divya venn

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divya venn

@divya_venn

making mistakes and observing things | ai infra + content creation

observing happinesslinktr.ee/divya.vennJoined February 2023

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divya venn

@divya_venn

Jun 30, 2023

Hang out with people who are intellectually fearless. Disciplined in thinking, comfortable in chaos. Wouldn’t suggest skinny dipping but they’re game. Understand that we all fall short sometimes which is why you gotta be relentless with yourself. Down to try a cig but the minute

"Your boos mean nothing, I've seen what makes you cheer" is actually an excellent and life-affirming attitude

I always thought this should win an award for like, most accurate advertising

being annoyed is the price you pay for community. it means having guests when you'd rather be alone. it means letting someone live with you even when they get on your nerves. it means showing up for events that you'd rather not go to. it means turning the other cheek.

this is a god awful tinder profile. if you're in this situation send me screenshots of your profile + $100 by venmo + a voice recording of you talking about yourself for 2 minutes and I will tell you, with brutal honesty, exactly why you're putting women off

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Bizlet

@bizlet7

May 15

5 years on tinder and swiped right 2 million times and got one date. It's time to Thailandmaxx bro.

i think procrastination leads to burnout much more than work does

If I don’t give my mother constant little side quests she gets depressed and prone to drama. Chaos ensues. “Favors” I never asked for and actively dislike plague our relationship. Strange my father never arrived at this simple technique in 25 turbulent years of marriage

There is no “dating out of your league” Dating is ruthless capitalism. Your market value is whatever you and your takers agree it is

i fucking love this so much i can't even tell you

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ADHD Memes

@ADHDForReal

Mar 12

people always talk about how avoidants are traumatizing but tbh the most traumatized person i ever met was left broken by a debilitatingly anxious partner

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everyone has to figure out the balance that's right for them. but in general the lonelier you are, the more tolerant you have to learn to be.

They lied to you. Highest ROI skill out there is not coding or trading or anything close to it. It's being unusually likable.

Having your shit together is a great act of selflessness and love. You’re sparing those who love you from the extreme headache of caring about a perpetual loser.

how anyone can be seductive.

0:06 / 1:25

A year ago I broke my wrist. Totally ignored all post op instructions. Played volleyball while still in a cast, cooked, cleaned, typed, even did some sparring with friends. At my follow ups my doctor couldn’t stop talking about how well it was healing and how little stiffness

Basic flirting is letting a guy go on about a topic and saying “you’re sooo smart!” at the end Next time try debating on one of his points, letting him win, and saying “okay, you were right” with an expression of amazement and relief

Been noticing lately that people are MUCH hungrier for recognition than they are for reciprocation. For example people are actually pretty tolerant of the sacrifices they make not being returned But when those sacrifices aren’t even acknowledged? that relationship is ending.

why society needs more matchmakers: today's dating environment is good for a specific type of person: high agency, very social people who have stuff in common with the other sex. vibey/artsy men and male-brained women. this is a very small percentage of people

This is a def a metaphor for something but I can’t think what

the secret to unbothered socializing + what makes people naive

The media could not be played.

btw a high-level rizz move that requires a fair bit of intellectual dishonesty is to basically be a real life Sorting Hat people want identity and a sense of purpose and tribe SO badly and if you can give them that, or the illusion of that, they'll put you on SUCH a pedestal

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Alyssa

@alyssaleann

May 15

One generational quirk that I don’t see people talk about very much is that millennials looooove being labeled Enneagram Myers-Briggs Big 5 Astrological signs Kibbe body types It’s all very “tell me who I am and what to do”

a recent scandal in the creator world is Clara Dao she gained a massive audience over 9 years talking about body positivity and self-love and how you should love yourself even if you're skinny and flat chested and recently...got a boob job. her audience was understandably

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this too

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Tango Mango

@BlissfulTango

May 16

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You should also require screenshots of the longest chats they had before being declined.

#1 guaranteed way to end up broken and alone is to not realize that in life you can have ANYTHING but not EVERYTHING

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Ann Pierce

@itsannpierce

May 9

Dating as an adult is hard because you’re trying to pattern-match the best traits of your 2-3 most important exes that cannot exist simultaneously in one person and without the inextricable downsides that led to your breakup

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This applies to most people btw. One of the most charming things you can do is ask for little favors all the time and lavish them with gratitude after. People want to feel needed and useful. Very very few have enough mission and purpose to not require side quests

Why do men love taking pictures of you where you look goofy or ridiculous or downright trollish? Have never understood this. Sometimes wonder if it’s a subconscious negging thing.

You should start intentionally maintaining your scalp health and hair density as early as your mid twenties Prevention is 10000% easier than the cure. Literally everyone should be microneedling professionally a few times a year or dermstamping at home once a month

it's interesting how there have been multiple ancient cultures where homosexuality was accepted, public, even ritualized, but they only respected the tops

i have a theory that being very high openness makes you prone to being indecisive. decisions in life are rarely "apple vs shittier apple" it's apple vs orange and idk i could imagine myself being pretty happy with both, you know?

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update: this is actually surprisingly rewarding, every guy who messaged me is MUCH more engaging and appealing in voice note/video than in profile feel like i'm doing women a service by helping these men market themselves better

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T.T poor guy screwing over ur bf, yourself, and your kid in one shitty move, nice.

I’ve been in male dominated spaces my entire life and the fact that it’s common to encounter people who wanna date you is a massive professional and personal advantage

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Bbatts

@bbatts523

Jan 20

I think there’s a massive issue in male dominated spaces that women can’t enter without being seen as a shiny Pokémon waiting to be captured x.com/ronawang/statu…

female dating influencers will screech A MAN DOESN’T VALUE YOU IF HE DOESNT…. And then what they describe is not real yearning and pining or “I wanna marry this girl one day” but rather a standard seduction game that only rich men can afford to practice

I’m hearing a lot about this wizliz person and her cheating husband and without knowing them at all my immediate reaction was “extremely sad but not surprising” 1) if a man writes u a sonnet, he loves u. If he writes u 15 sonnets, he loves sonnets. This guy’s courtship was

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i like to think some kid drew it on a workbook and they were autistically like oh...! so cute!! and decided to add it to their logo not realizing the subdued protest for what it was

My greatest fear is that the fundamental reality of my life is lying in a bed staring at a ceiling wishing I was elsewhere I’ve read seven books in the past three days. In fact I’ve spent every second I wasn’t working reading. This is because I didn’t want to be me

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Ultimate unbeatable offer limited supply!!!

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jane of arc

@sevignyluvr

May 16

i’d do this for free for like 5 people but mostly just because i’m nosy x.com/divya_venn/sta…

It’s actually really unfair how attractive happiness is. People who are sincerely, naturally happy attract people whenever they go even though they’re relatively least in need of friendship or romance

i have a theory that chronic need for external validation (in the form of prestige/status/popularity/whatever) is eliminated by actually having family, friends, and above all a partner that you actually like and respect

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Very common vicious cycle is Person is bored, lack of sense of self, wants desperately to be loved and valued by you -> Does you “favors” you never asked for or starts shit for attention → you get annoyed and distance yourself → they do it even more and are also butthurt by

anyone who thinks relationships are an inherently frivolous subject has never been exposed to a truly bad relationship, a truly good one, or the slow, bitter calcification of many years of loneliness

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this pattern of genetic variance being higher in men holds true across a lot of traits. men are nature's dice roll: her way of randomly trying shit so the gene pool can adapt in a direction best suited for the current landscape

A lot of men try to show confidence by being dominating and aggressive (in bed and out of it) but in reality that’s a countersignal what *actually* demonstrates confidence is playfulness and ease