You were raised by an outspoken feminist who abused you. Maybe she spanked you. Maybe she treated your neurodivergent traits as misbehavior and punished you for it. Maybe she expected you to live up to her fantasies instead of being who you want to be.
This isn't uncommon at all. And you may conclude that feminism upholds your abuse and become an anti-feminist.
But you'd be wrong. The problem isn't feminism. The problem is single issue feminism. The solution is inclusive feminism, not anti-feminism.
Always question the missing reasons when a mental health professional talks about how they have been punched, bit, spit on, exc. Those who are hospitalized are routinely subjected to forced drugging, restraints, forced stripping, coercion, manipulation, violence, and isolation. They are detained and are often given no escape on their own terms. A psych sees any act of violence they commit as self-defense no matter the actual circumstances, and any retaliation or attempt at self-defense by the patient as violence.
reminds me of one of those “”””””troubled teen”””” camp (money making scheme) docs I watched last year. They interviewed an elderly woman who had been a part of the abuse but was a rare adult from back then who would talk to the filmmakers.
she had an incredibly disturbing perspective that the kids lashing out to try to SURVIVE was full justification for what “discipline” she had provided. Fully no ability to see or name that if you goon kids into a prison away from all their connections and normal lives, and treat them in torturous ways YOU STARTED THE VIOLENCE BITCH. They are the ones acting in self defense. Fuck.
It’s also worth noting that she was the only one willing to talk and she was a very NOT powerful person who was exploited in the system too. She wasn’t the one making the money, but she was the one acting like the boot on the throat for peanuts.
DEI does not mean lower standards.
You are thinking of white privilege.
Female surgeons have better overall patient outcomes than male surgeons.
Departments with a significant percentage of female surgeons have better overall patient outcomes for all surgeons.
This is demonstrated in study after study after study.
Why? Because surgery is such a male-dominated field that a female surgeon has to be orders of magnitudes better than her male peers to be considered for the same job positions/research grants, etc.
And when you get enough female surgeons in a department, they start being able to influence decision-making to improve patient safety and procedure efficacy for the entire department.
But hospitals don't like hiring female surgeons because they might do something inconvenient like needing time off to give birth to the next generation.
DEI in medicine doesn't just ensure a genuinely merits-based hiring process, as opposed to a convenience-based one.
DEI in medicine saves lives, literally.
Apparently there’s a website called Public Square where conservatives register their businesses to identify themselves as “anti-woke” so other conservatives can find them. I just thought I would share in case anyone wanted to put their zip code in and learn which local businesses to avoid.
The utter gall of an "anti-woke" company selling a candle called "Bohemian Bliss" with a smudge stick in the background...why not just throw a trans flag in there as well? Go full irony!
Anyway, cool resource for boycotting!
imagine if someone just like started addressing you as Dipshit, like youre just talking about your day & they say "no way Dipshit, that's crazy." and then maybe you say to them that you would prefer not to be addressed as Dipshit & their response is "well in my major metropolitan area 'Dipshit' is not considered an insult. im not saying i think youre stupid when i call you Dipshit, i call my mom dipshit all the time" so you say Thats cool but please dont call Me that. and then they just repeat that it's something they say daily, they call all of their best friends & lovers dipshits & are called dipshit in return. "my grandma calls me dipshit at the dinner table, it doesnt mean anything." so you say Yes i understand that your friends & grandma arent bothered by being called Dipshit but *i* am, & i would prefer if you didnt address me as that. and they say "it's literally not possible for me to stop calling you dipshit, and it's not reasonable for you to ask me to, dipshit." anyway this post is about nothing in particular
I can say with 100% certainty that the most violent immigrant is less of a terrorist than the nicest ICE officer.
Seriously, what could you possibly think immigrants are going to do that is so bad that this is needed as a solution? Imagine the worst possible thing an immigrant can do. This is worse by a longshot.
Keep all the immigrants, including those who are undocumented, including those who are lazy freeloaders, and including those who are violent. Deport all ICE officers. The whole country will be safer.
So anyways with the rapid rise of fascism I feel it’s a good time to point out that it’s perfectly legal to follow unjust orders slowly, badly, or inefficiently
Breaking the law, even an unjust law, has consequences that not all can afford. But also a very large number of us are also very stupid, or very confused, or very lazy, and so it’s not unreasonable that someone at the bottom of the chain of command might make a typo, or misplace some paperwork, or leave a Friday afternoon email for Monday morning.
When something goes wrong, or an operation slows down, because a low-level worker somewhere sent a package to the wrong address or left someone on hold for an hour or didn’t fill out a particular form correctly- Do you immediately assume malicious intent? Or do you usually just brush it off as some underpaid idiot being bad at their job?
You also gotta not brag about it.
Keep your political opinions on the down low. Be noncommittal or ignorant or undecided. Say things like “I’ve never heard of that”, “where did you hear that?” or “that’s interesting, I heard a conflicting story from here, how weird”. Never be outwardly confidant of what you know. When there is a silence, don’t fill it- leave the space and let the other fill it for you. That’s how you get information, that’s how you find sources, that’s how you reduce the value of anything others get out of you.
Virtue signalling by wearing pins and ribbons and loudly declaring your place is not safe in some environments. It will place scrutiny on you and everything you touch. Nobody believes the guy who says “fuck my boss and everything he stands for” scratches the boss’s car by accident, even if it is an accident.
If you want to slow the march of a tank, filling the path with mud is going do more than laying down in front of it.
Also: PLAY. DUMB. All the time. Make sure whoever’s in charge believes you’re the kind of person to make “stupid mistakes”.
Black people who were enslaved in the antebellum U.S. would intentionally act stupid and lazy in front of their overseers/masters. This way, when they performed small acts of resistance (like intentionally slowing down during work, “accidentally” breaking equipment, and “forgetting” orders) their enslavers would just chalk it up to “Oh, well, they’re just stupid and lazy. They can’t help it.” The stereotype that Black people were dumb, lazy ne’er-do-wells was widespread back then (still is, tbh, but not as prevalent) and black people played that role to a HILT. This allowed them to fuck with their oppressors while minimizing the punishments they would receive.
- white
- low support needs
- not need 24/7 support
- can work independently
- can pay taxes
- language privileged
- intellectual & cognitive privileged
- who can fit in societal definition of useful & productive (yes, even if hard)
when fight back against eugenics & ableism, you NEED to fight alongside, fight with, n fight for autistics who
- radicalized & POC
- from places of world where there critically lack autism knowledge n support
- visibly autistic
- higher support needs
- need 24/7 care
- can’t work independently or even work at all
- can’t pay taxes
- nonverbal, nonspeaking, minimally verbal, without functional communication, or cannot communicate via language at all even AAC
- w intellectual disability or cognitive disabilities
- who cannot fit into society definition of useful n productive, no matter how hard we try
because we always are & always will be primary target.
because we most vulnerable most marginalized within our, OUR community, which you belong in.
because once they finish us off you won’t be spared.
theconcealedweaponIf a group of immigrants kidnapped someone who then died in their captivity, what would you want to happen to those immigrants?That's what should happen to these ICE officers.#immigration#fuck ice653 notes
theconcealedweapon"But undocumented immigrants could be terrorists."I don't care. Not even a little.I've seen how ICE treat people. I'd feel much safer around the most violent immigrant than around the nicest ICE officer. ICE are not preventing violence. They're enforcing a monopoly on violence.#immigration#police brutality#fuck the police#fuck ice#acab454 notes
theconcealedweaponI have a controversial idea too. If you don't want people to do something, don't tell them to do it. You tell people that if they never go to school, they deserve to work for a poverty wage forever. Now you tell them that if they do go to school, they deserve to be in debt forever.Here's another controversial idea. Going into debt to get an education shouldn't even be an option.#wealthy privilege#student loan forgiveness
theconcealedweaponAnonymous asked:I hope you don't mind if I ask, and if you do feel free to delete this ask! I saw on your bio that you added former incel, and well let's just say that I know very many interesting people that I unfortunately can't just cut contact from. I was wondering what changed your perspective on things, and how, you would say, I can change others perspectives? if that's too personal, don't worry about answering :) hope you have a great day nonetheless! (and if you do answer, thank you very much :) ) I became an incel because I grew up as an undiagnosed autistic, so I had struggles that no one understood. Since I didn't understand the source of the struggles, it was very easy to believe that my struggles were from being male and that women were the problem. I trusted pickup artists, which was very easy to do because they were the only ones who treated socializing like a science instead of giving oversimplified advice like "talk to people" or assuming that fear and lack of confidence is the only problem. Pickup artists promote anger toward women by making it seem like women are intentionally condemning men to a life of loneliness in order to feed their massive egos.If you're hoping to prevent others from being incel, the solution is to directly refute the reason why he became incel in the first place. He likely has a legitimate source of his struggles that he's completely justified in being angry about and that propaganda convinced him to blame on women. Many bigots and abusers in general are people with legitimate anger who are misdirecting it. If you find that source, you can help him direct his anger to where it belongs. Especially if he's autistic, he likely has struggled to explain things for his whole life. Make sure you understand what he's saying before you give advice. If you jump to conclusions and give advice without understanding what's actually happening, you'll only further remind him that no one understands him.Since he had limited interaction with people and since he was frequently misunderstood, he likely started trusting an unreliable source of information. Maybe he listens to pickup artists. Maybe he copies what he sees others doing and misses important details. Maybe he copies what he saw on TV without realizing that many patterns on TV are caricatures. If this happens, the solution is to directly refute the source. It's not as simple as "don't listen to them". He needs to know exactly what parts they're wrong about. Your safety comes first, so if you feel like you must coddle him in order to prevent him from lashing out at you, that is okay. But you won't be doing him a service by doing that. What he needs is an accurate understanding, and coddling him would only throw that off. It's okay to aggressively confront him if he's saying or doing something wrong. But make sure it's clear exactly what parts he's doing wrong, and make sure he's not just accidentally misphrasing something. Also, accept that you may not be able to change his mind. This is especially true if he's well into adulthood, since that would mean he's had more of a choice in who he is. I was an incel as a teenager. Also, while many incels are autistic, not all are. I used he/him pronouns because of personal experience and because men are much more likely to be targeted with the same propaganda. If you wish to explain these things to women, it would probably be better to seek advice from women.
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theconcealedweapon"I'm not anti-lgbt. I just want to protect children from predators."Well, people who are anti-lgbt think you're one of them, and victims of child predators do not think you're one of them.Why doesn't that bother you?#homophobia#transphobia
theconcealedweaponWhen someone is traumatized by something and they're unable to solve it, they'll often find some way to escape it. When this happens, they'll often treat other problems as if they're more severe than they actually are.For example, a teenager has rich parents who treat them like absolute shit. But the parents buy expensive things. They're traumatized by the constant abuse, but they see the expensive things as the reward for tolerating the abuse. And when they receive something expensive, they feel some relief. Then, when they don't get the car they want for their birthday, their escape from their trauma has been taken away. They lash out in response. People who observe them conclude that they're a spoiled, unappreciative brat.Another example is when someone is suicidal and their reason seems minor. It's very likely that there's a much more powerful source of pain, but they have no solution to that, so they distracted themself by trying to solve another problem. Then, when they can't, they become suicidal.
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theconcealedweaponYou see someone doing something to someone else, and you're okay with it because they're not doing it to you.But ask yourself. What's stopping them from doing it to you?
theconcealedweaponYou want to focus on healing your childhood wounds but you're distracted by having to focus on fighting fascism.If you're less able to heal now, it's not because of any personal shortcoming. #fascism#healing
theconcealedweaponLGBT People? They could be rapists!Immigrants? They could be rapists!Rapists? The victim was asking for it.#rape culture#homophobia#transphobia#immigration#racism
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