Smiles come in different flavours and serve different functions.

The simplest reason to smile is to reassure people that you mean them no harm, your intentions are good and they can trust what you are saying.

Sometimes smiles are used to protect yourself. People smile when they want to show people who are more powerful that you are not going to challenge them. It works in reverse too, because studies have found people who are powerful - or feel powerful - smile less often than others.

Or it could be a polite smile, which is often used in a social situation to show people you are friendly, but don’t want to make an emotional connection. It is meant to keep some distance between you and others.

Or you could simply be an extraordinarily happy person, and can’t help wanting to share your feelings.

When you smile to be polite, or reassure someone your mouth will curve up, but it doesn’t reach your eyes. When you smile and your eyes squint a little, and lines show at the corners, that’s a smile with true warmth and emotion. If you relate to any of those descriptions, take a breath before you start to smile, ask yourself what your intention is - what you want from that interaction, and if there are other ways to make that happen. Good luck! I would love to know how it goes.

Unless you're at a funeral, I don't see why you should have to alter the behavior. Usually people will ask how they can develop the habit of smiling rather than to eradicate it, altogether, so I'm at a loss on this one, but when it comes to ways of getting you to stop smiling, I can only suggest a few ideas. You can take them or leave them.

Surely, when a situation arises that smiling is not deemed socially acceptable, you have enough self awareness to know that it isn't appropriate. Because of this, you can simply bite your tongue or the inside of your cheek, perhaps.

Wear a rubberband around your wrist and everytime you catch yourself smiling, pop the rubberband. This will condition your brain to stop smiling during those inappropriate times.

I do hope you the best during those awkward moments.

However, if this behavior persists and becomes problematic for you due to situations and moments that smiling is considered unacceptable, please consider speaking to your healthcare provider about this.

Best Regards 💛

Dana Luha

If you were my friend I wouldn’t want you to stop smiling at me. Or anything else that makes you want to smile. A smile is the most welcoming gesture there is so why would you want to stop? Has someone made fun of you for it? If that is the case then I would say the person who criticized you for smiling has the problem, not you.

Never, ever change the positive aspects of your personality because someone who is undoubtedly your peer made fun of you. People have all kinds of motivations for putting others down, the main one being they cannot do what you do so when one is young and impressionable, we succumb to this convoluted criticism and lose ourselves in the process. No one knows you better than yourself and my first rule is to be true to oneself. Never let anyone talk you, guilt you, criticize you into changing who you are. You sound like a wonderful, upbeat kind of person and the world needs all of those we can get.

Smile at the world, it will make your life so much more pleasant.

I have the same problem as you and honestly it’s coming to the point where my cheeks hurt. I smile SOOOOO much and most of the time it’s annoying, i could be angry, tired, upset or just nothing and for some reason i’ll still be smiling like an idiot. I don’t really have an explanation for this but research shows that smiling can boost your immune system and extend your life, as well as making others trust you. So why would you ever think about smiling less? Because in some situations, excessive smiling is counterproductive. So we should own the fact that we smile more then often, even though it makes us look like complete weirdos!! XD

*I am also that kind of person*

Most people think I am crazy for saying hello to people that don't reply, but I am still happy with myself and I don't feel alone

*You should be urself*

Just be yourself.don't change and be that happy person who talks to others even if they're not listening. Don't try to change and be those people who keep quiet and don't care, people will appreciate that that is who you really are.

*Appreciate and understand yourself even if people don't

As long as you appreciate yourself and think what you do is right then you don't need anything else from people.

*Be with the people who actually care*

Don't waste time trying to get people's attention especially those people who don't care but be around the people who actually care and it will build up your self-esteem and u won't be lonely

KNOW THAT GOD ALWAYS UNDERSTANDS U❤️❤️🙏🙏

I will tell you why this is happening. It is just that, you are maybe smiling in inappropriate circumstances. Maybe you should hold on to your smile to actually get the real timing

Replace your smile with some other behaviour initially you want to.

Maybe something else is going around you in the discussion, or Kitna be talking something serious which you are not connected to, so start listening to what they are talking and automatically your smile will fade out.

just remember that, every flower has its colour. Why some flowers are red, white some flowers are blue or pink, no one knows. It is their nature.

So is your nature of smiling and maybe you are smile makes you pretty. It is like a God-given thing just make a world body so just respect that. Even if others can’t respect you, respect yourself for whatever you have or you are. Maybe smile, maybe body language maybe attitude whatever.

you are just smiling in public. not laughing out, or you are not smiling at someone else to tease or insult them.

why do you think about what people think about you? You think people feel that you are stupid? And you give importance to what they feel?

There are people who have way too bad habits, which make them look actually stupid. And if you compare yourself with them, you feel you are totally alright. There are people who scratch their heads and nails in public, there are people who I keep adjusting their under or innerwear in public, there are people Who and unnecessarily laugh aloud and, to show themselves in public. So there are many things happening which are actually mistaken and you are are not under that category.

Imagine if people think that you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend, but all of them have a girlfriend, and for their sake will you leave your career and studies and run behind looking for a partner?

If people think that you Look stupid because they don’t like the colour of your dress, or the style of your dressing, will you change your dressing style because they think that you are dressing is not good?

If you start doing that, every single thing in your life you will start thinking from others point of you and you will start focusing on that and it becomes a bad habit. You will do in your entire life and you will compromise your entire life about what others think.

Bot gave wrong answer. See your primary care doctor and NOT a psychologist for this if it keeps happening. They give referrals for any doctor you might need to see. I have the same and it’s a neurological condition that causes it. In my situation it’s weird and creepy too. I have dystonia and ataxia. Not everybody is affected the same. No self diagnosis. I see a neuromuscular specialist. The smiling ends up hurting at times. Same with rest of my body- here and there, but couple times has been full body contorting. Feel lucky one person said about your smile. They don’t know what it’s like. Painful or non, it’s weird. My body gets excruciating painful more than half the time. I’ve tried mind of matter and collapsed when I stood up. My legs gave out. A psychologist can’t stop it from happening and neither can the person it’s happening to. Stress can heighten things sometimes for many conditions, but not cause. Underlying conditions. I also have gelastic seizures. Laughing ones. Feels good to laugh, but I mean very loud and about to fall over if not sitting yet. I’m epileptic with focal and generalized seizures of many kinds. including non epileptic ones related to my conditions. If this smiling is still happening or any other areas that “have a mind of their own” (involuntary), call your doctor. Look into different neurology specialties. I have 2 neurologists. One for epilepsy and other for muscles and nerves. Soon I’ll be seeing a neuropthimologist and other neurologists. When it’s smiling and sensation of excitement with no cause is concerning. Just the smiling with no cause is. Hoping that was just a one time thing for you. If not, take photos when it happens. There are simple nerve and muscle tests that are part of ruling things out and diagnostic. All we can do is make what some people see as “inappropriate” jokes, when not painful. It’s been over 30 years of neurological disorders and disease. It’s better than angry, mad, or sad every time something happens, but not all times. We try (self and family) I have a <1% of population (in U.S.) rare gene mutation and treatment resistant for some things. I’m the exception. Complex patient. Enigma. Interesting… some words doctors have used. I’m not a text book patient for most things as far as age, sex, symptoms as many people, So I have a good feeling you’ll be fine. Good luck and don’t trust technology to the fullest. The assistant bot answer is a perfect example. Those gather outdated info along with current, but don’t state that with every AI/BotSome of what researchers and doctors thought and does change for many things through the years. Everybody is always learning. Yes, smiling is good. Pretty sure everybody knows that already though- I hope, lol.

A smile is just an expression of calm upon our face, that we are just content from within. And when we meet while wearing it in front of others, then they also find calm just only from our face, the slightest and calmest expression we show them change the way they feel their things.

And even if some people do not approve of your behavior, because they are feeling discontent with themselves, then it is not your fault that your smile is offending them, because they just choose to be offended.

And if you think that it is a mask to you, then probably you are not feeling the same from within as you are showing outside yourself, it is okay to show that you are not troubled, but sometimes accept yourself with what you feel.

Hi. I participated in a group session about emotions just recently and the doctor said I was doing the same “smiling for no reason”. She said that I must’ve been scared and in deep pain during my childhood, that’s why I learned to cope faking a smile to ignore the pain and suffering. She asked about my parents, and if I was an obedient child. I said no, I fought sometimes even if my mum hit me. So the doc said I learned to smile out of fear. I was scared of my mother and felt rage toward my father. The doc also said that I have bottled up my feelings so I’m quick to think but not to feel cos my feelings are repressed. I think it totally makes sense given how my childhood was. Perhaps it’d be useful for you to do a check in as to where you’re at right now, how you feel, and a bit of digging too in your family pathology. Hope this helps.

I’d take it as a gift that you smile so much, even with no reason or not happy.

Perhaps if you are working, and simply focusing on your work, yet a coworker is in need of a reminder that life is good, happens to glance at you smiling and is reminded of what is needed right then and there. Your smile can speak volumes and you didn’t even do anything!

Now imagine if it was opposite. Research RBF. I have this. Many people have this. Think of that same scenario - working on your computer, focusing, coworker needing a reminder that life is good, glances over and you are RBF’ing it. What positive comes from that? Not a darn thing.

I have RBF and while I may be in a great mood, I look angry most times! I’d rather be smiling :)

Congrats for being cheerful. This attitude will help you remain joyful and pleasant.

Develop some listening skills that will quickly endear you to others. Then you can start talking and others will do listen. Be confident, have clarity in thought and be precise while communicating. Try to understand first what you intend to communicate and then say it effectively in a few words.

You cannot control others. They will or will not understand you on which you have no control.

By listening to others, you will cultivate a wide group of people and then, the chances of being alone becomes rare.

Make choices that will keep you active throughout the day. Apt suggestions can be given only on knowing your background further.

Best wishes.

I try to bring or keep a smile on my face as often as I can but not on serious occasions.

Keeping a smile is like a welcome sign on outside people’s homes to welcome good feelings for us if not for others, that’s how I see at it.

If your intentions are good in smiling and the occasion is not inappropriate then I would say you are a wise, good soul, who knows how to take care of your well being and when others see a smile on your face it would bring either smile or awareness in their own.

In 10th grade one student tells other student that I am always happy and smiling. That person had always seen a smile on my face and that brought a smile on that person’s face too.

So change your view point about your habit of smiling.

A mild smile can keep our body relaxed and good feelings are always welcome with just a simple smile on one’s face. You are not hurting anyone or yourself.

Keep smiling!!

TO be more happy in life refer to something that will be accepted by all and serve your purpose.

The Bhagbat Gita says,

You do your work, don’t expect anything in return.

You smile a lot to all the people, make it all people.

Don’t at all feel offended when you get no reaction back.

Just think, somebody is returning from hospital, somebody is already late to office, somebody trying to remember you, somebody in physical pain, somebody speeding up for the natures call, somebody concentration on other things, somebody in urgent to catch train………. how do expect some of them to smile back.

BUT think about one boy who is going to a boring school and is expecting to see you in the way to light up his day & you are there.

That is sufficient to all the good things I have done in my life.

SKS.

It usually happens to me also. Main problem for me is as I am much talkative and ready to talk with anyone, this results, I start to believe on any person very easily and more than required. But I can't get that other person is not interested in me or in conversation. This time I don't get expected response from other and I start to feel alone.

May be same thing is happening with you.

Just calm down and find your close one and talk to him/her. Tell him/her all things in your mind. Express yourself in front of right persons.

But don't stop to talk other people because talking with different people increase our knowledge. 😇

Sorry for my weak English!

It could be an underlying medical condition. If you’re concerned about it, consult a doctor. But before you skip to darker conclusions, consider other causes. Was there something funny you were thinking about or was someone saying something funny? Are you having a good day? If you’ve had a dark event that’s happened recently, that could be part of the reason why you’re having the urge to smile. When something traumatic happens, our brains have their way to cope with the stress and shock afterward. Maybe you’ve smiled so much it’s become a habit. I’ve heard that if you make it a habit to smile every day, you’ll find yourself smiling without having to force it. Smiling can also improve your health. I hope my answer will help you.

The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they never wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do. Good people are like unto candles🕯..., they burn themselves out for others to see the light💡. However..., being thirsty for attention is actually non-attractive. You can never expect to get respect when you fail to give it to yourself. You can never change what’s going on around you until you start changing what’s going on within you. Self-love is asking ourselves what we need and want - everyday - and then making sure we get or receive it. Growth is painful. Change is inevitable and sometimes painful. But there is no-thing as painful as staying stuck somewhere we should have never been or belong. We can never force anyone to respect us. But..., we can always refuse disrespect. If we never wholeheartedly love ourselves, we can and will never really wholeheartedly love anyone else. Self-care is never selfish simply because, no one can ever serve from an empty vessel.

"Thinking" is what perpetuates the HOAX! When we start to think🤔💭 that’s when we apprehend our present reality, the present reality N.O.W. of us just naturally being... Only when our mind is silent, are we able, allowing and available for ourselves to come to the surface of ourselves..., that's when we naturally allow ourselves to just be with no egotistically-emotional attachment to anything or anyone else .... 🌌 S.)oundless I.)mplicit L.)ingering E.)ternity N.)aturally C.)encoring E.)verything is the LOUDEST sound in the Universe! So, silent~solitude is ONLY lonely when E.)steemed G.)reedy O.)utlook is prevalent! S.I.L.E.N.T. rivers run D.E.E.P. Learn silence. With the quiet serenity of a meditative mind, listen, absorb, transcribe, and transform.”

I'm learning to allow that if we obsess over whether we are making the right decision, we are basically assuming that the universe will reward us for one thing and punish us for another. The universe has no fixed agenda. Once we make any decision, the universe works around that decision. There is no right or wrong, only a series of possibilities that shift with each and every thought, feeling, and action that we each create and experience. There's nothing good or bad; only thinking🤔💭 makes it so. Nothing is better or worse than anything; nothing is just nothing... Nothing lacks the ability to come into anyone's experience or presence without their permission/invitation of it. If everything is important then nothing is important. Nothing is absolute in this life. Anybody who is doing something because they have been indoctrinated to think that they are suppose to do it, ...is missing the essence of life. If it matters to a person about the good things said about them, well then, it will also matter to that person about the NOT-SO good things said about them... In this life, people prefer to believe what they prefer to be true..., like believing easily what's hope for earnestly. Those who can make a person believe absurdities can make them commit atrocities simply because the men who really believe in themselves are all in lunatic asylums. So, obviously a belief is really only a thought that a person constantly keep thinking🤔💭... What a person convinces them-self of is what governs their life simply because piety or devotion to what one truly believes is unable to be the result of what lessons bring to the individual..., it's the mistakes people bring to the lessons. The sanity of life's unfolding is of no consequence obviously because it simply just is.

Lot’s of people struggle with social anxiety. Underneath that is generally a fear of rejection, a fear of not being good enough, and general concern about what others will think of us.

We all fear something. Fear is the one thing we all have in common. You fear social interaction; others fear something else. While what we fear is different for everyone, it feels the same for everyone. We think we are the only vulnerable ones, but the fact is that we are all of us vulnerable on some level. The people you fear are also vulnerable, and that’s OK, it’s what makes us human.

It’s a confidence issue. Unfortunately the more you hide, the worse it will get. Every day you hide out in your home makes it more and more difficult for you to overcome this challenge. By practising avoidance, your increased isolation will cause your anxiety levels to rise when you're forced to interact. It’s not good for you.

The thing you need to understand is that others are also worried about what you think about them. It’s natural; it’s just that you’ve taken it to a whole new level. The people who you think are judging you are concerned that you are judging them. They may mistake your anxiety for disapproval, causing you to assume that they disapprove of you. It’s a vicious circle that you can overcome when you realise that people want to connect with you and have the best of intentions.

My advice would be to get yourself a therapist or a good coach. You need to lower those levels of anxiety to a point where you can take small steps at your own pace to turn this around. A good coach/therapist won’t push you to do anything your not ready for. Every time you make an effort, your confidence grows, but you can’t do that when your anxiety levels are so high, it’s like throwing you in the deep end. You’ll need support.

Because you have avoided social interaction, it is going to take time and courage. But most of all, overcoming fear requires compassion, for yourself first, knowing that your good enough just as you are, that messing up is part of learning any new skill and that it’s OK to be vulnerable, it’s normal.

Connection is one of the most basic of human needs, so do the right thing by yourself and get some help, because it doesn’t have to be this way.

I have the same problem, although most of the time it's not a problem for me. Because most of the time people like to see a person always smiling. But the problem is mainly when it is necessary to show sadness. It's really distressing that I can't help but smile even when I need to be sad.

I think it's mostly a result of childhood habits, which can be very difficult to change. Because it's really a very uncontrollable process, it just happens naturally, and I'm totally unaware of it myself. The easier path is to change your attitude towards the issue. Come to think of it, you didn't do anything wrong, you just smiled habitually. Even in the most difficult of times you can smile while others can't. You smile, not because you are gloating or because you have no conscience or sense of responsibility. So you don't have to feel guilty.

But there are times when we need to keep our completely serious faces. I generally try to maintain a relatively serious look by thinking about something that makes me very embarrassed or angry. I don't know if it will help you.

If you're anything like me, I've always felt like my father hated me. I always found myself trying to hard to please him and it never worked. I excelled in everything as a kid to get his approval, MVP for years in softball, strictly strings, a special invitation for my violin playing. Good grades, how much more can you do to get your father's attention???

Doesn't matter, the feeling lived on with me my whole life. Never thought I was good enough even though everyone thought I was exceptional.

Think back on your past, if it has anything to do with your childhood, let it go if you can because it wasn't you it was the troubled people who raised you. Good luck, I hope you can overcome this and find peace.

Well.. it is good to smile at people when you see them. It makes you more of a positive and blissful person. If you smile at someone and they don't reciprocate it then don't feel bad because they might be in a different tension or mindset when you smiled at them. It's ok if they don't smile back, ignore it, distract Yourself. Still make sure you smile at them and continue to do so. If you still aren't able to get that incident out of your mind then I suggest you to go and speak to that person provided you know them so they notice that you Greer them with a smile everyday and you don't like it when they don't reciprocate it because it kind off hurts .

Smile, for it makes you feel good and not to impress someone. In this world where everything is moving fast, it is difficult to find a face that is trying to make someone's day better with a beautiful smile they possess.

I much prefer people who tend to smile or at least have a pleasant look on their face over people who habitually scowl or frown when out in public.

It takes so little effort to have a pleasant expression and it can be just what the people around you need to brighten their day. I remember the time I went into premature labor with my second baby. My obstetrician instructed me to go and be admitted to the hospital for monitoring and possible treatment.

After I arrived on the Labor & Delivery unit, a nurse came into my room and asked me what brought me in. When I told her that I was having contractions every 8 minutes, she looked at me, and said “You can’t in be labor, you’re smiling”. She was so sure of herself as she hooked me up to the fetal monitoring equipment.

After she turned on the monitor, she left the room and returned about a half hour later. The equipment was printing out a continuous strip of my uterine muscle activity. There were clearly contractual spikes coming at regular intervals recorded on the strip. She didn’t say a word, left the room and came back in a while with the Terbutaline to add to my IV, which my obstetrician had ordered over the phone.

So, my answer is, I tend to smile when out in public, to make others around me more comfortable and know that I notice them and value them as another human being.

I think that there are no people who smile for no reason. The reason is there we just might not be aware of it. Have you ever been reminded of something funny, an incident from childhood, an old anecdote? Well thinking about that instance makes you subconsciously smile. While to the person unaware of your current emotional state, it seems like you just smiled for no reason, or even worst they think you might be smiling at their expense.

Another reason you might be smiling is when you eat a delicious slice of pizza, or take your first sip of delicious lager. That’s due to taste receptors in your mouth sending taste sensations to your brain. Sweet, salty, bitter, and savory.

Finally, this is usually more of a laugh or a cackle than a smile but some people have this reaction to a highly stressful situation. While everybody is stressed, or even terrified, a person starts to laugh. Case in point in Marine Corps boot camp when the drill instructor got in my face and screamed at me for not making my bed properly or another minor nuance that I brought to his attention this fine afternoon, I would start laughing. Immediately getting yelled at even more, and ordered to do push-ups till I dropped. Ahh, the follies of my youth.

I used to do this in authenticity.

The problem is in how it's received and by who.

You do leave yourself open to scrutiny, criticism by anyone that is challenged by your authenticity, threatened, uncomfortable for their own reasons you'll probably never know.

Being called out….are these people that are looking out for you, care about how others may receive you or are they stifling you?

Always be who you are.

I take the time now to pay more attention to my own comfort level as opposed to the comfort level of others.

If people that know you, accept who and how you are, protect you bringing attention to how you may be leaving yourself vulnerable, those are good folks to have around.

The others….not worthy of your authenticity.

I have been reading through most of these comments but I don’t think anyone gets it. I have the same problem but while I try not to look at it as such, it really can be. As someone said in this thread, sometimes smiling doesn’t fit the mood and of course, it can be misinterpreted. For me at least, I think that it is something that I have been conditioned to do… like a mask or a plea for mercy. When I was young, I was abused by my father and so I grew up to fear him - the only way I felt safe/protected around him was by smiling; hoping that would help to pacify how he reacted to me. I was begging to be liked in my smile.

I was also gay in high school and the way I tried to protect myself from being bullied was also by smiling. I remembered times when it happened naturally and people would notice that I am smiling and think that I was being silly… maybe because I never really had an attractive smile. But with the abuse and bullying, I have come to understand that it is a form of “nervous laughter”. We smile when we find ourselves in situations that threatens us, as we try not to make matters worse.

That smile grew with me into my adult years and people noticed that I often smile excessively. And of course, this happens now because I struggle with anxiety and often times, I feel paranoid by people around me, particularly whenever I am in certain social spaces. My manager once asked me why I smiled so much and even then I didn’t understand it, I just wanted to stop. It felt embarrassed and feared that people would never take me seriously.

I wished that I had a happy ending to my story but today I still struggle to give up smiling (or smiling too much) but what I also notice is that when I am completely serious, people misinterpret that too as I am not interested or they see me as distancing myself. It makes smiling seem a lot more socially acceptable, just not excessively.

I got you fam.

Smiling simply isn’t something I do much. I’m not unhappy, I’m not angry, I’ve just got resting bitch face and look serious most of the time.

I can force smiles, but they look cheesy and fake and so the only time people see me with a nice smile is when I don’t know I’m smiling at all. Rather than try to force smiles with my mouth I tend to express happiness through eye brow movements combined with a very small pressing of my lips. My friends and family and students all recognise that as my smile even though a stranger on the street probably would not.

If it’s worrying you, then you can learn to smile through practice as it is a muscle thing. That might not actually mean you’re comfortable with it though and I’ve found it’s better to be genuine rather than to force expressions that make people judge you as being fake.

i can relate to this question, actually, my problem is that i smile at everything i see or do. Tonight my family we’re talking about my future and when i said that i wanted to become a photographer, they made fun of me alot. And since childhood, they always would tell me that i will just become a cleaner and clean peoples houses, i just cant believe that my OWN family would do it, i mean, alot of peoples family do this. And this afternoon, dad came from work and buyed us food, i didnt even greet him back but the thing is i smiled and he thought i was happy. I just wanna get rid of this problem of me smiling at those times when im angry at someone, could some one please tell me, it might help, i dont know.
ps:i was crying so much when evryone went away, i hate this thing and than seriously smiling…….its not my thing, i dont wanna smile at these moments of my life, please tell me