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Gigi Adelaide

September 26, 2025

Honestly fuck my ex ablest bestie who just thought I chose to be traumatised and how I love chaos and how I never get a break, how I’m always in pain, yep, he said I CHOOSE IT. Because it’s just “familiar” THE FUCK CUNT? You have been witness to EVERYTHING. EVERY THERAPY. And people like YOU, make me have to start all over again. The cunt talking shit about me for 9 months and I was the last one to know anything? Came out of left field, all bc that poor white cis creep male that always tries to flirt with girls drunk by playing truth or dare in our 30’s lmao. Cringe. HATES accountability and I literally lost my best friend to alcoholism, cunt pissing blood and doesn’t think he has a problem? Partying 4 days a week? Oh and then hitting girls clits with a belt unconsenting 3 times making me burst into tears and fall face first into the bed. Or was that just me you did that to?

Y’know that white fire pain? Yeah he would have a smile on his face before he knew I could see his reaction. GO FUCK YOURSELF. I hope your plane crashes with only you on it. You are a horrible, terrifying person. You are the epitome of trauma triggers because you unfortunately buddy, use abuse tactics and that makes you not only a physical abuser, but a mental torturer and physiologically dangerous. STAY THE FUCK AWAY FROM ME.

Dr. Glenn Patrick Doyle

September 24, 2025

A common symptom of trauma disorders like PTSD is what we shrink types call a sense of a foreshortened future.

That means we trauma survivors often believe we won’t live all that long.

And, we often believe however long we do live, our life probably won’t be that great anyway.

So, you know, why bother?

People who don’t get the “sense of a foreshortened future” symptom don’t really get trauma.

They’ll often get frustrated by trauma survivors’ lack of hope or optimism— because they seem to assume it’s a choice.

That symptom, feeling that our future will be foreshortened, is not a “choice.”

Believe me, if we had a “choice,” we’d “choose” something different— every time.

Symptoms are not choices. Trauma responses are not choices.

The backbone of optimism is the belief that “I dunno, maybe something GOOD will happen!”; and the backbone of any belief is what we call “references,” experiences in our life that support that supposition that, I dunno, maybe GOOD things will happen?

Do you see why survivors of complex trauma in particular— trauma that was, by definition, prolonged and functionally inescapable— might struggle with optimism?

Why we may not have many of those “references” to draw upon, in creating our vision for the future?

I believe in a trauma recovery model— not a “healing” model, and not even a “therapy” model, per se— because in my experience the concept of a recovery arc built on micro choices and incremental changes gives us survivors the most realistic shot at reclaiming actual hope about the future.

I do not believe in the One Big Thing that restores our hope that things can or will get better.

I believe in learning and understanding how trauma changes our nervous and endocrine systems— and then leveraging that knowledge to make changes WE choose, not that are chosen for us, in tiny, sustainable baby steps.

That’s what I believe in. Your milage may vary.

I no longer believe my life will be foreshortened or of dubious quality. But when I did, it was not a worldview I “chose.”

My recovery worldview, though? You’re goddamn right I chose that— one day at a time.

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I also LOVE how the rubbish that was always strewn over MY LAWN, every week disappeared and never happened again after getting a camera.

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