too. He declined and said we'd need to stick to Saturday.

As of now, I think we will have dinner, but I will not be talking much if at all. I'm going to talk to DH about having a script to follow and a plan to leave if anything is said. Thoughts?

bad in that they will actively seek ways in which to treat them like shit because they see them as an extension of you.

That's an excellent point. I can absolutely see them doing this to spite me. It's ALWAYS their way or the highway, and they will go out of their way to disrespect my wishes when it comes to religion, food choices, etc.

What burns me up is hearing SIL1 and MIL trash talk SIL2 around her boys. Unacceptable. If they'll talk about SIL2, can you imagine what they would say about ME?!

Good advice, TY!

We tried that this summer during the car incident, and he wasn't able to commit to the script because SIL1 intimidated him. I tried to have the convo with her, and she did the same to me. But, no more. After the summer shitshow, I'm in it to win it. I'll have DH put on his Meryl Streep hat, and we will practice before Saturday.

If you don't mind, I have a few questions for you -

• What's your status with his family now? LC?

• If LC, what do you do to get through the times you have to be around them?

• How have they been with your daughter, is she your first child?

• Is your DH the baby, only son?

• Have they always treated you this way?

And, breathe! Ha. Sorry for the list, it sounds like we have similar situations so I'm hoping to gain some insight from your experiences.

When the car fiasco occurred this summer, I seriously questioned his loyalty. We practiced over, and over, and over again what I wanted him to convey to SIL1 about the situation, and he couldn't follow the script. Like MIL, SIL1 thrives on intimidation, and his passivity/not wanting to confront issues kills him. In his defense, I am a fairly strong person, and I went to talk to SIL1 about the car and had trouble getting the words out myself.

Since that trip, he's been more onboard about standing up to them in the future. The problem is I need to see him in action before I can trust him, but I also don't want to put myself in that situation.

And, yes, therapy is a possiblity. I'm going to discuss that soon, likely after "the dinner" this weekend.

I keep gasping as I read these responses. You all are picking up on little idiosyncrasies without me having to say a word.

SIL2 has 3 kids, and SIL1 and MIL are VERY involved their lives, mostly because SIL2 is a trainwreck. A different story for a different day. It's funny you say their kid because SIL2 once told me that if DH and I reproduce, they will be my kids. I guess implying I wouldn't share with them? What I wanted to say is, "Um, no, you're exactly right, SIL2, you're all batshit crazy, and I don't want you corrupting them." But I replied, "Yeah, you're probably right."

Oh, my! 😮 I am sorry for your loss and that you had to deal with their behavior. They are a piece of work for sure. Is your wife generally happy or do you see similar traits from time to time? I ask because my husband can be a negative nelly but definitely not to the level of my in laws.

Ha. Your dad sounds awesome.

I wondered if my in laws thought it was strange that no friends were there to see them off when they moved. I don't think they care, they enjoy living in their twisted little bubble. I'm slowly trying to get my husband to understand the importance of community through church and making new friends. We're getting there (ish).

How did her family react to your baby news? I'm worried DH and I will be let down, so I'm trying to minimize my expectations now.

Yes! It blows my mind that they choose to be such miserable people. Just be happy and kind?! Shit.

Yes. I have a feeling jealousy is at the root of our issues. If they could only see how easy it could be for us to coexist. Speaking of going behind backs, DH is out of town for work which MIL knows. She's been texting him about meeting up sooner and calling him her "sweet baby boy." 🙄 I'm sure she's using him being away as an opportunity to slide back in and make him like her again.

There have been good times but the bad scarred me. You're probably right, I should have waited. If you remove his family from the picture he is a great husband. They are toxic.

Can he? I feel like my relationship with his family is so important to him because of how close they are. I'm almost positive if I go NC he will resent me in the end.

I think you're right. He'd be willing to try it. I'll bring that up.

He'd be open to it. I believe In therapy and I think it would help. I'll bring that up.

He stood up to the evil sisters during the gas station incident this summer, but in that case, WE had been wronged, not just me.

I don't call her mommy, but the first time I heard him say it, I choked on my water and laughed because I thought he was joking.

You just described my life before every beach trip. Good for your DH for making that call! How did the in laws take you not going? Did you make up an excuse or tell them the truth?

Exactly this.

Nailed it.

We're in the process of TTC. I hear you, and I've had the same thoughts about them influencing our children. However, I refuse to allow them to steal that from me. The good thing is his parents now live 10 hours away. I'm not naive enough to think there won't be issues but I hope they diminish with distance.

It seems like you would have to be horrible like them in order to have their good opinion, but then you would hate yourself.

Yes. MIL and SIL1 get off on being mean and acting like they're the smartest people in the room. MIL loves to tell stories when she chews someone out, and it disgusts me. On the flipside, I think it would crush DH if I went NC. They have always been so close, too close, really. I can't get him to take off the blinders because it's all he knows.

Great advice, thank you, printing it now to reference later. :) If we were to discuss their lack of respect for our marriage what would that look like? Should it happen before we agree to see them again? I'm concerned we will go to dinner and pretend as nothing happened, but my husband and I are also terrified to have a conversation like this with my MIL.