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Carolyn Hax: Turning down a friend who invited herself to a birthday celebration

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Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: Every year on my birthday, my husband and I do something simple like going to a museum and dinner.

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Carolyn Hax started her Washington Post advice column in 1997, after five years on the Style desk and none as a therapist. The column includes cartoons by "relationship cartoonist" Nick Galifianakis — Carolyn's ex-husband — and appears in dozens of newspapers.
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