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The Worst Reason To Get Married — Yet It’s All Too Common
“He makes me so happy!”
This is one of the most common sentiments shared among brides to be.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with being happy and excited about your wedding day. You should be with and marry someone who does make you happy.
But is this pursuit of happiness — namely, another person who can make you happy — a good reason to get into a marriage?
Let’s unpack.
The divorce rate in the United States hovers at around 50%.
It’s been this way for decades. Heads or tails — it’s literally a coin toss.
So why are people still hedging their bets when the odds aren’t in their favor?
It’s simple: we want the fairytale.
We want the happiness and bliss we were told marriage brings. From infancy, we’re fed the idea that “your wedding day is the happiest day of your life.”
The happy family — loving husband and doting wife, a couple of kids and maybe a golden retriever — is an image that fits in perfectly with the “American dream.”
