A crash course for new members.

[human909]

Im pretty sure I saw someone on here say they were 12, should i report them?

yep.

 

[killingmyselfcore]

thank you,, i am new to this site ^_^

 

[dyno5000]

Great point. Not sure why being new would prevent you from having access to a basic function such as searching.

Surely going to lead to numerous posts being repeated, gone through the sign up process. And still can't search-who are we competing against with most posts. Seems to take to focus off what a good deal of folks are here for.

 

[29Forever]

Thanks for this

 

[pietruszka]

I guess I'm too stupid to understand how this site works. Everything I click on I'm not allowed to look at. So all I'm seeing is more bullshit and no help. Fuck this. I'll figure it out myself. Surely I can at least kill myself without any outside help. Fuck this site.

 

[Chocoflo]

Vous pouvez ouvrir un ticket ou nous envoyer un message privé, selon votre préférence. Le formulaire de contact ne donne plus de réponse depuis un moment et, aussi absurde que cela puisse paraître, nous n'en comprenons pas la raison.

Bonjour, comment ouvrir un ticket pour remplacer la rubrique contact? Merci

 

[baberty]

I can't figure out how to post

 

[IDontKnowEverything]

I can't figure out how to post

Same
Like, this is the third time and I still can't figure it out either

 

[IDontKnowEverything]

I can't figure out how to post

Ok so ignoring my comment from an hour ago, thought I'd come back and lend a hand just in case.
So you expand the sidebar on the left, you click on forums and then once it takes you back to that list of pages, you should have the make your own post button near the upper left corner.

 

[nomoreme]

hello im new . i thought there was a chat here? is theres any discord ? or anything like it? thanks

 

[krazykat]

Hi folks.

In light of the massive influx of new members over the past months, and acknowledging the issue that navigating and understanding Sanctioned Suicide might initially lead to a few moments of confusion, making a thread to clear some things up seemed like a good idea. Also, since almost all of the hyperlinks from older forum posts magically disappeared one day, the hunt for information could turn out a fair bit more inconvenient than it used to be.

This thread serves the purpose of picking up on the most common questions that aren't sufficiently covered in the main introductory resources. If you still happen to have questions about the structure or functionality of SaSu after reading this post, feel free to comment them below. Before you do so though, make sure to carefully read the Rules and FAQ as well as The Sanctioned Suicide Forum Guide, as questions that have been answered there will not be answered again - with one or two exceptions in this OP, which I will briefly explain when we get there. For 'Chat' users, there is also a guide to Chat functionality here.

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Why do some users have crossed-out names?
This can have one of two reasons:

• The user chose to deactivate their account.
• The user was banned.

What happens to a user's account when they CTB?
In case the passing has been confirmed or there is good reason to assume so, the account will be banned. Should it turn out that the attempt failed or the person had a sudden change of mind, they are free to return to this community and reactivate their account.

Why can't I access private messages, chat or the search bar?
To do that, you need a certain amount of contributions - we can't tell you the exact number. It doesn't matter if those contributions are comments or threads, both count towards the threshold amount. Do not spam low-effort posts though unless that fits in with the nature of the respective thread (e.g. posts asking members to post in one word what they are feeling).

What's the purpose of reactions and what's the reaction score?
You have the option to express sympathy/empathy/etc. with a post by picking from a range of emojis ("reactions"). Likewise you're able to receive reactions to your own contributions. Each reaction will increase your reaction score by 1. This score doesn't really matter as it does not influence your privileges or your status on this site in any way. At most you can see the reaction score as a testament of a user's activity here. There isn't much of a point in competing for the highest reaction scores or using this mechanic to boost your ego. Not a lot of people care if your score is 30 or 30,000.

What's the deal with warnings?
This question has been partially answered in the Rules and FAQ but I would like to extend the explanation. Moderators can warn you for unpleasant activities. Warning points reach from a symbolic 0 to a full 100 (in practice it's usually multiples of 10). Once you hit 100 warning points, you will automatically be perma-banned. However, warning points do expire. The amount of points as well as their expiration date is to be decided by the moderator handing out the warning. If you feel that you have been given an unfair warning, you can reach out to us and we can discuss the matter in a civilized way. The warning will be lessened or withdrawn in the case that it turns out we made a mistake.

Why do some of my posts need moderator approval before being published?
This is most likely because your post included a phrase that is automatically picked up by our filtering system. It may take a while for us to approve the post since we're humans too and can't keep an eye on the approval queue 24/7, but unless you're violating the rules, we will give it green light. We cannot tell you which words cause this preliminary holdback.

Why am I getting a spam message when trying to send some DMs?
Some DMs might be affected by the filtering system which will prevent them being sent. If this happens to you, contact a mod or make a ticket and someone will help you. Privacy is important so rest assured that mods can only see DMs which trigger the filtering system and do not have access to them otherwise.

What do all the acronyms mean?
There is a list of the most common acronyms in the aforementioned forum guide. I would also like to share a more extensive list of acronyms put together by @ksp.

Why don't I have sufficient permissions to view certain member profiles?
This boils down to privacy settings. Each member can choose from multiple levels of restriction to hide their profile page details from others. However - and this is important to keep in mind - your forum contributions will still appear in search results regardless of your privacy settings.

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What else is there to say?

• Suicide Discussion is for suicide discussion. People don't vent there to get bombarded with "it will get better" pseudo-advice, they vent there to feel like their voice is being heard. Don't enter that subforum preaching the beauty of life. Recovery is for recovery. Don't enter that subforum preaching the beauty of death. Offtopic is for everything else.
• In case you find a user suspicious or come across an inappropriate post, make use of the report button. We often randomly come across intolerable content that has been sitting untouched for months, if not years, simply because nobody ever reported it. In the worst case (or best, depending on how you look at it) we can simply reject the report and move on. This includes members that you suspect of being underage, by the way.
• It doesn't matter that my name is listed under forum staff. You can openly question my views the same way you would question someone who isn't a moderator. We may have different opinions and that's totally fine, we don't have to agree on everything. You will not be sanctioned for calling me out (unless you violate the rules but the same goes for me). This applies to all moderators, by the way, as well as to established members with thousands of posts. We all have our little quirks and we all do or say something dumb from time to time. None of us are saints.

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Appendix

Spoiler: scams and assault

Watch out for scammers and predators.
Even in a place like this scams and attempted assault are a thing. Unfortunately not every member acts genuine and plenty do in fact follow malicious intentions. A few common behavior patterns that should raise red flags - both in general terms as well as specifically from past experiences on SaSu - are the following:

• Privately messaging you with the offer of assisting in your suicide under certain conditions. Oftentimes they will claim that they can send you equipment you can't acquire on your own and pretend that they don't have the necessary financial means to pay for it themselves. Another often-used tactic is to pressure you into booking a hotel or Airbnb residence where you are supposed to meet up - you won't hear back from them.
• Stating that they can locate anywhere across multiple countries or offering to cover your traveling expenses to a place they pick.
• Looking for a suicide partner of a specific gender or sex.
• Showing remarkable inconsistencies in their post history.
• Creating an atmosphere of urgency or high emotionality.
• Offering a source for a seemingly impossible-to-find substance (especially Nembutal).
• Engaging in deeply personal conversations with you but requesting transactions via crypto currencies. Of course the preference for crypto doesn't automatically make someone a bad person but this is nonetheless a theme we have observed here several times in regards to this section's topic.
• Persuading you to reveal personal information that you wouldn't share publicly, for example by making up an embarrassing story about themselves or revealing bits of their own personal data (name, location, etc.) and expecting the same from you.
• Claiming to act in the name or under the approval of forum staff.

This is by no means a comprehensive list and neither can any person that meets one of those criteria be labeled malicious right away. Should you one day have the "pleasure" of encountering a person that you deem highly likely to fall under this category though, please take screenshots of your conversations (important: do that before you block the person) and approach the moderators with the issue. If you're more interested in this topic, I recommend looking up scam detection on your search engine of choice, there are numerous resources available on this online.

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Edit history [DD/MM/YY]

[04/01/24] Chat Guide added

[04/04/23] Due to my resignation from the moderator position, I will not be able to edit this post anymore in the future.

[07/03/23] Added a section for detecting scammers and predators, inspired by this thread; minor grammatical changes.

[08/01/25] Added DM Spam Message info

New member here and not sure where to post this question. Just recently I came across a page that had links to a bunch megathreads, but for the life of me (pun intended) I can't find it now. Can't use the "search" function yet.

Sorry if this is something obvious, but where does it exist? Any help would be appreciated!

 

[d34dincid3]

Could this site not be transported to a .onion ?. Glad I found this forum. I have struggled for years. I'm 48 now and everyday is exhausting. I feel like the Greek tale of Sisyphus...

 

[waitin2go]

Staff can correct me if I'm wrong, but it is likely to slow bad actors and spammers from targeting specific users/topics/threads. Many forums use similar precautions to help protect the community.

Just join in the conversation on some threads and after some time and some posts you'll get access as long as you're not actively breaking the rules. If you honestly can't see yourself joining the discussions on various threads go to the off topic section and post in the many game threads to get your post count up. It's not hard and helps the site staff weed out those who shouldn't be here.

As a new member I was perplexed too, but I think it's good because it forced me to go through the stickied and resources first, and most of the answers were already there. Hope mods can explain that in the forum guide
The main link/homepage;

Sanctioned Suicide

A community that discusses mental illness and suicide from the perspective of suicidal people, as well as the moral implications of the act itself.

sanctioned-suicide.net

New member here and not sure where to post this question. Just recently I came across a page that had links to a bunch megathreads, but for the life of me (pun intended) I can't find it now. Can't use the "search" function yet.

Sorry if this is something obvious, but where does it exist? Any help would be appreciated!

 

[EmptyBottle]

Could this site not be transported to a .onion ?. Glad I found this forum. I have struggled for years. I'm 48 now and everyday is exhausting. I feel like the Greek tale of Sisyphus...

http://suicidabvrputryeg3mxdwwtwnv3eqj2koztuaiko5zn5rzodtencnad.onion/ | from https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/onion-site.129820/

 

[Zardoz]

It would be helpful if the Search function was available to new members as it would cut down on repetitive posts for things that may have been asked and answered before. I have a question that I'm a little hesitant to ask as it may have already been asked and answered, so being able to search if there are already threads or posts about this would be very helpful.

I second this. I'm also a new member and wary of posting newbie questions, but unable to search the site.
It's mentioned in the intro guides and a few places to use the search function, but we can't .
Imho it would be very useful for new members to help them find their way around and avoid posting spam/repeat questions.

 

[QuinineGuy]

Thanks for posting this. Very helpful.

 

[sadthoughtangel]

Hi, I'm New!
My question is…
What is username styling? Does each of the options mean something?

 

[before20]

My question is…
What is username styling? Does each of the options mean something?

It used to mean how long you've been on here/how much you've posted, IIRC. Now though, you can just choose whatever color you want your username to be.

 

[sadthoughtangel]

Thank you for letting me know!

 

[blueei]

I also have an old account that has been disabled, this website is not working very well for me, i dont have a search bar or an option to open a ticket
I also have an old account that has been disabled, this website is not working very well for me, i dont have a search bar or an option to open a ticket
I also have an old account that has been disabled, this website is not working very well for me, i dont have a search bar or an option to open a ticket

I also have an old account that has been disabled, this website is not working very well for me, i dont have a search bar or an option to open a ticket
I also have an old account that has been disabled, this website is not working very well for me, i dont have a search bar or an option to open a ticket
I also have an old account that has been disabled, this website is not working very well for me, i dont have a search bar or an option to open a ticket

I dont know why it did it three times

 

[ChrisFromEarth]

Embarrassing but how do I give another reaction than Like for a user e.g. Hug or Heart?

 

[sadthoughtangel]

Another question… I heard that the chat function is called PM. How do you access that? I'm guessing as a new member I don't unlock that immediately. Is there something that I have to do to gain access?

 

[before20]

Embarrassing but how do I give another reaction than Like for a user e.g. Hug or Heart?

If you're on mobile, hold the "like" button for a few seconds, then you can let go to choose from the options that appear. If you're on desktop, you have hover over the like bar (without clicking) for a few sections before the options appear.

 

[Docc]

i might be crazy, but i cannot find the chat (mobile)

 

[JesiBel]

I have a question: about users asking for help privately (PM)

What can be done? Is it against the rules?

I will explain my current situation:

The user asking me for help has trouble interpreting text due to his condition. I tried to explain the threads he shared with me in a simpler way. But he still says he has trouble. I don't know what to do.

Thanks, sorry for bothering.

 

[tanshakti]

I have a question: about users asking for help privately (PM)

What can be done? Is it against the rules?

I will explain my current situation:

The user asking me for help has trouble interpreting text due to his condition. I tried to explain the threads he shared with me in a simpler way. But he still says he has trouble. I don't know what to do.

Thanks, sorry for bothering.

@JesiBel , I am new user and have read your messages replies on hanging Megathread, you provide clarity with simplicity for understanding. I just wanted to share my appreciation for your knowledge and contribution.

 

[EternalShore]

i might be crazy, but i cannot find the chat (mobile)

The requirements for accessing the chat have been increased to be a higher number of posts and time on the site, so that could be why~
On my phone tho, it looks like this in the upper-right-hand corner of the screen~

 

[EmptyBottle]

Fun fact: you can use certain keywords (unquoted) to search SaSu on Google and DuckDuckGo.
"Sanctioned night night" allows night night to be found and "sanctioned suicide skipped ticket process" allows finding the post where I survived a CTB attempt.

Disabling search is almost useless when Google indexes the site.

 

[r.m.216]

Another question… I heard that the chat function is called PM. How do you access that? I'm guessing as a new member I don't unlock that immediately. Is there something that I have to do to gain access?

Same

 

[DeletedUser123xyz]

Does anyone know what the difference is between start chat and start conversation when you click someone's profile?

I pressed start chat and sent a message but I can't find the message anywhere now.