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He is going to find his life so much simpler after they divorce. Even if he gets full custody of the kid, which he should fight for, and she will probably give to him. He won’t have her shit to worry about, just him and his boy.And sure, he will need some outside help, but it will be so much easier to arrange, and when he gets it in place, it will make his life easier.
If he gets full custody, he can move them back closer to his family and friends!
Doesn't wanna be monogamous. Doesn't cook. Doesn't clean. Doesn't have the ability to look after their child without OP always there.
WHAT CAN SHE DO BAR BANG OTHER PEOPLE?!
Apparently her main skill set is manipulating this dude.
That’s what I don’t get, what is she bringing to the marriage? Why would you stay with someone like this?
I don’t believe relationships should be transactional but it’s not healthy or fair to have one partner doing all of the cooking, cleaning and childcare on top of working while the other does nothing but go out and fuck other people. Also, where does she expect him to find the time to date even if he wanted to when he is literally doing EVERYTHING at home on top of working?
It sounds like she contributes literally nothing to their life, including being emotionally supportive of OOP or their child. His life would probably be much easier if he left and got full custody of their son, it’d be one less person to care for.
With her willingness to let the son skip school when OP is gone, I also wondered if she even worked?
Like he specifically mentioned "all she has going for her," and I am left scratching my head what that "all" is.
Wife: Let's have an open marriage
OOP: Uh, ok. proceeds to not date
Wife: NOT LIKE THAT! YOU'RE MAKING ME FEEL BAD!
Also holy fuck, fire that horrible therapist!
Going purely by his second point in his update, he needs to fire the therapist and hire a divorce lawyer and go for 100% custody. His life in general isn't going to get any easier, but at least he won't have his wife to deal with anymore.
The wife is out there, fucking whoever she wants, won't let him have any time with the few friends he has, refuses to parent the kid or look after the home, it sounds horrific.
Fire her out of a cannon at the sun. In what fucking dimension does can ANYONE think what the Therapist is doing or saying is okay? Is OP not all there? What odds are we placing on the Therapist being one of the Wife's friends from high school or some shit.
The allegory was kinda backwards, but any decent therapist should've picked out what they meant lol. Especially someone versed in ENM. I liken it more to my own experience with dessert; yeah, you sure as fuck can go get another helping of ice cream. No, I don't want any, I don't like sweets.
If my therapist told me it was a bummer to not like sweets, I'd send them over to my pcp to start a fight.
That therapist is either a dumbass, an enabler, or a grifter.
The fuck is wrong with the tharapist?
The "good reviews" the therapist probably got were from the "I wanted a therapist to help me gang up on my monogamous partner to force them to let me open the marriage" types.
Weird that the comments are piling on OOP for using the word consent and not wanting a threesome and not the fact that he's going along with a TERRIBLE therapist and doesn't fully realize how bad everything in his marriage really is.
When you're parenting a child with special needs your main focus is keeping your head above water.
I'm surprised the wife has enough time to fuck around given the circumstances, but clearly the division of labour is skewed towards the husband.
No wonder he has blood pressure problems with such an unsupportive wife
The most concerning part of this is how deep he buried the lede on the SEVERAL other ways in which is wife is an awful partner and parent
I’m a therapist. That’s a fucking horrible therapist. I’m sorry they did so much damage.
Whenever they’re asked why they agreed in the first place, OOP says, “Everyone has done things they don’t want to do when a partner asked.” And like… yeah? But that applies to things like watching a movie you don’t like or taking out the trash even though it’s their turn.
It’s definitely not letting them have sex with other people
...such as???
Why do people do this to themselves honestly.
Sometimes I think I'll never understand other humans.
Kids. If the child was not a factor the dude would peace out already.
Sounds like he has checked out long ago.
Right?! 100% unclear what he is getting out of this at all.
Faithful wife? ❌
Helpful wife? ❌
Empathetic wife? Patient? Understanding? Able to contribute to the household in any meaningful way? ❌❌❌❌
Wife happy she gets to fuck other people at will? ❌
He is either terrified of her, doesn't want to deal with fallout of a divorce, enjoys being a martyr, something. This shit ain't adding up at all bc (if his story is completely true) her ass should've been kicked to the curb long, long ago
I am so happy that I am a normal person in a normal marriage, I tell ya what.
WTF did I read.
Wife literally does NOTHING. He's as good as a single dad. He's not even allowed to not want sex. She doesn't even care about the kids, is it OOPs? Don't know why, as I was reading it I think that might be not his.
I wonder why he has blood pressure issues that impact his sexual performance? What could possibly be a factor in his life that could exacerbate such a condition?
I'm going on record that this ends with a divorce.
what a terrible therapist, is she also sleeping with the wife?