Scarlet Doc

1 - Summary

This doc is a compilation of evidence for Scarlet (@skarletbun)’s predatory behavior. I am Remi (@remi_cubed). Scarlet has abused me sexually, financially, legally, and emotionally over the past 2 years.

In this time, she had full or partial control over my finances, housing, and transportation. She revoked some of these when I pushed back against her behavior. During this time, I was mentally unwell and had made multiple suicide attempts.

I am concerned that she may be targeting others with her predatory behavior, so I am reporting this doc through appropriate channels. This version of the doc has sexual content redacted.

This chapter is a summary of the doc. There is a chapter expanding on each section with evidence and further details.

Sexual Abuse

In early 2024, I met Scarlet, and we clicked really well. I told her I was going through a difficult time in my life. She pushed sexual topics onto me when I was uncomfortable, including the first day we met. We started engaging sexually online.

When my wife and I were about to go homeless, Scarlet offered to let me stay at her house. I accepted because I had no other choice. I told her I was deeply uncomfortable with this, and she told me it would be fine.

After I moved in, I had to rely on her for my essentials – finances, housing, and transportation. If I did something she didn’t like, she could revoke my essentials. Later, she did exactly this. This forced me to act in ways I was deeply uncomfortable with.

Scarlet sexually engaged with me and my wife in-person when she had full power over us.

Living Conditions

My bedroom would flood with sewer water regularly because of a plumbing issue.

  • This would take ~9 months to fix. I kept pushing for it to be fixed and kept getting ignored.
  • The first time it happened, I was not warned, and my PC almost got destroyed.

The house was always a mess.

  • There were bad fly & flea infestations regularly.
  • Pets would poop on the floor.
  • People would not flush toilets or unclog drains.
  • Most people did not clean up after themselves in the kitchen. I was the one to clean up after them.

My private conversations with my wife in my bedroom were eavesdropped on and turned against us.

My room was right next to a smoking room in the house.

  • I could constantly smell weed, vaping, and cigarettes.
  • I tried to drown this out with air freshener, it did not work.

Scarlet’s boyfriend made me deeply uncomfortable.

  • He would seek validation from me and would lash out at me when I didn’t give it to him.
  • He talked about not liking a previous tenant in the house and said he would “punch their teeth out” if he ever saw them again.
  • He accidentally pointed a gun at me before going hunting. When I confronted him about it, he joked about it and dry fired it at the ceiling to show it was empty.

When we brought up these problems to Scarlet or the rest of the house, we were usually ignored or shut down.

  • Before I moved in, Scarlet encouraged me to come to her with my problems, and she always gave me support. This made me emotionally dependent on her.
  • After I moved in, Scarlet would regularly ignore me and argue with me when I brought up my problems to her. This was a completely different side to her, and she only showed it after she had control over my housing.

After moving in, my wife and I were frequently suicidal, and we had made multiple suicide attempts.

  • I brought this up to Scarlet.
  • In November 2024, I blocked Scarlet on Discord and tried to kill myself. Her immediate reaction to being blocked was revoking my access to her car, which was the only way I could get groceries every week.

Financial Abuse

In early 2025, Scarlet, her boyfriend, me, and my wife moved into a better home. Scarlet paid the year of rent upfront, and my wife and I paid half of it to Scarlet monthly.

In May 2025, I released a successful game on Roblox and started making money off of it. Scarlet kept asking me how much money I was making. I showed her. She said that she did not expect me to be successful.

Not long after this, she pressured me hard into buying my own car, so she wouldn’t have to share hers with me anymore. Because of my employment history, my only option was to buy a used car with 100% down payment, which was most of the money I had made from the game’s initial release. I told her this, and I told her I was uncomfortable with it. Scarlet continued pressuring me. I went through with buying the car.

This was the first time in years I had my own source of income. Revenue from games typically spikes around release. Scarlet pressured me into spending most of this money. If she did not do this, I would have had enough money to move out at this point.

Relationship Ending

Because I had some financial independence and no longer relied on her for transportation, I felt safe to push back against Scarlet mistreating me more. I began doing this. For a few months, we would get into arguments about this constantly, and she would rarely compromise.

Eventually, I got sick of it, and ended the relationship. We were still living with each other. I did not have enough money to move out yet.

After this, Scarlet started going through our message history and mass-deleting + mass-scrambling her messages. When I would confront her about it later, she said it was “sexual and personal information” that I was “no longer entitled to”. Most of the messages she deleted were not sexual or personal.

Discord keeps a log of deleted + edited chat logs. These can be recovered through a legal subpoena.

Living Conditions (Part 2)

In August + September 2025, Scarlet started infringing on my living situation. We would get into constant arguments about this, and she was usually uncooperative.

Her brother had stayed over for 2 weeks, and another friend of hers had stayed over for 2 more weeks.

  • We got into an argument about her bringing her friend over on a different date than what she told us.
  • A few hours after this argument, she told us that she was getting a cat. Although we agreed she could get a cat at some point, the timing of this felt retaliatory.

Her behavior constantly made me uncomfortable. In our arguments, I kept trying to de-escalate situations, while she kept trying to escalate them.

Legal Abuse, Stalking

In October 2025, the litterbox odor from Scarlet’s cat was becoming unbearable. I tried to help her get this solved, but, as usual, she was being uncooperative.

The odor made it difficult for me to focus on my work and my leisure time. The odor would start waking me up in the middle of the night.

I told them that if they would not fix her cat’s litterbox odor by the next rent period (which was in 20 days), I would be paying half rent, and I would continue paying half rent every month until it was fixed.

In one message, Scarlet responds to this by saying this is too frustrating to deal with, offers us “free money, no strings attached” to move out, and threatens to sue us for withholding half rent if we don’t take her offer. Threatening to sue somebody if they don’t take an offer is illegal and deeply manipulative.

My wife and I did not have enough money to move out before this point. We had poor credit scores and unconventional employment, which meant most landlords would not take us unless we were able to pay 12 months of rent upfront.

We take the offer and agree on $20,000. My wife and I are frustrated that we’re being forced to drop our lives and move, but we comply.

The next day, in the Discord server for my game, I made a joke about the situation, not naming anybody involved. Scarlet, who is banned from this server, was stalking me there on an alt.

She screenshots my joke, sends it to me, says “This was not the play”, and cuts the offer in half down to $11,000. Cutting an offer in retaliation after it has already been agreed on is illegal.

We proceeded to have another argument about it, and I was able to negotiate the amount up to $15,000.

Feeling Unsafe at Home, Continued Stalking

I confronted Scarlet about her stalking me. She apologized, told me that she felt threatened by me, and was stalking me to protect herself. I believe her, so I try to calm her down (as I had done most times in the past, whenever she said she felt threatened by me). After this, she told me she felt safe.

We started to talk about our past relationship. Scarlet starts telling me how to feel about it. I push back. This escalates into an argument.

  • Scarlet starts gaslighting me about past events.
  • Scarlet blames me for her personal problems.
  • Scarlet calls me “genuinely mentally ill” and “a sociopath”.
  • Scarlet says she hates my wife. My wife has remained a neutral party during all of this.

After this argument, Scarlet announces that she’s removing furniture from the living room that belongs to her. I believe this was to humiliate me. She says she will not take the cookware that my wife uses to cook.

Scarlet continues to stalk me through different venues, despite being confronted about it.

Later in the day, my wife mentioned that Scarlet had also taken the kitchen knives, after saying she would leave us cookware. I started to fear for my life very badly.

I wanted to flee the house, but did not have anywhere else to stay. I wanted to stay at a hotel for the night, but I did not have the money for it. I barricaded my bedroom that night, and had a lot of difficulty sleeping.

The morning after, I left a note on my office door, saying that I am in touch with friends who will call the police if she tries to do anything to us.

Legal Abuse (Part 2)

My wife tells Scarlet I will not be talking to Scarlet moving forward, because I do not feel safe in the house. Scarlet does not address me feeling unsafe. From here, I have my wife speak to Scarlet on my behalf.

Scarlet sends us the contract for her offer. The contract states:

  • “This contract was entered voluntarily” – It was not, she threatened us with a lawsuit if we didn’t take it, which is illegal.
  • “This contract was entered of sound mind” – the day prior to offering us the contract, Scarlet called me a “sociopath”, “genuinely mentally ill” and unpromptedly clarified “This is not meant to be a slight.” This clause was offered in bad faith.
  • Neither party will ever say anything damaging about the other party, even if it’s true information (“non-disparagement”). This was never discussed, and is a massive overstep of the original agreement. Scarlet tries to quietly slip this in the contract without mentioning it.

On top of this, Scarlet was told I feel unsafe in the house, and did not contest it. A contract signed out of fear (duress) can be contested and voided later.

My wife and I signed the contract. We wanted to contest it, but did not feel safe doing so.

The Rickroll Note

Later in the day, Scarlet posted a note up in the house with rickroll lyrics on them (For those unaware, this is an internet meme used to mock people for falling for a trick).

We confront her about this, and she lies about it. We call out her previous lies and tell her to stay professional moving forward. She immediately complies.

I compiled most of this doc at the time of moving out, to protect myself legally. If Scarlet found out about it, I was afraid she would try to kill me to protect her reputation. I had a friend regularly making backup copies of this doc while I was writing it, and I told them to contact the police if they did not hear from me for 2 weeks.

After Moving Out

I told Scarlet that I had compiled evidence of her behavior, and to not contact me again outside of legal purposes.

I am writing this section on November 24th, 2025. It has been a month since I moved out. My mental health has significantly improved. I am no longer regularly suicidal. I have been mostly focusing on my work, and I am moving on from Scarlet.

Over the past week, I have heard through my network that Scarlet has been going around to smaller developers and trying to recruit them for a future project, with intent to offer them employment contracts.

This behavior happening less than a month after her legal abuse against me has me deeply concerned for the safety of others. I am worried she is escalating her predatory behavior quickly. I am reporting this doc now to warn others about her behavior.

2 - Sexual Abuse

~2018

Previous Relationship

Around 2018, Scarlet and I were in a private Discord community. I used to moderate for it, and we were both active there. At some point, she was going through a hard time in her life. I reached out to her and helped her through this, leaving a positive impact on her. Afterwards, I left the server, and did not keep in touch with her.

Jan 17, 2024

Meeting Scarlet

Scarlet finds I have a Discord server for a project I’m working on and joins it. We get reconnected and start talking. (She’s deleted her messages here)

We click really well, I give her my personal account, and we spend the entire day talking. She’s very easy to open up to, and I was going through a hard time in my life, so I opened up to her.

Later in the day, I started getting confusing feelings about her and mentioned it to her.

Pushing Intimate Topics on Me

She immediately asks if I’m in love with her, and then says she’s open sexually. Keep in mind we’ve only been talking for 1 day. I feel guilty and uncomfortable, so I apologize.

Jan 19, 2024

Scarlet acknowledges I came from a vulnerable background.

For further context on my background:

I came from an abusive household, had undiagnosed health issues that made me depressed and suicidal for most of my life, and has a bad history with abusers on Roblox (Explode1 was one of them). My wife (Vivi) and I saved up some money so we could move in together and escape my family. Her family did not have space for me to live there long-term.

My wife and I were doing fine in our new home, and then we lost our jobs. We kept trying to bounce back from that and failing. This led to us not being able to pay rent, selling our car to make ends meet (in a neighborhood where you need a car to get anywhere), getting eviction threats from our landlord. We thought we would end up homeless soon. I would have rather died than returned to my parents’ home.

I confronted her about pushing intimate topics onto me. I showed her boyfriend our conversation and even he was confused by her behavior.

Jan 20, 2024

After sorting my feelings, I told her that I felt a sisterly bond towards her.

She keeps bringing up sexual topics around me even though I told her I was uncomfortable with it. Eventually, I just let myself give in because I started to feel safe.

Scarlet admits she’s been sexually attracted to me “even when it was inappropriate” in just 4 days of us talking.

Jan 22, 2024

Scarlet calls me her sister.

Over the next few weeks, we end up engaging sexually. (Jan 23 - March 10, 2024)

Feb 9, 2024

Scarlet makes an offer for me to move in with her only ~20 days after we started talking. She doesn’t acknowledge the absurdity of this.

Mar 18, 2024

Scarlet constantly asserts herself as the most trustworthy place for my problems.

Mar 19, 2024

I accepted her offer ~40 days after she gave it to me.

Mar 20, 2024

I was deeply uncomfortable with moving in and tried to avoid it at all costs, but felt I had no other options.

Again, Scarlet tries to soothe all of my worries.

April, 2024

We move in at this time. Conversations moved mostly from Discord to in-person. From this point, Scarlet and her boyfriend’s family had most control over our living situation, finances, and transportation. My wife would eventually get a job and I would be allowed to drive Scarlet’s car.

Scarlet and I started engaging sexually very soon after I moved in.

3 - Living Conditions

Apr 2024 - Feb 2025

We move in at this time. Conversations moved mostly from Discord to in-person. Some later chatlogs would reference these in-person conversations. Some chatlogs were in a group chat that has been deleted (if needed, I believe these can be subpoenaed in court). Because of all this, this section has been formatted non-chronologically. You can see the timestamps of chatlogs in the screenshots for them.

From this point, Scarlet and her boyfriend’s family had most control over our living situation, finances, and transportation. My wife would eventually get a job and I would be allowed to drive Scarlet’s car.

We didn’t have a car, so Scarlet had to take us to get groceries, furniture, documents, etc. to get set up in our new home.

Flooding

2 weeks after moving in, our room started flooding because of recurring plumbing issues we weren’t told about. My PC almost got destroyed, and my bedroom smelled like sewage. Others in the house were standoffish and hostile towards us for being upset about it. I came to Scarlet for help and she snapped at me.

Scarlet confirms this in a chatlog months later.

The flooding continued to be an issue for months and badly impacted our mental state. We kept trying to ask people in the house to fix it (we wanted to fix it ourselves, but it wasn’t our house to mess with). They ignored us even though they had ample free time to do it. We kept paying for supplies to fix it. This made us feel unwelcome in the home, but we had nowhere else to go.

Insults

Someone in the house I didn’t know was calling me a bitch.

Scarlet’s boyfriend’s brother called me a “black hole” behind my back, saying I “just take and never give anything back”. He also kept complaining about his family taking in new tenets.

Eavesdropping

Scarlet’s boyfriend’s brother eavesdropped on a conversation my wife and I were having about her employer (me saying that her boss “is holding her back”). The brother assumed this was about his family, and reported it to the rest of the house. Tensions escalated very fast, but got resolved later.

Indirect Threats

In Summer 2024, Scarlet’s boyfriend at one point was talking about a past tenet at his house that he disliked, saying that he’ll “knock their teeth out if they ever return,” in an unusually serious tone. This felt like a threat to me.

I reference this a year later. Scarlet did not know about this at the time.

Accidentally Pointing a Gun at Me

In Autumn 2024, Scarlet’s boyfriend accidentally pointed a gun at me when he was about to go hunting with his dad. I mentioned this to him. He joked it off and dry-fired the gun at the ceiling to show it it wasn’t loaded. This is bad gun safety.

Messy Kitchen, Fly Infestation

The home had bad fly problems because nobody took care of the kitchen.

I ended up cleaning the kitchen daily for a few months. I kept telling people to not leave open containers for flies, but was ignored. I eventually wrote it on the whiteboard in the kitchen, and it was immediately erased and never addressed.

Smoking Odor

My room is right outside a smoking room that most of the house uses frequently. I constantly have to deal with smells from weed, vaping, cigarettes. I have a highly sensitive nose, so this drives me crazy.

Nov 13, 2024

I am struggling a lot in the house and wish I wasn’t there, but have nowhere else to go. Most of the time I’m just stonewalled by anyone when I try to talk about it.

I got deeply frustrated with the lack of support, so I block Scarlet and try to kill myself. Scarlet doesn’t ask about why I blocked her, and instead retaliates by revoking our access to her car (the only transport we have). After learning this, my wife tries to kill herself.

In a private Discord server I am not in, Scarlet vented about this and confirmed her intent to revoke access to her car. She confirms she is leveraging our essentials to be treated differently than how I am comfortable with treating her. She acknowledges my wife is “getting caught in the crossfire” but does not make any accommodation for her.

Jan 16-22, 2024

Around this time, Scarlet was talking about having me, my wife, her, and her boyfriend move out into a new home together.

Scarlet’s boyfriend and I regularly get into tense situations. He keeps wanting me to praise him for doing things wrong and gets mad when I don’t. He also gets mad when I try to help him improve himself.

Scarlet’s boyfriend keeps asking me to be transparent with him, and every time I am, he lashes out at me.

Eventually, he lashed out by revoking his agreement that Scarlet and I can engage sexually, which I was deeply emotionally dependent on while struggling with living in the house, and with my wife’s workplace having her work ridiculous overtime hours.

This stresses me out to the point where I have a really bad headache and have to air my frustrations. I say that I can’t move out with her boyfriend – I was trying to hold this back as much as I could, because I knew this was my only chance for better housing, and I wish I didn’t say it.

Scarlet pushes back against this and revokes her offer to move out together. This would leave me stranded in a house I am already uncomfortable in. My wife and I do not have enough money to move out at this time.

I start freaking out and try to explain my frustrations hoping it’ll lead to a productive talk.

Scarlet doubles down on revoking the offer.

I have another breakdown the next day, Scarlet doesn’t respond to this.

I talk about my dependency on others and how much I’m struggling with my wife doing an incredible amount of overtime.

In Summer 2024, Scarlet and I had a falling out for a month while I was living in this house. I kept trying to bring up my issues to her and she would start shutting me down. I tell her that I don’t bring up my issues as much because I’m scared of losing access to her again. She acknowledges the power dynamic of me relying on her, but her not relying on me.

4 - Financial Abuse

May-June 2025

In May 2025, I released a successful game on Roblox and started making money off of it. Scarlet kept asking me in-person how much money I was making. I showed her. She said that she did not expect me to be successful.

Not long after this, she pressured me hard into buying my own car, so she wouldn’t have to share hers with me anymore. She was asking us for timelines on when we would have this resolved. These conversations happened in-person and across a deleted group chat.

Because of my employment history, my only option was to buy a used car with 100% down payment, which was most of the money I had made from the game’s initial release. I told her this, and I told her I was uncomfortable with it. Scarlet continued pressuring me. I went through with buying the car.

5 - Relationship Ending

Some conversations here took place in a group chat that has been deleted. I believe these can be recovered via subpoena.

Some conversations here were mass-deleted and mass-edited by Scarlet. I believe these can also be recovered via subpoena.

Aug 2025

Discussing falling out

Scarlet and I talk about our falling out and our relationship. The main points are:

  • My side
  • I was frustrated by being led on – she kept saying she cares about me, and then she would routinely neglect me or push me away when I needed her help the most.
  • I was frustrated how defensive and retaliatory she would get whenever I came to her about a problem I was having with her (especially when our power imbalance was very severe).
  • Scarlet’s side
  • She felt overwhelmed by the responsibility that our relationship came with
  • She didn’t think it was worth it for her anymore
  • She didn’t trust me anymore because:
  • She felt threatened by me
  • I would get cold to her when I felt she was mistreating me (this only started after she stopped having financial control over me).

We both said that we had felt heavily underappreciated.

We took a break from talking for a few hours. I gifted her a giant plushie as a sign of good will during this.

At the start of our relationship, she had promised me we were “sisters for life.” I emotionally attached to this very hard, because of my bad history with my family. She revoked this when I asked her to clarify it at the end of our talk. This made me very bitter.

Ending the relationship

I concluded that Scarlet would not put in the effort I needed from her to fix our relationship. I brought this up to her, she confirmed, and I ended our relationship.

6 - Living Conditions (Part 2)

Spring-Summer 2025

Scarlet wanted to have her brother stay over for 2 weeks in August. She was going to go on a business trip (RDC) after that, and in September, she wanted to return with a friend staying over for 2 more weeks. We approved when our relationship was better.

Scarlet also wanted to get a cat for her boyfriend. We also approved this when our relationship was better.

The above conversations happened in-person.

After our falling out, I reached out and clarified to Scarlet that we were still fine with her people coming over, even though we were uncomfortable with it. The falling out happened right before her brother would be coming over, travel plans for Scarlet and her friend were already finalized and booked. We did not want to be unfair to them, so we accommodated them.

I had also told her to “leave us alone and we’ll leave you alone. If you mess with us, you won’t like the outcome.” She said OK. This will be explained in a few sections.

This conversation happened in a deleted group chat.

Aug 20, 2025

De-escalating tension

While her brother is staying over at the house, my wife noticed they both looked uncomfortable. Scarlet would later say this was because she felt threatened by what I said. I reached out to her to calm her down and try to resolve our falling out.

This conversation took place between the deleted group chat, and later, my direct messages with Scarlet. She has scrambled her side of the conversation.

Discussing threat

Scarlet is frustrated and afraid of how I worded what I said.

Later, I would explain that I said this because I felt threatened by something her boyfriend had said roughly a year ago when I was living in his house. Scarlet and her boyfriend’s family had a lot of control over our living situation, finances, and transport. I was also frustrated with his behavior at the time.

With all of this going on, Scarlet’s boyfriend had talked about a previous tenant at their house he disliked, saying he’ll “punch their teeth out” if they ever showed up again. This felt like a threat to me.

Even after I clarified this, Scarlet would go on to say she was still afraid of me physically hurting her.

Sep 13, 2025

Scarlet coming home early

After our relationship ended, I felt deeply uncomfortable being around Scarlet, so I was asking her for dates on when she would be away for trips and when she would return, so I could make plans around that. Scarlet came home a day earlier than she said she would and did not communicate this to us.

She had also brought a friend over to stay for a few weeks, who we did not know. We did agree to this in advance.

Sep 14, 2025

Waking up to Scarlet being home early

My wife and I were frustrated by this. I reached out to Scarlet (in the deleted group chat) telling her that it was her responsibility to tell us that she was coming home early. I told her we were frustrated.

She said she didn’t know it would be a big deal. I told her “it is a big deal when I’m deeply uncomfortable around you and you’re bringing a stranger into my house.” She did not respond to this.

I had gotten fed up with her never taking responsibility for hurting me and decided I didn’t want to be on neutral terms with her anymore. I told her “fuck you” and left the group chat.

She responded a few hours later being frustrated that I wasn’t more accommodating to her. Throughout the aftermath of my falling out with Scarlet, I:

  • Did not revoke agreements we made that I was now uncomfortable with that massively impacted our daily lives (having her brother over, having a friend over, getting a cat).
  • Minimized interactions with her, her boyfriend, and her guests.
  • Minimized discussing our discomfort while her guests were over and while she was away on her trip.
  • Reached out to her when she looked uncomfortable in the house.
  • De-escalated tension and calmed her down when she said she felt threatened.
  • Tried to resolve our relationship issues.
  • Gave her an expensive gift as a sign of good will.
  • Gave fast and clean closure to our relationship when it was clear it wouldn’t work out.
  • Left her alone afterwards, save for discussing household issues.

She wanted me to say sorry to her for being sick. She also accused me of being “the #1 aggressor for everything.”

We had an argument about how she has not been good to me, so she shouldn’t expect me to be good to her anymore either. I told her to just respect my boundaries, and she said OK.

Getting a cat

Scarlet let us know a few hours after this argument that she’ll be getting the cat on that same day.

To me, the timing and suddenness of this right after our argument felt deeply provocative. They did not need to get the cat immediately after our argument. I believe a person acting in good faith would wait for tensions to cool down before getting a pet.

I did not want to argue about it or be unfair to them after we agreed that them getting a cat was fine, so we just said we weren’t OK with their cat being in shared spaces anymore. This led to another argument.

Oct 13, 2025

Cat Litter Odor

We could smell their cat litter odor since they got the cat. As it was getting into colder months, it got worse. I have a very sensitive nose, so it started to be deeply disruptive to me.

We asked them to buy a zero odor cat litter. Scarlet says they’ll do it after their current litter runs out. Vivian is my wife, for context.

We assume they’re not taking this issue seriously, so we offer to buy it for them.

In person, Scarlet’s boyfriend and my wife talk. Scarlet’s boyfriend is being flaky about the cat litter and is asking us to just open our windows if we can smell it. My wife keeps pushing back, Scarlet’s boyfriend eventually agrees to replace the litter.

Scarlet’s boyfriend goes back and forth on replacing it and is indecisive.

I ask my wife to add me to the group chat, because I am frustrated with how slowly this is moving.

Note that even after buying litter for them, it took a full day of spotty discussions and us pushing them on it for them to even begin properly resolving this issue. The cat is their responsibility, we should not have to go this far to have it resolved in a timely manner.

7 - Legal Abuse, Stalking

Oct 16, 2025

Cat Litter Odor

3 days after our previous talk about it, the odor was making it difficult to focus on my life, so I wanted to give them a fair timeline to resolve the issue and fair consequences if they didn’t, because I do not trust them to prioritize it themselves.

I described how disruptive it is for me, and told them we’re going to be paying half rent until it’s resolved (the first deadline for this would have been ~20 days after this message, we usually pay rent around the 7th of each month. Our Cashapp history can prove this).

Moving out offer

Scarlet reacts by saying this issue is too frustrating for her to deal with, and offers to give us “free money, no strings attached” to move out instead of dealing with it. She also threatens to sue us if we don’t take her offer (which is illegal). We would either have to accept they do nothing about the odor or risk a lawsuit for holding them accountable to it. Tension in our house is already high when she sends this message.

Discussion of offer

We calmly accepted the offer and started discussing the details.

My wife and I were in an awkward period with me recently starting production on a new game and her starting a job next week. We’re frustrated that this is dropped randomly on us and we’re being pushed to figure it out as soon as possible, but we don’t mention that.

Oct 17, 2025

Retaliatory slashing of offer

Scarlet sees a message of me mocking the situation in my fan server (that she only has access to because she’s stalking it on an alt- see the stalking tab). The message upsets her and she slashes her offer in half in retaliation.

In the message I sent, I did not name her or her boyfriend when I was talking about it, I only said “my roommates”. I had felt frustrated by the unfairness of the cat litter situation and was trying to joke about it with some fans of my game to make it easier to get through.

Argument over slashing

This frustrates me deeply and we get into a long argument. You can see the full argument under the “7a - Slashing Argument” tab.

I confront Scarlet for her behavior, and manage to renegotiate the offer back up to $15,000, which is still less than what she offered initially.

Scarlet justifies this by saying it damages her reputation. When pushed on it, she admits it was mainly because it made her feel insulted.

Addressing threats

Scarlet unreasonably assumes that the only real leverage I have over her is physical violence, despite us arguing about me leveraging rent a few minutes prior.

I have never touched Scarlet without her consent. I have never approached Scarlet in-person with intent to intimidate her. I have never made direct threats to physically hurt Scarlet.

Whenever I have been angry at Scarlet, I go out of my way to avoid her, for my own mental health. For nearly a month before this point:

  • I had minimized going into shared spaces (living room, kitchen) because I did not want to risk seeing Scarlet, or even hearing her muffled voice through her door down to the basement.
  • I would send my wife on my behalf to get food for me from the kitchen.
  • When I did have to go through shared spaces, I would try to rush through them, stay close to walls, and keep my back facing where people would normally be.
  • I told my wife to meet me outside whenever we were meeting up to go out, instead of meeting up in the living room like we used to.
  • Whenever I re-entered the house, I would take a second to mentally prepare myself to open the front door.

Repeatedly, even when tensions were high with Scarlet, I have demonstrated that I try to de-escalate and resolve problems when they come up. When I can’t resolve them, I try to remove myself from them, even at great discomfort to myself. When I do escalate problems, it’s strictly what I believe is necessary to protect myself.

When I was deeply frustrated with Scarlet and my own life, I had made multiple suicide attempts. I had not even informed her of some of these suicide attempts. If anything, this should consistently demonstrate to her that I would sooner end my own life before physically hurting Scarlet.

Stalking with an alt

I had banned Scarlet from my fan server on Discord after a bad argument.

She rejoined weeks later under an alt to stalk me.

I checked the save data for the Roblox user it was linked to via Bloxlink (a Discord verification bot that links Discord accounts with Roblox accounts). The account had no playtime on the game they joined a fan server for.

I put this up on my door.

I made my Discord bio “stop fucking stalking me” for the day.

7a - Slashing Argument

The screenshot Scarlet posted was taken through her stalking me on an alt in my fan server. See more in the stalking tab.

8 - Feeling Unsafe at Home, Continued Stalking

Oct 18, 2025

Confronting Scarlet about stalking me

I approached Scarlet because she told me she felt threatened, and to confront her about stalking me.

This conversation escalated into an argument. You can see the full argument under the “8a - Oct 18 Argument” tab. In this argument:

  • Scarlet starts gaslighting me about past events.
  • Scarlet blames me for her personal problems.
  • Scarlet calls me “genuinely mentally ill” and “a sociopath”.
  • Scarlet says she hates my wife. My wife has remained a neutral party during all of this.

Revoking shared furniture

After this argument, Scarlet said that she and her boyfriend will be taking everything in shared spaces that belonged to them down to their room. This included the table for our wifi router. This reads as unreasonable and intended to humiliate us.

They also took down a TV that my wife and I were logged into for some streaming services (YouTube, Netflix, etc.) without asking us to log out or saying that they logged us out.

Continued Stalking

Later in the day:

  • I noticed her Discord status was mocking my mental health- “🤓 I’m doing DARK therapy!”
  • I believe this was meant to provoke me after our argument.
  • Scarlet normally does not put up Discord statuses, let alone ones referencing our conversations.
  • I changed my status to “do you think provoking me is a good idea? save it for later”.
  • Within 3 minutes, she removed her status.
  • This made me panic, because it made me think she was actively stalking me after being confronted about it.
  • I blocked her a few minutes after.

Scarlet taking kitchen knives

Later, I learned that they had taken down their kitchen knives that we use to cook, after saying they would leave their cookware for us to use.

I started feeling unsafe

The combination of her ignoring my stalking boundaries and taking their knives made me panic really badly. I wanted to leave the house to sleep somewhere else at night, but I didn’t have anywhere else to go, and money was too tight for a hotel. I ended up barricading my bedroom.

Oct 19, 2025

My second note

I put this note up on my door the next day.

I also made my Discord bio “see the note on my door” for the day.

My wife mentioned in the house group chat that I won’t be talking to Scarlet anymore because I feel unsafe around her.

8a - Oct 18 Argument

9 - Legal Abuse (Part 2)

Oct 19, 2025

With the recent events of the past few days, there was a lot of tension and escalation in the house.

Bad Faith Clauses

Scarlet shows us a contract draft to run it by us. Inside are 2 problematic clauses I would like to highlight. We felt unsafe contesting them, because we believed she would mess with us further if we did, so we agreed.

“Voluntary Agreement”

The contract was not entered voluntarily, because it was backed up by a threat to sue us over an unrelated matter if we did not take the offer (mentioned above). This reads as bad faith.

“Sound Mind”

The previous day (in the Oct 18 argument tab), Scarlet called me “genuinely mentally ill.” She also clarified that this is “not meant to be a slight.”

Additionally, she called me a sociopath.

The next day she runs a contract draft by us which would claim I am “of sound mind”. This reads as bad faith.


        Non-Disparagement

Although it was agreed upon that we would not talk about the conflict in the house while it was ongoing, it was never discussed that we would not make any disparaging statements about them. This has nothing to do with the offer we had discussed. Disparaging statements could mean anything that depicts them in a bad light, including objectively true information.

This is a large overstep that Scarlet tries to quietly slip into the contract, especially considering her history of abusing me and her (at the time) ongoing stalking behavior. I felt unsafe mentioning either of these publicly at any point in our relationship, because Scarlet had full or partial control over my housing, finances, and transport. I believe Scarlet knew this and leveraged this.

I would feel safe mentioning her misconduct when she no longer had control over my essentials. I believe Scarlet also knew this, and was trying to protect herself with this clause.

Duress Signing

In response to the contract draft being offered, my wife mentions to Scarlet that I do not feel safe in the house anymore. Scarlet responded to the rest of the message, meaning she read this part and chose to continue with the contract offer.

This contract was signed under duress, which we communicated to her, and she had no problem with that. A contract signed under duress can be later voided.

10 - The Rickroll Note

Oct 19, 2025

Her rickroll note

After we signed her contract, Scarlet posted a note with lyrics to Never Gonna Give You Up on her door, which was visible to us from the kitchen. This is a song that has a reputation for mocking people for falling for a trap. Although I cannot speak to the intent of it, the timing of this reads as her mocking us for believing she trapped us in a bad faith contract.

Confronting her about her rickroll note

To write this note, she had to plan it out, leave her room, go into the kitchen drawers where we keep post-its and a sharpie, write out a full verse of Never Gonna Give You Up, put the post-its back in the drawer, and put this up on her door for us to see.

Scarlet implies her taking her status down 3 minutes within me posting mine was a coincidence. She also said that she closed our DMs (so she wouldn’t be able to see my status or that she was blocked) after talking.

She tries to explain her frustration to my wife. She says “I don’t know if you got a chance to read our conversation” (the Oct 18 one). In this conversation she had said that she hates my wife, who has been a neutral party in all of this.

My wife brings up Scarlet’s recent history of lying. Scarlet immediately changes her tone and the conversation ends.

For the rest of my time living at that house, I set my Discord status to invisible and tried to minimize leaving my rooms.