I can learn from every situation I encounter. What is this here to teach me?

Why is this job making me angry? What can I learn about managing my anger? What can I learn about changing the circumstances that anger me, even if this is not always possible?

If I just cut and run, how can I be sure I won't end up in another job that will also make me angry, also not knowing how to manage my anger, also having gotten no practice in attempting to change my circumstances?

How do I shortchange myself if I don’t try to work this out?

Will I always be dissatisfied, switching from one job to another, looking for the perfect place only to realize it doesn’t exist?

And, to an equal degree -

My job is in effect my life: It’s where I spend most of my time. The people I talk to the most are the people I work with. Working in a place I find fulfilling is something I owe myself.

Only I can determine if this is a job I need to leave or if I need to stay despite the discomfort, as a gift to myself.

Because, working out a difficult situation is a skill I will find useful for the rest of my life.

The truth is, people around you will most often tell you not to quit your job regardless of how unhappy you are. If you become financially unstable, it will be on them (parents, siblings, significant others) to help you in the hard times, and no one wants to be on the hook for that. But that doesn’t mean you have to suffer.

If you work in a field where other jobs are plentiful and you are smart and hard-working, barring a natural disaster or a financial crisis tomorrow, you will be able to find another job. Sure it might take you a few months, but so long as you have the means to sustain yourself till then, do it.

You might have to move to a cheap place, sell your car, reduce your wine budget, or whatever, but any financial downsizing you might have to do will pay off 100x back when you find a job that doesn’t suck your soul out every day.

“Don’t work for an asshole, all it knows how to do is poop.” - FAKEGRIMLOCK

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Life is too short and it tends to reward those who take active control of it.

That said, I would recommend taking a measured approach to figuring out how to change your situation:

• Certainly start exploring other job opportunities (note that it can take 6–12 months to land the right job)
• It may also be worth exploring a “side hustle”, stealthily, for a while as well to test out different avenues you may be interested in. Even if entrepreneurship is something you never considered as a path for yourself, the digital economy has made it easier than ever before to start an income stream on the side and this can give you an out-of-the-box way to explore different options without giving up the safety net of your current job prematurely.

Find a similar or different job. Just my advice, but in my experience, sometimes, just one manager or one employee, is all it takes to ruin the atmosphere of any job. You can take a completely functional work place, peaceful and relaxed, then you simply add a narcissist to it nd boom, it’s a toxic waste land that ultimately is sucking the life out of everyone, literally, by shortening their lifespan with undue stress. One further word of advice, research the grey rock method, it TENDS to be someone with serious issues that makes a social setting god awful, so if you MUST stay, definitely gonna have to disconnect from people, only truly associate with people who you trust actually care about you, your psychological health matters, so dont invite poison into your life.

A job that brings you nothing but sadness is a job that you should not continue with for long. People work their entire life so I would not recommend that you stay unhappy for the rest of your life. Before leaving your current job, make sure that you have another job that you can turn to. Do not be in a rush to get it done. Give yourself some time. If you have your mind set on the fact that soon enough you will be leaving your unhappy job then you will not be sad anymore. You will have known that things are going to get better at the end of it all. Be strong and cheer yourself up. Join social media and view some memes, it always helps to change a persons mood.

No, instead of just quietly leaving, do the following in the given order:

1. Identify job alternatives;
2. Apply, pursue, and interview on your own time—do not reference your search at work, which can be tempting.
3. Once you have an offer, contact the Department of Labor or search online for legal articles about a hostile workplace; attorneys write excellent articles explaining the law, including labor law. If you can, contact an attorney and just ask about it. Note, I'm not sure what kind of “touching” the employee is doing, but short of slapping or hitting you, it is sexual harassment, which cannot be allowed to happen. It is a suable offense, and you should document each instance and report it to management. If your store is large enough, they will have a form for you to complete about “touching”.
4. Once you have a job offer, and you've documented and tried to identify each action your coworker has taken to undermine your ability to work effectively, and any potential legal violations, THEN request an “open door” meeting with management and your coworker, and during the meeting explain your coworker's actions and any escalations.
5. Describe every action your coworker has taken to create the hostile workplace, including constant intimidation, touching, harassing, threatening you. He is making an implicit threat by regularly questioning you about whether or not you are purchasing items (suggesting that you might be stealing). Request that management treat the meeting as your formal complaint. Companies with 20 employees are subject federal labor laws. if this is, like, a Bargainmart, management should have some form documentation.
6. Depending on management's response, and now that you've done your part, advised your employer, and ensured there are no misunderstandings about your job performance, you can make a rational decision about whether or not to QUIT. Whatever your decision, make sure it benefits you, not your coworker.

Now, it does sound like your coworker, not the company, is the cause of your anger. If you do not advocate for yourself, your passive-aggressive, toxic coworker can and probably will make harmful claims about you being a thief, or worse, after you've gone, to elevate his position. If you don't go through the above process, there is nothing you can do to stop it from getting back to management after you leave, and it could impact your ability to use your employer as a reference.

The above is super-easy, you will have far more control and confidence in this and any future job. So, do not be intimidated by the process, but I do encourage you to advocate for yourself. Good luck.

My experience.

I wanted to do the same thing few months back ( I still want to) . I was very much frustrated with my work. So one day I went to my manger for one on one talk and told him how I felt (frustrated ,bored,nothing inspiring). He asked me few questions.

1. Why? Find out why you are frustrating ? Everything has reasons. Even your existence.
2. What would you do if you quit your job?
3. How will you pay the bills? ( May be you are already well settled )
4. What change you want ? What expectations might be leading to frustration, money or technology or place or colleagues.

When he asked I was just blabbering I want to quit I have no idea about these things. All I know is I'm frustrated and I need a change. I wanted to take a leap of faith. He told me to take time and figure out what change I need. He was kind enough to share his experience of his unemployment and that it sucks.

After a lot of thinking I decided not to quit and learn all I can while I'm at this job.

PS: Take a break. Go for vacation. Think about the consequences and do what feels right.

“Find what you love and let it kill you” - Charles Bukoski

Clearly you are living the opposite of what our esteemed Mr. Bukoski was saying.

That being said, quitting your job right away isn't a very good idea.

I take it, you are working in a job which isn't your field of interest. Start job hunting, you'll get something in a couple of months if you are lucky, other wise might take you over 6 months.

Meanwhile, make a list of things that's “killing” you in your current position.

Bad boss, evil clients, horrendous office hours are just a few which comes to mind. Identity your poison and see if you can find an antidote for it. What you can fix, fix if… what you cannot fix, well, don't fixate on it.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Same goes for your job.

Instead of leaving ur job you can switch to some other company.

But before that analyse the reason why you want to switch because remember, that the grass is always greener on the other side.

And you should learn from the situations which led you to this decison because its possible that you might have to face the same situation in some other job and at that point of time you should be capable to tackle it.

BUT never ever QUIT and sit idle because if you do this once then definitely you’ll do this again.

Just remember

You don’t need to ask this question at all. You must quit. It is much better if you can secure another job & vanish from the toxic hell, but if the toxicity is in intolerable level where if you stay till you finding another job; it could possibly drive you towards insanity & physically downgrade you….then you must quit ASAP.

I have done this few time, but onetime I left without securing another because I didn’t want myself to be destroyed in front of my own eyes.

This happened some 12 years ago, I was asked to leave from my first job which was lasted 3 years. It was a massive breakdown & a shock for me. They gave me 02 months period to find a job and I joined another at the end of first month. Still I was grieving heavily for the first job and I was stuck in the past & ruminating about it constantly.

In the new job, the boss was a woman from hell. She has so many personal issues and she was unleashing them on the employees. Besides the company culture was very workaholic and most of the day we had to work till 7–8 in the night. Plus company was operating Saturday half day and there was a roster where I had to work entire weekend once a month. The company had a high labor turnover, so in the beginning of each month we see few new employees joining & at the end of the month few employees departing.

Even though the pay was much better, my mental health was going down day by day. To cope up with the stress I was addicted to junk foods, 5–6 cigarettes per day and every Friday & Saturday night with heavy drinking. While my mental health was going down day by day, I was getting fatter like a pig day by day.

By the time my employment reach 4 months mark, I was constantly getting headaches and there were difficulties in sleeping as well. My eyes were entirely black & swollen, I was literally a walking zombie. By the time I reach 6 months mark, I felt if I continue like this any longer, I’ll be soon going to derailed. Add to this increasingly I was spending less & less time time with my loved ones, I’m missing my social touch, my home has becomes a place where I only come to change cloths, bath & sleep.

I resigned with completion of 7 months mark.

I spend next 6 months for mental recovering, improving my health, improving my fitness & removing my addictions. After the total break of 6 months, I started looking for a job and I managed to secure a one after 2 months of job hunting. The salary was less but the culture was moderate. It was a good stepping stone for me after a pretty bad working experience.

The question is a very important one because if you're not happy with your job you will not be able to perform at your best, you will find the job stressful, and, you are likely to end up an aggressive or depressed person, not only at your place of work but at home and in the society. Of course, that may lead to Ill health or transferred aggression.

Yes. You may quit if you have an alternative job, otherwise, you shouldn't quit. Joblessness is not going to make anyone happy anyway. If you have no alternative job, begin to change your attitudes and beliefs towards your job.

On the contrary, if your job goes against your Faith, Conscience, or Integrity, you may quit because, it may affect your psychological or emotional well being.It's better to be a job seeker than to be hooked up with a job that with end you up as a psychological depressed or an emotional wreck.

It’s crazy when you think about it; why would we even ask such a question, but we nearly all do. What’s more important, our crappy, toxic job, or our mental health? Let me see… Is it really that hard?

You can replace your crappy job, but if your mental health is gone, then what? As a coach, I’ve seen what happens; some become so riddled with anxiety that they can’t even step out their front door, let alone go to work. Some loose so much confidence in themselves that they can’t even send an email without permission, for fear of getting it wrong. Some don’t feel capable of getting themselves a new job, a feeling of hopelessness overcomes them, they convince themselves they are not good enough, and so their career stagnates and they give up on their ambitions. Some become so bitter and resentful and angry, that they end up being fired. Personal relationships are also hijacked by all this toxicity; stressed out as they are, they can never switch off and take it out on the people they love. Marriages break up; relationships break down, the children want nothing to do with them. Let me see…

Look at it another way, we naturally rage and feel resentment towards those in the workplace that treat us and others with disrespect, but it is us, no one else, that decides to sacrifice ourselves. That’s a choice we make and we can’t blame anyone else for it. We expect others to do the right thing by us, but strangely don’t feel any obligation to do the right thing by ourselves, how convenient. We will treat ourselves with disrespect without a second thought; every moment we stay is a moment we have determined we are expendable. Why aren't we angry at ourselves? Is that not just as toxic?

I teach resilience, so I know all about tools and tactics to manage stress in the workplace, and these tools are designed to reduce stress and improve outcomes, but they are not supposed to keep people stuck in environments that are clearly not good for them. All the resilience training in the world is not going to keep you sane forever if the environment is genuinely toxic. In that case, resilience is really about keeping your mental health intact long enough to find yourself a new job; to empower people overwhelmed by all this hopelessness to set boundaries and take back control so that they can get a new job.

So ask yourself; do you want to suffer like this for the rest of your life? Is this how you want your life to be? Hopefully, you’ll think better of yourself, step up to the mark and do the right thing by yourself. Your mental health always comes first.

I don’t mean this in a patronizing way, but it’s unfortunate that sometimes we have to deal with situations that make us unhappy to get to situations that make us happy.

Generally speaking, it’s easier to get a new job when you are already employed.

That said, I don’t know anything about your current financial/living situation, the area you live in, the field you work in, or how long you’ve been in your current position. I also don’t know what you don’t like about your current job, and if you’ll be trying to find another similar job or pursue a different career entirely. Thus, I can only give advice based on a hypothetical situation based on my own situation.

Personally, I’m a software engineer. I’ve been working at a startup for a little under a year, and this is essentially my first job in the industry.

If I were to quit now and start a new job search for a similar position to the one I currently hold, it’d be somewhat of a medium difficulty. There are places that would want to hire me, but I’d have to start my search from scratch and it’d probably take at least a couple months, especially considering this isn’t a very active hiring season. They’d be concerned about my relative inexperience. They’d question why I left my previous position after less than a year. Even if/when they decided they wanted to hire me, I would have less leverage for negotiating pay, since I can’t say I can just go back to my previous job. (I would have more leverage if I have multiple offers, however.)

If I were to quit now and try to pursue an entirely different career or even a somewhat tangential one, say in web design, it would be relatively difficult. I would have to develop a different set of skills to the level required in the field and build up a portfolio of my work, and in the meantime, I’d still have to pay my bills. Then I’d have to convince companies that I’m actually qualified for the job. This could take a couple months, this could take several months or a year. In the meantime, I still need to pay for rent, food, transportation, and hopefully have enough to maintain somewhat of a social life. And with each passing month, the risk grows of my next company wondering why I’ve been unemployed for that long, if I’m as qualified as I’m telling them.

If I didn’t quit, I will be unhappy for another month or so. But I’ll also be able to pay my bills for that time. When I interview with companies, I will benefit from the perception that I’m a competent worker due to me already being employed. I can say that I’m just looking for more career advancement, rather than scrounging for another position. When it comes time to talk salary, I’ll have more leverage with which to negotiate, since I can always walk away and stick to my current job. They’ll know if they want me, they’ll have to give incentive not only for me to come work with them, but also for me to leave the comfort of what, as far as they know, is a good and satisfying job.

But it largely depends on your situation. Do you have enough saved to support yourself for your job search if you quit now? Are your skills widely sought after in your area? Are you in a field where you can negotiate your pay?

Maybe come up with a budget for the next few months on how you’re going to support yourself if you quit your job now. Have a plan. Show it to your boyfriend (especially if you’ll be expecting him to support you for some/all of it). Lay out the pros and cons.

Life is too short to spend it unhappy. But it’s long enough that putting up with a bit of unhappiness now can save you a lot of unhappiness in the future.

Change the job if you can. Eventually, you will end up with the same misery. The problem will come back with different masks. Same problems. In fact the only problem is that you are not comfortable. There are 2 states hell and heaven. You are comfortable or you are not comfortable. You sit in a posture in a few minutes you will change it. You are in a new posture but again you are uncomfortable in a few minutes. The same happens in life. Go on changing the posture you will end up in the same situation.

Another way it to take life non-seriously now. Take life as a play. Remove I do remove I feel remove my job from the question from the mind. Take it just as a job. Just become an actor do not take it as a job but an acting. You go and you act. You come back relaxed. You go home not taking office with you.

You should squeeze all the growth opportunity out of the situation before you leave.

1. You feel like you’re useless. How do you know you’re useless? Who’s trying to make you feel useless and why? Maybe you should look around and grab all the opportunities to make yourself useful. Empty the shavings out of the pencil sharpener, make the coffee, wash the dishes, stock the paper in the copy machine, stock the paper towels and the toilet paper in the bathroom.
2. You think everyone looks down on you. No, not everyone does. A very few people look down on you because they are useless schlubs who can only maintain their own desperately unstable illusions of competence by imagining that you are inferior. Just bide your time in dignity and watch as their pride is succeeded by falls.

Yikes! When your career spidey-sense is tingling, you better start planning - just in case.

1. Line up your job references - internal customers, coworkers leaving ahead you are great candidates; give them a heads up that you could be looking
2. Prepare sample work (if applicable)
3. Take home tools that you built that helped you on the job that will help you in next job - include templates/macros, etc
4. Document your accomplishments - for updating your resume
5. Prepare resume/cover letter templates - for various jobs
6. Start prepping job agents and contact recruiters - let them know you are open to opportunities
7. Start taking home personal items from your work area - just in case your employer’s security tries to escort you out the door without warning
8. Delete email correspondence to your personal email ASAP - but keep your work email all intact
9. Take home all performance review reports that you signed off with your manager - just in case the employer tries to distort facts in the future
10. Prepare your resignation letter

Ideally, planning the exit plan (#1–9) should be planned from day 1. Your employer will not give you notice if they don’t need you. And you need to find new work fast if you happen to get unlucky to avoid the risk of depression for an extended long job search. So do yourself a favour prep these things in advance just in case the doomsday scenario happens (lay-off/fired).

Execute Operation Exit plan if you choose to accept it. Chances are you are probably right.

The secretary will disavow knowledge of your actions….

Colleagues lie too your boss.

They try to get more familiar with you, to find stuff out

They sing their own praises

Present loudly any tiny mistake you make

Hide their own

Set you up to fail

Share there doubts about you with other colleagues

Unfortunately, there are people like this in all jobs. I've learnt to keep my mouth shut and keep out of their way. Because any tiny thing they can use, they will.

Eventually you will either leave because it effects your health, or after years your boss will realise how important you are and the others WILL leave.

It's taken 53 years to realise this. I'm now in job where I'm appreciated!! I could cry.

But all things change and I had to move. Got transfered, but the bosses there were lazy and made the staff do their work, as well as their own.

Like life, there are good and bad people everywhere.

is the job type coworker travel or other things that are causing your issue maybe it's something else that's making you unhappy at work. You should never be working in a trade you don't enjoy at least 75% of the time anyway work always should be an accomplishment service something that makes you feel good skilled important so if you have a truly shitty draning fucking day after day at work try another job different atmosphere always helps make sure you have another job in the works or enough $ to get your thoughts on track but work does become a challenge at tike but you should never be truly unhappy over a profession or a paycheck you can only choose what is your best result

I’ve been there. And solved it.

I was - and I still feel shame to say this - being bullied at work by my boss.

Lots of criticism. Some shouting. Things like being told to “fuck off” out of a meeting. Notes left on my desk. Verbal bashings in front of my team. Criticism about work and about non-work, just non-stop nagging comments. Always.

I’m no wallflower but it ground me down considerably. Felt weird to admit to myself I was essentially - well, definitely - being bullied. I still hate writing that.

Ok, now the solution.

First I went to HR. I felt like a snitch but I didn’t know how else to handle it. I explained everything and said I didn’t want them to contact him, just to log my concerns so, if it continued (I knew it would have), I could raise it again and it wouldn’t be an out-of-the-blue accusation.

But they approached him anyway. He switched overnight. It was amusing to see. Like that bit in Hancock when Will Smith forced himself to say “Good job” to the police.

Anyway, this helped for a good six months but old habits die hard. So the aggro. behaviour crept back in.

By this point I’d managed to move desks away from him (if you can do this it helps immensely). But still in team meetings, for example, he’d be at me all the time. I’d still push back but hed criticize at any opportunity: my wording. Where I sat. My hair. My attire. Anything really. Stupid nips and comments. Always. As well as the work stuff. He had a big go at me about a project I was co-running and it was very public and unjustified.

So my next move was to do the hard thing and call a meeting with him.

I told him I was his verbal punchbag and we had no work relationship of any kind, that he gave me stick and it had to stop.

It was awkward but, to his credit, he apologised. Several times. Respect for that. He said he thought we had a good relationship - I had to put him straight on that one - and he was genuinely surprised that wasn’t the case.

Essentially I think he hadn’t put much thought into it. He’d just been his grouchy self and I bore the brunt.

But since that point he has changed. A lot.

As Tim Ferriss says, “A person's success in life can usually be measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations he or she is willing to have.”

I hope this helps. The awkward chat is far easier to deal with than the endless stick at work. Good luck.

UPDATE: a few weeks after writing this there was a surprise re-org. at my work and my manager got moved out of my department and completely out of my work life. For now. Glad I confronted him when I did but also the moral here is “ride the wave” cos most bad work relationships don’t last forever - one way or another anyway.

Its just your mind and body’s way of letting you know it’s time to move

Don't wait to long this can turn into illness

physical or mental problems…

Most people cannot point to where such a trigger has come from

This is simple/ most of the time there is no trigger

your mind and body require you to listen to it’s needs

you can get into a rage in this mode and hurt your life

move and move fast!

It’s time to upgrade

to be stimulated on a conscious level

Change some foods/add some new ones

Change some friends/add some new ones

Change how you earn your money

or simply to a in your opinion a better job.

Anger serves the enemy

(Anything) People or place that activates anger

your body is asking you to move

so move.

love+power

Let face this: In the 21st century, relationships between employers and employees are commercial relationships.

It is very different than the last century, when I started my career. People in those time had decency, integrity, honesty and professionalism. Not now. Now, all the companies care is money, money, money.

You, as employee, sell one thing: Yourself. The companies pay your salary for your services, not for your love. They have no loyalty to you, and they don’t expect anything back.

Anything else they say to you in the veil of “People are our most treasure”, “We respect talent” , “We take care of our employees” …etc.. are just bullshit to perform slave exploits.

The companies can fire you after your first day of work, if they don’t need you anymore. So why can’t you quit them after 2 weeks work?

Most of startups nowadays are different from startups before Google and Facebook times. Before, startups were technological pioneers, pleasure to work for. Now, follow Google and Facebook, 99.999999 % startups are web frauds, open stupid web sites to share this, share that, sell this, sell that and sell advertising. All the startups’ stresses nowadays happen because of their stupidity, not because of the excitement of technological pioneers anymore.

If you feel that it is too much stress, too unorganized, it is a good thing to quit after 2 weeks. You don’t waste too much time.

And NYC is big, nobody really knows who you are. Your name is not Tovalds Linus :) So don’t worry.

Personally I think most jobs aren't that bad but the bosses and the rude customers (if in customer service ) make it bad.

Most places I've worked there are 2 types of people that get management positions.

A-people who work hard and do their job.

Or

B- people who are favorited by supervisors because they get along and usually these people, the supervisor and favorite talk bad about all the other workers. they're Toxic people usually. And in rare cases good supervisors notice good working people and reward it.

These horrible people getting promoted cause of this will treat others like crap and only give credit to those they favor. They will throw the book at people who make small mistakes and forget about the book completely when it comes to their favorites. It becomes an endless cycle until one of these bad supervisors is fired when finally caught by upper management. I've seen this a few times. It's crazy how often it happens.

Other times the supervisors boss is being an ass and talking about a B.S. budget they have to follow or whatever. So, the supervisor in an attempt to feel better will exercise their power and treat employees like crap.

It's sad. It's B.S. and it happens at all kinds of businesses.

I have many stories about this from personal experience and friends. Here is just one from my personal experience.-

I had a supervisor at grocery store who just didn't like me. I don't know why. He was always tearing me a new one about something. Always taking me to the back office and asking why I checked stock in the warehouse backroom for customers, joked with customers, and was even requested by certain customers and why I was always helping in other departments around the store.

He would take me back there , yell at me and ask my reasons and I would always reply “just providing quality customer service “

He never liked that answer. Anytime his favorites did something wrong he just told em, do better and would move on.

Anyway, the assistant manager at this store saw alot of himself in me. He started where I started in the store, the same position. Deli fry cook.

anyway,

One day in the back office this ass of a supervisor was doing his usual. Yelling and carrying on about crap that didn't matter. This time it was about how I was on a 15 minute break and helped a customer find something before i went out to smoke a cigarette. He said “if you're on break, then go on break, don't help these people, just keep walking.”

I'd had enough of it. And just held my arm up to quiet him. He stopped and said “what are you doing, ya idiot? “ I said “ look, I'm tired of this crap, I don't know who pisses in your cereal every morning but it ain't me. Every couple days you're doing this to me, when I'm doing my job and then some. Every time one of your favorites fuck up, you pat em on the back and tell them to do better. I've had it with you,. I'm out. I quit.” Then I threw my hat at his face.

He stood there just staring at me. it was now so quiet in that room all I could hear was the distant murmur of people in the store about 100 feet away.

Then the door came open and In stepped the assistant manager. (He had heard of something going on so he came to investigate and had been on the other side of the door listening the whole time)

The supervisor turned to him and said “ hey, boss, what's up? “

Assistant manager wasnt amused.

He said “ pick his hat up”.

The supervisor started to speak.

A.m said “pick it up, hand it back to him”

He picked it up and handed it to me.

I stood there wondering what was about to happen.

Am- sit down in that chair over there.

The supervisor sat down and was visibly nervous.

Am turned to me and said “hey,bud i appreciate all the good work you do here. I'd like to offer your employment back with a 50 cent raise. Do you accept the offer?”

I said “yes, sir, sure do, thank you.”

Then he turned to the supervisor and said something like- “ what the hell is your problem? Treating a damn fine,hardworking employee like crap, writing him up for “ insubordination “ countless times and giving no reasons or story behind it. I've seen the reports on file, they don't hold water. I've been to your department and seen how you are with your employees and I've sent Bud to other departments that need help to get away from you. (Usually I was asked by the supervisors in other departments if I could help them,always agreed to help) I've been looking into this for a week now, it's been going on 2 months according to the reports I looked through. Now,from every thing I just heard from the other side of that door. I want you to tell me why you're such a horrible person? “

The supervisor just sat there and looked down at the floor.

Am said “ you're fired and banned from shopping here, if I see you here ever again I'm going to call the police and say you were banned for stealing and you're banned and trespassing. Now, get the hell out of here. We will mail your final check.”

The supervisor was walking out when the am stopped him and said “oh, and don't expect a good reference, ya prick”.

The am then turned to me and said “ hey bud,let's go smoke a cigarette and then we'll get back to work.”

During that break he told me “first time someone is an ass, let it slide, cause maybe they're having a bad day, the second time, you stand up and tell them off like you did in that office back there, whether they're your boss or not, people have to respect each other.”

I've been that way ever since.

Anyway, thanks for reading.

Think a ahead 5 years. Where do you want to be? Does this job or another job best support your future endeavors. There’s no right or wrong answer, but wether you love or hate a job - ALL jobs need to enhance your life in positive ways that matter to you.

Do you want to live in Florida one day? Get a new job in Florida. Do you want to be a wedding planner one day? Get a job at a bridal shop. Do you want to be filthy rich? Consider commercial real estate and get a job at a real estate office. I hope you can see where I’m going with this.

Staying or going isn’t the issue. What are you getting out of your day, and where are your daily activities taking you? That is the question.

Friends come and go and so do co workers. But I tell you unfortunately from experience, I’ve been a lot more sad looking back and thinking I’ve stayed somewhere too long, but I’ve ALWAYS kept in touch with the right former coworkers.

I started my first job when I was 15, I am now 45. I’ve had over a hundred odd jobs. I’m still in touch with the most important people.

Sure, if you can afford to support yourself until you find something else. I wouldn't do it, personally — I've had a few jobs at which I was absolutely miserable, but rent had to be paid and I had to eat, and homelessness wasn't an appealing prospect.

Just bear in mind that sometimes even if you plan for these things, you might end up in trouble. My bestie was miserable at his job, had a fair amount of savings, and his car was almost paid off. So he quit.

He couldn't find another job. Then he had a car accident, and even though it wasn't his fault, he ended up having to make car payments on a new car because insurance didn't cover much due to depreciation. He had to sell all his furniture and electronics except his computer and camera. He even sold his bed. He couldn't pay off his credit cards and had to file bankruptcy, which ruined his credit. The only reason he didn't get evicted was that he had lived in his building many years, and worked out a deal with his landlady where he cleaned the building once a week in exchange for rent. He also got lucky in that he found he had an outstanding balance owed him on an old 401k, so he got six grand.

He just recently got a stable, full-time job after over four years of unemployment or underemployment. And he had worked it out when he quit to be able to support himself comfortably for two years on his savings. He just didn't find a job in that time period.

If you're in a position where you live with your parents and they can support you till you find something else, or you have a significant financial safety net, then go for it and quit your job. In any other case, I would strongly advise sticking it out until you find another job. You don't want to end up losing everything — that wouldn't be any better for your mental health.

many jobs can have frustrating components, and if the job ia part of your career choice or direction, I suggest you consider what it is about the job you are in that is making you feel frustrated, if it is the actual type of work, then a change would be good. if it is your emoloyer, that can be a tricky situation, because many of us have difficulties(sometimes personality conflicts) with our bosses, or is it something in you that you need to consider? perhaps you are in the wrong type of work for your personality? some do well iunder pressure, others don’t. some are good with repetition, or with people, some are not. so. take some time to evaluate what it is about the job that is frustrating you.this can help you make a more fitting choice for your next job.

Despite what some people say about integrity, and loyalty, blah, blah, blah, when leaving a job, it often boils down to the last straw in a series of incidents. I worked at a place for about 1.5 years. When I began working there the manager was very professional and ran a tight ship. It was a restaurant but many of the employees had been there for years. About 8 months after I began my employment, the manager retired. His boss, the district manager also retired. It was all down hill from there. The scheduling became erratic, many of the long term employees quit. The new manager turned a blind eye to sexual harassment, even when it happened out in the open. He was verbally abusive. He began having an affair with an employee and promoted that employee to assistant manager. This was the employee that was mainly responsible for the sexual harassment (for anyone wondering how bad could it be if the manger ignored it. This guy would rub up against a female employee and say outloud that he wanted to f*** her or that he liked her tits.) Then manager himself started sexually harassing the female staff himself and the new district manager would sometimes join in. This however still didn't cause me to quit because I needed a job very badly and the economy was bad.

One day we were very busy. I was a cashier and I had to got to the kitchen to get something for the customer at my register. When I came back my manager was so angry that I was “wasting” time that he put his arms around me from the back, hit both my arms and told me to get the f*** back to work. Of course what I had been carrying for the customer went flying. Everyone just stood there and stared, astonished, even the people waiting in line in the lobby. I turned around towards the register, with tears of humiliation and anger, and finished ringing up my customer. He told me not to worry he would come up and ask for his item later. Now giving this item to the customer at the time they ordered it was company policy. I finished out my shift and never went back. I don't believe giving a two week notice or even going in to quit that night would have been safe.

For those wondering, I did not have a reputation for lollygagging. In fact I often worked overtime to help out and cover for late employees. My coworker and I ran the afternoon shift with just the two of us, doing all the dinner prep plus cooking and cashiering. According to the company handbook four people were supposed to handle that shift but since my friend and I could do it with just the two of us, thats how they scheduled it.

Sometimes people quit without notice because they just can't take anymore.