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What I Learned After Wasting 3 Years on One-Sided Love
The painful lessons of one-sided affection and the beauty of self-respect
Three Years, One Truth
It took me three years to finally understand this truth: you can’t force someone to love you.
I spent so much time chasing one-sided affections trying to prove my worth to people who never really saw me.
I thought if I was kind enough, present enough, patient enough, maybe one day they would look at me and finally see what I hoped they’d see.
But love doesn’t work that way.
The harsh reality is that you can’t beg for love.
And if you have to, it isn’t real.
These three years have been a journey a collection of lessons learned in pain, disappointment, and eventually, clarity.
I came to understand that real love has to be reciprocal.
It has to flow naturally, without you exhausting yourself just to earn scraps of affection.
I learned how to recognize the quiet signs of unrequited love.
How to listen to my intuition when it whispered that I deserved more.
