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Preface
We, a collective group of Shayy’s victims and former friends, accuse Shayy of actions including but not limited to sexual assault, sexual harassment, grooming, orbiting fans until they’re of legal age, sexual coercion, and abuse. We are releasing this document because we feel that Shayy’s actions pose a present and extreme safety risk to the community such that people need to be aware to protect themselves. In this document, you will find a collection of our stories, statements, and supporting evidence to these accusations. Shayy themself has already admitted to the actions detailed in the testimonies from Anonymous #1, azuraeth, Anonymous #3, and willyjwillyj, to the victims themselves in private.
This document contains testimonies of events that have taken place as recently as the past week and traumatic events that the victims are processing for the first time. While we recognize the importance of timeliness and have done our best to compile this document quickly, we have chosen to prioritize the safety of the victims such that they can process what was done to them without the needless cruelty of forcing them to tell their stories to us, let alone to the public, before they were ready. Frankly, even just the sheer amount of corroborating accounts that were shared with us just over the past few days made it impossible to release a statement that would be and remain sufficiently comprehensive any sooner. We hope you can understand that no amount of pressure to make a statement was going to force us to jeopardize the well-being of the victims, and that anything but the full truth would be unfairly reductive to those of us who wish to have our stories heard.
We are not a professional PR firm. We are a group of people who have been deeply hurt, taken advantage of, abused, and betrayed. We are people with private lives that now have to contend with sharing our negative experiences out to the public because Shayy’s inappropriate patterns of behavior have continued and worsened far beyond what constitutes “drama”. We implore you to read this document in full and humbly ask for your patience and empathy as we bear our hearts to you.
We ask that you do not attempt to contact nor harass anyone mentioned in this document regarding its contents, and that you do not attempt to identify and/or publish information that reflect the identities of the victims that have chosen to remain anonymous. Do not treat this document as an exhaustive list of all those affected; at minimum we can confirm there are more victims that have spoken to us but have chosen not to tell their story publicly at this time. Please respect their privacy until they wish to share, and show them grace and kindness when they do so.
Thank you, from all of us, for reading.
Additional Context
Additional Context
Additional context needed to understand the contents of this document can be found below.
- People who have chosen to publish their testimonies anonymously have had arbitrary names, colors, and numbers assigned. These are consistent throughout all text and screenshots. All censors in black are censoring additional parties who are not relevant to the main testimonial.
- Many of these statements will mention a #trusted or #vent Discord channel. This refers to the channels in Shayy's server, Frog Family, that only those with the "idiot" or moderator roles have access to. The role "idiot" was typically given only to close friends of Shayy or those who were close with many in the group.
- It is important to note that much of the behavior described in this document has been brought to Shayy’s attention repeatedly as early as 2021 and as late as a week ago. This document was created after multiple attempts to get them to change with no result, even after those affected privately reached out to bring it to Shayy’s attention.
- The information gathered was collected in pieces from multiple people who all initially believed these were isolated incidents. It is only when those affected reached out to one another that the true scope was realized.
- Though this will be obvious based on the content shared here, Shayy has had no part in writing this document and has not seen the vast majority of its content prior to it being shared with the general public.
Starsmiley
Trigger Warning: This document contains description of sexual assault.
Hi, I'm starsmiley and for those who don't know I've been Shayy's partner for the last 5-6 years. I've been living with them since August 2025 and within the last week have moved back with my parents. I'm going to outline the experiences I had during this relationship, starting with the most serious offense. Most of these interactions happened in real life when it was just the two of us.
There is an important part of this relationship you need to understand going into all of this. I identify as asexual, and I'm not interested in doing anything sexual with anyone. Shayy was aware of this and generally respected that throughout the relationship. I understood that they needed a sexual outlet and agreed that they could have sexual contact with others. I did not request that they tell me who it was with or when it happened, but I will go into how it was handled poorly.
At the beginning of November 2025, Shayy and I were lounging on our bed in the main bedroom. We started cuddling, and suddenly they laid a hand on my crotch and started rubbing it without asking. This has never happened before, and I froze. They did it for a minute or so before saying, "So you really don't feel anything, huh? That's crazy." before laughing and pulling away.
I did not give consent for them to do this, which makes it sexual assault. I'm also asexual, and I felt disrespected in my identity that they felt they had to "test" whether I was asexual or not.
As I mentioned previously, I agreed that they could have sexual contact with others and did not specify that they had to tell me when it happened or who it was with. I did not expect them to be having this behavior with nearly 20 people nearly constantly throughout the entire relationship.
Furthermore, they have reassured others that they did in fact ask for my permission for those specific encounters to happen, which they did not - they were going off the original agreement, which was years old at this point. These people were led to believe Shayy was telling me about this when it happened, and have said they would not have participated if they knew I didn't know.
They would also intentionally invite people over while I was away from the house for the purpose of acting sexually with them, and again, not tell me what happened while I was away.
I want to note that when I left the house with Shayy to go back to my parents, I did so in secret. I was afraid they would try to prevent me from leaving. They later called my mom and confirmed that they would have tried to stop me from leaving if they knew.
The last bit for this section is that we actually broke up briefly in April 2021. They were flirting with two of my friends and as good friends they came to me and told me. Shayy promptly broke up with me and got with another person, which lasted for a few months, before coming back and saying they wanted to try a relationship again. That should have been my first red flag.
The rest of this document is relatively minor in comparison to these instances but I believe it was important to share to highlight the entirety of our relationship.
For our financial situation, they made about $250k per year, while I made about $38k. Despite this, they would routinely ask me to foot the bill for our GDQ trips, which was about $1,500 for the hotel room for the week. Only once or twice did they ever split the bill with me for the past 5 years.
Another important aspect of our relationship is that I am severely depressed and struggle with suicidal thoughts. I would often vent on my alt account about these thoughts. Shayy usually never reached out to me regarding these instances privately, and rarely commented on these posts. I do not know if they just did not see them or were actively avoiding addressing them. You may ask why I didn't vent to Shayy directly, but as part of my depression, I struggled with reaching out to people one-on-one about these issues, not wanting to feel like a burden. The lack of care shown did not help.
During GDQs, we would also rarely see each other except when we slept. We would occasionally hang out or have meals together, but it wasn't common. Something noteworthy is that while we were hanging out alone, they would often suddenly go "I'm going to hang out with x, see you later" without inviting me. I'd understand if I didn't know the person but this was usually with mutual friend groups, who I'd ask an hour later if I can join them. There were times I'd go to sleep not knowing where they were or who they were with.
As far as our living situation went, issues arose almost immediately. I quickly became the person to do everything around the house, laundry, grocery shopping, taking care of the garbage, dishwashing, and general cleaning. The only thing they did themselves was vacuuming, which was only once during the entire 2 and a half months I was there.
During the times we ate together we usually did not talk. They were too busy on their phone. I chalked it up to being an extremely busy person, but considering how often they were interacting sexually with people, the chances are higher they were doing that instead.
I should note that they seem to have a severe social media addiction. They were constantly on their phone or computer - I remember a few instances of them asking about eating, and then they'd stay glued to their phone for 2 hours. I'd remind them a few times about getting food just to get a "Yeah, one second" and another half hour of scrolling.
After we ate, they generally went to their office, even if they were not streaming that day, until 2 AM. They would come to bed and generally immediately get on their laptop to continue scrolling before going to sleep. It's very rare that we actually interacted with each other throughout the day.
Another minor thing I want to note is that they left their trash laying around. There would be up to 10 empty cans of soda sitting on the counter along with boxes of empty soda containers. I cleaned it up myself since it bothered me.
They would also tend to leave glasses and silverware sitting around despite us having a dishwasher. The glasses would be covering the counter and sink. When I would go away and come back after a few days, there was usually silverware with crusted food sitting in the sink. I had to be the one to put it in the dishwasher, despite never actually using one before - I originally cleaned them by hand before learning how to use it.
The last thing I wanted to mention is related to financial decisions. I have a 2011 Sentra and they had a 3 year old Camaro. Despite this, they traded in the Camaro and then spent $100k on a Corvette. I recently got into an accident and busted the front of my car. They stated that they wanted to wait on getting me a new car since they just bought their Corvette.
On top of this, it appears that they were regularly helping our friends out financially, such as flying them to GDQ, helping with groceries, etc. While I'm glad they did, it's notable that they usually did not offer to help me in any way with my finances, especially in the case of the car, which had obvious damage and was potentially a danger to drive.
It shows a consistent pattern of behavior that routinely disrespects and invalidates me. I thought some of this behavior as endearing through rose-tinted glasses, but putting all of this together and hearing about the experiences of my friends, I can no longer turn a blind eye to the fact that they did not seem to care about me in the same way that I did them.
I want to note that I do not blame any of my friends for participating in what was essentially them cheating on me. They had no idea I didn't know what was going on, assuming or being reassured that I knew and approved of it.
I will admit because of this and the previous break up I had a strong fear that they would leave me. I loved them dearly and did not know what I would do if they left me - I lived with them, after all. I assumed a lot of it was based on me being insecure rather than problems they were causing, and forced myself to accept these aspects and behaviors from them. That is why I did not say anything or stand up for myself, although I really should have.
All of this is very complicated for me. As I'm writing this I'm still not sure the situation has fully set in for me. Someone I thought I'd spent the rest of my life with is suddenly revealed to be doing terrible things to the people I love.
I do hope Shayy is able to take a step back from everything and improve their behaviors and how they view the people around them. A part of me still loves them. However, there are clear patterns of behavior that are unacceptable with how they treated people. I hope they can get better, but I hope they do it away from me and my friends, for everyone's safety.
aspyn
(note that timestamps are in GMT because i put this doc together while on vacation in england. this is 6 hours ahead of my usual time zone. this was rushed out because of how stressful it was to try putting this together, all while the public on twitter/bsky/discord was speculating and harassing other victims in the interest of chasing the drama instead of respecting our safety and wellbeing.)
i am aspyn/aspynect, i was friends with shayy for a few years starting in early 2022. we originally started talking in twitter dms, which have for better or worse been lost to time because i deactivated my twitter account a year or two ago at this point. to contextualize my age throughout the rest of this document, i was born late november 2004, so i was a few months into being 17 at this point.
at the time i was significantly less experienced with dealing with my anxiety and struggled with my mental health, and at the time shayy was one of the people that i would talk to about these things. at this time, they were very willing to converse and support me, talking me through a breakdown on multiple different occasions.
at times i would give compliments—calling them cute primarily, but things in that vein. they reciprocated these thoughts in a way that was, in hindsight, not appropriate given my age (17) and theirs (22 or 23).
the real kicker of this conversation is when i was talking about worrying about not passing while wearing a dress, and they took what was meant to be a comment about how i was insecure about my shoulders to be be about my “gock” entirely unprompted
later in the same conversation they commented on my “NFTs” (which, as far as myself or anyone else can figure out, is ‘nice fucking tits’), and that i looked cute and that my (then) partner “is vvv lucky”. to a certain extent you could argue this is reassurance but the comments about my penis and breasts are unsavory at best.
nothing direct here but a couple instances of them being... a bit too concerned about being cancelled in a way that seems to be foreshadowing something.
additionally, very clear early on that they were willing to objectify their friends and fans, so far as to say they “revel” in their “simps”
on june 26th 2022 (during SGDQ, which we were both attending) they sent a suggestive image of them shirtless—to the best of my ability to discern the context this was while we were sitting on a bed next to each other in the same room irl, but regardless of context, weird thing to send a 17 year old. image not attached for privacy reasons and for your sake reading this. there was no context to this being sent, it was in the middle of a series of messages that we were just spamming funny discord stickers at each other.
as i approached 18 years old they started complimenting me and calling me cute more and more. the worst of this was on snapchat, which i unfortunately can’t supply more than this screenshot i had in my camera roll because i don’t have snapchat anymore, but these are all as i was approaching 18 years old at the end of november.
after i turned 18, their demeanor towards me immediately changed to be significantly more overtly flirtatious.
additionally within the same conversation, they accepted my advancement to talking about kissing platonically, but more importantly this was the first time we talked about star’s (starsmiley, their then-partner) boundaries about flirting with and being sexual with other people. they were, for several years, in a monogamous relationship in which they stated that star said she was okay with them to engage in these relations with other people, but she later clarified they never communicated properly about this.
(screenshot dated november 18th, 2025)
there are numerous flirtatious conversations like above from shortly after i turned 18 that i will skip over for brevity.
i’ll note here that starting here (late 2023) until around october of 2025, they only reached out or engaged in conversations with me when they were horny. every other conversation is dry at best or in some cases just didn’t even get a reply. this isn’t a pattern that i noticed until the events at SGDQ 2025 that i will cover later, but it’s worth noting.
on one occasion while we were talking they told me to come lay on their lap, and given my exhaustion at the time i said i would probably fall asleep. they made a comment about hoping i don’t “do anything silly” while i slept. i can’t think of any way to read this other than as a threat.
later in the same conversation i established that i was feeling sex repulsed and that thats why i was deflecting their advances, and again expressed worry for star’s boundaries, to which they reassured me that it was okay.
i was very clear how important communication about things like this was for me.
when i expressed discomfort that they were posting suggestive/nude images untagged on their private twitter account, they responded worried about the reach of their posts (again, on a private account) and rather suggested that they remove me from the circle. i was clear that i use my private twitter account to follow my friends accounts and that seeing sexual things was by far the outlier, and they still pushed that i should just be removed, or that i should make a separate account for that (to which i did, despite not really wanting to do that given my asexuality)
they also proceeded to say i was being condescending for this concern, citing their experience with content creation as if that excuses it.
in this conversation they were making more advances than i was comfortable with and i tried diverting the conversation and defusing it but they kept pushing their sexual fantasies on me in the moment. a decent portion of our conversations during this time (2023-2025) were somewhat similar to this, with me eventually giving in to their pressure. (i will not continue posting more screenshots of conversations like this but it is a couple thousand messages over dozens of conversations)
at SGDQ 2024, they were interested in hanging out with me, with many dms like the ones below, wanting to hang out. we cuddled while there were a number of people in the room, including but not limited to star being in the bed at the same time. given the context of what happened in this same situation when i was alone with shayy the next year, i wholeheartedly believe their presence saved me from being assaulted here.
we did the same later that day and i similarly suspect that the constant presence of other people in the room was the only thing saving me.
foreshadowing a similar way they treated me at the next GDQ, they did not talk to me or respond to any of my dms that were not related to me coming and hanging out with them in person.
in this conversation i very explicitly told them i wasnt horny and they still tried to make an advancement.
and for the main event, SGDQ 2025. they seemed excited to see me in anticipation, and i was excited to see them. they continued to try to get me to come hang out, all the while i was unaware it would be 1:1, i assumed that friends or at least star would be around in their room. what i did not know at the time was that they did this purely with the intent of having sex with me.
when i went up to their room under the pretense of hanging out, they sexually assaulted me. they made advancements and pushed me to do things i was not comfortable with but i did not feel safe saying no given the context, the power they had over me, and the fact that i was alone with them. at the time i was vulnerable given unrelated things in my personal life, and it led me to not really realize what had happened until i looked back on it a few days later. for the rest of the event, they barely responded to me—i sent around a dozen messages and they gave one single “:3” and a “LOL”, ignoring almost everything i said to them, all the while acting like nothing happened when we were around each other in person.
the next time they messaged me was to bring up what happened in person again, and while i tried deflecting they were insistent on it.
i was incredibly uncomfortable around them at the time and left it at saying i wasn’t interested and that i was feeling sex repulsed (i was in a particularly deep sex repulsion bout that was caused by what happened at GDQ)
later in that conversation they tried prompting at me about AGDQ
around this time we started having actual conversations occasionally, which i can only suspect was because around this time people were starting to come out privately with stories about shayy that they became aware of.
eventually, i reached out about my experience with them (after i had already shared part of my story with relevant people). i hoped at the time that this was them genuinely making an effort to make good on their mistakes and be a better friend but now i know that it was simply them trying to cover their tracks and save face. their apology seemed genuine and i bit.
in the month or so following there was a few conversations we had that felt real for the first time in years, even them reaching out after i’d posted on my private twitter during a breakdown.
but in the past few days while learning about others’ stories and the recency with which they were continuing to abuse and take advantage of people, it was clear that this was never anything more than an attempt to save face.
shayy if you’re reading this, and i sure hope you are. you repeatedly pushed me to my limits and you broke me down into nothing while i trusted you and forgave you over and over, time and time again. you took my endless kindness and used it to take advantage of me and my friends. you and your actions are deplorable and i hope you never show your face around here ever again because you will never be welcome back.
Anonymous #1
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Table of Contents
- What actually happened between [Anonymous #1] and Shayy?
Opening + Disclaimers
- How has this affected me?
The physical and emotional consequences of this situation for me
- Okay, so where did this start?
Introduction to how me and Shayy met, An accurate explanation to why Shayy wanted proof of my ass being big + power imbalance
- Why was I afraid to speak up about Shayy?
Things Shayy would say to me that made me hesitant to ever share what happened with anyone over the years
- Shayy and other people's hair.
Section dedicated to a pattern of Shayy's behaviour with multiple people relating to long hair
- Did anything weird happen in Trusted?
Discussion of a conversation about masturbation that took place whilst minors were present that Shayy directly partook in
- So, what was the most recent example of Shayy's behaviour?
An accurate explanation of the Hickey tweet incident + how I tried to ignore how uncomfortable it made me feel.
- How did I find out other people went through this too?
The state of me and Shayy's friendship before it ended with the last few weird interactions, When/how I ended up telling someone for the first time + Why I ended up finding out more people had been through similar
- The first confrontation.
An accurate explanation of the first time I spoke directly with Shayy about this + How they guilted me into doubting myself
- The name-drop, and why Shayy was banned.
The events that lead to the first accountability post
- The first accountability post.
The vague post they made in Trusted + The reaction to it
(more contents on next page)
- The second confrontation.
An accurate explanation of the second time I spoke directly with Shayy about this + More details about how they treated me over our entire friendship
- What made me want the truth out.
How telling people who previously didn’t know, changed things
- The second accountability post.
How their most recent attempt at accountability completely falls through
- Conclusion.
Final thoughts and special thanks
Written Statement
This is a complete re-accounting of what exactly went on between me and Shayy and the direct fallout for the people unaware. Please have the heart to read it in full, it discusses my side and my truth.
I hope everyone who already knows what went down can take the time to read this in full too. I’ve given you the evidence and condensed version in private. Here you can read the more in depth and personal re-accounting of the situation alongside extra parts I might’ve missed.
TLDR: Shayy lied, has continued omitting information and heavily downplayed what actually happened between me and them. This is behaviour they have exhibited with others too.
This was written throughout the 5th of November 2025 to the 9th of November 2025.
(This document has been edited by [Anonymous 1] with help to remove any and all identifiers so that they can keep anonymous. Important details that identify me will have to be kept in for context, but as much as possible as been altered to protect my identity.
That being said, any blue text you see has been written by me: [Anonymous 1]
The original document was sent to Shayy’s private circles and communities they were a prominent part of. Those people have full access to all the personal information that has been removed in this document.
If you are someone who recognises the victims, please try to keep them anonymous and keep it to yourself. They would like their privacy, please respect that. Thank you.)
What actually happened between [Anonymous 1] and Shayy?
Hey, [Anonymous 1] here. I’m sorry it has come to this for the people who are most likely sick of hearing about everything relating to this situation. Ideally Shayy's accountability statement would have been the last time you guys would have to hear about it, but Shayy continues not to properly explain what happened and now I'm here having to do it myself. This feels wretched, and I am afraid.
Before I begin I do want to just explain a little where my head is at with all of this. Firstly, please make sure you are going back to both the videos and the screenshots and cross-referencing as you read to make sure you are coming to the conclusions you do on the basis of facts and evidence. I do not expect you to take my word, so please make sure you are evaluating the conversations themself to ensure you know what is happening in full. I mean, you don’t have to do it but it’s probably best you do lol.
Secondly, please be aware that my intent isn’t to drive Shayy's friends away with this. I am fully aware and already know of people who know of the situation in full that are continuing to stick by them and that is okay. I have said this to every single person I have told, but I beg of you that if you stay, that you make sure this NEVER happens again. Please take everything I say as an example of what to look out for and what to call out. Do not let Shayy do this again, to ANYONE.
(The part above is kind of redundant now, considering the scope of Shayy’s actions a lot of people have fully cut contact. I wish it didn’t have to be this way and I'm sorry.)
Don’t feel forced to stay though, please prioritize your own feelings and think for yourself in this situation. I do not blame you whatsoever if this makes you feel violently uncomfortable.
I also would like to make it completely clear, this is my own experience and any mention of others' experiences in any detail will be limited as much as possible. However, PLEASE keep it in mind that countless people have had their own experiences whether big or small. If they wish to use this as a jumping off point to talk about their own, they are 100% welcome to.
(Additionally, I would like to note to the public that if your main take-away from this document is that Shayy is a bad person because they are LGBTQ+ and/or Autistic, that we denounce your opinion and think you’re stupid. So many of the victims are queer and neurodivergent. If you use this as an opportunity to spread hatred to the communities we are a part of, you are not fighting for the right cause whatsoever.
Do not contact or harass Shayy, we don’t condone that either.)
How has this affected me?
I originally was going to wait until later to explain how this entire situation has made me feel, but since starting this document I've had a second mental health crisis moment that was greatly attributed to this entire fiasco. I’ve had 2 fits of Hyperventilation (3 now as of November 16th) since Shayy released their most recent statement. I’m currently writing this on the 6th of November 2025, so it has been 2 days (I actually woke up to that statement being posted in the early hours of the 5th, with no warning).
I have genuinely never felt so much violent stress, such painful and scary anxiety. I’ve been through a lot in my life, but this has to be one of the most gut-churning and physically taxing situations i’ve ever been through which says a LOT. I am not the type of person to buckle physically under stress (it’s usually all in my head) but the digestive issues, the nausea, the hyperventilation so bad both of my hands have tingled and my hearing has dulled, the esophagus pain from crying so hard, the nasal and eye irritation, the heart palpitations. I’ve struggled to eat, struggled to get to sleep with pangs of anxiety that would wake me up as soon as I started to drift off like my body was in fight or flight, I've had arguments with my family in my personal life happen at the same time as this ongoing situation multiple times. It has been intense, and I'm surprised I'm not in the hospital for physical or mental complications.
Mentally, I have felt worthless. At times, I haven’t felt like a person anymore. There have been so many times I've felt disgusted with my body, disgusted I was born in the body I was because maybe things would be different had I not been perceived the way it feels I was. Maybe if I was born a man, and identified as a man or overtly masculine at the same time, this would have never happened. It has made me feel completely unlovable, someone who is unable to take affection from anyone out of fear it will become sexual or against my wishes. Several times I have wished I wasn’t Aroace so none of this bothered me (not that it would make it right). Thanks to my OCD, I've also been unable to focus on anything other than this. It’s in my mind intrusively, constantly. Speaking normally with friends, spending time with them has been 10x harder as a result. Shayy has made me feel sub-human.
I want to take a moment to thank every person who has had to listen to me cry and sob in voice calls with them, you guys know who you are and I love you so much for being there for me at my very lowest. Because it truly was at my lowest. Without my friends, I wouldn’t be here.
I re-live this suffering every single time I talk about it. Writing this document is actively making me suffer, so I hope you’re happy Shayy. Because of your incompetence I'm having to do the thing you’re supposed to do, which I asked you to do a month ago. I can’t move on until the score is settled, so I will settle it myself.
I’m actually proud of myself for still being here and persevering. I have wanted to give up so many fucking times because I feel like nothing will get better and that Shayy will never tell the full truth. But I have to keep going for the sake of other people, and to make sure this never happens again. I’m still going, and you cannot stop me from fighting for myself and others.
Okay, so where did this start?
Me and Shayy became friends as a result of me being an active member in their community as a fan most prominently during 2023. They messaged me for the first time directly on March 11th 2023 to thank me for the art I made for them; I was 17 years old [1]. We quickly grew a friendship through interactions both in DMs and in genchat, as well as through the fact I was making fanart for them every so often. I was added to Trusted on the 27th of June 2023, a bit under a month before I turned 18. Shayy behaved properly while I was underage as far as i’m aware, but soon after turning 18 (My birthday being August 15th, which they in dms wished me happy birthday and joked about “minors dni in bio” for [2]) was when they began to use terms like “good boy” to describe and praise me [3]. Shayy was 24.
It was on New years eve of 2023 (31st of December), after I had vented to Shayy about me and my mothers relationship and how troubled said relationship was, that Shayy suddenly started speaking to me about their ass [4]. Their message was in direct relation to me offering to listen to them vent, and they proceeded to send a screenshot of someone’s twitter header. This header consisted of Shayys GDQ bed ass picture. They told me that “I used my platform to force my friend to make this her banner for the entire year” [5]. I started to respond to this playfully, saying dumb shit like “god damn you got dumpy”. I was aware this was stupid to say, it’s not really something I like to joke about often but it felt right in the moment given how playful Shayy can be. I wanted to be friends with them, so I wanted to match the energy. This though, ended up with Shayy saying “are you saying you want to have a fat ass” and my response of “that implies I don’t have a fat ass already”. THIS is where “proof?” was asked by Shayy [6].
(Additional context for this public version of the doc. This specific nickname is a play on words related to [Anonymous 1]’s name. We are not redacting the entire section because it adds important context to this situation.)
I don’t know why Shayy focused on the nickname “[NAME]ass” for this segment. For those unaware, “[NAME]ass” was a nickname I gave myself in Shayys Sub-only minecraft server using a sign next to my bed in-game [7]. I would tell my friends at the time, people I had known for longer than Shayy and can testify themself, not to call me that name as part of the joke. It was always “Don’t call me [NAME]ass” in 2023 and I know that for certain. I must note however that in recent years (So, post-2023 [8]) I definitely started joking more openly about the name. Now, I cannot prove myself that this conversation didn’t happen in 2023 (It’s extremely hard to prove a negative) but if it did happen then the most likely reason Shayy cannot find evidence for it is that it either happened in a voice call or in twitch chat. I implore Shayy to search the Frog family discord for the word “[NAME]ass” to find it if they believe it to be true that it happened in a public chat. Once again, completely possible it happened offhandedly in twitch chat or a vc. But considering context, quite strange it would be the focus point Shayy used instead of the actual reason the conversation started.
Shayy goaded the conversation on after I explained, and they joked about my body. This went on until I finally said that I did have a photo that could show what I meant using the angle it was taken from. This image was of me in my OMORI hoodie, something I had posted elsewhere (I think I actually posted it in Frog Family’s photo channel). They didn’t know this yet though, and I gave them an out since I was confused and unsure on if I should actually post the image or not. Deep down, I wanted them to tell me not to so I didn’t have to. I had even asked my own mother what I should do in this situation when I'm unsure about sending something with this context around it. She didn’t encourage me to not to, so I felt like I had to. I wanted Shayy to like me and I wanted them to be happy. So when they saw my hesitance, responding to my “but” with a “but what?”[9], I felt even more inclined to send it. They are lucky I didn’t send anything sexually suggestive. They were completely irresponsible. I was young. It was 4 months after I had turned 18.
To add salt to the wound, they blamed me for the conversation even starting. [10]
I called this out as projection jokingly, because to some extent I think it was. They teased me, asking me what I was going to do about it. I joked about chasing them around at GDQ some day, something I found funny to do with my tall friends (picturing a [HEIGHT] person chasing someone tall down a hallway sounds stupid as hell) and they told me they would hug me and pick me up [11].
That was one of the many exceptions I made for Shayy. Usually these things included more intimate or affectionate things like calling me “cute”. I hated anyone calling me this, but I made exceptions for them specifically. It made me feel special, I felt important to them. The same goes for being picked up. I have openly discussed before how I would hate the idea of being picked up (It’s something people used to do without my consent throughout my childhood because of my height, which resulted in me being spun around and tossed like a doll) but it’s entirely possible Shayy didn’t see it. It’s the least of my concerns nonetheless but thought it’d be important to note my own pattern of allowing Shayy to do things I wouldn’t allow others to.
I drew art for them for free when they asked, which they made into their profile picture for the month of October 2024. During a time where I had halted drawing for people when they asked, even when payment was given. Another example of an exception I made for them. I finished it the same day. [12] Shayy actually wasn’t the nicest to me about the artwork [56], but apologised the next day after I confronted them about how it hurt my feelings.
Power imbalance played big on my reactions to Shayy doing these things, I was more hesitant to say no, to upset, to confront. These are all things I have always struggled to put boundaries up for most of my life. Shayy has always been in the back of my mind when making decisions relating to them. I felt I owed it to them with how often they told me how close we were and how much they trusted me. It was something they told me a lot, enough for it to be something I remember so much. [13]
(This bracketed section was added after finishing the doc whilst reading back, I completely forgot to mention that this was NOT the only time Shayy made this exact “proof?” joke to me in relation to seeing my ass. In the early hours of the 27th of March 2024, Shayy started streaming Stardew Valley on their Shayy_2 account [82]. In this stream chat I remember mentioning the New years ass incident to them and tagged back to the joke I had made back then. Shayy proceeds to respond “proof?” AGAIN to me during the stream [83]. I responded back linking back to the “proof” I had sent and showed them an image of an LPS toy I had within reaching distance because I didn’t want to take another photo. Shayy never directly responded after this, and I know for a fact it was during the stream because I actively sent them Stardew Valley wiki information unprompted, implying I was sending this as a result of the stream. Which again, Shayy doesn’t respond to in dms.)
Why was I afraid to speak up about Shayy?
There is a situation I will not give details about that occurred in late 2024 that involved me finding out about a dynamic between Shayy and someone else that was sexual in nature. That person [Victim #7] came to me in confidence about their feelings. And because of the guilt of keeping my knowledge of it from Shayy, and my wanting to help in sorting the situation out as someone who cared about the both of them as friends, I told them what I knew. The reason I specifically bring this up is because Shayy's reaction to me knowing this information was one of the big reasons I was so terrified to confide in anyone about our own interactions both in the past and present. They repeated to me that the interactions they had were personal and private, cited how it would’ve made me uncomfortable to read them because I'm Aroace, and said that it made them uncomfortable that the person in question came to me “they knew i was close with” without their consent, instead of talking to other people [14].
That situation was in the back of my mind until the most recent incident. It plagued me in a way because I knew deep down that the 2023 new years situation was wrong and I kept linking the two situations, wondering if Shayy saw our relationship in a similar way. I had not enough reason to properly think this though, and tried to forget about it completely.
Shayy had a pretty large paranoia and trauma over people talking behind their backs/vague-posting and expressed this to me multiple times during our friendship. When I was vague about things that were bothering me to them, they would pry and try to get it out of me [15]. Shayy made it a point to tell me multiple times that I would scare them with my vague-ness, asking if it was ever about them [16]. Sometimes I didn’t particularly want to tell Shayy how I was feeling or what was bothering me, but I always found myself doing it when they pried. I couldn’t bring myself to tell them no, it felt bad to tell them no. This also, obviously didn’t help with what I said previously about my fear of telling other people the shitty things they had done to me. They had trauma about their friends going behind their back. If I confided in people in private about how uncomfortable they made me feel.
I would be triggering their trauma if they ever found out. It was an unsettling and guilt-ridden feeling. I told myself multiple times when bad things happened that I wouldn’t tell anyone, that maybe I’d have to take this shit to the grave with me. I wanted to be loyal and a good friend, and honestly? This entire situation has made me feel like the worst person alive because of this. In the present, I can safely say I have carried guilt for months. I feel like a fucking monster. (Especially now this is going public)
Shayy and other people's hair.
Something I have learnt against my will during this situation is that Shayy has a thing for long hair. Why is this relevant?
December 2nd of 2024, Shayy had spoken to me about how they had gotten a new hairdryer in which they told me “if that gives you ideas :P” [17]. At the time I had no clue what that meant, so I paid it no mind. I had mentioned to them that I wanted to cut my hair shorter (because it helps with my gender dysphoria, I think everyone knows I'm trans LOL) and to my surprise, Shayy responded with “Your hair looks so amazing though…” Like they didn’t want me to cut it. This was confusing to me because Shayy knows I am trans, again literally everyone does. It’s strange but nothing heinous without the context that I know. To give them credit, they told me it was my own choice. That was fine, but the thing is:
The context is that they have a thing for longer hair, and that seems to be known to people who have had intimate relations with them. It was news to me until like a month ago, and was pretty horrifying to find out! This is the exact same fear I had with my ex-boyfriend, that he was being subtle about something he had a kink over and that our innocent and personal conversations were being used to satiate his desires. I was pretty fucking upset to find this out, and while it may not mean anything to most, it means a shit ton to me.
No wonder Shayy said “if that gives you ideas :P”. It all makes sense to me now. Additionally, after this happened Shayy offered to let me run my hands through their hair, and then proceeded to “catpost” [18]. Lovely. Other people can corroborate that Shayy says similar things and does similar things with others, especially people they wish to be intimate or actively are intimate with.
Did anything weird ever happen in Trusted chat?
(Trusted chat was a channel in Shayy’s discord comprising around 35+ of Shayy’s friends in Frog Family. Only people with the @idiot role could see the #Trusted channel along with a couple other channels such as #Vent. In 2023 I was added to Trusted as an artist that Shayy considered a friend. Typically people were added who Shayy met from their server/community and wanted to get closer to, but as the years went on it became a channel that only really ever added friends of friends.)
I’m sure you can find the odd examples of Shayy misbehaving and being sexual in Trusted chat, I think everyone is guilty of having those moments despite the fact we had children there.
I’m going to mention this specific instance though because I remember it extremely clearly and have the evidence to prove it happened [19]. September 6th of 2024, a conversation was had about masturbation in the #vent channel. Me and others were participants in this conversation (which I'm aware, I shouldn’t have been partaking in either) but someone who ALSO was a participant was Shayy. And what’s worse, is that there is proof that two minors saw these messages and were present lurking. Both of them were 17.
I have to ask, how the actual fuck was this allowed? And why the fuck did nobody stop this conversation? This shit should never have been normalized and I’m sickened with myself for not putting it a stop to it. I had a feeling it was wrong, but went along with it because everyone else seemed fine with it, especially the server owner and main figure, Shayy.
Ultimately, I understand that everyone has since completely halted the amount of sexual conversations taking place in Trusted. It’s a shame it took everyone to turn 18 for it to happen.
(As of writing this, the @idiot role and Trusted still exist.)
So, what was the most recent example of Shayy's behaviour?
Alright, we’re onto the interaction that actually sparked my need to talk about Shayy's behaviour to other people.
Between May 7th and May 8th of 2025 (This happened at night, so It carried from one day to the next in my timezone. For everyone else this would have just been May 7th) I had responded to Xander’s usual “Hello bottoms in my Iphone” message as so [20] for the obvious reason that I do not identify with the label “Bottom”. I have never personally jived with the idea of being labelled as such, and it is something that Shayy has tried to playfully argue I am since we became friends. They even once teased that I was becoming like [REDACTED 1], who regularly got called a bottom [21]. It’s like they so badly wanted me to be someone I am not, and that always made me feel somewhat uncomfortable. I tried my best to push against this when I could.
Anyhow. Soon after I responded, Shayy teased that I was a bottom for whatever reason. This prompted me to tease them back about a tweet I had made on my private twitter [22] (So fantastic I have to make this un-private to prove what happened)
This is embarrassing to admit (and I shouldn’t have to admit this) but a big reason why I so quickly felt like I had to prove I wasn't a bottom (and in-turn, a top) with a sexual tweet I had made [23] is because the idea of being a bottom makes me afraid of being taken advantage of within the context of sex positions. The reasons are very personal to me, because of my sexual trauma and how I have been treated my entire life. I feel small and powerless and I struggle to say no in most situations (It’s something I've been more actively doing, rejecting people outright and saying no when I'm not up to something or uncomfortable) I am so genuinely afraid of being manipulated into situations without my consent or being forced. It is a huge fear of mine, and it has been for years.
It genuinely sucks that I have to explain this. None of you should have to know this much about me. I wouldn’t be surprised if it makes you uncomfortable to read. Because it should make you uncomfortable, the fact that I feel like I have to explain this to show the gravity of this situation and why this should have never happened to me.
That tweet was made in a moment of comfortability with my sexuality, a moment where for once in my life I felt okay with the idea of doing something with someone in person intimately and sexually. Shayy ripped this comfort away from me. I have no reason to share this sort of thing with any (and I mean, ANY and ALL) of you ever again.
Back to the timeline of events, the time is 9:08pm. I took this screencap to the dms with Shayy to show them “proof” (funny how this is the second third time we’re doing the proof bit, huh?). Because I trusted them. They responded shyly and teasingly with “hey :3” which is a signature for them when they’re trying to imply something involving them [24]. I instantly knew what they meant by this, but hoped I was just making things up. I didn’t want to assume Shayy wanted me to give them a hickey. It made me revolt at the thought, it disgusted me. “I don’t want sexual interactions with Shayy, why would they say that? Maybe I'm just overthinking it” So I just took it as a joke. I teased them. I called them slur that we all re-claim teasingly in this group of friends [25]. I joked that they probably liked it knowing them, because I had seen their reaction to being called that before. They seemingly responded seriously, worsening the feeling. But I kept it light and playful as much as I could. We spoke for a couple more messages before the conversation dropped off at 9:56pm.
Shayy messages me again at 0:30am responding to what I said hours prior randomly to elaborate and share a photo of themself alongside it [26]. So the conversation re-ignites. I call them pretty, they respond positively using the blushing emoji they use constantly. I send a patting gif we regularly exchange for platonic nice reasons. This is something I usually did with emojis but we did it with gifs. This was normal. Then Shayy responds “please…” [27]
I sent another patting gif and called them a sopping wet cat. An affectionate term I use to describe characters like [CHARACTER] or I don't know, anyone that gives that energy? I was keeping it light like it should’ve been.
At 0:39am, 3 WHOLE HOURS after I had sent that screencap, Shayy responds to it with:
“So when am I getting this though? :P” [28]
I have to make this text big so I can get it through everyones heads what was actually said, Shayy for whatever reason continues to say this was a “God i-” situation. It wasn’t. It never was and I don’t know why they continue to make it out like it was. If you check the videos that should have been posted the other night, you can see for yourself that the attachment links to the hickey tweet. If they weren’t posted, I will make sure they are actually posted this time like I wanted originally.
I’m saying this now so I don’t forget later, but Shayy has actively lied about this situation to people before making any of the accountability posts [29]. They were callous in how they talked about it like it was clownable. Luckily the person this was sent to knew better than to trust what Shayy was saying. But who knows who else they said this to behind closed doors. The implication is that they told multiple people based on them saying “Basically everyone i’ve spoken to”.
The most recent accountability post also lied about it too. Why are you incapable of speaking the truth? To directly quote: “it was pretty explicitly written as "god i need this"”
Was it really now? [28] ←
I don’t know, it seems to me like you were expecting me to give you a hickey. Funny joke you got there, I laughed so hard. Honestly it sounds more like a demand to me than a joke.
Sorry, I’m getting carried away and speaking directly to Shayy instead of you all. My apologies, it’s the only way I can really express this now without speaking to them directly. I don’t really want to do that after the last two confrontations we had. I’ll speak on that later.
I was confused, horrified. Shayy had just confirmed the concern I had that I assumed was just me overthinking. I assumed I had misunderstood, so I asked for clarification on if they were talking about me or in general [30]. Shayy confirmed the sexual “joke” was aimed at me. It sounded “pretty good” to be given a hickey from me. The Aroace who had never had sex, never done anything sexually intimate with anyone, who had never given a hickey. I’ve never even kissed someone with romantic or sexual intent. So I clarified again, thinking maybe they didn’t realise I was being serious or that it was a sexual tweet.
Shayy doubled down twice, took none of the opportunities to shut down the “joke” they made. Sexual and platonic interactions “aren’t terribly different” to Shayy. It made me re-think every single interaction we had once months had passed. How much of what we said, what we did was being taken sexually? If sexual and platonic aren’t distant, what was our platonic friendship?
I declined [31], it hadn’t sunk in yet how bad this was. Just like new years of 2023, I was ready to sweep this under the rug and take it to the grave with me. I felt the horror yet chose to ignore it, because Shayy wouldn’t actually do that to me right? I think they realised their fuckup, telling me that they “weren’t into hickeys anyway”. Sure. I’m glad this was funny for you.
I sent a head pat gif, unsure of how to deal with my feelings of discomfort. Shayy continued speaking, and speaking, and speaking. Saying they wanted head-pats for real. I admitted to them finally that it was jarring to hear what they said [32]. They apologised instantly, telling me they didn’t mean it. CONVENIENTLY acting like they were unsure if I was Aroace [33].
It is so interesting to me, that back when I told them I knew information about their situation with another friend, they cited me being Ace as a reason why it might be uncomfortable for me to learn about their sexual dynamic [34]. So why is there such hesitance now? Is it because they potentially saw me expressing that I was unsure if I was Aroace once in the #vent channel because I was trying to figure out what was going on with my sexuality? That’s speculation on my part, but if that is the case then why the actual fuck would you take advantage of that. Every outcome in my opinion as to why Shayy would do this all lead to Shayy not acting appropriately. They pushed against a boundary, pushed the limits of our friendship and tested the waters to see if something stuck.
Don’t pull this shit with anyone again who you know is Aroace. Don’t pull the demanding sexual acts “joke” with anyone. It’s creepy and weird. It borders on Sexual harassment.
Shayy said this was mostly a joke, and I told them not to worry. I feel bad for saying this, as it took time for me to wake up that this wasn’t okay whatsoever. I pushed down my feelings to make them feel better about it. They then told me “[Anonymous 1] I would never ever ever ever do anything that would make you uncomfortable “ [35]. I know what they meant by this really, they meant to say they would never intend to make me uncomfortable. The cruel irony is, this was the most uncomfortable I had felt about talking to Shayy since New years of 2023.
I just chalked it up to an Autism slip-up. We all have them, completely miscommunicating the situation entirely. It was a one- no- second big time mistake they had made. This wasn’t something other people went through, right?
(For additional context since it sounds weird without it, I’m diagnosed Autistic. Saying they had an autism slip-up isn’t a slight, it’s how Shayy portrayed it to me themself whenever explaining their actions to me. They regularly used “missing cues” and autism as an explanation for their actions.)
How did I find out other people went through this too?
I hope you don’t mind that I start this with some of our last interactions for context.
I kept all of this to myself for months, acting like things were normal. I actually kind of forgot it had happened at a lot of points because of how far down I buried it. I had started to distance myself from Trusted chat and had been hanging out with people in smaller groups due to the sexual nature and vulgarity that I was getting sick of (im sorry). I stopped instigating conversations with Shayy as much kind of subconsciously. I was supportive, and they supported me. There were still the odd interactions that were more personal like venting to each other or me congratulating them on runs. GDQ came around and we were still friendly and supportive with each other.
I had ended up venting to Shayy eventually about my feelings about Trusted. I didn’t feel like I belonged, I blamed myself for not enjoying the sexual conversations and vulgarity, I was also having family issues around the same time so I was extremely broken up. This was the last conversation that me and Shayy had that felt meaningful and personal and where I felt comfortable to vent to them. It took place on the 28th of July 2025 [36].
On August 1st 2025, Me and Shayy had a conversation about their trip to Cedar point. It was short, but ended with Shayy saying I look like I would “be extremely comfortable to cuddle with” before telling me after I had hoped we could meet some day “Absolutely me too”. 10 minutes later they followed it up with “Definitely gotta make it happen, ur like one of my closest friends, I wanna visit one day [37]”
Additionally on August 15th, my birthday, Shayy would repeat the same sentiment. This to me was more sinister in my opinion. They said “One day when i’m a youtube millionaire i’ll fly you out here and we can have a proper party” [38]. I reacted positively, and I probably shouldn’t have. Then again, at the time I saw it as being pretty innocent all things considered.
This spooks me, now knowing what went on with some of their friends that they saw in person. This included (but is not limited to) Shayy groping Audrey's [azuraeth] ass at SGDQ 2024, and cuddling [Anonymous #3] to the point where he could feel Shayy’s dick on his leg at AGDQ 2025. Both of them have given me permission to mention these encounters by name here.
The conversation dropped off at 9:24am, and Shayy messaged me again saying “some day! :3” and then “for sure” at 5:46pm. As you can see, 8 hours after the conversation had been dropped.
However, before my birthday I had begun to discuss my feelings of Shayy exhibiting weird behaviour, this was because someone I was talking to in a voice call vaguely brought something up relating to how Shayy’s behaviour reflected on Trusted chats vulgarity and sexual nature. It woke me up completely, and a place for me to talk about everything was made for me.
I finally told a set small group of people my exact two main experiences with Shayy up to that point in the early hours of the 9th of August 2025. I told them everything, sobbing as I did it. Years of anxiety I couldn’t pinpoint the reason for finally connecting together to form what it is now. Why was I so nervous and antsy whenever I got a dm from Shayy? I had just thought I was being completely parasocial, but no. Subconsciously I had been pushing down discomfort from both the two big interactions that bothered me AND the smaller more subtle ones that came in between.
One of the people contained in this group had also been personally affected by Shayy’s sexual/intimate nature [Anonymous #7]. We both exchanged our stories to each other and wondered if anyone had been through similar, PRAYING that nobody had. We knew if this became about more than two people, we would have an issue to deal with. We assumed it was just us, and waited.
We were wrong.
Slowly but surely, as days, weeks and months passed, I learnt of more and more people who had been through the same or similar interactions with Shayy through telling them about what happened to me up until today. There are things that transpired because of this, but I will touch on them later and chronologically. As a result of me being so open behind the scenes, slowly learning to trust other people and them putting their trust in me, we all started to notice a very prevalent pattern. We were being playfully flirted with, advances made on us, sexual acts exchanged which were mostly instigated by Shayy. Some were young, but of age when it happened. The majority of us are feminine, often AFAB. Some of us are vulnerable and not appropriate to be initiating flirtatious or sexual conversations/acts with. Again, I'm Aroace. I was unavailable.
Eventually, I had decided I needed to take action.
The first confrontation.
On August 22nd of 2025, I sent my very first (and what I intended to be my last) message to Shayy [39]. As I explained in the message, and as Shayy has mentioned to several people without my permission, this awakening did also open my eyes to a running history of situations I had faced in my life that were related to sex or sexual situations. Yes, I realised I have sexual trauma.
I’m not going to elaborate further on my why or what happened in my past that caused me to have this trauma. I’ve already said enough, and quite frankly I am disgusted that Shayy has gone around telling people about this “Trauma spiral” I went down [29] [40]. That was not their place to mention at all.
Anyhow, after I sent this message I blocked Shayy like I had warned them. At the time I simply did not want to deal with the stress and anxiety of having to respond to their immediate reaction. I had already been through enough of that even typing the message up, the last several weeks had been a never-ending hell to begin with. This boundary wouldn’t last though.
August 27th 2025, I unblocked and messaged to express my distaste with the fact the profile picture they were using was a complete re-draw of my halloween witch art I had personally made for them at my request. The same art from October 2024. Now, I have my own feelings about the communication between me and Shayy relating to permission being given to literally redraw my art almost exactly, but it’s not something you should care about particularly. I am just outlining the reason communication started up again. Shayy apologised so it’s whatever. After this short conversation, Shayy asked if we could talk. I told them I didn’t want to (I had already stated to them I wasn’t ready to unblock them) but to go on ahead [41].
Shayy guilted me over the fact I had sent my message and blocked them, telling me about how awful it was for them, how they had a difficult day, how it was late at night, how i should have “given them the basic decency” to let them talk to me. I felt so guilty, but I pushed through and defended myself [42]. They responded and used the fact I knew about their trauma against me. It made me feel like I was wrong for doing any of this, despite the fact I had every right to. I had to do what I did for myself, and my own trauma. To move on and heal is what I needed, and to talk to Shayy and be exposed to the full brunt of their reaction was going to send me over the edge. One of our comforts had to be sacrificed, and I had sacrificed mine to Shayy too many times. It had to be done.
I told Shayy they needed to be careful and to stop this behaviour, at this very time I was still under the impression that it was just me and the other person (and at most maybe a third person? I’m unsure about that one) so I was trying to warn them in case it ever did become more people. Shayy was defensive, saying we had been friends for years and how they wouldn’t do this with a random person [43]. I asked them what their intent was behind looping back around to the tweet hours after I had sent it and they had already responded.
This made Shayy even more defensive. They told me that they would have stopped because I had told them outright I had made them uncomfortable. We now know based on other peoples accounts that showing Shayy signs of discomfort outright is not a guarantee that your boundaries will be respected. I didn’t know this at the time though as it wasn't something brought up yet by anyone I knew affected, so I believed it. It made me feel even more guilt. They then told me they had “no intent” and took what I said as me implying negative/malicious intent [44]. Shayy continued to say it was a mistake, and said that it was hurting them that I was “magnifying a slip up that was pulled up months after the fact”, saying “it should have been clear from my actions that it was never going to happen again”.
I clarified what I meant and they started blaming the group dynamic of Trusted as to why they thought it was okay [45]. They repeatedly made it a point to state how I knew how Trusted was when it came to these things. They made me out like I was accusing them of repeated behaviour of the sort, getting extremely defensive and treating me like I was making a big deal out of nothing. I felt crazy. They made me feel crazy.
They became even more defensive, excusing their behaviour as “understandable” because of the group dynamic. I tried to point out this was a problem within itself, that the group dynamic was getting to a point where people were getting involved with or witnessing interactions that made them uncomfortable when they didn’t want to. They got upset at me for “Implying there was a pattern” and that this was a “one time mistake that won’t happen again” [46]. In hindsight, I think we all understand now that this was a complete lie. Not just in general, but in relation to me too. Shayy has exhibited this behaviour with several people, maybe even more we don’t know about. And it’s clear they’ve acted this way with me more than once in subtle and un-subtle ways.
For the record, you’ll probably notice that I completely failed to mention what had happened on New years of 2023. You might be wondering why I never brought that up. To put it simply: I was already getting grilled for bringing up Shayys actions from months ago, let alone years ago. I knew I was already going to face consequences for bringing up the more recent incident, so I left the other out entirely. I shouldn’t have left it out in hindsight, but at that moment I was so goddamn afraid of what the response would be already that I wanted to limit how much it would hurt as much as possible for my own sake.
But at the time, I doubted myself. Even after time had passed, I still doubted myself. Hell, I still kind of doubt myself. I still wonder “Is it really that bad? Did I really make a big deal out of nothing?” and it is so bad that during my therapist visit, my own therapist acknowledged how my language during my re-countings sounded like I was unsure of myself before I had even mentioned how much doubt I held for myself.
Shayy continues that they have continued to work on themself over the past year, accidentally revealing this is something they know is a problem that needs fixing. They continue to paint it as a one-time mistake to me again, saying how much it hurt them, comparing what I said to something someone would say about an abuser [47]. Again, they talk about how badly it affects them, how it’s a one-time mistake AGAIN.
[48]. I’m not even going to explain. You’ve seen this all before, you’ve seen the same sort of self-loathing language and exclamation that it’s a “one-time slip up”. I powered through, trying to explain myself. It was exhausting, and it’s exhausting to re-tell now. I’m sure it’s exhausting to read too, I'm sorry (but thank you for getting this far anyway) [49]. At this point, Shayy started to bombard me with message after message and I was starting to shut down. It was message after message and it was all starting to blur together to me.
Shayy openly states to my face that they “cannot truthfully and honestly look at that [the message I sent here [49]] and say a large portion of it is my [their] fault” then proceeds to call their mistake “small” [50], completely downplaying how damaging their actions were. Shayy then begins to therapize me right after being shitty to me. It gives me genuine whiplash reading this back. And then, grossest of all, assumes I find it difficult to believe they can make mistakes because I looked up to them. It is genuinely sickening having to read this back, how manipulative and nasty they were yet being kind and close at the same time. The way they speak to me in this specific instance is genuinely some of the worst in terms of how fucking awful they treated me during this conversation as a person, as a victim of sexual trauma. It felt like being stabbed, and then after complaining about it being told “But it was a small mistake, I know you find it hard to see that it was a mistake but it’s not your fault. I know you blame yourself, this must be so painful…” whilst twisting the knife further. Was the intent to hurt me? Was it actually just a mistake despite their repeated patterns in behaviour to me and countless others?
I don’t care anymore what the original intent was, I don’t care anymore about what you (the reader) might feel like the intent was. There is no real way of knowing, because evidently even Shayy doesn’t even know at this point. And I don’t trust their word on what they think their intent might have been because they even said it themself: “I had convinced myself and my memory that the joke I made was "god i wish that was me"”. If you can convince yourself that the exact thing you said was completely different, how the hell can I trust what your original intent was supposed to be???
Shayy then mentioned someone joking about a google doc to my face which, painful irony I know. It honestly feels like they were taunting me with a reminder of their trauma, but this time about this situation getting out to the public. It was not necessary to tell me this information whatsoever. But they continue nonetheless, telling me about how afraid they were of their life being ruined by “falsehoods” [51].
I’m not going to deny Shayy has serious trauma involving the idea of being cancelled or publicly called out. That would be stupid, they’re a content creator and it happens all the time to others whether it’s false or not. But they definitely weaponized this trauma against me whether they intended to or not. To talk about being called out in public during a conversation I was having with them in private whilst I was coming to express my discomfort and concern over the fact Shayy did this thing to me, was wildly inappropriate. I think Shayy is extremely aware of that now.
I was clearly checked out, but Shayy continues making it about them [52]. Self explanatory.
They then start to therapize me again, giving me unsolicited advice as someone “older”. I don’t know how else to describe this other than embarrassing [53]. Is that mean to say? Probably, but it is so genuinely tonedeaf. I did not want advice off of the person who had talked to me terribly just 20 minutes prior. It felt wrong, so I told them I wanted space now. Sadly, we’re not done with this section just yet though.
Shayy respected my wishes, yet asked me to keep them unblocked [54]. This is genuinely inexcusable and I should have told them no. To guilt me into keeping access open to direct contact after getting me to talk to them about something I wasn't ready to, because they don’t want to be in “isolation”, is genuinely extremely selfish terrible behaviour. My feelings were not considered whatsoever, no matter how many times Shayy tells themself and others that they were. If my feelings were genuinely considered, you wouldn’t have asked. You wouldn’t have minimised your “mistake”, you wouldn’t have spoken when I told you I didn’t want to talk. Shayys ideas of “consideration” and “care” for me were surface level. I don’t care that they gave me the choice, they shouldn’t have asked me to keep them unblocked in the first place.
After they told me how they were trying to get better at what was essentially understanding and respecting people's boundaries, they asked to lift my own boundary for their own benefit: Blocking them. And I said it was okay, because I was an idiot.
The name-drop, and why Shayy was banned.
I actually ended up re-blocking them soon after. They didn't know this until right now (sorry!).
This is because since that conversation happened, I had heard of more people's experiences. At this point the entire thing left a bad taste in my mouth and I was sick of making exceptions, but it was hearing about what Shayy had told people behind the scenes that really cemented to me that they were someone I never wished to speak to ever again. I had learnt this through [REDACTED 2], who had been messaged by Shayy and told what happened. Shayys message as I mentioned prior [29], contained the lie that the joke was in the caliber of “God I wish that were me”. This is simply not true, like I said before it was plainly written as “So when am I getting this though?”. It was direct, and when asked for clarification they doubled down and said they wouldn’t mind receiving it from me.
I had received this information after being contacted by someone who had also been affected by Shayys previous actions [Anonymous #6] on the 11th of September 2025. This is when I learnt how far back Shayys actions have gone. It spanned several years; over 5 years to be specific. The person in question was aware that Shayy had messaged [REDACTED 2] what had happened and pieced together that me leaving a group (the same group Shayy was about to be banned from) was a direct result of Shayy making me uncomfortable. This was something that [REDACTED 2] actually tried to reach out to me to figure out too. But because it was a general question as to why I left, I tried to conceal what had happened out of fear [REDACTED 2] would tell Shayy (I had assumed the both of them were really close for some reason).
After a lot of talking, on the 12th of September Shayy was banned from that group. Said group was told what had happened and my identity was kept anonymous as advised. It was for my safety, on the slim chance it were to ever leak. Originally, screencaps were censored heavily to avoid any sort of revealing my identity. The problem was that in Trusted, Shayy was responding to the ban in real time in the vent channel.
This is when my name was dropped [55].
All of my friends, everyone both within the group they were banned from (A lot of which were also in Trusted) and outside of the group in Trusted now knew I was involved in this. People in that vent chat started to talk about me, and because of how Shayy had presented the situation to people both in that chat in private, they were defending Shayy and making out like I was being unreasonable. As soon as this happened, I was told by people. It was fucked up and wrong, so they told me. It was mortifying, and to watch people I cared about talk about me like that was soul-crushing.
Shayy has since deleted the message that name drops me, or edited it out.
Now, I felt obligated to completely come forward to the group Shayy was banned from. They already knew I was a big part in this, so I had absolutely nothing to lose. It was scary. I didn’t like it at all, but now my motivation turned to making sure this would never happen again. I now had the ability to be 100% transparent about how I was treated, and as a result multiple people came forward to the entire group too. Whether it was small interactions that seemed off or continued weird behaviour that spanned long passages of time, people now felt confident enough to share their own experiences with Shayy because they knew they weren’t the only one. It was weirdly healing to know I wasn’t as alone as I thought I was, and I’m sure the others affected can personally relate to that too.
I shared full video evidence to the people in the group of the first confrontation I had with Shayy and understandably, they were disappointed. They already had the screencaps of the other big two incidents, so this was new to them.
Now we had a bigger problem, A lot of people had experiences with Shayy interacting with them sexually or flirtatiously. Additionally, Shayy had just name dropped me and vented about their own behaviour to the response of support from the rest of our friends. Who didn’t know what was going on. This is when other people got involved and started to aid Shayy in the process of trying to make this right, working with both sides to gather evidence and to try to minimise the damage as much as possible.
Shayy had 2 people look over their first statement + 1 person look over their second, and personally I don’t think they would have been as inclined to make it if these people hadn’t been working together. This is probably news to hear for all of you, considering Shayy has made no note or reference to the fact that they received help, support and encouragement in making the decision to make their accountability posts. Instead, they have phrased it as if they have done it all on their own.
(I can now confirm that Oceanbagel looked over the first accountability post, and willyjwillyj looked over both accountability posts. Both of them have helped mediate the situation and I am thankful for all the work they’ve done for us all.)
Once we were notified that Shayy was planning on making an accountability post, we waited.
The first accountability post.
On the 14th of September 2025, an accountability post was sent in Trusted that vaguely talked about how Shayy had “a handful” of interactions with friends that made them uncomfortable that were sexual in nature [57]. This post talked about intent more than once, spoke about how it made them feel, and ended the post with “I will do better, I promise”
Shayy says they will do better, it is a repeated thing that they have said to multiple people at this point. But clearly, Shayy has not done better enough to stop themself from omitting information, repeatedly talking about how they feel about how they hurt people, trauma dumping in what is supposed to be situations where they are taking accountability for ways they hurt other people, and telling outright lies or downplaying what they did. Every single statement that has been made about this situation by Shayy to all of you has had a pattern of self loathing, vagueness, and a pretty fake sense of how much Shayy actively wanted to make these posts. But we’ll get more into that when I talk about their most recent, second accountability post.
For transparency, this post was not sent to me by Shayy or the 2 people who saw it over before posting. I had to find this out through friends who were there to see it themself as soon as it was posted.
It was kind of horrifying to see peoples reactions to this after the fact, watching people I had grown to know just blindly support Shayy without full context. People made out that they were an amazing person for doing below the bare minimum. It broke my heart.
I understand that people were hesitant to come to me about this; that it is difficult to ask someone what happened because they feel it might not be their place. But nobody came to me to ask what had happened directly or to tell me that they were here for me because of this situation. People were too scared to, and it made me feel so goddamn alone. People pussyfooted around it entirely, and the only support I got from people who weren’t in the know were vague Check-ins. And even then, it seems as if the reason they reached out wasn’t exactly because of the Shayy stuff, they just wanted to in general. It fucking broke me, and I’ve lost a lot of trust in people as a result. Since then, I have told a couple people what happened but I also hid it from others because I was afraid.
By the way, just to be transparent. They mention their second alt here and while I followed their first alt, I never at any point attempted to follow their second alt before it was deleted. You can probably understand why, for very very very obvious reasons. Those obvious reasons being I’m Aroace, I don’t wanna see their suggestive photos.
The second confrontation.
Originally before the first accountability post dropped, I had planned to have a voice call with Shayy but it fell through due to my lack of trust in them. Then, I had decided to go through one of the people who had helped look over the accountability post to send a second “Final message” to them. But I got impatient, unblocked Shayy and sent it directly to them instead on the 16th of September 2025.
I cannot post the entire message through a screenshot considering it is around 2,700 words long, so you will find the exact message I sent with names redacted out of it as the only edits here [58]. Do not feel inclined to read the entire thing if you don’t want to, it goes over a lot of the stuff I’ve already gone over here just less structured. The most important thing in this message you have seen as a screencap at the top of this written statement and Is in bold + Highlighted.
Shayy was now properly aware of the 2 major events that occurred that triggered my want to cut myself off from them. There is no excuse left for any misunderstandings of events. Shayy says it literally, exactly themself at the end of their first blocks of messages [59]. Once again saying “I have made no excuses, I will be better.” Remember this.
Shayy once again was writing a lot, and it’s a lot to take in so i’m sorry If i don’t go over every single thing that they talk about. I’ll leave all of it in the screenshots for you to read over yourself but I’ll try to limit myself to things that are the most important to me.
Shayy directly acknowledges the EXACT wording of how they responded to my hickey tweet [60]. They repeat to me about how they feel, about themself, about their intentions. A lot of this is self-aggrandizing. And no, I still don’t care about intent.
Intent doesn’t matter when there’s 2 whole years worth of documented progression and closeness starting from when I had turned 18. Intent doesn’t matter when this is the second time you’re having to address how you’ve hurt me. Intent doesn’t matter when you go out of your way to flirt and make sexual comments at me and other peoples expense. Intent doesn’t fucking matter, when you know I am Aroace and unavailable, when you have used this exact fact to explain why someone shouldn’t come to me about their issues with your own behaviour and dynamic with them.
Intent doesn’t matter, when you normalize your sick, self-indulgent, disgusting behaviour to me. FOR YEARS.
What they did to me wouldn’t have even been okay if they weren’t a big content creation with almost half a million subscribers. The power that they had over me just made it so much easier to manipulate me into it and to get away with it. It began when I was 18, impressionable and looking up to someone with influence over others. I didn’t have a lot of experience In life, being Autistic and mentally disabled. I was stuck at home all day and still am, plagued with anxiety about my future and my own abilities as a freshly new adult. I had just come out of a relationship where I felt like I was sexualised and perceived in ways I didn’t want or consent to. I had a history of being inappropriately interacted with by people in my life, I made it clear to everyone around me I was Aroace. Over those years, I just got used to Shayys behaviour completely. I got used to them flirting with me (without me realising what it was), I got used to them sending good morning messages, I got used to how they usually only ever spoke about my interests when it related to calling characters hot or sexualising them, I got used to the inappropriate comments they made in moments where I was just trying to converse with them as a friend.
I even didn’t say anything when on the 29th of February 2024, they sent a suggestive photo of themselves, pulling their shirt over their crotch with their bare legs out whilst attempting to show me their new socks. I brushed past it and thought it was okay. (I want to share evidence for this, but that would involve sharing the picture and I can’t exactly do that)
I trusted Shayy. They did this over years.
(Another edit I'm having to make since I remembered something else; I don’t know where to put this one so it’s going here. This year I was in a voice call playing ISAT in Trusted where Shayy was watching me amongst other people. It had been several hours since I started playing, around the early hours and I had stretched due to how little I had moved. Because my stretch was audible, Shayy said “AYOOO” and started making comments about how it sounded like I was moaning. I don’t remember the exact comments, but I do remember feeling mortified at the moment. I laughed it off and tried to forget about it. It was only until around a month ago that I was in a voice call with a friend who was completely disconnected from Shayy and Frog family, where I had stretched again and INSTANTLY apologised. I was met with the response “Why are you apologising for that…?”
I was so used to the treatment I got from Shayy and the environment of Trusted, that I instantly assumed that I would be sexualised elsewhere for stretching audibly. This made me realise how weird that situation really originally was.)
Anyway, back to the confrontation. Sorry, sidetracked again. Shayy acknowledges the fact that they had downplayed their actions [61]. Something that they would continue to do past this in the second accountability post. They then once again tell me how I feel, then tell me to absolve myself of all guilt because it is not my fault. Soon after, they go back to their intent [62].
I explained to them that their intent was difficult to parse (It still is). Throughout this entire process it has felt 10x worse not being inside Shayys head to understand what the true intentions of all of this are, because like hell am I going to trust what they say outright. They tell me that they didn’t understand what was wrong and that they wouldn’t do something downright awful [63]. It is clear to me that they still do not properly understand what was wrong, which is disappointing and scary. Shayy then mentions that they felt as if they had no reason to ask about what they’ve done because “everything seemed fine”. This is deeply concerning considering that others have experienced similar behaviour, one of which had called them out for it years prior. They were aware of the possibility of this happening again and still were not careful enough. [64].
Shayy says what I did was brave, and then in response to my paragraph about the good they did for me starts to talk about the good I did for them [65]. This entire paragraph is extremely skin-scrawlingly gross to read with hindsight. I’ve spoken about how their treatment of me felt special, but this confirms that what we had was special to them. At the time, this flew completely over my head. A month later, I read it with disgust. It is scary that they had so much attachment to me. No Shayy, these will not be happy memories for me to look back on, I'm sorry.
I had to look back on all these messages recently, and it fills me with horror. All of it.
They once again made it a point to mention how hard this has been for them [66]. I made sure to tell them that doing this was manipulative and inappropriate [67]. As stated by myself, I did my best to limit explaining how badly this entire thing has affected me up until now. I was honest with them that they needed to stop, yet empathised with them anyway [68]. We continue; I explain to Shayy that they made me feel special and that I felt scared to come to them about this. They tell me once again that I am brave for reaching out directly [69]. I also said I forgive them for their reaction during the first confrontation, and I want to mention that since then I retract that forgiveness. I don’t forgive Shayy in the slightest for any of this.
This is getting exhausting to talk about and go through so I'm sorry if this gets slightly more sloppy as time goes on. Please read the screenshots yourself and read some of my own responses since I point out things I'm not going to here. Shayy says they forgive me for struggling to communicate to them sooner [70].
This is where I tell them to stop befriending fans and then having sexual interactions with them. They agree not to do it again [71]. Here you can also see confirmation that they did not in fact show me the accountability post before it went out. They use their name-dropping of me as a way of saying they took accountability for my specific [72]. This is just not how you take accountability and the fact that they have the nerve to say that the message “clearly illustrates what happened” is genuinely laughable. I acknowledged that I had seen what they said and ACTIVELY told them they had my full consent to give AS MUCH DETAIL AS POSSIBLE about the situation if they want to be 100% honest. This is something that to this day, they fail to do [73].
Shayy says they have a “full understanding of their mistakes” and that there will be no “half-assing” or “half-measures” [74]. This clearly isn’t true based off of the most recent accountability post, as if it was I wouldn’t be making this. Shayy continues to talk about themself, and I continue to re-iterate they have my full consent to share literally everything [75]. That still stands today.
Shayy then talks with me about something they have asked me not to share. I will respect that, but they pretty much almost trauma dump to me about their past. They explicitly tell me that it isn’t my burden to hear but also told me enough to the extent they acknowledge that I've figured it out based on how I comforted them (because that’s what I did) [76]. They then told me not to share what they had just talked about but give me full consent to share everything else. They also tell me that they hope that some day down the line I can “see them well and thriving and know it turned out okay” [77].
We started to get near the end of the conversation after talking for hours. I was starting to become nicer and more tolerant instead of stern. That tends to happen whenever I talk to Shayy and it’s a reason why I refused further contact after this point [78]. After a certain point, it just felt like talking to a friend again. I was honest that it was entirely possible I could go back to hating their guts, and told them they are free to use my art as they wish as they are gifts (I still hold this belief) [79]. I told Shayy to be mindful of other people when giving apologies or giving them space. Self explanatory, i’m getting tired [80]. At this point I was being way too nice and it irritates me.
Eventually after more conversation that isn’t as important, our final messages are exchanged. They say some nice things, telling me I should forgive myself and to not hold anything over myself [81]. And that's where it ends. Exhausting, but now we can move on right? Well uh.
What made me want the truth out.
The thing is, I had a lot of pent up emotions regarding how people had responded to Shayys initial accountability post. It was driving me nuts, like actually. After some pep talks and a lot of frustration, I had finally reached out to a couple of people who I really wanted to clear up things with because of how much it was eating away at me that they didn’t have the full truth.
I spoke to a couple of people and in doing this, I realised how much it mattered that all the information was included. It elicited empathetic reactions that surprised me. It changed things, and that’s when I realised something.
People needed the full truth, didn’t they?
Now, this was primarily an inside feeling. I had expressed how badly people needed to know about the truth to my friends, but I didn’t intend to actually go about doing something about it yet. I wasn’t in a state to, to be quite honest. I was a mess. This is when one of the people who read over Shayy's first accountability post reached out to me in the early hours of the 4th of November 2025 to let me know that Shayy was open to the idea of making another post detailing exactly what happened, but that they wanted a third conversation with me.
I was absolutely pissed off, and terrified. The entire idea of Shayy wanting to talk to me again broke me completely. What more could they possibly want to talk about? I asked the person who told me this why Shayy wanted to talk to me again, and their answer was that they wanted to apologise whilst having their (the persons) consultation on the matter. This was later cleared up to be a slight miscommunication, as the purpose of the conversation was supposed to be for making sure the second accountability post was right. I was only told this after that post was made, so I completely declined any attempt at a third conversation between me and Shayy. Even if a mediator would be there, I was not okay with confronting this person AGAIN. I had already been through enough. I was not going to let Shayy feel like they could absolve themself of guilt by apologising to me again. I had already heard enough apologies.
Later in the day, the same day on the 4th of November 2025. I would wake up to a nasty surprise.
The second accountability post.
Like stated previously, on the 4th of November 2025 Shayy made their most recent accountability post and it was posted in Trusted alongside screenshots of our conversations like I wanted. Once again, their post is extremely long and a .txt file so I will have it shown here for reference [84].
This post is extremely flawed even though it’s the best post Shayy has made on this situation to date. Most of it talks about themself and their own trauma and issues, and anything related to other people has errors or shouldn’t have been spoken about in the first place. “Why should Shayy have not spoken about them in the first place?” you may be asking. It’s simple.
Nobody, and especially not Shayy, came to any of the other people involved to ask if they could mention the times they had been inappropriate with them.
I didn’t even get warned about this post being made until someone sent it to me after the fact. I am disgusted that none of the people affected were thought about when Shayy made this. They should have been the top priority, and the fact they weren’t tells me that this accountability post was rushed right off the bat. Not to mention that both [Anonymous #3] and Audrey's dedicated parts are HEAVILY downplayed. This post was a complete and utter failure at accountability, especially when the whole point was to specifically detail what happened to me.
Starting here [85], like I had previously stated, Shayy still fails to properly describe the incident. Saying it was “Pretty explicitly written as ‘God I need this’”. We all know this isn’t true, it was explicitly written as “So when am I getting this though?” verbatim [28]. All of you could see the screenshot for yourself, so it troubles me that nobody caught this. Shayy also adds that it came across as if they were asking for a favor. Personally, I’d go as far to say that it wasn’t even asking because of how demanding + expectant it sounded. They then go on to admit that they probably thought I was being over-sensitive which is pretty crazy to me. I was extremely gentle in letting them know my discomfort [32]. They continue in their statement and continue to use the environment THEY allowed and fostered in Trusted as a crux, saying it would be “easy to assume the worst and take it as malicious intent”. I could maybe agree with this had there not been years of DMs where Shayy acted weirdly continuously directly to me.
You can check the “Collection of patterns and progression” tab for a complete collection and list of said repeated behaviour. There is a lot I haven't shown yet. Please do that once you’re finished reading till the end of this doc.
Shayy then talks about the New years incident of 2023, citing the “[NAME]ass” nickname as the reason. Like I mentioned earlier in this doc, there is no proof for this. Upon learning this was the narrative Shayy was trying to spin and realising that Shayy conveniently hadn’t posted their discussion of their friends twitter banner being of the Shayy GDQ ass picture, I got Pleb to post the video of the entire conversation with that part included. Very fucking sneaky. That, or a stupidly bad fuck-up on their part. Seriously, what the actual hell? I don’t know why you didn’t just send the entire videos in full in the first place. I had sent them to the necessary person who helped with this (said person has already apologised to me for their part in this, for the record), so what happened??
The final thing I’d like to talk about concerning this post is how Shayy partly distances themself from what they’ve said in the past. They clarify to say that it is still them and their responsibility, but still felt the need to put this part in the accountability post for whatever reason. So much of this post is so fucking selfish, it astounds me.
Conclusion.
I hope this document has finally shown you what type of person Shayy is. Now, you can make your own decision off of all the facts and my own perspective. I am genuinely sorry you have had to sit through over 13,000 words of this abysmal dogshit. Genuinely, thank you for taking the time to do so. It means the world. There is still an entire tab dedicated to the patterns of behaviour that I implore you to sift through, but please take your time and be wary that it is not pretty whatsoever. This has been exhausting to write and has consumed my life these past several days.
If you have any questions, please don’t be afraid to message me. I may not be quick to respond because I am so fucking tired lol but I hope I can answer anything you want to ask. I am actually quite terrified of the reaction to this, I hope to see you sometime soon. Thank you.
(Do not message me if we don’t know each other, thank you.)
Before I go, I would love to thank all of the people who have supported me through this entire thing. This situation has been hell and without all of you, I wouldn’t have gotten where I am now writing this. Thank you to those who have had to listen to me cry in voicecalls, and especially the people who had to listen to me hyperventilate too. You know who you are. Thank you also to every single person who has looked through this doc before its posting to help me do it right. While I've written this entirely by myself, your help is greatly appreciated and I would be worse off without it.
(I also just want to make a statement to you, the public. Thank you for taking the time to read this document. I know a lot of you will be angered or in pain because of this situation and I'm genuinely so sorry that things turned out this way. If you were a fan of Shayy’s, then I used to be just like you before we became friends. I understand what this is going to do to people and again, I’m so sorry.
So much has happened since I originally made this document to show to our friend circle, so much new information has resurfaced since people found out that this happened. We are going through all this in real time.
Please take it from me: that if you are young, vulnerable and/or especially if you are under 18 to BE CAREFUL online. I cannot stop you, but I STRONGLY urge you to not contact popular internet personalities or celebrities. I don’t believe that every person who has power uses it to exploit others, but the likelihood of it happening to you because of the power dynamic is extremely high. This situation has ruined my life for the past several months, so if you can prevent it happening to you then PLEASE do what you can.
And to anyone who has had similar experiences with this individual or any other person, please know you CAN speak up about this. Chances are, it has happened to other people before you. Please confide in people, please stick up for yourself. You are more than your body, than someone who is capable of sexual actions + interactions. You are your own person, do not let people tear you down. It is not your fault. It will never be your fault when people take advantage of you when you are vulnerable.
Shayy was someone who helped me through some of my hardest moments, both as a content creator and as a friend. I’m sure so many of you have had your life improved because of this person, so I mean this truly: Life does get better, you will find people in your life that can help you get through the tough times. Just because this betrayal happened doesn’t mean you cannot find some sort of comfort in someone's content again. Just be mindful to not get attached to people you do not know personally. Set your boundaries and make sure to keep yourself and the other person safe. Be mindful and vigilant, please.)
Please make sure to read any other statements made by people affected, and please be kind.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you.
- [Anonymous 1]
Screencaps (Ctrl+F)
Some of these screencaps have different profile pictures because I'm lazy, if you’re wondering why I might’ve been taking screencaps so long in advance. I had heard that Shayy has a history of deleting messages.
Please use Ctrl+F and search the number (e.g [1] ) to accurately find the citation.
(Hello, If you notice that the censoring is done slightly differently for some screencaps this is because multiple people have worked to censor these screenshots for privacy reasons. Any screenshots that appear lower quality are a result of screenshotting them from this doc. Any random squares you see censored are emotes they used that would identify [Anonymous 1]
Additional parties who are not relevant are censored in black.
People in Shayy’s circles and some of the prominent communities they are a part of have seen the uncensored version of these screenshots. There is also video evidence of some of the worst examples that only certain people have seen. I once again ask that If you recognise [Anonymous #1] based on anything you see, to respect their privacy and keep them anonymous. Thank you for your time.)
(Screenshots that have grey backgrounds go by DD/MM/YY)
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Collection of patterns and progression
Since starting this doc, I have completely scrolled through the entire history of me and Shayy's dms. There is a shocking amount of interactions that are inappropriate, flirtatious, and progressively seem to get worse and worse. For your convenience, I will write short descriptions for every instance of every single pattern of behaviour so you can see for yourself how often I was spoken to like this.
A lot of this I wanted to put into the main statement but due to already being most of the way through, I didn’t know where to put it.
I advise you read the Written statement before going through this.
It is a lot, be warned.
(Like stated before, any and all identifying things said or shown in these screenshots will be censored. This includes images, phrases and emotes. It’s a shame the way I speak casually is so recognisable.)
(Screenshots here go by DD/MM/YY)
All the times they called me “good boy”
Every check-in or bump that were singular repeated words of phrases
Every good morning message
Instances of them making things unnecessarily inappropriate
All UWU posting
Every time they reminded me of how much I meant to them
All instances of flirty messages
Every time they mentioned how they wanted to or were going to hug me or meet up
Every example of clinginess/neediness
The first mention of “[NAME]ass”
The times they uwu’d for art
Why the nickname “[NICKNAME]” felt like me and Shayys thing
(Hello again, I have to add context here to help you understand what is going on.
I had a nickname that Shayy gave me by accident, and it was something I told others who wanted to use it that I wasn’t comfortable with because it was a unique nickname Shayy gave me. It is now not exclusive to Shayy and I allow everyone to use it.)
The sort of support I would give Shayy
Shayy acknowledging the exact reason we today we didn’t bring this up until now in a different and irrelevant conversation
Shayy acknowledging I am not a sexual person
Shayy trying to get me to tell them about things that relate to sexual feelings
Misc
The second message I sent to shayy
MESSAGE SENT TO SHAYY 16TH OF SEPTEMBER 2025 AT 6:09PM GMT
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“Hi, i'm about to send a book length message (around 2,700 words i think) i had intended to send to you through [willyjwillyj] which was written up before you had made your accountability post. The first paragraph is void in some areas because i feel urgency to get this over and done with so i can finally rest knowing i've told you all i wanted to. It is going to be a hard read for you and i will let you respond but i am going to reblock you when i deem necessary to do so.
Forgive me for how assblastingly long this is going to be
Hello, this is [Anonymous #1]. I am sorry that I still cannot, and will not be able to have a direct one to one conversation with you truly about this situation. The reason for this is because I cannot trust to have a dialogue with you based on how our last one went. I was originally planning to invite you to a voice call where [willyjwillyj] would mediate so I could tell you face to face this message, but i'm going to be honest: I cannot trust you to listen without deflecting and making me feel terrible. I cannot trust you to let me speak my piece, as you are more equipped than I will ever be. I am scared to do that. I feel too weak-willed to stand up to you like that, so I will do it here instead, where you cannot hurt me directly. I know you want agency, but you lost any faith i have left knowing how you have treat others in the past when confronted, and especially with how you we last spoke to me; i simply cannot take that risk for my own mental and physical health. I am simply not strong enough. So I apologise. Shayy, I know what you've done to other people. I have been told. I know about your past, the things you never properly explained to me. I know why you are so scared. And I know how you've spoken about me recently. I genuinely ask, how did you let this happen again? You need help. I don't say that to be an asshole, you genuinely need help. I too am going to be getting therapy for my own troubles regarding this situation because it has torn me apart inside and out. I implore you to get therapy too, for your self and for the sake of other people. What you did to me wasn't the worst (far from it actually, i suppose) but you clearly have a continued pattern in your life of testing boundaries and wanting to intimately and sexually engage with your friends, and more concerningly like me, people who used to be your fans. You need to stop. You need to stop doing this with people. You have a responsibility not to. People trust you, and you need to uphold that trust as you clearly are not trustworthy to read social cues or go too far. You acknowledge that you struggle with the cues, so stop doing shit that you know you struggle to read. I'm begging you, please stop it. You're going to get in worse trouble if this doesn't cease immediately. Now, i want to tell you about something you did that I was too scared to mention before. Why was i scared? Because i knew you would use the fact it was a long time ago against me to make me feel bad for bringing it up. You proved that you would do this to me when I told you about the hickey incident from months ago, so my concern was justified and my assumption you would act like that was indeed correct. I was correct to be afraid of you doing that. So I will tell you now, because even if I am scared of how you will react, you need to know so that you NEVER do this shit again.
On new years eve of 2023, 4 months after i had turned 18. You spoke to me in dms about your ass. And we had a silly conversation where I joked that my ass was big. You decided to "joke" by saying "proof?". You have known me since i was at the very least 17 (i had been a fan longer, we might've even talked when i was younger. But i know 17 was for definite when i was added to trusted). You had made jokes about me turning 18 and putting "minors dni" in my bio. You knew how old I was. I was hesitant, i showed hesitancy. You had every chance to warn me against actually sending a photo, as innocent as the one i sent was. But you could have stopped this, and you didn't. You teased, and teased, and teased. And then I sent a photo. You then asserted that the conversation started because of me, even though it started because you wanted to talk about "using your influence" to make your friends banner a photo where you could see your ass. You instigated this. Go back and check it yourself. Search for the two times you've said "proof?" in this context. Because you made the joke twice, but luckily the second time i didn't send anything more. It was 2 years ago yeah, but we've never addressed this outside of joking about it. I will hold you accountable right now because you have never been held accountable for it. You now know why i spoke the way i did during our confrontation. You know that it wasn't just "one joke". It was multiple. And it's not like you're not a stranger to forcing the label "bottom" on me either, despite the fact I've always denied it. The whole reason i sent that tweet about the hickey to you was the prove that i wasn't. That was your doing, you instigated it. You instigated it because you joked about me being a bottom when i had explicitly said i wasn't. I trusted you with that knowledge because we were close, weren't we? I would only ever share that sort of thing with someone who i thought wouldn't take advantage of something i rarely show to people. You know my history, you know my boundaries, you know i'm aroace, and yet you joked anyway. My advice? Cut the shit, stop joking about this sort of thing with people. Stop directing your sex/intimate jokes at people. Stop joking about doing shit with people. Fucking stop it. It isn't funny, and you risk making someone uncomfortable. I am telling you now, it is inappropriate. You cannot be doing this with people, specifically and especially with friends you make from your fans. Never do it again if you want to be accountable. That is all you have to do. It is as easy as that.
I know you well enough for you to ask why i never said anything sooner than now, and why this has only just been realised to be a bad thing. And it's simple. I had rose tinted glasses, i respected you too much, i ignored the red flag, i trusted you too deeply. This is directly because i was a fan of yours. I let things slide that i usually wouldn't because i didn't want to push away your want to be close. We never interacted much outside of venting and your want for my attention, checking in, wanting headpats, telling me about your desires, saying how much i mean to you. You were there for me in my darkest moments, and I was there for yours. But outside of that, our conversations didn't amount to anything noteworthy. My interests only ever came up when we were calling characters hot because it felt like the only way to bring them up to you. It was the only way you were interested. And you rarely spoke to me about your own interests, and thats okay. I don't expect you to. But we truly weren't as close as we kept saying we were. Our friendship was based off of discourse, venting, and an intimacy that i wouldn't be as quick to form with anyone else. It was weirdly shallow, and it hurts to admit. I really did care for you, i talked positively of you, you really lifted me up when i needed it. But we never felt truly like my definition of close, i always felt unease when you messaged. I felt like i was in trouble whenever you did, You were a powerful presence in my life. A presence i was afraid to disturb and make angry. And a presence i didn't want to lose. a presence i just wanted to please. You have that affect on people by being the influencer you are, you have almost half a million people looking to you for guidance and entertainment. While you had less, I was one of those people at a point in time where i needed it most. And i felt like you picked me out, and it made me feel special. As time grew and we became friends, you meant a lot to me, i cared for you as a friend. I started becoming more comfortable and mask-off with you which is a process that is always hard for me. And you know, i brushed off the thing you said when i was 18. I wanted to forgive it. I tried to move past what [Anonymous #7] had told me and thought i had helped you and [Anonymous #7] fix things. But then months ago you broke that trust. And that incident has snowballed into me learning things that i wish i never had to.
The only reason i know what i know now, is because you repeated your recklessness. And it disgusts me. It makes me revolt, it makes me hate myself and my body. Yes shayy, it awakened my realisation i have sexual trauma. Because why else would it shake me up so badly? It's because people have done to me what you did in the past, in some cases more vile and intention, in others less so. It is a pattern in my own life, that people i trusted have made me feel revolt over sex and intimacy because they cannot understand my boundaries. You had no reason to do this to me. You didn't have to make those jokes. It was unnecessary. You know you should have done better, because you were told years ago. I have been put through hell, hearing how you treat other people, intentional or not. Do you understand how much pain it has caused me to hear people who trusted you have to learn about how you have treated me? It has giving me a rotting guilt. I feel like it's my fucking fault. I didn't do shit, and i feel like its all my fault. I didn't ask to be talked to the way you have to me, I didn't ask for you to call me a bottom, i didn't ask for you to get so close to me. I didn't ask for any of this bullshit. And yet i feel like it's my fault. I pity the people who have had to repeat to me that it isn't and that i don't need to be sorry for all of this. I feel so violently sorry and guilty. And that extends to you too. I feel violent guilt that i didn't have the courage to tell you no. I should have seen your message asking for proof of my ass, and i should have blocked you. Because i would never have tolerated that from anyone else. I am deeply sorry i never had the guts to end this in 2023. I am deeply sorry that i could never give you the attention you wanted off of me. And i'm sorry that this situation has had consequence for you. It makes me feel sick. I've seen you not properly explain the situation to people when you tell them.
I know the half-truth you have told. I want you to drop your ego and be honest. I want you to tell the people you've told in full transparency what you did. You made a sexual joke, targeted towards me over a tweet unrelated to you, which i only sent because i felt like i had to prove i wasn't a bottom after you teased that i was one, about me giving you a hickey. That is the truth. It was not "god i wish that were me", it was "when am i getting this?" You have my permission to tell them. I know you namedropped me anyway, so go ahead. It's embarrassing for me, but they deserve to know the truth. If you want to be truly accountable, you will also note that this isn't the first time you've been told not to make intimate comments or jokes or to not act like you do with people in private. You'll do that if you want to be better, because the first step to improving is to admit the truth. It will have consequences, but that's the first step. Thats what taking accountability is, shayy. Your friends who are still with you will make sure it doesn't happen again. If you really want to, you can even use screenshots. Show them what happened if you really have the balls to. Hell, show them the full thing. Show them our confrontation if you want. You have my full consent. I have nothing to hide, and i'm ready for the consequences of how embarrassing and painful those exchanges are to read for me.
Despite how i feel about you right now, I still want you to improve if you genuinely want to get better and be accountable for what you did. Get therapy, admit what you actually did in full, and never speak this way to people who came from your fanbase ever again. If you do this again, you know what the consequences will be. I hope i am never there to see it if you do. I hope i am so far removed from this, that i won't even know it happened. Because this situation has also been torture for me. What are you supposed to do when confronted with such feeling and revelations? You're autistic like me, so surely you'd be just as infuriated, anxious, scared, sickened, confused or unsure. Or maybe you wouldn't, i don't feel like i know you as much as i thought i did. Maybe that is just my hopeful assumption. This has been scary and uncertain for me. And i'm sure it's been the same for you. You've already told me how much hell I've put you through, so i can imagine.
Everything i have said has been scathing, harsh, probably extremely painful. But i want to take this last moment to acknowledge the good you've done for me and the moments we did have. I will never forget one specific instance where i had subscribed to you for a certain amount of months this year, when you had been going through a lot. I remember the message i had sent with my whole heart, and i remember your reaction live on stream. I remember the look on your face, and i remember how visibly my message and words had reached you. it made me happy to know that i could make someone feel this way, that i had positive impact on someone who had been there for me and who i respected. I felt proud to be your friend, and i felt genuine happiness that i could make someone feel so happy that they might cry. I hope you can find that happiness and support again. I'm sure you will, i'm not special afterall. I'm just a guy. And at the end of the day, so are you. And I've known that since day 1. You're just a person who i respected so much, too much. I just wanted you to be happy. I'm sorry i can't be one of the people to do that anymore. But you'll move on and you'll have those people, and so will I. I'm going to get better too, and i'm going to be okay. I'm not right now obviously, but like i always said: I'll be okay eventually.
Please. Please truly commit to being better. Please take care of yourself and strive for change. Please be the inspiration and good person your fans deserve to have. Please treat your friends well, and please value them as the people they are. Value their time, value that they are there. Don't take it for granted and don't get too selfish. And please, never repeat this again. Thank you for reading this book-length text. I never really got better at condensing my thoughts to be shorter. If you have anything you really want me to hear, i'm sure [willyjwillyj] will pass it on to me. I hope improvement happens, and i hope that if you do get better, you thrive as a result. Your hard work will be rewarded, im sure. And it will be deserved. Thank you for all the good you did for me.”
Shayy's second Accountability post
SHAYY’S SECOND ACCOUNTABILITY POST MADE 4TH OF NOVEMBER 2025
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“Hello. This message is written for my friends in the trusted channel in my discord and serves for me to take specific accountability for myself.
It's been a few months now since everything and that's been enough time for me to mentally gather the extent of what happened and the mistakes I made.
I'm writing this because I think you all, my friends, deserve to know that I am aware of my problems, aware of my mistakes, and am taking accountability and
working towards improvement.
Additionally, most of you who frequent the vent channel will have seen me in a dire state of mind or have wondered what's been wrong with me since then,
and I owe it to all of you to be as honest and open as I can about what happened.
I will provide reasoning that I've gleamed from soul searching; but I need to be clear, these are not justifications or excuses.
Just potential reasons as to why I did what I did. I fucked up, majorly, and hurt people I care about as a result.
That's the bottom line, and I will own that completely, and you all should hold to me to that, as well.
Again, just to be clear, this is nobody's fault but my own. It lies entirely with me.
Important background context first; I had several instances of friendships where we would engage in sexual activities with each other.
Being super clear, I had permission from my partner to have these kinds of interactions, and it was always between adults.
For the most part, none of these lead to any immediate issues. However, it is important context to establish for what I need to describe next.
As for the why; a lot of the desire for these relationships was spurred on by deep-seated insecurities within myself that, over time, morphed
into a terrible sense of fulfillment. What I mean by that, is that it became ingrained in my mind that people only desired to be close to me
for these kinds of interactions.
I have a lot of insecurities; I've been dealing with it for my whole life. And in my mind, I was doing something to make other people happier
or satisfy them in some way. This, of course, is an extremely unhealthy mindset, and is the main reason I deleted my second alt Twitter account.
I made it originally so I could have positivity about my own body, because being nonbinary and transitioning was something new to me and,
at first, it did help, but it only ended up badly reinforcing this notion that people only desired me for this reason.
At certain points it felt like I was only reached out to *because* of posts I would make there, which again, only continued to reinforce this to me.
I have since severed that aspect and have kept those kinds of interactions with friends to a very small amount of people very close to me,
who I have full understanding and consent with, and continue to have that with,
and it's been significantly healthier for my mental health and also for the safety and comfort of everyone involved.
At a certain point, I realized people may treat me differently or set different boundaries for me specifically because I have a large online following
as part of my job. This is a mistake on my end and I've done a lot of thinking about it.
As someone with such a large presence, a lot of the time in my personal life, I want to be separated from that. But the truth of the matter
is that it's not something that can be fully separated from me, and can create power dynamics even if that's something I do not want to exist.
This is something I have become greatly aware of and will keep strongly in mind moving forward.
Now, that context established, I want to talk about the mistakes I made in depth.
I originally did not want to name anybody specifically as not to put them on blast or get them into further issues as a result of my failings,
but on September 12th during a total mental breakdown I had, I did mention [Anonymous #1] by name.
As such, and with his permission, I want to describe what exactly it was that made him uncomfortable with me and why it was a severe failing on
my part.
My original statement on the matter was vague, but it comes down to two large examples of poor judgement from me resulting in me,
although inadvertently, making him extremely uncomfortable as a result.
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In May of 2025, we had a conversation stemming from something he had posted on his private twitter account, which was a rare post of him
describing something sexual. It was pretty graphic, and he showed me this trustingly and willingly as part of an ongoing conversation
in the trusted channel at the time.
I attempted to reply with the joke "god I wish that was me" but completely, horribly worded it. It was to the point where the intended meaning
was not lost due to a misreading; or a misunderstanding; my wording was so bad that it was pretty explicitly written as
"god i need this" and considering the post was specifically about something he was talking about doing to someone else,
it pretty explicitly came across as me asking him for a favor in that regard.
This was not my intention at all, but that doesn't matter. I still said what I said, and in the confusion of the moment, I even doubled
down on it when he questioned what I had just said, because at this point, I still had not realized he was uncomfortable.
In my mind at the time, I had convinced myself and my memory that the joke I made was "god i wish that was me" and as a result,
I became confused at the pushback. I didn't fully understand it, and may have thought he was just being oversensitive.
He was not. This was extremely concerning behavior, especially considering the previous context I mentioned - I had friends
who I had sexual relationships with. It doesn't take much to put two and two together in this case, even if this was not my intention.
Only upon deeper retrospect of this situation have I made this connection and realized that's why he became so uncomfortable with me.
It pretty clearly looked like an advancement from me, when we were very clear that he was asexual and aromantic, and even if he wasn't,
it still would have been unwanted.
As a result of this interaction, it re-opened traumatic experiences from his past because of my behavior and dealt a lot of hurt to him.
This is unacceptable behavior from me, and I should have been significantly more careful and conscious of the specific words I was saying.
I will say, I, never at any point, had any desire of having that kind of relationship with him. I valued him closely as a friend who
was always considerate of my emotions and my mental state, who reached out, who genuinely cared about me. I never wanted anything more than that.
However, my actions can easily paint a different picture, and he is completely justified to be as uncomfortable as he was.
Additionally, it potentially rephrases a lot of our other interactions in a different light.
Those of you in trusted know it is extremely common for light teasing from the entire group to occur here,
but after something of that magnitude, it would be incredibly easy to assume the worst from my behavior and take it as malicious.
This came up with the repeated usage of the term "bottom", which you'll have noticed I have stopped using nearly as much.
To be totally honest - I had no idea this term had sexual origins, and thought it was just a personality term.
That's always how I heard it used and just picked it up from there.
These are things I have only come to realize in deeper thought about all of this. Originally, I was bewildered and caught off guard,
and didn't fully understand why exactly what I did was such a big deal, but I understand now, and it's laid my problems pretty bare
for me to work on.
This was also not the first time we had a questionable interaction; a few years ago, late into December 2023, I jokingly but inadvertently pressured
him into sending a picture of himself. Specifically, the conversation resulted because of us joking about the nickname "[NAME]Ass" in a public
conversation, and then escalated in private. The picture was in response to the "proof?" joke I made about the nickname.
Now, I did not ask for anything explicit such as a nude image, nor would I have wanted that, and I also would have been uncomfortable with that if it was sent.
Again, I did not want that kind of relationship with him at any point.
However, firstly, I should have never entertained this conversation in the first place. But secondly, I continued to jokingly poke at it
until he, to my surprise, actually did cave in and sent something.
I can't attach screenshots to a text document, but I did continue to poke at it far longer than I should have.
It should have never happened at all.
And it certainly should have never progressed past a certain point, but I kept going, failing to see anything was wrong. Thinking it was all in good fun.
I repeatedly teased him about it until he caved, thinking it was mutual.
That both parties knew it was in jest and not an insinuation of anything else. It wasn't.
I didn't bring this interaction up because, to be totally honest, I had completely obscured it from my own memory. When he brought this up to me
the final time we spoke, I was taken aback, because reading through these messages it did not feel like I was myself, so to speak.
It felt like I was reading someone else's messages, but it was me. And that's my responsibility.
This, obviously, is not okay. Even if the intention from me was as a joke, it's still not okay, and has made me deeply think about *why* this occurred at all.
And it's made me realize I have some incredibly deep seated trauma of my own, which I have been unravelling the past few weeks.
If you have been concerned about my mental state, this is why. I've had recurring nightmares about it.
These kinds of interactions were normalized to me at a very young age.
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Since then, in other friendships I've been a part of, stuff like this had been routine - and no shade to any of those people at all -
these were mutual and consensual and that level of humor was okay between us. But it only reinforced this to me as "normal".
And as such, it became normalized to me as just something that "happens" among friendships, when in reality, that kind of thing is really
rare.
It's not a normal friendship interaction. And what I did was not okay, in the slightest, and should not be treated as okay, even with the reasoning as to why.
These interactions are what led to him cutting me off, and eventually, me breaking off from friend groups I was in as a result.
And, during my borderline psychotic breakdown as a result of this, I did specifically throw out his name, which went against exactly my point in being
intentionally nonspecific elsewhere. I can't speak to my intention on this one, I genuinely cannot remember my thought process that day.
You all saw me, you all know I was out of it. But it's still not right of me to have thrown his name out there like that,
because it would only make things complicated for mutual friendships.
There were a few other things as well;
I was not the only person who felt as though sexual interactions was the only thing of value people saw in me. As a result, with that person,
I ended up contributing to a poor mental state and discomfort and failed to realize that they actually felt the same way I did, inside.
We have since made up, but I still want to mention this as it was a mistake I made.
There was also a case where interactions between me and another friend bordered on that kind of interaction, and at some point, the other person
declined to go further. I respected that, and stopped, but it also left them feeling uncertain about me in general and led to discomfort.
Seeing everything else that I had done, though, made this significantly worse for them, and has hurt them. Another failing on my part.
That one in particular has made me re-evaluate how commonplace and prevalent this stuff was becoming in my personal life and has been why I've
dialed this aspect down significantly, and again, that's only been beneficial for my mental health.
In my original statement, I also mentioned getting physically too close to people at events. To my knowledge, and from asking around,
this happened two times. One time was a minor thing at SGDQ 2025 that was quickly sorted out between me and the person, and everything is fine in that regard.?
Stemming from a misunderstanding of our boundaries due to previous interactions we had.
The other time, while together at a party/gathering at AGDQ 2025, I got way too close to a friend of mine while attempting to watch what they were playing on their phone.
At the time, I did not realize that I was absolutely violating personal space.
Like previously, I did not have any intentions. I did not want to cuddle or do anything of the sort with this person at that time; we had done that once
in the past at a previous event, but they had a partner now, and I try to always make sure I directly ask before doing that with anyone.
But, I cannot blame them for being wickedly uncomfortable with how close I was getting. Only when I actually physically bumped into them did I actually
notice that I was close - but I still hadn't put it together yet that they were uncomfortable, and so I was a bit confused at their reaction,
and I very stupidly thought they were instead feeling bad about the event ending (this was common in our friend group) and offered a hug, which.
May have been the worst possible thing I could have done? Given the context. But I just hadn't realized yet.
After that, things *seemed* normal with that person and we talked on the way out and then we texted later that night about a game.
I, at that point, should have brought up what happened and apologized right then and there, but during our conversation, nothing seemed out of the ordinary,
so I very foolishly assumed that I was imagining things and that I would embarrass myself if I asked or inquired about it, and as such, I left that
thread dangling instead of closing it, and it only devolved into something worse for them, manifesting into fear of physical contact with me again, though
I would not know this for months.
It should never be embarrassing or "wrong" to clear the air on something like that. If a person seems uncomfortable with something you did, or you're unsure
of something, it's always a good idea to reach out and confirm, because it can save a lot of grief later and not let things spiral.
I did not do this, and this was a huge mistake. Part of the insecurities I mentioned earlier are that I struggle to be vulnerable around anyone
and asking that kind of question would have put me in that position. It's not an excuse in the slightest and I should have pushed past that and gotten
clarity on this right away, but I did not. Big mistake from me and something I will absolutely learn from heavily in the future.
I'll elaborate on my insecurities for a moment.
A lot of these insecurities stem from my upbringing.
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It pretty explicitly showed in earlier years of my streaming, when I was a more competitive speedrunner, as I absolutely hated losing
and it very clearly drew from that deep seated insecurity. A lot of this is stuff I will discuss further with my therapist, but I'm
trying to provide as much context and explanation as I can in this.
I want to close this with again saying that none of the reasoning, explanations, or otherwise mentioned circumstances are excuses for my behavior.
I fucked up - that is the bottom line here. I fucked up, and I hurt people I care about deeply.
This is why I was in such a catatonic state for a while in September - I absolutely hate hurting people I care about, and I did, with my foolish
decision making and questionable judgement. It was agonizing and I loathe myself for what I have done.
I am working to ensure this will not happen again, at any point. And taking accountability with my personal circle is an important step to this.
I'm also currently searching for a therapist, hoping to get the same one my partner has in the local area. In the meantime, I did try something
online, but it did not work well for me. I just want to include this here because that was not an empty promise; I will seek this out.
Thank you for reading.”
azuraeth
azuraeth’s statement
i'm writing this today to clear up some things
do what you will with this information
please feel free to contact me
audrey, aka azuraeth
nov 9, 2025
i've known shayy for a long time, joining their community in 2021 and eventually becoming closer to them around late 2023. the relevant story here starts in june 2024. at this time i was reeling from a messy breakup with a partner, whom i've been advised many times was abusive to me. they were harassing me for a solid month or two after i broke it off; i was far too nice to just cut them off, so i kept pussyfooting around hoping they would get off my ass. shayy was completely aware of the breakup, knowing both of us well.
from the breakup on, shayy was continuously flirty with me. in one of our first conversations, i expressed that i was okay with it, as long as it was kept platonic and specifically if "[shayy doesn't] get risque". when asked what my line was, i replied conservatively
"anything more than a kiss on the cheek, y'know?". at one point soon afterward, i asked shayy for advice on matters regarding the aforementioned ex, and they proceeded to scold the individual in question lightly.
since we were both at sgdq at the time, they got rather touchy and cuddly with me as i was dealing with this. i'm not going to say that i didn't consent at the time, but their behavior was quite a bit more forward than it should've been. they were actively guiding me to put my head in their lap, and a few days later, they would (explicitly stated as such by them) feel up my ass. this was very soon after i had outright stated my line for acceptable behavior; it should be quite clear that this action was over the line. given an observed pattern of behavior that's come to light recently, it leaves a really bad taste in my mouth that they were being so physically affectionate
and flirtatious at the time. i was only 18 and incredibly emotionally raw and vulnerable at that point in my life.
in our first conversation after gdq, shayy called me hot and told me i had a "nice butt". they also immediately stated again that they were okay with sexual activities with friends. i responded with disinterest/discomfort with sexual acts and also expressed my dislike for being called hot at the time. from then on, nearly every dm exchange with them would contain something flirtatious. although it was nearly universally initiated by them, i would come to grow used to their expectation and preempt it myself on some occasions. just as a general example, in one conversation in august, they would send me the following string of messages as i somewhat assented:
"I've been told I have a nice ass
[...]
but I want an adorable trans girl grabbing it...
[...]
This applies to several things tbh [replying to previous 'grabbing' message]"
the fetishistic tone toward me being transgender sticks out, and the unneeded and explicitly unwanted sexual advance does as well. shayy is known to act in a dehumanizing way toward trans people in some instances, but this was (to my knowledge) the only time it would happen to me. other than that, this was a very routine exchange for us. scores of similar instances would occur in the previous and following month.
again in dms in august, they called me a bottom and i responded that "i am apathetic and ambivalent" to indicate disinterest in the topic as a whole. i honestly never really enjoyed the flirting, it's just something i did for their own fulfillment. though i did feel mildly pressured to do so to stay in good standing with a friend, i didn't particularly hate it at the time, so i went along. i would express this in a conversation in august a few days after the previously quoted one. condensed:
"shayy - you mightve broken my brain a bit :3333
azu - you really chose the wrong person for this y'know
shayy - LMAOOO wdym it's mutual :P
azu - arguable
shayy - wdymmm
azu - look man imma be entirely real this is fun but i think you get a lot more out of this than
me :p not to say i dislike it
shayy - honestly I'm mostly just playing along
azu - ...same"
it feels as if "I'm mostly just playing along" was almost entirely a lie looking back, but that's neither here nor there.
one week later, shayy would initiate a dm exchange by saying "you're cute", signaling that nothing had changed. i would reject advances or try to subvert them so as to be humorous and not flirty more and more in the next period, and i would express that i was doing so intentionally. the flirting continuously made me more and more uncomfortable as it went on. around the turn of the year, i would start responding even more coldly at times, ignoring advances and simply responding with a friendly tone. by many accounts, this caused them to seek more attention from others, which seems to be a pattern with their victims. they would continue to solicit, with occasional reciprocation, flirting from me for some time.
perhaps the most egregious example came in january 2025, when they stated that they had again used a body hair removal product i had recommended. they asked me if i wanted to see the results, and, curious of the effectiveness, i said "sure", expecting a tame picture as had previously been exchanged on the subject. they sent me a picture, spoiled and marked "thigh warning". the photograph was fully nude and showed most of their body, obscuring only genitals. this photo was clearly meant to be seen in a sexual context. it was posed suggestively, and they put up a peace sign as they often do in regular selfies. i'd guess the picture was originally intended for and posted to their second "suggestive" twitter alt, which has since been deleted. let me once again state for the record that i explicitly did not want a sexual relationship of any sort with shayy. i said as much to them several times. i gathered myself and responded only by stating that i should do the process soon as well, attempting to stonewall them. this made me deeply, horribly uncomfortable, and feels even worse in retrospect knowing other advances they made. i hated it. it's revolting. i still hate it.
the sequence of events that may have afflicted me most was the most recent. i started dating a former partner, willyjwillyj, at the end of february 2025. they're strictly monogamous, as am i. this should have been well known to shayy given that shayy and willy are longtime friends, and a previous breakup of willy's was pretty explicitly about differences in that. shayy knew the
aforementioned previous partner of willy's quite well too. on march 17, shayy dmed me and asked among other niceties in dms whether i was still okay with friend flirting, given that i was then in a relationship. i dodged the question. it made me very uncomfortable; however, i probably did too good of a job hiding that. on april 9, they messaged me again, starting the conversation by simply replying "boop" to their previous request for flirting. i dodged the question again, stating that i would ask my partner (i never did so, knowing that it would make them intensely uncomfortable). they did the exact same "boop" again on april 24 while also indicating that it was their second time bumping the question. this pressure to respond made me feel intensely anxious, and this time i would flatly deny their request, saying "no" and "[flirting is] not comfy". on may 15, they checked in on me again. early in this exchange, they would ask
again for affection/flirting:
"just checking again, cuddling was a no, right?
my brain is deep fried that past few days lol"
this really struck me as strange. not only given that i had flatly denied the request not a month prior, but also because it was very recent in our message history (<50 messages between) -- you barely had to scroll to find it. this felt not like a second check for safety, but more like an attempt to coax me into eventually relenting. this repeated crossing of boundaries until one relents is also a very common pattern in shayy's behavior. it was quite demeaning, and this is why i am mentioning the sequence at all. it demonstrates further the pattern of repeated advances after being denied.
some time after, on july 15, my partner and i would break up for reasons irrelevant here; just know that it was not a conflict. it was heart-wrenching for the both of us and took a good while to recover from. shayy knew this and paid it no mind. on july 30, a group of several friends took a trip to cedar point, including shayy, willy, and i. the first night that we were in the cabin all
together, i was sitting on a couch near willy. entirely ignoring all context and not even shooting me a glance to see if it was alright, shayy sat next to me in a spot such that we were quite snugly together and tried to lean in. if this sounds like a mistake, please note that they would later state explicitly that it was an attempt to get cuddly. i did not want to be next to them, and they did not whatsoever ask if it was okay. as such, i tried to move away slightly, and upon that not being effective, i left my seat rather quickly. this incident left even more of a sour taste in my mouth. given other instances of similar behavior i now know of, it feels almost as if they were being intentionally ignorant of consent and boundaries just to gain what they wanted.
i'd like to take a moment to confide in the reader, on a more personal note, why i think i went along with this for so long. perhaps you'll find this relevant, perhaps not. just putting it in for context and posterity.
my first partner (2023-24) exhibited obsessive, possessive, and coercive behavior toward me for most of our relationship: would get extremely upset if i didn't respond in 10 minutes, constantly lovebombed me and expected the same in return, would pick fights with me
over me talking at all to other people, often requested acts that i was explicitly not comfortable with and had to repeatedly deny, etc. you get the point. at a point, you start feeling comfortable and safe confined to this behavior, a la stockholm syndrome. it's routine, it doesn't get you in trouble, it's not negative. besides, if you step out, you'll be scolded like the wrath of god. you're trapped. i finally had enough and left after a year of this, and was in dwindling amounts of denial about it until very recently. you'll recall that shayy started coming on to me mere weeks after this breakup; it's also worth noting that shayy would later downplay my ex's behavior, calling it "merely immature" and "just needing some attention", to paraphrase.
the way shayy behaved toward me felt eerily similar to this. i felt forced to respond. they constantly lovebombed me, yet never respected me as a person. they would act antsy when i didn't respond, double texting, tripling down on advances when i was cold. they would ignore me rejecting them and act like they were keeping me safe by prodding over and over on uncomfortable topics.
they had power over me, mentally and logistically.
it felt comfortable to me; familiar, safe, predictable, easy. even when i hated it.
that's all.
finally, i'd like to touch on how utterly disrespectful shayy has been towards me and others involved in coming forward about this in the recent months. please note that this section is heavily opinionated, and that the reader may not have the same takeaways that i did,
which is fine with me. just a disclaimer.
for context, i left shayy's server in early-mid september after hearing accounts of wrongdoing from a friend, and a few people also did so at the same time. just as i left their server, shayy quickly issued me an apology, likely in a panic:
"I'm sorry for whatever it is that I did. I valued you a lot and you were always very kind to me,
thank you for that"
frankly, this felt terrible to read; hopefully it's self-evident that "I'm sorry for whatever it is that I did" is barely an apology. i hadn't even said anything about how shayy was acting with me or reflected on it yet; i left the server mostly for reasons of hearing about other people's situations, as well as a mild disdain for the social atmosphere in the "trusted" channels where many of shayy's close friends talked. the apology was at least somewhat excusable given the panic at the time. four days later, i would be sent the following message:
"I want to write a real apology. Not whatever that previous "written in the middle of a panic
attack" thing was, but something that is actually meaningful.
I am so sorry about how badly I overstepped our bounds. I stupidly took "seemingly okay with
this" as an excuse to try to go further. Even though I should have known, that isn't true
consent, and it also wasn't right to do to someone who was emotionally reeling from a breakup.
I had assumed that because we cuddled so much during that GDQ that we were closer than
we were in that regard, and I was getting mixed messages about my behavior moving forward,
which I should have immediately stopped and questioned. I should have immediately asked
and said, "are you okay with this?" before escalating. But I didn't, and that's such a massive
failing from me. And I am deeply sorry about how that affected you. And that I did not realize
that you were probably uncomfortable. I foolishly would take normalcy and lack of
acknowledgement as a sign that things were fine, but that's not the case. I should have been
smarter, more concerned, and more on top of making sure you were comfortable with the
advances I made and knowing to stop immediately if you told me you weren't. I know that once
you told me to stop, I did, but it should not have come to that. It should have stopped before it
began, and for that, I am extremely sorry.
I'm taking a lot of steps to make sure I don't repeat these mistakes moving forward. I'm getting
therapy. I'm untangling a deep web of trauma that has normalized these interactions to me.
Your friendship matters a lot to me, I really appreciate you and the kindness you always
showed me, and I'm sorry I wasn't nearly as aware as I should of been of the discomfort I was
sowing. It's squarely on me, and I'll own that. I am sorry."
although slightly more thorough, this message followed a pattern from the first that would continue to show through in future writings regarding the incidents from shayy. all of these apologies seemed off, and i think it's purely for the reason that they seemed self-centered. not to be too snarky, but they focus a lot on how terribly sorry shayy feels and all the excuses for the things they did and how they'll change and how stupid they are. conversely, the events described feel downplayed significantly and incomplete. in the text above, they lined up almost perfectly with some events i had disclosed in certain chats that i know were discussed with shayy, as if to be working backwards from them; yet many others that i had not detailed yet were entirely excluded. it feels not like a reflection, but rather a template. some others may mention apologies in years past that this behavior echoes.
this trend would continue into the posting of a document called "accountability.txt" in the previously mentioned "trusted" channel:
"There was also a case where interactions between me and another friend bordered on that
kind of interaction, and at some point, the other person declined to go further. I respected that,
and stopped, but it also left them feeling uncertain about me in general and led to discomfort.
Seeing everything else that I had done, though, made this significantly worse for them, and has
hurt them. Another failing on my part."
i'm almost certain this excerpt is describing my own case. i'm not sure though, given shayy never told me whether it was or not. among gratuitous paragraphs upon paragraphs of what can only be described as trauma-dumping, there was a tiny section about me. i was made aware of this only upon reading the document, sent to me by a third party after its posting in trusted. this is also confirmably true for other parties mentioned directly or only vaguely in the document; no one was notified. this appalled me. it was immensely disrespectful, only adding further to feeling dismissed by their previous actions and words. why was i not asked or alerted before the posting? why was i not named such that it could be corroborated?
why was the section so brief, incomplete, downright dismissive, and incorrect?
why didn't they care?
these questions left as an exercise for the reader. i asked shayy to explain themselves, attaching the previous excerpt, and they deflected by asking what i wanted from them. i proceeded to lay out, with copious amounts of (hopefully understandable) anger attached, what i was questioning and an ultimatum:
"i don't wanna play games, so if that part is not about me then heed my words at least
somewhat because i know i wouldn't be the only one, and if it is about me then listen carefully
enough to get it through that thick fucking skull of yours
it is absolutely appalling that you would say this
a. so dismissively, completely underselling every single part of it
b. without asking at all, especially knowing that i CLEARLY want nothing to do with you given
my previous words
c. unattributed to me and so vague that it just becomes a blob of feel-bad-for-me nonsense
that can't be questioned at all
if you would like to amend your statement on the events between us, please let me know at
your earliest convenience. i can prepare a briefing to be published by you, unedited, and
attributed to me. it will be scathing."
they have not responded.
Anonymous #3
Anonymous 3 (red)
Hi. I’m Anonymous 3, a former moderator and friend of Shayy. I have been close friends with them since early 2021 and I have remained quiet about many things for a long time. Here they are laid out, as clearly as I can, in chronological order.
A Short Disclaimer
This is a revised version of a private doc I wrote to Shayy and their close friends, altered purely for the privacy of all involved.
I did not want to write this, and if it were safe to, I would not release this anonymously. However, because of the sheer scale that I know this will reach, I know there are people who would attack me for this. This doc was initially written between November 7th through 17th, and was altered for public viewing on the 18th and 19th. As much as I wanted this to remain a private issue, Shayy’s actions can no longer be hidden from the world. I want everyone to know what they have done. As of November 18th, I have left their community entirely, as well as the greater UT/DR community.
It felt like my arm was twisted, forcing me to stand up for myself after years of brushing everything off as “just a mistake”. The actions they took prior to the publicization of this appear, to me, that they either do not understand how deeply their actions affected myself and others, or they refuse to acknowledge it. The lies, the obfuscation, and the downplaying forced me to stand up for myself and tell my side of the story. And to tell all of it.
Many incidents discussed cannot be cited, as they either happened in vcs or in-person. However if other people were present, they will be named if given permission. Relevant screenshots will be linked to in a separate imgur album, apologies in advance for any accessibility issues that may arise from this. Additional apologies to British people, I had no idea that imgur was blocked in the UK until I was nearly done with this.
I am very aware this is long, as is the nature of something like this. It is your choice to hear out my side of the story to its entirety. I will try to reduce the bloat as much as I can, but there are nearly 5 years worth of incidents to discuss. So please, listen to my perspective.
The Beginning
I first joined Shayy’s community in July 2020, however it wasn’t until December I became active. Around that time, I was struggling with a friend group I felt left out of. While I do still talk to some of those old friends today, I am definitely not as close to them as I am with the people I met through Shayy’s community.
Upon joining, Shayy’s community made me feel so warm and welcomed. I finally found people that cared about me as much as I did them. I was regularly joining vcs, posting in the art channel, being active in stream chat, the whole 9 yards. I was going as far as watching their streams at school and showing their videos to people in my classes. I would say I was a “fangirl” of sorts. It’s important to remember at this point until April 2021, I was just another 17 year old who liked Undertale and liked Shayy’s content - I was not in #trusted, I was not modded.
Funnily, I was one of the only artists in their community at this point in time and ended up being the first person to have a pin in the art channel . Though it would get unpinned years later to make room for fanart, I was frequently given praise for my silly doodles and low effort shitposts I would throw together. Shayy would personally go into my dms and compliment my art regularly [22] [2]. It made me actually feel seen after years of never being recognized, even if it was for something stupid I made.
I felt included in something for once. This was the community I longed for. This was the friend group I dreamed of. I finally was a part of a tight-knit circle of people, I wasn’t an outsider, I never felt “othered”, I was just myself and surrounded by people also just being themselves.
Behaviors towards a 17 year old fan
Some things to keep in mind:
- I turned 18 on April 2nd 2021.
- I was added to #trusted April 6th 2021, four days after my birthday.
- I was modded April 13th 2021, eleven days after my birthday
Shayy first dmed me on December 27th 2020, however it wasn’t until February 2021 that we actually began to be closer and talk regularly. Both of us would be in the general vc for hours a day. Outside of the public vcs, Shayy would often dm me out of the blue. These dms ranged from random memes to ranting about stupid people on twitter, but for some reason they often had something to do with sexual topics.
Shayy’s conversations that led into sexual topics often were sparked by something completely innocent. Such as March 26th they dmed me about “sussy hypnosis”, and when I didn't understand what they were saying - they proceeded to explain the joke:
“I just make the assumption everyone is a degen
I found out through a YouTube video that some people have a fetish for something called ‘sissy hypnosis’ and I think it's hilarious” [6]
I don’t think I need to state why assuming your 17 year old friend is a “degen” and then explaining a kink is a bad thing. Years down the line, Shayy would talk to others about their hypnosis kink. Knowing this presently with this having happened in the past gives me such a horrible, gross feeling.
Multiple people have come forward to me while writing this that Shayy has a “thing” for hair. With that said, Shayy frequently mentioned and complimented my hair, especially when I first dyed it, often out of the blue [7] [8] [10]. Not much else can be said about it, it was all within the realm of plausible deniability and it makes me disgusted.
There isn’t any firsthand evidence of this specific incident happening, as it was in a vc. At some point between January and March of 2021, I joined the general vc to see Shayy, Victim 6, and another person drinking. I turned on my camera, grabbed some Fireball, and joined in. I don’t remember the exact date, considering I was drunk, I only remember I was still 17. When Shayy and Victim 6 pointed out I was too young to drink, I gave several BS excuses along the lines of “My parents bought it for me!” and “In my state it’s legal to drink at any age if you’re on private property!”. Apologies that my memory is so blurry regarding some details.
Do note at this point in time, Anonymous 6 was only 19, and Shayy was 21 years old. Despite them both giving me a short spiel about how underage drinking is bad, they did not kick me from the call or take the situation seriously. They did nothing about it, more than likely due to an impaired judgement. Shayy did nothing when Anonymous 6 joined vc already drunk, and then did nothing when a 17 year old fan joined vc and immediately began drinking as well. I continued on in the vc that night drinking with all the adults as if nothing was wrong with the situation. I felt so cool! I was drinking room temperature whiskey with all these cool adults on the internet!
Now believe it or not, this was actually a bad thing. While writing this doc, I discussed this incident with Anonymous 6, and she immediately apologized upon being reminded of it. She admitted to being extremely drunk when she initially joined the vc, and continued drinking during it. To quote her statement during our discussion on this:
“think I was desensitized to seeing underage people treated as peers rather than
children in there
Maybe I'm biased too but someone absolutely should have stopped it
One of us needed to be an adult” [19]
As of writing this doc, I am in no-contact with Shayy, so I cannot get their input on this situation. They never brought it up after it happened. Whether they were already drinking before the call or if they started drinking in the vc because Anonymous 6 was, we may never know. Do note this was before I was given the trusted role or modded, I was just any other fan in their discord. Anonymous 6 has given me explicit permission to cite our conversation and apology, and has taken accountability for her lack of action in the situation - Regardless of how many years ago it was.
Months afterwards while discussing their behavior towards me, Shayy had told me there was an “unwritten rule” that mods had to be 18+ when I brought up my discomfort knowing they modded me right after I turned 18, with very little input from other existing mods [21]. This interaction itself regarding my age happened in a vc, so no tangible evidence exists. My apologies for that. However, this “rule” is interesting, especially considering four other people that Shayy modded in 2021 were all under 18. A 17 year old, two 16 year olds, and a 15 year old. Why would Shayy lie to me about only modding adults? Why would Shayy wait until I was 18 when they were clearly okay with modding minors before and after I was modded? A similar sentiment was shared in 2023 during a discussion of modding Anonymous 1 [20]. Anonymous 1 being someone that Shayy has groomed. So why were we some of the only people whose age was taken into such heavy consideration before being offered moderator?
I have never publicly said this, for many reasons, but at this point it is unavoidable. When I was 13 I was heavily groomed and coerced into doing erp by someone far older than me, and this behavior was never prevented by other individuals witnessing it. Shayy’s behavior towards me was setting off the exact same red flags that my groomer had set. I felt that I was en route to being groomed again. I would promptly start distancing from them and their community by proxy, in an attempt to keep myself safe.
The First Confrontation and Elsewhere
On April 15th, I was added to a groupchat with Anonymous 6, and two others in it. It was through this gc I would be shown some of the things Shayy had done to Anonymous #6 just the summer prior in 2020. I was immediately disgusted by the parallels to the way they interacted with her and the way they interacted with me, the subtle sexual notes, the flirting, it was terrifying. The only difference was that with Anonymous #6, their messages were a lot more overtly sexual, likely because she was 18-19 during these interactions. Had I not distanced myself, the conversations between Shayy and I would have gone the same direction - as made evident by their actions towards others in the following years. After all, I had just turned 18.
On April 20th, Shayy and I had our first confrontation about their behavior. I put my foot down after being shown this was a recurring pattern with them and the way they acted towards fans, especially if they were effeminate and an artist. [15] I specifically noted in this conversation that I was uncomfortable with them referring to me by my irl first name and sending me goodnight texts often. I had only been their friend for two months, and only knowing them for four. Shayy specifically said they had no romantic interest in me, because they were in a relationship and I was a lesbian. This was not comforting. It made me feel like if one of those things were different - then I would have a target on my back. Others have noted in their own testimonies that Shayy likes a “challenge”. If someone is in a relationship, if they’re clearly not interested, or if Shayy doesn’t fit in with their sexuality, they like it more. Their advances only get stronger the more you push back. Learning this was sickening, to put it nicely.
Only three days later, on April 23rd, Shayy would send me another dm, asking if everything was cool between us [16]. I let them down as gently as I could, saying I wasn’t quite ready to return to normal, citing I had a lot going on irl with my upcoming graduation. I will admit I worded my response poorly, as I was worried if I was too honest with them, it would be twisted to be my fault if I hurt them. This is a common sentiment many other victims shared, if you upset Shayy then it was your fault, regardless of the reason. I conveniently did not say I wanted a break from them and their community, but that is very much what I wanted. And that is what I got. I completely stopped interacting with Shayy and their community until late May of 2021, after I had finished high school.
I was talking in the groupchat daily after this point, and to say I was pissed at Shayy would be an understatement. I couldn’t believe I let this happen to myself. We felt that we should not let this information stay so private, and made a group with the four of us and Starsmiley, Shayy’s partner at the time. We explained everything to her, we brought screenshots, testimonies, everything. Once the conversation was over, everyone left the group. This information clearly affected Star. Despite that, she and Shayy continued dating for about another month.
I felt… relieved almost? Case closed, you know? It was only a matter of time before Shayy and Star broke up. The coffin was closed. I was going to leave their community and never look back. I was going to move on and forget this ever happened, to act like this random speedrunner for a niche speedgame never did anything to me and Anonymous 6. Everything would be forgotten and lost in the hasty sands of cyberspace. After all, what are the odds their channel would explode in popularity? That the very behavior we addressed would repeat with their new fans? Yeah. Like that would ever happen.
But I didn’t leave. By late May I came crawling back. I didn’t want to leave. I still cared so much about the people in the community. I started second guessing everything I had gone through. Thinking to myself “It was all a misunderstanding. What happened to Anonymous 6 was a misunderstanding. There was no ill intent. It was my fault for even thinking Shayy would do something as insane as orbit or groom a fan. They aren’t some cartoon villain, they just made a mistake.” I really did feel it was all a misunderstanding. I told myself nothing that bad ever happened anyways.
Shayy actively fed into these thoughts. Any time they recalled the situation, they would say it was all a “misunderstanding of feelings.” So I believed that it was just a misunderstanding - for over 4 years. After all, Shayy wouldn’t lie to me.
Shortly after Shayy broke up with Star, they started dating another artist in their community, who will not be named. They only dated for about 3 months, and Shayy cited their breakup was mutual. She privately said otherwise, that she felt that Shayy stopped caring about her once they were official. The timeline here is interesting, especially considering the implication that Shayy was already talking to someone else enough that they were able to jump into a new relationship so quickly. Not only did I feel like I was about to be a victim, but was I just a side piece? Was I the backup to the sidepiece to their actual girlfriend? Is that really all I was to them? In hindsight, it really does feel like it. Intentional or not, it stings.
From June onward, we pretended like this total misunderstanding of something that wasn't actually that bad anyways never happened. Everything went right back to normal! The community remained the tight knit circle of friends I always wanted. And I didn't want anything to change. I had all my friends there! Except Anonymous 6 but that doesn’t matter! I was so close to the other mods! And the mods wouldn’t hurt me or others!
The mod that was a groomer
In the early hours of February 14th 2022, Shayy, Uber, some friends and myself all played Calamity into the night. Completely unaware that at the same time, Willy would be notified that Uber was using his status as a mod in Shayy’s community as leverage over a 15 year old, grooming them. The screenshots I was sent the next day were appalling. It was miserable, in every sense of the word. Someone I thought was my friend was doing this to someone in our own community, completely under my nose. It tore me and the other people in trusted to shreds. We hastily workshopped a vague corporate statement about why Uber was suddenly gone [18]. Shayy completely shut down after this, going completely MIA, save for frequent venting. It severed my trust with the server, and after this I was never as close to the community again. Try as I did, it was never going to be the same.
In April, the very victim of Uber’s would make a separate offshoot server. Once this server was made I really slowed down talking in Shayy’s community - almost exclusively talking in there. I finally had it. The tight knit circle of online friends that I trusted with everything. This would be where 90% of my future online interactions with Shayy came from. Dms from them were sparse since the initial incident in 2021, and I liked it that way.
To date, I still talk in that server daily. It’s where most of my time on discord is spent anymore. This server means so very much to me, and people who aren’t in it didn’t have an easy time contacting me - especially if they are from Shayy’s community. Nothing weird was happening between me and Shayy, to my knowledge they had completely curbed their unsavory behaviors and habits, everyone trusted each other, it was… okay. Everything was finally okay.
GDQ
After begging my mom to understand I was 19 and capable of making smart decisions, I was gonna attend my first ever GDQ in June 2022. I roomed with Shayy, Star, and Pleb (A mutual friend), and only two things happened!
The first was before the event even began. We had agreed that we would be buying a room with two queen beds, Shayy and Star sharing one, Pleb and I sharing the other. Shayy changed these arrangements right before buying the room. They didn’t say anything about it until after they bought the room. Instead of having two beds, they bought a room with a single king sized bed for them and Star, saying Pleb and I could share the pull-out couch. This fucking sucked. I have genuinely never slept worse in my entire life. But Shayy got their king sized bed with their girlfriend and I was the bad person in this situation for thinking they should’ve let Pleb and I have a real bed. I asked if we could at least rotate beds, or if Pleb and I could at least rest in the real bed if Shayy and Star weren’t in the room. We were told no, there would be no negotiations. That entire week I didn’t sleep longer than 3 hours a night.
The other incident at SGDQ 2022 was shortly after Shayy, Pleb, Vel (another mutual friend between all of us), and I went to the hotel hot tub. After we returned to Shayy’s room, I immediately went into the bathroom to change out of my swimsuit and into regular clothes, then Vel changed in the bathroom, then Pleb. Star was already in the room, laying in bed. Then, while grabbing food from the fridge, I hear Shayy say “Don’t look” from behind me, with no elaboration. Now I don’t know about you but when someone says not to look at something, most people’s first reaction is to look and by the time they said not to look, they’d already stripped down. So Pleb, Vel, and myself all turned our heads and were greeted with Shayy bent over completely naked. Their bare ass out for everyone to see. Shayy, instead of apologizing for changing in front of everyone, claimed it was everyone else’s fault for turning around when they said not to. Mind you, Vel was 16, and facing Shayy. Shayy said it was their fault they looked up from their phone to see Shayy completely naked. I made a simple diagram in MsPaint showing where everyone was in the room when Shay was changing, to show just how hard it was to not see it.
The bathroom was empty, they could have gone in there to change like the rest of us did, or even in the corner of the room closest to the door. They could have just specified that they were changing, and no one would have looked. However they did none of that. None of us wanted to see their fucking asshole. For the rest of the event, they stood their ground, saying it was our fault we saw their chocolate starfish. It wouldn't be until after the event they would apologize.
Shayy and I have attended every single in-person GDQ after covid - and Shayy would often disappear without notice. This may be nitpicking, but I feel it's important to include their repeated pattern of selfishness. Such as knowing people were waiting for them to come to the lobby so we could all go out for dinner, making everyone wait 30 minutes for them, then once we got to the restaurant, Shayy made the executive decision to sit outside despite everyone wanting to sit inside because it was hot, and then leaving before we could order. There was a 2nd instance that same week where they left in the middle of dinner and made me pick up their tab. If they were in a hotel room with others just hanging out, they would often silently leave without a word. And in the short time they were there, they rarely ever participated in anything. Just sitting on their phone, ignoring everyone.
AGDQ 2025
During AGDQ 2025, I believe on January 11th, Shayy and I were in Anonymous 6’s hotel room with a handful of other people. Anonymous 6 did not want Shayy in her room, she only let them in because she knew if Shayy wasn’t there, then the people she wanted to hang out with wouldn't have been there. She witnessed everything I am about to say, but was unaware how much this incident affected me.
Shayy and I were laying in the spare bed next to each other. I was doomscrolling on tiktok while Shayy started to inch closer to me. I inched away, wanting my personal space. I rarely okay with “platonic cuddles”, and especially so as I had a partner at this point. Shayy continued to move closer and closer any time I moved farther. Trying to stay calm and keep my composure and while nearly falling off the bed, I turned my back to Shayy, as a sort of nonverbal “Hey I want my distance.” I didn't want to speak up and cause a scene. Turning my back to them was instead seen as an invitation of some sort because Shayy then curled up behind me - spooning me. To make this even worse, I could feel their dick on my leg. I sat there, terrified of what they would do next. They ignored every single sign that I was uncomfortable, they didn’t see that this was freaking me out. I sat there horrified thinking “Are they going to grope me? Are they going to start grinding on me? What should I do? What the fuck do I do?” After a minute or two I got my bearings and got up and decided I had no choice but to make a scene, loudly asserting I wanted personal space. Shayy was confused. They saw nothing wrong with what was happening. I immediately felt that it was my fault this happened to me. If I let them have their way then I wouldn’t have upset them. I upset them by making a scene.
I was still shaken up after the whole thing, masking my uneasiness by trying to stay happy and treasure what little of the event was left. Shayy noticed this. They proceeded to come and give me a hug. I pretended to be comforted by it, so as to not hurt their feelings.
Until September, I never told anyone about this. I was afraid I would hurt Shayy if I brought it up. Shayy never apologized until after I brought this up in our final confrontation.
D-Day and The Aftermath
After Anonymous 1 came forward about Shayy grooming him, Shayy attempted to take accountability for any potentially harmful actions towards myself and others. They dmed me to apologize for any wrongdoings, specifically citing SGDQ23 where they laid their head on my shoulder on the train, and how that might have made me kinda uncomfortable [25]. This enraged me. They didn’t even remember what happened earlier this year. So I said it, how much it terrified me, how I proceeded to live in fear and doomsday prep in the case they would try to go even farther, how it ate away at me.
Shayy apologized, and emphasized how it made them feel bad. How much it hurt them to know they did this to me. how much it ate away at them. It was a full blown pity party. It didn't matter how much it hurt me. I made Shayy feel bad for being upset at their unwanted advances. For a moment, it really did feel like it was my fault. I couldn't stop thinking “I should have just kept my mouth shut. I should have just let it happen. I should have just let them have their way.” I felt guilty that I made Shayy feel horrible because of what they did to me. Like Shayy was the victim of me not letting them have their way.
Back to the real world, I wanted to explode. I couldn't believe I was being guilt tripped into thinking it was my fault that Shayy couldn’t keep their hands to themselves. Our confrontation continued, being horrible deja vu to the exact same confrontation we had 4 years prior.
After everything was said, I let them down as gently as I could. I was still holding onto our friendship. I told them I didn’t hate them for what they did to me and everyone else, I told them I wanted to stay friends, but I just wanted space. [25] This was true at the time. This is not true anymore.
So it was over. I got my closure and everything was fine. Bitterly fine. I cut Shayy off entirely a few weeks after our final confrontation, blocking them on every single platform I could think of. The coffin was closed and everything was said and done. I remained in Frog Family, however, I had too many precious memories there. I wanted to hold on, just a little bit longer.
Then, on November 4th, the wound reopened. With no permission, with no warning, Shayy posted accountability.txt in their vent chat. The coffin was closed and yet, they decided to reopen it “to take accountability” over a month after everything happened. I had no idea until I was dmed by Anonymous 1 several hours after it was posted.
Reading through, it made me furious. They left our names out, minus Anonymous 1, but never asked any of us for permission. While reading their statement regarding their behavior towards me, they only mentioned the incident at AGDQ25 [26] and while that was the most prominent one, it definitely was not the only one. I felt that they had downplayed what they did to me. That they didn’t understand the full scope of how deeply their actions affected me. What happened to me was boiled down to just being “wickedly uncomfortable”, in their own words. That I was overreacting to a simple and kind gesture. I felt like the crazy one yet again. I immediately thought to myself again “Maybe I really was overreacting, maybe it really wasn’t that bad at all, maybe all of this was just another misunderstanding!”
There was no mention of the fear, of the panic, of anything. So much of their “accountability” was justification and lies and using traumatic events as a shield to potential criticism. They obfuscated every single thing that could have made them look bad. It made me feel sick.
Final Thoughts
Writing this doc has been incredibly taxing, both physically and mentally, Especially as I dealt with various medical problems during the inital write, then I got sick while rewriting this for public release. The anxiety and stress about writing and getting this out as fast as I could has definitely not aided my condition. My brain is currently mush and I just want this to be over with already. I have dealt with this for too long. This section is in no way meant to garner pity points, and I initially did not want to include my physical condition as of late; However, I felt that the effect this situation has had on my health should be stated.
I will admit, I make sexual jokes to my friends often. Yes, I’ve fucked up and taken jokes too far, made others uncomfortable with sexual humor in the past. I learned my lesson in that regard years ago and it has not been repeated. I actively put forth effort to keep that humor away from people that either might be made uncomfortable by it, or people I don't know the boundaries of. And very rarely do I make sexual remarks at the expense of others, even if they are very close friends of mine. And with those people I know exactly where the boundaries lay, we mutually know that the other is joking. Even more rarely do I put my hands onto my close friends for anything more than a hug, even jokingly.
Shayy, however, actively made these remarks and advances at the expense of others. They crossed boundaries and they cultivated an environment where you were the problem if you didn't like what they did by repeatedly saying how it hurt them, or how they didn’t know. They have repeatedly shown that they truly believed they have not done anything wrong, that they do not understand how deeply their behavior has affected the people who cared about them, and that there was no pattern in their behavior.
It almost makes me feel bad for them, for how willfully ignorant they have been for so many years.
Thank you for taking the time out of your day to read this. I would like to quickly thank Anonymous 6 and the folks from TJC for aiding in citations, proofreading, and overall helping write this every step of the way, and especially for showing nothing but support when my health got in the way of this doc’s completion.
And a massive thank you to Anonymous 1 for having the courage to initially come forward with his story in September, giving myself and others the courage to tell our own respective stories.
Thank you for your time.
willyjwillyj
Hey, willyjwillyj here. I haven’t been impacted like the others have, but I wanted to detail an interaction that might shed some light on the way some may feel about speaking up against Shayy in the past.
In early 2023, Shayy had posted some pictures to their private Twitter account that started out simply minorly revealing, showing some skin in a way that was not bad at all, citing happiness with their body and a focus on body positivity. These photos would become increasingly more revealing and potentially suggestive, culminating in a picture being sent in mid April of 2023, which, to many, went way too far. To the extent of my knowledge, no record of the actual image exists to this day, but unfortunately, the image is forever etched into my memory. The image specifically was frontal bare midriff-thighs with genitals obscured. While not explicitly NSFW, it was the kind of image that borders on that category in every way possible. While the purpose of this is only to detail the confrontation afterwards, I found it very concerning that minors were able to plainly see that image.
On April 17th 2023, a conversation in Shayy’s #trusted channel started regarding intentionally not having an NSFW channel in their server. I used this as an opportunity to address my concerns about the content previously mentioned on their private Twitter account. I’ll send pictures of that confrontation here
A couple of notes here
- I was made to feel like I was crazy for thinking that something was happening that was wrong
- I was made to feel like I was incorrect for speaking up about this
- Shayy uses the lack of visibility on a post as an excuse to not tag their content
- The last line speaks very loudly. “sorry, I just don’t like being told that I did something wrong when I didn’t do anything wrong”
- Equivocating the image that was posted to just an exposed stomach was grossly irresponsible
Following this, Shayy would start a confrontation with me in DMs about this. I will paste that confrontation in full.
A couple of notes here
- First of all, I am happy they decided to move that content into a Twitter circle, and then later a now deleted second Twitter alt. Like I said, I don’t judge on what someone wants to share, but it needs to be done in a safe way
- Through this interaction, I felt as if I was being scolded for not only thinking that what was posted was wrong, but also that I was wrong to try and challenge it. This would greatly diminish my confidence in later attempts when I felt conflicted about the way certain things were going. I felt that I could get in trouble for standing up for myself and others.
- The line “I don’t like being accused of doing something wrong when I feel that no, I haven’t done anything wrong” sticks out in a similar way as before
- Shayy tries making the comparison of “it’s pretty common for men to walk around with no shirt and short shorts on where I’m at so I don’t really see it as NSFW” which grossly misrepresents the image that was shared
- I was pressured to speak about this quickly (“if it’s possible i’d rather not wait for a giant message, this is already spiking my anxiety… entirely a me issue relating to PTSD stuff”), ignoring that I wanted to spend the time to make sure that I got everything I wanted to say right. I am glad I resisted this pressure
Ultimately, the point of this document is to tell this story about the time I felt something was wrong, felt like something went too far. I stood up for myself, and as a result of standing up for myself, I was hammered down, told that I was wrong for speaking up, and I was wrong for feeling like something bad was happening. And whether or not I believed I was wrong, I knew that I would face a similar type of reaction if I had to stand up for myself in that way in the future. It makes standing up for yourself really hard to do, and really makes just being passive—allowing things to continue even though you’re not happy with it, just because you’re afraid of what happens when you speak out about it—something you’re way more likely to do.
This is what happened when I tried to speak up against what I thought was wrong. So if you wonder why others may not have spoken up about the way they were treated when they felt uncomfortable, keep this in mind.
Cei
H. I’m Cei, a writer for Calamity that used to work with Shayy on various projects involving it. I also moderated their discord and twitch chat, before all of this happened. As my contribution to all of this, here's them trying to get me to specifically come over while Star is away even after clarifying if I visited I wanted to be able to see them both. As of now, it's pretty fucking clear that Star didn't actually know everything and Shayy probably just wanted to do stuff with me behind her back. After this, they always became seemingly very sheepish about working out a time I could come visit after I later clarified again that I wished to see them both.
JadesEvolution
Testimony from JadesEvolution:
in winter of 2023 i had gotten a message from my fiancee about how shayy had dmed it asking about sexual related things and that “it was ok because they had permission from star to do them because shes asexual so they can have an outlet for sexual desires.” ill admit at the time polyamory was still new to me so the line at the time for what was acceptable wasnt entirely clear, BUT what was clear was that shayy then pressured my fiancee into having e-sex and wanted to have more encounters after the fact. this, for the record, happened while i was unaware of what was going on because i only found out after my fiancee had told me after the fact. this situation made me feel betrayed and angry because there was no communication on the matter and it almost ruined my relationship at the time with my soon to be wife.
it was only after i had messaged shayy about how shitty their actions were that they apologized and told me theyd properly ask for a line of communication when it came to sex as there was no permission given by me or my fiancees other partners to engage in that sort of act. but they deemed it “okay” because my fiancee and i were poly despite that not being how our relationship operated at the time. for clarity we were in a poly relationship not an open one, so sex had to be communicated not done whenever. shayy knowingly forced their way through just to use my fiancee and force it to betray my trust.
after all of this i tried to share my story but it was buried by the testimony that it was ok and that “oh they just do this” and eventually i felt pressured in the future to apologize to them for losing my shit at them for pressuring sex out of my fiancee.
i had to hide this and ignore this because no one cared or believed me. they almost broke my relationship because they wanted to use my fiancee for sex. and i had to deal with this notion that theyll “improve” or “grow” and not repeat the same shit that THEY KEEP FUCKING DOING.
Prisma
I posted a clip in #chat-quotes (a public channel) with Shayy making a joke about gocks. Shayy proceeds to ping a transfem person (redacted) who wasn't happy with being called out
Rei
Hi. I'm Rei aka falloutphan_, and I have been a member of Shayy's community and a close friend of theirs since November 2022. Over the course of our friendship, I had multiple consensual sexual encounters with them in DMs, which eventually escalated to me visiting them in person this past June, where we engaged in physical sexual activity. As is the case with others in this document, I was assured by Shayy that their girlfriend was aware of the fact that they engaged in sexual behaviour with their friends, and I was understandably horrified when I found out that she did not. I was particularly horrified to learn that a tweet of mine on my private account was what alerted her to the fact that I was having sex with Shayy. If I had known the extent she was being kept in the dark, I would not have continued engaging with this behaviour.
I will reiterate that these exchanges were fully consensual, but there is one particular aspect that I am finding increasingly uncomfortable, especially in retrospect: their attitude towards my gender and my body, especially during sex. For context, I am genderfluid, and my pronouns have fluctuated over time but my most preferred pronouns were they/them throughout the entire course of my friendship with Shayy.
Once, while we were sexting, I mentioned top surgery offhandedly, saying "idk if i’ll ever commit to full top surgery but before i do i need to be titfucked at least once". As the roleplay continued, they said "why would you ever get rid of these? They help you fulfill your purpose <3" I deflected, and they pushed. After we finished, they joked about "breaking my gender", which I took as just that: a joke. As time went on, they started using feminine terms and she/her for me, despite my pronouns at the time being they/he and preferring mixed gender terms. At one point, during a roleplay session, they forced me to change my pronouns on discord to she/her (again, my pronouns were they/he at the time) and 'rewarded' me with a video clip of themselves. As the sexting continued, they made reference to my desire for top surgery again, saying "They're mine and you're not allowed to get rid of them 😇". I had originally thought this was all part of the scene and that they didn’t truly want to control my gender, my body, or my pronouns, but none of that was explicitly clarified by them. And, in line with my assumptions, I changed my pronouns back to they/he the next morning.
However, this behaviour continued on and off throughout our friendship, with them continuing to try to control my pronouns and gender; ranging from getting me to change my pronouns in bio again to flat-out referring to me as a girl and with she/her pronouns. I had even changed my pronouns in bio often enough that my other friends were confused as to whether I actually used she/her pronouns or not. And more often than not, I did not. They just wanted me to.
Xander
Hi, I’m Xander, or XanderIsALoser. A lot of you know me from both Shayy’s community and Johnstone’s community. I would consider myself a victim of Shayy, who began seeking me out for sexual interactions in September 2023 while I was away at PAX West. All of our interactions from then on were consensual between us, and I was under no impression that they were using me, at least at the time. Feels kind of weird that I’m an outlier in all of this as one of the only cis dudes involved, and I still haven’t quite come to terms with the fact that I was likely used for sexual gratification. To my knowledge, I was not treated with the same amount of disrespect for others, manipulation, and overall disgusting behavior that other victims involved were.
I was aware that I was not the only person involved pretty early on, though I was unaware of just how many people were involved, much less that Star was left just as in the dark as I was.
They never got physical with me, not yet at least, however it would’ve been impossible to not notice them being cuddly with others, particularly Audrey (azuraeth) a number of times at various GDQ events, though, like previously mentioned, I was truly unaware how deep things went with everyone. It sickens me, especially after hearing what happened with Star a week ago, alongside all of the events circling around the other victims.
Additionally, in all of this, another victim came forward with a story about how Shayy was trying to get them to visit while Star was away, in said victim’s case, without their partner’s knowledge, and I would like to say that specifically happened to me too, to which I nearly did, knowing full well the insinuations attached to the invitation. Now knowing that Star was made aware of the plans of my potential visit but not the other victim’s makes me disgusted. It makes me wonder how many times this kind of thing has happened without her knowledge, or the knowledge of other people’s partners.
Attached are screenshots of our conversation about making plans to visit them, as recent as November 15th, including a concrete timeframe of when we would have made plans, which was halted with the release of multiple statements on the night of November 17th. While I have omitted many screenshots for potentially sexually explicit reasons, I felt that this specific event was too important and recent to leave out.
I am still glad that I have met them, and appreciate them being a positive force in being able to look myself in the mirror without disgust, but I truly sincerely hope they get the help they need, and actually process everything instead of going in one ear and out the other for once in their god damn life, for the sake of anyone who is sticking by them or decides to stick around in the future. The way that they've treated other people is truly disgusting to hear about. They cannot be allowed to do this to anyone else ever again.
Yellow
hi. this statement is not going to be anonymous so I won't bother introducing myself.
and i'm sorry that this has taken me so long to say but i'm dealing with a lot of emotions right now.
and please, shayy, i urge you to take this very seriously.
i've been friends with shayy for about half a decade. I've seen what i thought was personal growth, I've aimed to be there for them in times of need. I've seen them grow apart from friends and immediately be there to offer my support. they've likewise seen me go through so many rough patches- cheating exes, suicidal ideation, medical issues i still dont want to bring up in public.
ive stood by them so many times. i saw my friend of 5 years going through so much stress. i heard that they were going through so much and i reached out to make sure they were all right.
when this situation first came to light i was so lost. ive seen the heartbreak theyve experienced in relation to social abandonment and i offered to be there for them.
and then, at least 2 more testimonials. at this point i was so tired. i came online, checked my friend group, and every hour a new person opening up about their relationship with shayy. ive read innumerable screenshots. i’ve seen how often they try to ease people into changing a boundary or relenting in some way. i've seen people talk about how it took them 4 attempts to assert a boundary for shayy to recognize it. and i understand that, for some people, the boundary was never enforced since shayy would often go cold if the conversation was not sexual in nature. some of my friends kept up this tone in their conversations simply so that they would not feel they were losing a friend.
it is incomprehensibly soul crushing to see so many of my friends hurt by them. so many of these people who also supported me through my issues and whom i tried to uplift in turn.
at first, reading testimonials from my friends, my gut reaction was "i'm so fucking sorry my trusted friend was able to manipulate and/or use you in this manner for so long." i reached out to shayy, i told them that within reason i will be there for them because despite what they did i did not want my friend of almost 5 fucking years to feel abandoned.
and then they kept fucking piling in
i've had at least 10 of my friends open up about this incident to me-roughly 10 fucking people! the fact that i could not TELL you the exact number off the top of my head is awful, and these are 10 or so people who trust me, have easy access to me, and have willingly confided in me. i cannot even begin to think of how many people who cannot reach me, don't trust me, want to stand by shayy and therefore do not have an open testimonial. this is the sample size i fucking know about and that's it.
i did not think at first that i was a victim- and in comparison to what my close friends went through i really think victim is not the proper term for me at all- but through conversations with my friends i am realizing they absolutely wanted to use me in the same way. everything i did with shayy was consensual and so i never really thought anything of it, but it is haunting to realize how much that is not the case for SO many. so many people who were too young, too inexperienced, too faithful to their friend.
shayy, if youre reading this. i am not trying to "let everyone know you're a shitty person." i am not trying to do a takedown. i told you, personally, that if you need help within reason i will provide it. it is still the case, i do not want my former close friend to be completely stranded.
by the way. it is pretty gut wrenching to hear about the way you treated your partner. as a fucking heads up?
yes, her agreeing to let you have conversations that were sexual in nature and you in return acting on that isn't cheating.
but god fucking damn it- as someone who's been cheated on so many times- do you really fucking think it was okay to have done what you did (and i won't go into detail because there's plenty of other people who have done that for me who were willing to post private screenshots as proof) and just assume that it fell under your agreement?
to my understanding, you never fucking communicated with her when it came to engaging in any acts that werent strictly platonic. it's open-relationship 101 to fucking communicate with your partner. i hope she recovers from the stress of the relationship she had with you.
there is NO fucking circumstance where it's okay and normal for me to feel like i had a closer platonic relationship with YOUR PARTNER than you did a romantic one. I'm sorry if this part of my statement reads as more aggressive than my last- this is recent news to me you see. because, for some wild fucking unknown reason, i had assumed up until this point that you actually fucking cared about her. you know, egg on my face for assuming you were communicating, checking in, making sure she felt loved and wanted, spending actual real quality time with her, listening to what she has to say (because i didn't know if you knew this but she is so caring and wonderful to talk to). you always told me you loved her and now i'm realizing you treated her like a goldfish. i cant fucking DEAL with how many things ive learned about you in the past 2 days.
but i can't have you talking to my friends. the way you've treated them, hell the way you treated your supposed lifelong partner is not okay. it is my responsibility as a friend to protect the people i love from those who would hurt them.
you will not be an uncle to my child. i will not be providing life updates. i will not be allowing you to use me or my friends. i cannot let you be heavily involved in my life any more.
you were one of my closest friends for half a decade. i loved you. do not fucking try to apologize to me.
Anonymous #2
i dont know if i would necessarily call myself a victim of shayy and i was extremely blind to a lot of their concerning behavior since i joined their community. i have only been able to realize how absolutely betrayed and hollow their actions have made me feel through recent testimonies from my friends and my own hindsight. i will say that their behavior towards me and my close friends has been insensitive at best and blatantly disrespectful, abusive and completely self satisfying on their part at worst.
i have had a lot of (consensual) sexual interactions with shayy over these past couple of years. i have also had changing circumstances that have led to me retracting consent or extending it again. however they have constantly tried to "check" to see if my boundaries or circumstances had changed since the last we'd talked at that moment. there were plenty of times where i had to kindly but firmly remind them that (for example) i was in a monogamous relationship and was unwilling to receive or reciprocate sexual messages at that time, and sometimes they would follow up some weeks or months later asking if it was still the case. i have watched how they use my close friends for sexual gratification and leave them to go fulfill whatever social needs they need met after their sexual desires were satisfied. they have shown time and again that in their mind a friend is there to vent to, to hopefully get their rocks off to, and occasionally check in on only if they have big fucking flashing lights saying "this person is distressed!"
i sincerely hope therapy helps them. i hope they're processing instead of just hearing. i hope the cycle breaks with us. i hope for both the sake of all of their future friends and the friends who choose to tentatively stay with them now, that they change. but how they treat the people they love is unacceptable
it is my sincere belief that shayy pursued me when i was asking them not to simply because it was a challenge. i was something to conquer. being able to flirt with me while i was single was all well and good, but being able to get me to confide in them or letting them console me and reassure me through flirtatious affirmation and sexual undertones most likely just felt better for them. i feel like i was used. and i am so deeply concerned that at the end of the day, this person who has been my close friend for years, who is still ultimately a human, is going to be feeling so alone. but this behavior makes me angry. on my behalf, on behalf of my friends, on behalf of people i simply was not able to talk to because they were distancing themselves from shayy, and on behalf of the people we do not know about in this community or otherwise who have or are currently experiencing this behavior from shayy. people who do not have an in to the "high level" friend group, who are consequently much less likely to be recognized or who simply don't feel like theyre being used by shayy
Anonymous #4
Content warning for sexual themes:
My situation was around 2023 when Shayy had a whole thing of "Flavor of the week" where I was the flavor of the week. They teased me a lot in DMs and in livestreams. In DMs they also really wanted me to grow my hair out. I was not trans at the time and couldn't grow my hair out cuz family, so it was a bit uncomfy, but they kept pushing me. Eventually they just stopped really talking to me in DMs and started fixating on [Another Victim] more. I dealt with a good couple months of abandonment issues over it.
When we did do things together, it was in a master-pet type dynamic. Power dynamics with famous people are always dangerous and I've learned that first hand. The biggest issue was that I would be used for relief and then they would ghost me after. It got to the point where I would have to go to one of my friends for aftercare and to be taken out of that headspace (image 3). There were also one time they engaged in a findom style teasing where I bought them a game and they proceeded to fetishize it. I told them after that to be more careful and their reply didn't seem genuine. Ultimately they seemed to lose interest because I wasn't feminine enough for them. During this time I also asked about Star knowing that they were dating. They said she was ok with having a harem of bottoms.
Anonymous #5
Anonymous #6
Shay flirted with me in DMs constantly for months while in a monogamous relationship.
They also stared straight down my chest for a noticeably long time at the first GDQ I went to, and asked to give me massages 4 times at AGDQ 2025 while my partner was right there and while I said no repeatedly. Creepy uncle ass behavior.
I expect at this point that the only reason I don't have more instances of Shay being creepy to me at GDQs was because people were actively keeping Shay away from me at my request because being around them made me feel uncomfortable and unsafe.
Anonymous #7
I was one of shayys old friends. I don’t know if I was ever close to them or not, but they liked me enough to want to have esex with me. It would start at the very start of 2024, and at first I did enjoy it… until I realized that they were only reaching out to me for esex.
The first time I noticed this was when I was out with my significant other (they were aware that I was up to this, I made sure to ask them first). We were getting ice cream, and while eating, I noticed Shayy messaged me, and I got very excited, because they have never done that before up to that point. My stomach sunk once I realized that they were not reaching out to me not because they wanted to speak to me, but because they were horny. I would tell them that I could help out once I got home, but they didn’t take that answer and ran with it anyways. I felt the need to placate them just so I could talk to them at all, and I fully regret giving into them, even if it was more of a quarter hearted effort from me. They seemingly were able to finish because of me, and when I expected to be able to talk to them after, they… left. I felt used, and this would continue to be the same feeling I had for almost 2 years. Below is be the conversation from that evening.
This would go on for months, with me feeling worse, and worse, and worse about it. This would eventually lead to a confrontation on my end. It would end with them saying that they did not see me like that and that they wouldn’t be able to live with themselves if they treated their friend like that. In retrospect, I was too nice here, because they did not address most of my concerns here. They would make it about themselves and ignore basically what I said. After this conversation, all contact with Shayy was basically minimal at best and cold shoulder at worst. I would reach out trying to strike up conversation, and nothing would come of it, because of course so. The times they would reach out, of course, was for sex. Below is the first confrontation.
For some context I was going through a massive depressive episode at the time due to my experiences with Shayy. I fully felt like I was a toy that was being used by them for their own pleasure and nothing else. It spiraled into a full insecurity/delusion where I felt like my only value was sex, where the only thing that mattered to people was my body and nothing else. Afterall, my voice clearly didn’t matter.
This episode would leave me to cut out all casual sex with people outside of my partners. It became a self harm ritual, only reaffirming that yes, the only thing that people like about me is my body. I sent out a tweet on an alt, screenshotted it, and sent it to all parties involved. Of course, one of them was Shayy. This would spawn into a conversation where they asked if I felt like they used me. Below is that conversation, and would technically be the 3rd time I confronted them on how they treated me.
About 2 months later after this confrontation, things were right back to how it was before, right down to only contacting me if they were horny. Regrettably, I ONCE again gave back in for the sake of trying to talk to them again. I also realized how just cold the previous conversations were. one word answers, clearly not very interested in any conversation at any time. They would give a tiny bit of an inch, and then just move on with their day. I was hoping for change but it's clear in retrospect I let them off the hook a bit too easily, on the condition that things would get better. This would continue for months, ONCE AGAIN, and would lead to another call out on my part, albeit not a super direct one.
This was the final confrontation I had about this overall situation. For context, the only reason why they apologized so out of the blue here was because of a recent call out by Victim 1. I would finally call them out on all of it. The repeated violation of my boundaries, the part where it somehow did not get through their head that I just wanted to talk to my friend and not be treated like a toy THREE DIFFERENT TIMES; and most importantly, I told them I felt like I had to surrender to them just to have a chance to talk to with that said friend. After this, they would go to the vent chat of the server. They would describe themselves "hitting themselves" in a place where I could very easily see everything that was going on. You can imagine how it felt to see someone you thought of as a friend talk about how YOU feel like you were completely used by them and their response is to tell EVERYONE in that group “I am self-harming”. apologized later that night because I felt like I had to due to my feelings causing them to announce that they self harmed. Credit where credit is due, the next two months they did keep to their word in trying to make things better. Sometimes they wouldn't reach out, but otherwise we would actually have conversations! No more sex! We did send each other some suggestive art to each other for a bit there, but otherwise conversations were finally had! All it took for them to stop using me was 4 call outs, one of which wasn't even from me and them feeling like their whole career is on the line, it seems.
I hope that this illustrates a pattern of behaviour that both I and other victims of Shayy had to suffer through for years. Thank you for taking your time to read this.
Anonymous #8
Hello, I am formerly a friend and member of Shayy’s staff, but I am choosing to keep my identity anonymous.
In hearing and sharing experiences with others who have written testimonials, and with those who didn’t but had a lot to say, I began to wonder about an encounter I had with Shayy a couple months back.
To set up context, Shayy had a football server dedicated to fantasy football and watching each NFL game. Before that server existed, before December 2023, the watch sessions were hosted in their regular server, Frog Family. They were in basically every vc whenever a game was on. One day when Shayy started sexting me (this was recently, within the last few months) I noticed that they were in the voice chat in the football server, unmuted, and actively streaming a game. At the time I had assumed they just set up the game on their computer and went somewhere separate.
It was only when everyone started sharing testimonials about Shayy that it occurred to me that maybe they didn’t leave. That maybe they were still actively in the call. I asked someone who was active in the football server, and they said that Shayy was almost always present during these games and not afk. I asked around if anyone else had Shayy sext them while Shayy or the person themself was in a vc, and there was an astounding amount of yesses.
I have gotten permission from several people to share/allude to their accounts. At least three people were sexted by Shayy while both parties were in the football vc, before it moved to a private server. This means Shayy started sexting people while in a Frog Family vc, which is public for anyone to join and frequented by minors. In another person’s instance, they started sexting them while in the Frog Family football vc then immediately deafened, and presumably walked away. In another instance, Shayy started sexting someone while said person had their face cam on in Frog Family general voice chat. Shayy was in this voice call as well, and in the text between the two parties, Shayy kept mentioning and emphasizing how the person was blushing. This, again, was in a publicly available voice chat in their own server. All of this was almost certainly some sort of humiliation kink or exhibitionism that they were expressing without consent of the other party, nor the consent of the other people involved in the voice chats. And done often times in a space where minors actively participated in.
For the ones that happened while Shayy was in the football server vc, it was myself and one other person (neither of us were in the calls with them). And though it was a private server, they did not alert or ask anyone who was in the chat with them if that was okay to do. And considering it was only in September 2025 when it happened for me, this is a behavior that’s been happening to some degree for at least two years. Likely more if they are still comfortably doing it to this day. Even if the bare minimum was just sexting and nothing physical, that is still likely some form of exhibitionism that nobody consented to.
And, more distressingly, this is all that I currently know. Considering the amount of people who immediately came forward with a “you too?” when I brought up my concern, it is likely there are more instances I am not aware of. If this is one of the ways Shayy uses their platform, then they should not have a platform to do this with, period.
Anonymous #9
I have not been a victim of Shayy, nor was I a close friend. Regardless, I have reasons to believe I have been personally affected by their sexual misconduct, and would like to share my piece on it.
Shayy has always acted condescending towards me in most conversations. Whenever we discussed something, it felt like they respected my opinions very little or treated me like crazy, often acting like my statements were absurd. Admittedly our relationship for a good period of time was strained due to things I did, however I am plural, and Shayy never talked with quite the same tone as they did towards my headmates.
Later, I would discover Shayy was attempting to invite my partner to their house while their own was out, implying extremely heavily they wanted to have sex with them. I never knew about any of this, and it brought me no small amount of disgust to know that they were trying to have sex with my significant other behind my back, and from the testimony of others, likely never intended to seek my consent for this. Our relationship has always been very clear too, there was absolutely no way Shayy was unaware of it.
What I'm about to say is purely speculative, I have nothing to back this up besides the loose threads I have talked about in this testimony, however I have reason to believe that, due to the dynamics of my relationship, Shayy saw me as essentially sub-human, property owned by its partner. They never took me seriously, and saw no need to ask for my consent when having sex with them; after all, to them, I was nothing more than my partner's pet.
This vision was disgusting to acquire, and while I have nothing to back this up from, I find it a likely thought process from Shayy, whose brain is not only borderline rotten with porn, but also had a track record of going after people in relationships. Either way, as I said, I have no real source to back this up, so let your own opinion dictate what you'll believe.
Anonymous #10
Hello, I am a former moderator for Shayy's discord choosing to keep my name redacted for my own comfort. My experiences mostly corroborate what other people have been saying, I had sexual conversations and engagements with Shayy over DMs with the implication that their partner, star, was made aware of & had agreed to such things. She had not. Had I known that Star was unaware & had not had this discussed with her I would've never felt comfortable engaging with Shayy in this manner.
A while after we first started talking with eachother I'd felt like Shayy had been using me for sexual gratification, initially I chalked these feelings up to my own insecurity & pushed them down, as they came at a time when I was going through a lot mentally & was severely doubting myself and my feelings. Seeing everyone coming forward about this, I again feel that I was used. Basically 90% of my conversations with Shayy would be them trying to engage with me in a sexual or flirtatious manner, or the conversations would start out normal and then they would inevitably turn it to one of those things. A couple of these times included saying I could "Top them in 4K" and asking for "spicy pics" in the middle of a regular conversation about a new phone I'd gotten. Another was replying to & complimenting a photo of my boobs from three whole months prior (from the "spicy pics" conversation, which I regret sending anything during now.) in our DMs immediately after I had got done venting about some pretty heavy shit I was going through in my personal life. I was not wanting to engage with this (as it was 5am and I was stressed and tired) and gave a jokey response and said I was going to bed.
See attached images for these DMs.
Obviously on top of everything else I've learned recently, this does not make me feel good. I feel objectified, I feel used, I feel like I was not even considered outside of whenever I was useful for sexual gratification for Shayy. These, of course, are just my own personal feelings about my own interactions with Shayy (& a lot of these feelings are more retroactive after hearing other things & other peoples experiences), but I do find it important to share them, as I feel this along with other testimonies are indicative of a wider habit of sex pestery from them, & this has personally upset and hurt me a lot.
(the [blank] outfit referenced in the second set of messages is about a cosplay of mine.)
Anonymous #11
i was 17 when i showed up in shayy’s chat. about 8 months after, right when i turned 18, shayy’s tone shifted and got really flirty really fast. they constantly told me that i was pretty and made sexually charged jokes towards me, even after i said that i’m in a monogamous relationship and i was uncomfortable.
things stayed pretty restricted to just compliments and things (and DMs that i would ignore) until SGDQ25. we were in our hotel room, i was showing shayy a video on my phone and they invited me over to sit with them. so i got up from my bed and sat next to shayy for a bit. they very quickly put an arm around me and physically pulled me with them to lay down. because i got lucky and my partner happened to be in the room, the situation was interrupted very quickly and they got me physically away from shayy for the time being. i was visibly uncomfortable enough that someone physically interrupted the situation
after this, we went to a big group dinner with shayy. my partner was SO anxious over what happened to the point where they had to go to the bathroom and have a panic attack. they didn’t tell me this until after the fact because they didn’t want to stress me out over it.
while they were in the bathroom, the topic of age came up at the table. shayy’s exact words were “i can’t believe people your age are old enough to be propositioning me.” i had a physical reaction to this comment, immediately felt my chest hurt and my throat get tight. i felt like i had given shayy the idea that i wanted an actual sexual relationship. i snapped back “who said i was propositioning you?” and the topic seemed to be dropped.
once my partner returned to the table, i went to the bathroom to have a panic attack of my own. shayy and i had conversations in the past about how i felt objectified when lots of my friends ended up flirting with me, and i felt like that was what was happening again. i did DM shayy that night and they seemed to apologize rather quickly, and i chalked it up to bad communication on my part. looking back, i don’t feel like this is the case. obviously i was uncomfortable enough that someone physically removed me from within touching distance.
at sgdq23, me and some others went to shayy’s hotel room to say goodbyes because people were leaving early the next morning. during this, shayy went to hug me and they picked me up by the waist. as they were holding me, they adjusted a little bit and i chalked it up to an uncomfortable grip. they swayed with me so my dangling legs were moving and i felt their erection press into my thigh. they held me there for about 30 seconds before they set me down.
i feel violated. i was 18 and had just gone on a trip without my parents for the first time. i didn’t deserve to be touched like that, especially not in a crowded hotel room. i was uncomfortable at the time but really wanted to believe i was overthinking. looking back, i feel that they consciously positioned me there like that and held me there for a reason.