Adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn: My husband and I have been married almost 20 years and have two teens. I have been helping our younger teen (“Izzy,” 16) get diagnosed for ADHD. Last fall, just after we got a prescription for ADHD medication, my husband told Izzy that I drank alcohol during pregnancy and that they might want to consider fetal alcohol spectrum disorder as a cause of the ADHD. I did not find out about this conversation until about 10 days later, when they both confronted me. Izzy looked up FAS/FASD and was convinced they had it.