/hikki/ - NEET / Advice

Trans Mega Thread!

So, let's try something here.

Frequently a trans-related topic comes up in a thread here in /hikki/, and the thread will quickly get derailed by malicious comments or by the diversion in topic just taking over. There is clearly a lot of interest in discussing trans topics, as well as a lot of unwelcome interest in shutting them down. But they do tend to take over threads either way. So, while we figure out how to handle this from a moderation standpoint, I am going to make a trans discussion mega thread here to contain such conversations. This might end up being permanent. If you find that a thread makes you want to discuss a trans-related topic, make a post here instead.

Rules 6 and 7 are strictly enforced in this thread, and violations will result in longer bans. However, uncomfortable questions are also allowed within reason.

Also if a trans topic starts to derail a thread from now on we may delete those posts.

Also Sei is trans. So I might make some posts in here as well.

Update 11/04/2024: When the conversation in the trans thread veers into whether transness is even a thing that exists, that will be considered an attempt at derailment. This thread isn't for you. It is specifically a containment thread for people who want to talk about transness from the starting assumption that the topic itself and the kind of identity it discusses is valid. Please keep that in mind.

From now on, the >>>/rec/ board should generally be used for conversations about recovery from NEETism. This is not a hard rule but you are likely to have a better experience.

Seeing as absolutely everyone misread the /hikki/ rules sticky and used it to draw apocalyptic conclusions about the death of all that was good about /n/, here's a less flippant sticky with less room for ambiguity, in the form of a Q&A. We've also made some concessions based on your feedback in thread >>13, which was moved to /sugg/ for being meta.

What is allowed on this board? What is its purpose?
On this board you can discuss and request or give advice regarding NEETism, Hikikomoriism, anxieties and social or mental issues arising from these conditions of living, and things closely related to these topics. If you're content with being a NEET at this stage in your life, that's ok, and you won't get in trouble for saying so. The board's primary focus is self-help and advice regarding these issues. Despite rumors, threads looking for help with suicidal feelings or drug addition are also allowed.

What is not allowed on this board?
* Encouraging others to become NEET.
* Attacking or discouraging others for being NEET.
* Giving or requesting advice on how to enter the NEET lifestyle.
* Encouraging or showcasing drug usage.
* Announcing your planned suicide.
* Helping others to plan or commit suicide.
* Topics not related to the purpose of the board. Such topics will be moved.
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i'm nearing unemployment 2 years, i've tried to upskill with certificates, still barely get any interviews. is it hopeless? thank you

I'm starting college very soon. It's past midnight, so right now, on my birthday, I'm now 18 years old. I still feel 16 though. I know all of you here have jobs, have it 'functioning'. Though I know a lot of you have it very tough. I don't know where to go or who to voice my concerns to. I feel like I'm not in the right place right now to use discord much, I never had much privacy in my life. But at the very least, I can post here, on this board. I can do at least that much, right?

God what do I even say? I keep typing something and removing it after. I'm just so scared. I don't know what to do. If I think to deeply on this, my heart sinks and I start to cry like a wimp. I never really talked to people. It's not even hard irl, I just feel like I don't have the space.

In high school I was always daydreaming of escaping and having complete control over my life by the time I was 18. I could drive around in my own car, work my own job, get my own money, and live for MYSELF. I don't know what to think or what to do anymore. I'm staring at the website of the College I'll be going to in a few months and all the bad memories from high school come flooding back. Nothing bad happened at all in high school. I got by and had friends. But the state I was in. I was falling apart. I remember crying myself to sleep each night. I didn't know what was going to happen in the future. I didn't want to live for someone else. I wanted to live for me. High school ended, and I was at home. Not alone, people still expected stuff of me, but it's fine. I would learn to drive, get a job, get money, and go to college. And just a few months later it's already time. I don't even have a drivers license, only a graduated permit or whatever. Jobs are not easy to get. So I'm just wasting away. All the time I'm just panicking looking at my screen. I don't want life to be like this. For how long does life have to be like this?

Even typing this now, I'm trying not to cry for a second because I don't want anyone to see me. I just want to live for myself only. With no one expecting anything of me. I wish some other kid could take my place and live in my stead, making my family proud and my friends happier. It's not even a desire to not exist. It's the desire to do things that make me happy, and for people to love me for it.

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I will never have a job.

I will never move out of my parents' house.

I will never have sex.

I will never have a girlfriend.

I will never have any friends.

I have a online friend with bpd that I'm afraid is becoming a neet. He has no girlfriend and no life outside his room i really think if he just had a girlfriend or someone to help him out irl so i came up with plan that i will simply transition and become his girlfriend to break him out of his depression and get his life on track.

i got a job at domininjas and the online training sucks

like i get physically exhausted just thinking about it

i mean i want to work to have something to do and to get money but it feels like im getting aged upwards 10 years every minute i spend staring at the course. like the guy on the carousel in something wicked this way comes by ray bradbury

it also really really scares me that this is a glimpse into the standard level of enjoyment i'll be feeling for the rest of my life. work is hell, and i doubt i'll ever find something fun and worth doing that also gets me fulfillment and money. i wish i could study but most major colleges don't like my kind of person very much and i tried going to a shitty backwater one and was tempted to shank the principal so theres that

I'm lonely
I've lost almost all my friends, both online and irl and I spend most of my time alone
I tried a sport or going to parties or stuff like that in the past but I never managed to make a connection with someone and I was always the one sitting alone in a corner
I really wish I could socialize better but I panic and freeze when I'm put in a social situation, even online I can't join in on conversations because I get scared
on top of the self hatred I already have idk if I'll manage to find people willing to stick with me
does anyone have any advice, please?

Developed a crush on one of the social workers.

Is anyone else here completely alone?

I don't mean just no gf.

>no friends

>no family

>no online friends

>no pets

>no goldfish

Literally nothing.