"health at every size" doesn't even mean "every body of any size is healthy". it's about healthcare access, this is easy to google and seems ridiculously uncontroversial to me
why yes i do think someone who's 1200 pounds fat and can't walk or clean themselves deserves healthcare access, even if they don't want to lose weight, even if they got that fat on purpose, even if they want to get fatter. fat people deserve comfort and health at any size it's pretty simple
We reread the manga a lot, so my hot take on Shadow is that he’s not secretly a good guy the whole time, nor like a fully evil dude who never cared about Vio. He;
- Only recently come into existence.
- Is somewhat distanced from the unusual constraints of mortality and the physical world. (My guy is CONSTANTLY, casually ignoring gravity and only light really seems to hurt him.)
- Is jealous of what Link gets to have. (Acknowledgment! Human connection and pride in what he is!)
- Has his initial goals outlined by Ganondorf and Vaati. (Taking over the world and crushing your enemies is good and fun, Shadow! Of course that should be his ambition even if he discards his masters!)
- Is reasonably anxious and precious about an artifact that literally keeps him alive.
- (While paradoxically being super willing to show off the precious because he’s also a dramatic bastard who wants to display how cool and powerful he is at every opportunity ever.)
Part of the point of him is that even though he’s been set up to be an evil villain bastard, he’s capable of doing better, right? Hence why he chooses to smash the mirror.
So when he does does stuff like “doesn’t ask if Vio is okay after a literal death battle,” I get the feeling that it’s less about “never cared about Vio” and more about “doesn’t find it intuitive to consider how this would physically or emotionally affect Vio.”
My man does not know what a healthy friendship is, but he craves being seen!
Which really sets him up for failure when the first person he gets close to comes from the enemy side. Of course he’s gonna have a weird, hot-cold relationship there — the heroes are supposed to kill him. Of course he’s going to mistake the coercive situation he put Vio into for actual friendship — Shadow set it up so that he felt safe, and he has no idea where Vio’s coming from emotionally.
(Vio, however, seems to understand where Shadow is coming from by the end of it all.)
Ultimately, what Shadow knows during the mirror confrontation is that he went to a lot of pain to test Vio’s loyalty by his own twisted standards, and Vio betrayed him anyway.
None of this dismisses his actions.
But it does explain him from a perspective with more dimension than just “of course Shadow acted monstrously; he is one.”
IMAGINE LIVING LIKE A KING SOMEDAY
A SINGLE NIGHT WITHOUT A GHOST IN THE WALLS
WE ARE THE SHADOWS SCREAMING
WE'D RATHER DIE THAN LIVE
TO RUST ON THE GROUND
-Pierce the Veil, "King for a Day" ft. Kellin Quinn
I really think we should see more of that dragon. There was only one appearance or something and that's really sad because dragons are super cool :(
pixar really made 2 movies back to back about how when children lie to or run away from their parents it's the parent's fault always for not believing in the agency and autonomy of a child and also the children are non-human beasties who have to reclaim their animalistic forms for themselves. and then they made lightyear
peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellyconarcoinFollowjust saw the word "homoandrophobia". ok come on now guysconarcoinfeel free to stop literally wheneverconarcoinconarcoinstoryweavingspiderThe fact that crackers are doing to “intersectionality” what they did to “woke” pisses me off so much tbh. Black people will create words and technologies for the liberation of not just us, but all the oppressed, and the second the ambient fascism levels go up they start queering Fox News talking points of “you know who’s REALLY oppressed these days? The WHITE MAN!”And because the ambient fascism levels are up, people are just.. letting them do it? They’re scared that challenging the proliferation of antifeminist, antiliberatory views on a fucking website will have worse effects on them than the re-establishment of a modern queered antifeminism, a queered white supremacy. I fuckin hate this timeline 🫠 3,1694,337
peanutbutterspoonReblogged batmanisagatewaydrugtechnofeudalismFollowi think the near-extinction of people making fun, deep and/or unique interactive text-based browser games, projects and stories is catastrophic to the internet. i'm talking pre-itch.io era, nothing against it.there are a lot of fun ones listed here and here but for the most part, they were made years ago and are now a dying breed. i get why. there's no money in it. factoring in the cost of web hosting and servers, it probably costs money. it's just sad that it's a dying art form.anyway, here's some of my favorite browser-based interactive projects and games, if you're into that kind of thing. 90% of them are on the lists that i linked above.A Better World - create an alternate history timelineAlter Ego - abandonware birth-to-death life simulator gameSeedship - text-based game about colonizing a new planetSandboxels or ThisIsSand - free-falling sand physics gamesLittle Alchemy 2 - combine various elements to make new onesInfinite Craft - kind of the same as Little AlchemyZenGM - simulate sportsTamajoji - browser-based tamagotchiIFDB - interactive fiction database (text adventure games)Written Realms - more text adventure games with a user interfaceThe Cafe & Diner - mystery gameThe New Campaign Trail - US presidential campaign gameMoney Simulator - simulate financial decisionsGenesis - text-based adventure/fantasy gameLevel 13 - text-based science fiction adventure gameMiniconomy - player driven economy gameCheckbox Olympics - games involving clicking checkboxesBrantSteele.net - game show and Hunger Games simulatorsMurder Games - fight to the death simulator by OrteilCookie Clicker - different but felt weird not including it. by Orteil.if you're ever thinking about making a niche project that only a select number of individuals will be nerdy enough to enjoy, keep in mind i've been playing some of these games off and on for 20~ years (Alter Ego, for example). quite literally a lifetime of replayability.technofeudalismsince this post blew up, i've been wanting to do an addition with all of the recommendations from the comments and tags. but there's a lot of them. some people might be crazy enough to sit down and seriously put them all in one post with descriptions. those people are honestly sick in the head.anyway, here's all of the recommendations from the reblogs. not all of them are text-based, but it's a great mixture of styles. also don't forget the links in the second paragraph of the OP which will take you to FMHY where there are a bunch more games listed.GamesA Dark Room - text-based science fiction role-playing game.corru.observer - science fiction adventure web game.Improbable Island - old-school text adventure game.Candy Box 2 - incremental clicker game that evolves into RPG.Arcanum - open source wizard clicker game.sandspiel, Powder Game, Powder Game 2, The Powder Toy - more sand physics games.Orb.Farm - fishtank simulator.Façade - experimental game with a real-time interactive narrative where you try to fix a failing marriage.The Catacombs of Solaris - trippy art game.Yume Nikki Online - online version of the surreal classic plus fangames.The Barncle Goose Experiment - combine element/alchemy game based on antique theories of abiogenesis.Fallen London - free-to-play text-based open world RPG.Nested - very unique text-based universe expanding game. described as possibly @orteil42's favorite thing he's ever made.The Process of Elimination - interactive web novel (by @hypertextdog)Discworld MUD - multiplayer, text-based, online game (a MUD, or text MMORPG) based on the Discworld books.Horse Master - surreal text game about training a horse.EYEZMAZE - flash (RIP) or HTML5-based puzzle games.You Are Jeff Bezos - text game. spend Jeff Bezos' fortune.The Password Game - challenging puzzle game where you have to meet password requirements (by neal)Universal Paperclips - incremental paperclip making game.Half-Earth - planetary disaster planning game where you try to save the world using socialism.ChooseYourStory - community-driven website centered on CYOA style story games.PhD Simulator - random event based text game. make your choice each month and see if you can graduate on time.Dungeon Crawl Stone Soup - open source roguelike.Cataclysm: Dark Days Ahead - turn-based survival roguelike set in the modern day.Nethack - open source roguelike originally released in 1987.FarmRPG - simple, mobile-friendly, text-based farming RPG.Kingdom of Loathing - browser-based community MMORPG.PokeRogue - browser-based Pokemon roguelikeToolsText Game Builder - works in your browser, with just a little bit of Python (by @grumpygandalf)Twine - great (free!) tool for making text-based games quickly.Ink - scripting language for interactive fiction (also free)Flashpoint Archive - a community effort to preserve games and animations from the web.PICO-8 - fantasy console for making, sharing and playing tiny games and other computer programs.Non-GamesLibrary of Babel - interactive illustration which attempts to simulate what it might be like to browse The Library of Babel.Superbad - technically not a game, sprawling website full of secrets.17776 - serialized speculative fiction multimedia narrative about football in the far-future. beautiful, creative, legendary. created by Jon Bois, a legend and one of my favorite writers of all time.Choice of Games - text-based, choose-your-own-adventure games (interactive fiction). some free-to-play, others can be bought like an ebook.The Deep Sea - scroll to the bottom of the ocean. encounter the humble squid and his friends (by neal)Space Elevator - like The Deep Sea, but up instead of down. you can equip your avatar with a scarf (by neal)Internet Artifacts - an interactive history of the early internet (by neal)If The Moon Were Only One Pixel - scroll through an accurately scaled model of the universe.r/incremental_games - reddit community for incremental games.r/WebGames - reddit community for web games in general.thank you to everyone who contributed and the creators. please be sure to show them some love where possible.monchursoulsReblogging the update too#for later reference158,22573,784
peanutbutterspoonReblogged batmanisagatewaydrugrunningdoggamesFollowYOUR GOD IS DEAD, and you’re the unlucky soul tasked with figuring out who killed em. As sheriff, you are working to uncover the truth behind this tragedy before your parish’s rage boils over and makes the situation even worse. There’s someone or something on the loose that can kill a god, and it’s hard to know who to trust nowadays. You know you can rely on your horse, your gun, your faith, and your lawman’s intuition.
Ride carefully, partner. There’s trouble afoot. I’m super excited to announce that my new solo journaling game is now published - you can find it here! This game was made for the Hints & Hijinx Jam hosted by @pandiongames. If you’re interested, I encourage you to check out other entries - this system is super fun to play (and to write!).
WHO KILLED GOD? is a solo mystery game of divine catastrophe and small-town suspicion in a Weird West setting. This book has prompts and mechanics to help guide you, but it is up to you to follow the clues to wherever they lead, whether that’s to redemption or ruin.
You play as your town’s sheriff, trying to find the party or parties responsible for the death of your god. You will explore various locations around town, meet with townsfolk, and attempt to gather evidence while getting yourself out of tricky predicaments and tight spots. At the end of the game, you’ll find out whether or not you were right.#for later reference16291,250
peanutbutterspoonReblogged batmanisagatewaydrugbluecollarfagdykeFollowi don’t know how to explain to you people that no matter what a country’s government is like i do not and will not support the US indiscriminately bombing that country’s civilians and i don’t know why that’s a controversial take tbhbluecollarfagdyke“oh iran is a dictatorship!” “oh palestine is homophobic!” i don’t care like literally i don’t care that’s not a problem to be solved by other countries blowing innocent people up31738,29048,072
peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellybutch--danFollowonce these 15 million different stressful situations resolve themselves I’m gonna be so normal again. I can be normal and not exhausted1437,15335,565
peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellybrucesterlingFollowdkpsyhogThe lack of material conditionals saddened me so here you gostarthetripledevilNow it's complete53,3534,430
peanutbutterspoonReblogged batmanisagatewaydruggotyouanywayFollow“only a tiny amount of trans people detransition” should not be an argument for trans healthcare pleeeaseee stop using permanence to legitimize transitionnn trans healthcare needs to be legal and free even for people who will change their minds 3 months later we’ve been trying to get rid of “prove you’re really trans forever” barriers for so long & it’s not because “obviously all trans people are super sure of themselves and will stay trans forever so let’s move on” it’s because “everyone should have the right and ability to do what they want with their bodies at any time for any reason” do you get it????gotyouanywaylike sorry to be mean about it but when it comes to transition the idea of permanence cannot save you & it cannot save trans people all it can do is uphold archaic ideas about gender being a fixed state. if you change it once you can change it again and you need to be ok with that possibility for yourself and for the sake of all other trans people on this planet and you need to be able to support people who change their minds even if they do it 50 times and not see them as a threat to the legitimacy of transness & trans acceptance but as a part of the community. writing off people who change genders back and forth as a statistical anomaly or outgroup is & always has been transmed shit and the more you cement the idea that most trans people are SURE of themselves (i.e. never change genders twice) the more scared people get when they aren’t sure (which is like, the most common trans experience ever). idk just stopppp lmfao 🫰51,2021,592
peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellywisgoat-art666FollowI think to some extent, there needs to be understanding you will be racist sometimes and that when people are upset at you it's not a way of condemning you, just a call to action to change, doesn't matter if they forgive you or not, doesn't matter if they mention that you did xyz in past, the pain you caused by normalizing racist shit is not gonna go away with your personal change and growth, however daunting this sounds, you need to understand that digging your heels does nothing and only hurts people. That being said, if you see a Trans woman get called a nazi, 95% of the time the accusers are snake stalkers who want to kill Trans women by socially ostracizing her lol2531886
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peanutbutterspoonReblogged batmanisagatewaydrugpeach-potFollowrecently saw a comment section full of people, primarily women, talking about loving living with their best friend and being sad about having to live separately one day. some people talking about missing living with their best friend, some talking about “getting” to live with their best friend “until” they find partners. saw one person mention that moving out to move in with a partner felt like a divorce. it makes me so genuinely sad… all these people recognizing the joy they can find living outside the norm, letting themself live with a friend instead of a romantic partner, but still feeling like they have to live with a spouse eventually. like it’s not even a decision, just an inevitability.peach-potsimilarly, it makes me sad when someone shares their happiness from living with a friend with others and the biggest response is people insisting/assuming they must have a secret unrecognized romantic connection. just taking over a moment of joy to insist they’re wrong about their own life and feelings; all to reinforce the lifestyle everyone is already expected to conform to eventually… 5914,41922,705
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peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellyrowanisawriterFollowYou can survive your childhood and escape the horror of your parents by creating and existing solely in a rich inner world in which you contain all your thoughts and feelings and this will not have any effect on your relationships as an adult #Hey wait-4312,46719,898
peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellypostmanicFollowALTALTALTALTALTALTALTa comic about different ways autistic people communicate and show we care!shoutout to @3leafedclover , @mickeymusketeer , and my partner for helping me out with this one and also for letting me use your characters (black cat with shades, orange dog with the mickey plushie, and orange/white dog with the 'nervous' vest, respectively!), y'all are awesomes!also thank you @3leafedclover for the image ids!334,1047,609
peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellyhorsefigureofthedayFollowHorse figure of the day: Global Views Andalusian Horse81,3602,457
peanutbutterspoonReblogged batmanisagatewaydrugmammalianmammalsFollowHoney Possum or Noolbenger (Tarsipes rostratus) feeding on nectar, looking for nectar... family Tarsipedidae, order Diprotodontia, found in SW Western AustraliaOne of the world's smallest marsupials, weighing only 7 - 16g.photograph by Adam Fry173,7774,562
peanutbutterspoonReblogged pocket-deer-bellyrogue-ai-catFollowThe thing is, even if you were lucky and your parents taught you how to clean, they probably didn't teach you how to clean the stuff you clean stuff with, like brushes, mops, sponges, rags, and so on. Or how to clean your cleaning appliances, like a dish washer, clothes washing machine, and clothes dryer and its ducts (if you have a ducted dryer), or a carpet cleaner, vacuum, Or how to clean up clean messes, like spilled bleach or detergent. My parents threw away all of these things (even the vacuum cleaners and the dryer) when they got too dirty to function, because no one even told them THAT they could be cleaned. Cost them thousands of dollars over the years.All I'm saying is that cleaning is not intuitive, and not knowing how to clean is not a moral failing, but it is something you can learn.I'm going to reblog this post with resources for learning how to clean things and how to clean cleaning things (I'm not at my desk at the moment). If you have any favorites, please feel free to add them in too! rogue-ai-catI like this video because it does a great job of introducing the basic foundations of house cleaning (and because he doesn't use bleach, which is a common allergy in addition to being awful to inhale). He also talks a little about how to clean a vacuum. And why you shouldn't put grease from your pots and pans down the sink drain. I also love that he mentions that different houses and different people have different needs and different versions of what clean and cleaning looks like. He doesn't mention though that the toilet seat comes off. I take my toilet seat off to clean under the hinges and clean the seat more thoroughly once a quarter. rogue-ai-catThis is another video from the same guy about cleaning and depression. This advice, especially at the beginning, can feel really really difficult and oppressive to hear. However, I find that it's generally pretty solid. But I'm autistic and so is he, so that gets a massive Your Mileage May Vary stamp on it. I have a favorite part of this video. It's from 10:52 to 12:36. I think we could all use to hear that. There's a HEFTY pause after that one. I promise the narration does come back. I'm also going to recommend KC Davis' book "How To Keep House While Drowning"rogue-ai-catThis is a pair of videos about how to correctly load and use a dish washer.The first one is a quick 1 minute 30 second overview on loading. I can't find the exact video I'm looking for, so consider this a substitute for that. If I can find the one I'm looking for, I'll swap it in. The second is a half hour deep dive on dishwashers and detergents. The short form of that is you shouldn't need to pre-rinse anything, detergent pods are overpriced and can cause problems, some dishwashers have a filter in the bottom that needs to be cleaned (but most don't), run your sink until the water is HOT before starting your dish washer, and put a little detergent in the pre-rinse dispenser when you're washing extra dirty dishes (or on the inside of the door if your dishwasher doesn't have a pre-rinse dispenser).rogue-ai-catFavorite Scrub Brushes + How to Clean Them - Clean MamaFavorite Scrub Brushes + How to Clean Them. The right tools for cleaning tasks make all the difference! Scrub brushes are great tools and itClean Mama|Clean MamaHere's a blog post about scrubbing brushes and how to clean them. And a video for all cleaning tools, including scrub brushes. This video does use bleach. I'll try to find some alternatives to that. rogue-ai-catHow to clean a front load washer (with bleach). This should be done monthly or every time you wash really soiled clothes.The Dirty Truth About How Often You Should Clean Your Washing MachineWith expert tips and tricks for all types of washers.Good HousekeepingHow to clean a top loader (without the removable agitator thing). This should be done every 1-3 months depending on you unit, or every time you wash really soiled clothes. Clean Your Washer and You'll Have Cleaner LaundryRegular cleaning of a top-load washing machine will prolong the life of the appliance and leave your laundry cleaner and brighter.The SpruceHow to clean a top loader (with the removable agitator thing). This should be done every month, or every time you wash really soiled clothes. rogue-ai-catThis video is for pet owners.These carpet brushes are a LIFE SAVER if you have dogs. This thing allows me to go from vacuuming about 4 square feet before my vacuum is full to vacuuming half the living room (I don't vacuum often enough. You should vacuum weekly, and I just can't.). I have to unclog the vacuum less often. It fluffs up some of the flat spots in the carpet. And I also use the brush to shampoo my rugs in the spring. A spot cleaner (or a carpet cleaner with a spot cleaner attachment) is another life saver, ESPECIALLY if you can afford to splurge on a heated one. I see them at Goodwill or at yard sales occasionally, and they're worth picking up. The shark one in the video is great too.This channel is gold. There's tutorials for cleaning EVERYTHING on there. Just go subscribe!#for later reference133,61147,397
peanutbutterspoonReblogged hbmmasterpatricia-taxxoni think if an autistic person tells you that you've misinterpreted the intent behind their words you simply have to listen and take them at their word without question. reparations patricia-taxxonliterally just turn off the part of you that feels invalidated or attacked for having your interpretation of their words questioned, tough it out for once in your life. understand communication logically. your turn to mask1818,80318,591
peanutbutterspoonRebloggedhbmmasterFollowthere's a common misconception that the qwerty layout is "scrambled" on purpose to slow down typists to stop old timey typewriters from jamming, but if you stare at the letters hard enough you can see that it the letters actually are "in order", with just a few letters moved out of the way from each other for literally no reason at all hbmmasterlook at that home row. asdfghjkl that's just abcdefghijkl with bcei moved out of the way for no reason and s inserted arbitrarily hbmmasterthen of course the row below that continues from there but backwards, zyxwvutsrqponm except a bunch of those are moved to the top row and also b and c are there hbmmasterhbm's slightly wrong reconstructed history of the QWERTY layoutthe alphabetA B C D E F G H I J K L M
N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Zintroduction of numbers and punctuation1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 0 , . ?
A B C D E F G H I J K L M
N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Zreverse the bottom row1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 0 , . ?
A B C D E F G H I J K L M
Z Y X W V U T S R Q P O Nremove 1 and 0 (I and O work just fine) to make room for more punctuation2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 ; ' , . ?
A B C D E F G H I J K L M
Z Y X W V U T S R Q P O Nmove I and O with the numbers2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 I O , . ?
A B C D E F G H J K L M ;
Z Y X W V U T S R Q P N 'this is too wide. move all the vowels to their own row2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 , . ?
A E Y U I O
B C D F G H J K L M ;
Z X W V T S R Q P N 'move some common letters out of the bottom row for balance (P is a common letter right)2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 , . ?
A S E R T Y U I O P
B C D F G H J K L M ;
Z X W V Q N 'put most of the punctuation in the bottom row2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 ;
A S E R T Y U I O P
B C D F G H J K L M
Z X W V Q N , . ? 'move M to the bottom row2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
A S E R T Y U I O P
B C D F G H J K L ; '
Z X W V Q N M , . ?swap Q and W with B and C for no reason2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
A S E R T Y U I O P
Q W D F G H J K L ; '
Z X C V B N M , . ?swap A and S with Q and W for no reason2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9
Q W E R T Y U I O P
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Z X C V B N M , . ?17175369
peanutbutterspoonReblogged hbmmasters-lycopersicumFollowand it all annoys me so muchyoiberi5,8558,797
peanutbutterspoonReblogged hbmmastermyceliyolkFollowreminder that "allies welcome" was once secret code for "those not out yet can still participate without putting themselves at risk", and for those who aren't out yet to comfortably exist in these spaces you have to let allies exist in those spaces too.meeks-peaksthis is also important for queer people who don't know anyone else there. let them bring their friend, even if the friend is cishet. many would rather not go at all, rather than go somewhere alone. thesealfriendIt is always better to let respectful cishets into our spaces than to try and police who is queer enough to be allowed. beaniebaneenieWhen I was in high school (2004 - 2008, not that long ago), we had exactly one out person. One.We also didn't have a Gay Straight Alliance chapter yet. Virtually every support group you could find, even in navy blue states, was a local chapter of the GSA. You were much more likely to find that acronym than LGBTQ+.Our school decided we wanted one, but we wanted to be inclusive, because we knew there were other letters. We called our group "Spectrum", because it would cover everyone, including allies.It took three meetings in front of the school's board of directors to get permission for the club to exist. Again, this was a private school, in a mid-Atlantic state that has been navy blue and "progressive" for decades (even at that point).Other than the one (1) kid who was out? Every single other member said we were Allies.Nearly 20 years later, almost every single one of us is out as some flavor of queer.A lot of us knew we were huge supporters of queer rights, we just didn't quite know all the reasons why yet. Asexuality wasn't discussed the way it is now, neither was any type of gender nonconformity. Hell, bisexuality was barely acknowledged, and even then it was mostly only given a nod as "girls who turn guys on by kissing girls" (biphobia was strong, and unfortunately still is).Making sure allies have a space at our table ensures that people have the space to explore their own identity, to question if one of our labels might work for them too. It also allows people who may have some baked-in prejudices realize that those prejudices are wrong. That we're not evil and hateful, that we are actually pretty nice and friendly. One time, some friends and I were at a pretty famous local gay bar, and this guy walked in looking like he was ripped out of the pages of Redneck Magazine. He looked super uncomfortable, but he was polite to the hostess and she sat him alone, near us. A lot of people were tense, and watching him out of the corner of our eyes, because we all knew what happened at Pulse.But one of my friends is the person who knows absolutely everyone and goes out of their way to make new friends. He's also a cis straight guy. He leans over, compliments the guy's Carhartt jacket, and asks if he's ever been to the place before.The guy, who is still kind of tense, says his name is Johnny and no, he's never been to no queer bar before, but his sister just came out to the family. Their parents were awful about it, and while he "didn't understand it", he didn't think his sister should be disowned and hated the thought of seeing her cry, so he wanted to try and understand.I remembered the story that's made the rounds here- about the guy named Earl who went to a drag show and everyone made him feel welcome because they knew he needed to have a good time to prove we queer folks were safe.So I invited Johnny to sit with us. "It's more fun than sitting alone. Here, have some of my fries, I'm probably not going to finish them anyway."He sat at our table, and when he found out that my friend was also a cis straight guy, he visibly relaxed. So did a lot of other patrons, once they realized he wasn't there to cause violence. Over the next few hours, he ate great food, had a couple beers, clapped and smiled at the drag shows, and asked a LOT of questions. At first, he was using language we might call "un-PC" (the kind that would get you cancelled on this webbed site). But he realized we were using different words, and asked. He asked why the old words were wrong, why the newer ones were right, and how not to be offensive.The staff found out what was going on, and eventually a card got passed around the whole joint and everyone wrote supportive messages for Johnny's sister Lila. This big tough man felt safe enough to cry a little in front of us queer strangers, because we instantly accepted his sister as one of our own, as family, even though we'd never met her.I'd later found out from the staff that Johnny had returned, more than once. A couple times with Lila herself, and a couple times with his friends... who were gruff and suspicious at first, but won over by the end of the night.We need to be a safe space for allies. For people who may not use all the Correct And Accepted Special Words but genuinely want to understand and accept us. As someone who is both asexual and nonbinary, I felt way safer with Johnny (despite him using outdated terminology for a while) than I do with a lot of people on THIS QUEER ASS WEBSITE.Allies are sometimes members of the family that don't even know they're in the closet yet, because they don't know the closer includes people like them.Allies are sometimes people who don't know the right words or behaviors, but still want to support someone they love.Scooting over and making a safe, welcoming space for allies will always be important. And it will help us get closer to that world of acceptance we want to see.10633,29639,019
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peanutbutterspoonRebloggedpussy-destroyer9000FollowWhiteboard stuff!!I should have posted this a while agoI forget I'm actually supposed to post here.....I'm gonna put tags now...peanutbutterpencilI also have doodles of the whiteboard variety#Every once in a while I remember I can make my own posts#Revolutionary#Dungeon-mastering is great btw#You get to be a million characters instead of just one and torment your friends silly style for funsies#Players if you see this thank yall for putting up with me#3.5 is the best edition read it and weep#Also I just realized you can see the sorry state my phone is in.. oops32
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peanutbutterspoonReblogged lightning-systemnortsmedleyFollowIk this is probably the fifteenth time you've seen someone say this but we need more qprs in fandom space. Instead of shipping we'll call it canoeing and we'll make it just as popular. Please I need this ok#Canoeing..#Yes please4,5798,936
