multi responded to these pointing out the first is passive voice (which rang alarm bells to them) but then that the 2nd is active, and it wasn't something i thought about much until they said something, but i will elaborate on it some because it feels meaningful to me

i feel 2 ways: (active) towards people i have directly interacted with and hurt, i feel sad and sorry for my role in that, as in, sorry to have hurt them & caused pain (passive) towards those i do not know and never spoke to, i am sad for those who feel pain in relation to me, however that is

in both cases i genuinely want people to be able to feel better & find peace with things i can be sorry my words hurt in either case as i do not want to cause pain and it hurts to do so but in the 2nd case, people need to manage their boundaries with relation to me if they are actively upset

it does not make sense to me to be upset by me and then seek me or things to do with me out if someone is hurt by me and continues to seek things about me out, that is self-harm... that is not my responsibility i prefer that people be able to move away from self-harm and get to a better place

thank you for these posts, especially the last they've given me a perspective about an issue in my life, something I should have realized sooner either way, hurting someone else, especially by accident or passively, is a struggle it's hard to move on from. I hope they heal... and I hope we do too

it's very sad and can be really hard to move on from but i wish well for you and anyone who's been in difficult situations in your life too, and I'm glad my posts could help you