Before I'd even consider answering any of these points, show me one lolicon who actually argues that "we use this as an outlet for our urges".
Go ahead, I wait. But you won't. Because no one does that.
You use all the fancy words, but here is another one:
Strawman.
Look it up.
What lolicons actually say is that no real person gets hurt. Period. Which is objectively true.
The rest is just a strawman you made up to make an actual sensible argument seem bad.