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most cis people see my fursona and kinda just go "oh he's a guy? cool!"
with other trans men I feel like I'm playing Russian roulette as in are they going to be normal and accepting? or are they gonna go mega transphobia mode and use their internalized dysphoria as an excuse to hurt me.
May 13, 2025 at 3:09 PM
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usually it's the latter and lately I've been having pretty awful flashbacks of the stuff they've said about me while violently misgendering me. there are thousand note posts on Tumblr straight up making fun of my gender expression and similar.
it made me very sad yesterday thinking Abt it.
i still get misgendered or at the least degendered very badly and it just drives me insane when I constantly talk about my gender and how I express it in depth.
trans men (well transmeds) have been so wildly vile towards me to the point I developed a major disconnect from the transmasc community
I don't know if this helps at all, but I genuinely love and appreciate seeing you put your gender expression into your art. Especially as a fellow black transmasc who's comfy in my body. It helped me feel less alone in a community that has weird combativeness from inside and out.
this is all that matters tbh.
black trans men and transmascs within the transmasculine side get treated so fucking poorly especially as I've noticed a lot of us are non passing cuz of our circumstances + we don't prioritize eurocentric beauty standards.
oh yeah, I'll feel a way about myself for a minute before I remember that black trans people are the backbone of the queer community in general then I move on with my day
I kinda feel the same way with my butch deer gal. Been leaning a lot more into him(yes him. he's butch) being a "buck" and a woman and I just.. worry about meeting the wrong person someday and feeling like total dogshit about it
Just.. seeing the way other transfemmes get about GNC people being depicted is... scary
I get where it comes from, but when it's directed at depictions of real people it really hurts
this is something i hate about the transmasc community online. the internalized transphobia is so bad and so many trans men are insecure in their masculinity. this obsession with being "real men" and seeing other trans men reject that doesnt compute in their worldview. its just sad
in any case i really love seeing people with fursonas or characters who are non-op because it is so rare. it always makes me really happy. there needs to be more
It really sucks when people are so insecure about themselves that they can't help but try their damndest to bring people who ARE secure down. You are comfortable in your body, and you have a beautiful way of expressing that through your fursona.
It's sad that people's social expectations are so drilled into their heads that they can't fathom someone being happy with what they have :(
Its awful people are like that :(
Im not sure if it means anything but I draw my sona w my own body type and it always makes me really happy to see other trans people do the same. When I saw your fursona it made me very excited to see more people like me? If that makes sense?
yeah I dunno what's up with that. the only pushback I've ever seen (and thankfully it hasn't been much at all) has ever been from other trans guys. literally everyone else under the sun is just like "hell yea man cool guy 👍👍"
I'm a very binary, masculine trans man, and I'm so thankful that transmasculine ppl like you exist. Your very existence is proof that there's no wrong way of being a guy, and i find it so sad that some can be so dysphoria ridden that they can't even see the beauty in our diversity. I thought we +
Left the whole transmed shit back in 2016, it's such a miserable way of living ! Anyway keep up the banger art and stay cool 🤙🏽
There seems to be a fairly recent rise/resurgence of transmedicalism and it’s kind of wild to me just how quickly it’s come back. Though maybe I shouldn’t be surprised that a fundamentally conservative ideology is creeping up again given the state of the world
I love your art and how you depict all kinds of trans bodies as worthy of desire (without being fetishized) and I’m sorry you have to deal with so many shitheads.
As a trans masc person (not quite a trans guy but still) I can assure you I had the exact same reaction to your fursona as the cis people LMAO
I’ve had to distance myself from other transmascs because of overwhelming transmedicalism, and I fit a lot of their standards, so I can only imagine it’s so much worse when you’re actively and loudly pushing back against them.
I blame the bullying. If someone spends long enough calling you stupid you will forever doubt yourself. Trans guys have been bullied, being told they’re not men so that self doubt, fear and anger turns them into bullies. “I have to conform to my gender, why shouldn’t you” type thing.
100% yeah. I love the transmasc community dearly, but wayyyyy too many people are comfortable with projecting their own dysphoria onto others and that's genuinely done so much damage to the community. transmedicalism is a plague
I am a cis guy, but I am a demisexual. I actually really like your fursona. Most go for this thin or average build when it comes to anatomy.
I actually get turned off by that. Its not cute and not really interesting. Drawing a character a tad chonky or curvy takes talent. Don't let anyone say
They can fuck off fr. The sheer variety of transmasculinity and its experience and representation in art always makes me heart super full, it's food for the soul and nourishment for the world. Your work and joy is SO important! Life is a beautiful tapestry, and those bozos are MISSING IT
idk if this will help but me and my bf are transmasc and we absolutely love how you draw transmen. the way you draw transmen reminds me a lot of him and me, because im not out of the closet at all and he's a feminine trans guy. the people being rude to you are stupid, theres many ways to be a guy <3
f e l t.
also transmasc, seeing how vile people to those who dont fit their ideal mould is always so upsetting.
The whole point of the community is to accept and support those who fall outside of the traditional binary, that shit will never make sense to me.
anywho, pls take care!