Advice: Is it rude to ask a woman ‘Have you lost weight?’

We’re mining the archives for some of Robin Abrahams’s hit columns you may have missed (this one is from 2006). But keep your questions coming for the future!

Why do women feel it is appropriate to greet you with the question, “Have you lost weight?” Am I the only woman who believes this is the rudest thing to say? I would rather be greeted with “You look great!” than what I believe to be the hidden comment of “Gosh, were you fat! Glad to see you are on the road to recovery!”