>>28811877A bit deranged even for this board
Children are hard and require time and energy, I say this as a man who has some shit from your list and pretty happy with my life, I like looking through these threads regardless how much sex I have and I don’t want to fix it.
That being said, I have two kids, first planned, second unplanned, doesn’t matter much but we didn’t want to have a serving one as the first kid was tough in all regards.
Wife still entertains the idea of a career once second kid goes to kindergarten. I don’t oppose it in this economy. But the point I wanted to make that made me reply is the fact that kids are really high commitment FROM YOU, not just your wife. Once we had second kid I had to give up my FAANG job as I knew I couldn’t manage it much longer and got severance instead of getting PIPed. There is mental struggle to this too, I just like being a high skill specialist and time I spend with kids sometimes feels like some of that time could have been spent furthering my career and getting experience. Maybe I got jewed to the point I want to bring stakeholders value but I know deep down it’s partially about my own ego, being a fairly intelligent it’s nice to get appreciation for your insights and abilities, you don’t get the with kids.
Now, to clarify, I absolutely love my kids and I wouldn’t want to change anything but would I agree to having a third kid? Fuck no, I love my kids because they already exist and have personalities but the third kid they could have been? Strong no, until I feel satisfied with my own self realization
You won’t ever see “Christian” niggers talking about hardships of having kids, in fact most retards online saying they want 4 kids in 4 years probably haven’t interacted with any kids