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The majority of my following is trans so I feel like one of y’all might help me Is there anyone out there I could talk with who genuinely thought they were cis for most of their life and in their mid 20s are realizing they might be more binary trans ?
Makes me feel insane cuz if I decided to transition as a man that would make me a straight man and nothing about the way I like women feels straight and I’d never date a straight woman ever
I identify with he/him lesbianism for that reason but idk sometimes I’m simply a boy
But sometimes I also think it’s just me trying to escape my nonbinary identity because of how widely it’s seen as invalid
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‪@w0lfertinger666.bsky.social‬
i do understand how you feel. although I'm in my early 20s, I do get feeling adverse to committing to being a man because the way how society presents being a man is always rooted in toxic masculinity, misogyny, and queerphobia (cont.)
May 26, 2025 at 7:02 AM
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i also felt the same with being a binary gender cuz of how non binary people are treated. i pushed down feelings of being a man because I was scared to be a toxic male and scared to love women in a worse way and mostly scared to present a different way than most men
but pushing that down made my dysphoria worse. in the end I stopped caring, became the boy I wanted, and I still love women the same. it's all pressure and bias but you should do what you feel is right, and if it's not comfortable it's ok to try something else out! (⁠ᵔ⁠ᴥ⁠ᵔ⁠)
Ahh that makes me feel a bit better Yea it is a lot about the way society perceives me I also worry if I identify as a man and not directly as a lesbian it means men will come after me thinking I want them and that scares me
mmhm yes it's definitely a society thing. i will say this as someone who used to identify as a lesbian: douchy cishet men will go after you regardless of your identity because they do not understand boundaries or labels whatsoever. i wouldn't let creeps stop you from being what you desire.