Women are doing inner work, healing, and this causes a gap, leaving very few options for male partners who have comparable levels of emotional intelligence and self-awareness.

To most women, in relationships with men who avert deep work and self-improvement, this mismatch feels like mothering, managing, leading, and martyrdom.

What are their complaints?

Glad you asked:

" He was cool first, then suddenly sent a D pic."

" His conversations are dry and superficial."

"He said this, and did the opposite."

"He's not assertive or moving this forward. I'm tired of planning, having all the ideas"

"He's emotionally unavailable and doesn't see it."

The women in therapy KNOW they need work. My question is, "Sir, where are you"? Your boys are not therapists. Your mother is not a therapist. Sex is not a therapist. Your lover is not your therapist.

Only you can do the work.