I'm in the same boat here. I feel like I am a complete failure at life. I'm 24 years old, I have a worthless degree, no one wants to give me a chance, I have wasted 6 years of my life trying to find a relationship to no avail and I'm still a virgin, and I am working a dead-end job that I hate and going nowhere in life. I constantly think to myself that my life is meaningless, as so many other people are succeeding where I am failing every step of the way. My intelligence means absolutely nothing if all, because all it brings about is failure, loneliness, and disappointment, I'm one of the most unlucky people there is. I honestly think that sometimes I was born into the wrong time in history. It feels like Society just doesn't have a place for losers like me, the deck has always been stacked against me. My life is a complete joke! I honestly wish that I was born as somebody else and that I could trade lives with somebody that figured things out. At 24, I feel like I've reached the end of the road, and there is nothing else left. Now I see why Nietzsche went mad.

My cousin is 22 and has succeeded everywhere in life where I have failed, he's married, has a good degree, has a good job, and just made a down payment on his first home. I hate him for it, he's extremely lucky, he was fed his entire life by a silver spoon, grew up in a huge home, was the most popular person in school, and raised as a spoiled only child, got everything he wanted and never had one failure in his life, always rolled a 6 on the dice of life in everything he's ever done. He was even handed a great job on a silver platter when he graduated. His life is flawless, he is the textbook definition of success.

Perhaps try a therapist, I really don't know what else to say because I am feeling the exact same way as you are.

Sometimes people are diagnosed with treatment-resistant depression when what they’re really in is a chronic state of collapse.

I know this because it happened to me. When you’re traumatized as a child, you want to flee or, less often, fight. But, because you can’t flee or fight, you freeze, You submit. You numb out and your mind dissociates the trauma.

The problem is that, when you experience a similar traumatic situation as an adult, you can again freeze. It may not be the defense you — as an adult — normally use. You may ordinarily fight or you may ordinarily flee. But if you encounter a situation that’s similar enough to the one that caused you to freeze as a child, you may freeze again. And, if you can’t get out of freeze — if you find yourself in a situation where you absolutely cannot fight and you absolutely cannot flee — you will eventually collapse.

And collapse is the defense of last resort.

Collapse is terminal. Collapse is the defense (no defense, just opioid release) that animals use when they know they’re going to die.

The problem with collapse is that it causes your body to release chemicals (dynorphins) that allow it to numb and also to dissociate but which also lead to chronic feelings of depression.

Like I said, this happened to me. And it happened because I found myself in a situation that aroused a feeling — a feeling of helplessness — that I had experienced as a child. I fell into a deep state of depression that I didn’t care if I ever emerged from. I was extremely dissociated and living in this strange sort of “now” where I couldn’t remember a time when I hadn’t felt this way and couldn’t imagine a time when I wouldn’t. The way I describe it is that I didn’t even have the hope of hope.

I.

Just.

Didn’t.

Care.

I’ve never understood why I came out of it. But I was listening to an interview the other day with a researcher named Ruth Lanius and she explained why I did.

Collapse is a state of learned helplessness. The way I got out of it was by standing up for myself. I had been forced into a position of helplessness by someone I cared about. I couldn’t fight and I couldn’t flee. I felt like I had when I was a child.

And I had no idea what to do about it.

A situation arose at work. And, again, I was put in a situation where I felt helpless. But this time, instead of remaining silent, I stuck up for myself. I fought back. I said, “No, you can’t do this to me.”

And, almost instantaneously, the hopelessness lifted.

According to Ruth Lanius, the way to get out of collapse is to learn to stick up for yourself. To emerge from the state of learned helplessness and begin to advocate for yourself.

It’s what I did. I didn’t know to do it. I wasn’t even trying. I had just reached the optimal point of I-don’t-give-a-fuck-ness required to act in my own self-interest for once. I didn’t care if I was doing the right thing or not.

I just did it.

And it worked.

If your depression is being caused by a chronic state of collapse, your mind and body have decided that you can’t win. That it doesn’t matter what you do, because you, my friend, are done.

You need to show it you’re still in the game.

You need to learn to stand up for yourself. xx

I have been in your place and trust me it fucking sucks. I had no access to therapy because my parents thought I was lazy and not depressed and if I just worked harder at school everything would be fine. Sigh.

Some things I did to help myself or self-treat my depression were the following -

1. Quit social media. Social media is a bitch. You stare at a screen, looking at other people being happy and living a great life. You think to yourself what the hell am I doing wrong? Why am I not smiling like them? Why do I not get 100 likes on my profile picture? Well screw them. It’s all an act anyways. Everyone has their shit but they try to portray their best versions on social media.
2. Keep a journal. I kept a journal and wrote about basically anything and everything I was feeling at a given time. It helps you write down your deepest, darkest emotions without any judgement. No one is going to read your diary (hopefully) so it keeps that “what will they think?” aspect out.
3. Gardening. There is something just real surreal about gardening. The idea of cultivating life with your own hands is truly remarkable. I started my own tiny garden which was basically a seed in an old container. I tracked its growth and dedicated my energy into making it beautiful. It distracted me from my own woes and was really relaxing.
4. Let out your emotion. I used to think that crying or feeling sad was a sign of weakness. It is not. My dad said to me, “You can’t just cry when I talk to you.” Well dad, I am not crying because I am sad. In fact, I didn’t even know why I was crying. Sometimes, I would suppress my emotions and then lash out a week later. Let yourself cry. Let yourself feel anger.

I hope you are doing well and I really will keep you in my prayers. Lots of hugs and kisses to you :)

And if you need someone to talk to, I am here. I wish you all the best.

I'm so sorry to hear that you're struggling with depression and feelings of worthlessness. Please know you're not alone, and there is support available.

*Immediate Support*

1. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-TALK (8255) in the US)

2. Crisis Text Line (text "HOME" to 741741 in the US)

3. Your healthcare provider or therapist

*Coping Strategies*

*Self-Care*

1. Mindfulness practices (meditation, deep breathing)

2. Physical activity (walking, yoga)

3. Creative expression (art, writing, music)

4. Connect with nature

5. Healthy sleep habits

*Challenge Negative Thoughts*

1. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT)

2. Journaling to reframe negative self-talk

3. Practice self-compassion

4. Focus on strengths and accomplishments

*Build Support Network*

1. Friends and family

2. Support groups (in-person or online)

3. Online forums (e.g., Reddit's r/depression)

4. Mental health professionals

*Professional Help*

1. Consult a therapist (CBT, psychodynamic)

2. Psychiatric evaluation for medication options

3. Consider counseling for relationship issues

*Lifestyle Changes*

1. Establish routines

2. Set achievable goals

3. Practice gratitude

4. Healthy eating habits

5. Limit social media

*Resources*

1. National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) - Depression

2. American Psychological Association (APA) - Depression

3. "Feeling Good" by David D. Burns

4. "Mind Over Mood" by Christine Padesky

5. Mental health apps (e.g., MoodTools, Pacifica)

*Reminders*

1. Depression is treatable.

2. You are not alone.

3. Your worth is not defined by your struggles.

4. Small steps lead to progress.

5. Hope and healing are possible.

*Next Steps*

1. Schedule an appointment with your healthcare provider.

2. Reach out to a trusted friend or family member.

3. Explore online resources and support groups.

4. Practice self-care and mindfulness.

5. Consider journaling to track emotions.

You are valuable, deserving of love and care. Take the first step towards healing.

Someone answered with a very good possibility, treatment-resistant depression. While that is a valid assumption, I had a different experience.

Since I was 12 I’ve had depression, anxiety started at 8 or 9. In 8th grade I ended up in a mental hospital and got the help I needed. Over the past decade, I have been on Lexapro, Trazadone, Wellbutrin, Abilify, Venlafaxine, and Fluvoxamine. I have also received TMS therapy which is the FDA-approved treatment for depression that has been deemed treatment-resistant. NONE of the above things worked.

Turns out I have ADHD. All of my lack of motivation, inability to follow through, forgetfulness, and poor hygiene is due to ADHD. The problem was that I was definitely depressed, but it was because of the feeling of failure and helplessness when I just could not physically do things. Everything was a mountain to cross.

I am now on Zoloft and Adderall IR. The difference is night and day. Now I’m not saying you’ve been misdiagnosed or anything like that, but for a full decade I kept waiting for the medicine that would “do enough” and not a single antidepressant had any effect. So I guess I’d like to plant the seed, because the symptoms are very similar between the two, and they fooled my doctors for a long time.

I know how exhausting this is, but please keep fighting. I sincerely hope you get to a place where you are content with your life.

Your actual worth is nothing but a bucket full of ashes.

One day your loved ones whom you consider indispensable will dispose of you and return home and start a new life without you.

You were born; you will die.

You need food to eradicate hunger.

You need water to eradicate thirst.

You need sleep to eradicate tiredness.

You need love and relations to be a part of society.

All this operates your machine; your body until it becomes useless and lifeless.

Why are you complicating this simple process so much?

Live your day well; do your best for whatever you like; enjoy the biggest of luxuries: food, shelter, water, sleep, love and the sense of being alive and healthy.

Keep your life as simple as possible because that is how it is meant to be.

It sounds like your depressed. You should get professional help. Like, soon.

Being miserable all the time is a terrible thing. I know from experience. Talking to a professional counselor, getting medication, seeing a psychiatrist, all these things can help you get back on track and happy again.

Keep marching, friend. Things will get better soon.

I have quite a few replies on depression, and you are welcome, if this one is not enough for you, to check them out in my Content.

“I have always kept a positive state of mind; I suppose that is genetic, but I will provide you with a list that will be helpful for you, and after the list, I have found a wonderful technique you should employ. Both the list and the technique do require you to take action:

Here are some ways to develop more self-sufficiency and happiness with yourself without relying on someone else, fight depression, and learn to be happy and comfortable wherever you are.

1. Become the best person you can be with hard work, sincere effort and purposeful actions. You will like yourself a lot better as a result!
2. Eat in a healthy manner, exercise, get enough sleep and stay hydrated. It will give you a strong body and mind to work with.
3. Volunteer somewhere worthwhile - hospital, soup kitchen, old age home, animal shelter, mentoring someone, or somewhere else you can make a difference. It will help others and make you feel good about yourself.
4. Expand your social, political, educational, religious and/or spiritual circles. Meet new people and share your time and energies for causes you believe in and people you like. Remove negative people and experiences from your life.
5. Don't always look for the easy way out.
6. Find new interests, dreams and goals. Your choices should make you happy, even passionate. Life is meant to be joyful, suffering only endured when absolutely necessary.
7. Enjoy the outdoors with hikes or nature walks. Join a sports club and play with and against others - pickle ball, tennis, basketball, softball, anything you are capable and would enjoy doing.
8. Exercise strenuously daily. It will release endorphins, stimulate your heart and lungs, and give you energy and impetus to do more with your life.
9. Take classes in real classrooms - art, pottery, cooking, philosophy, psychology. You will be pursuing your creative and intellectual growth.
10. Join a religious or spiritual group. You don’t have to believe in God to belong to a church or synagogue, you only need to wish to follow a strong moral, ethical path and there you will meet some good people.
11. Appreciate waking up every morning. Treasure every moment because non one, young or old, is promised another. Be thankful for not just the big things, but the small things in your life.
12. Listen and acknowledge others more than self-aggrandizing.
13. Care about yourself so that you will be in a position to do well for others. If you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of anyone else.
14. Don't put off what you can do today for tomorrow; there may never be another tomorrow.
15. Don't argue, fight, quarrel, or create or incite conflict. Discuss everything in a reasonable manner. Don't allow your emotions to get in the way of reasonable understanding and compromise.
16. Always be kind and forgiving. You will be happier and live longer.
17. Remember that bad things can lead to good things, so don't overreact if something bad happens, just expect that your next steps will lead you to good things.
18. Try to be efficient with the time you have and perform your most important tasks first. Learn how to set your priorities efficiently.
19. Don't be afraid to make mistakes or take some risks. The easy road is most often less rewarding.
20. Find a complementary partner, one who fills in pluses to your minuses and treat them with great respect and generous, complete love and devotion.

When you actualize many if not all of the items on this list, you will become the best person you can be, and you can be happier, more productive, and you will never be depressed again!

Here is the techinque:

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Each day I sleep with the guilt of not making my day productive but the next day I waste it again. I am getting depressed now. What should I do?

I would like to introduce you to a technique which I invented. It is called as ‘Thumbs Up in the jar’ Depression is sneaky. It doesn't hit you like a brick. It crawls, slowly and steadily until you realize it's too late. Do you realize why you feel this way? Why you go in this trap? Why do you fall in depression? It all starts with that first loss. You set your alarm for 6am. You wake up at 8. “Fuck, I can't even wake up when I decide to wake up. I am good for nothing.” (Loss 1) “I'll start this at 9.” Time goes by and you realize it's already 9:45. “Fuck I can't even commit to starting something. I am good for nothing.” (Loss 2) “Ok, I'll take a break for half hour.” 3 hours later. “ Shit, I have wasted so much time. I had to do so much. I am literally fucked now. I am good for nothing.” (Loss 3) This keeps on going and you sleep with the guilt of not being productive. And the cycle repeats the next day. You know what you did? You counted all your thumbs-down (small losses) and stored them in your jar. In the night you open it, count the small losses and feel bad about yourself. You make yourself believe that you are good for nothing. This is exactly why you repeat your cycle. It is ingrained in your belief system that you are good for nothing. What I am asking you to do is the exact opposite of what you are doing right now. Put a thumbs-up for every small win in your jar instead of a thumbs-down for every small loss. You woke late? Fine. Did you at least start your work? Great! (Win 1) I did my work for 2 whole hours! (Win 2) Fine I wasted 3 hrs but I did realize it. Now I am going to start again right now. (Win 3) You keep building up your thumbs-ups in your jar and focus on them when you go to sleep. Your “I am good for nothing” will slowly change to “Hell yeah, I am awesome.” You beat depression by focusing on the good. Focusing on the good improves your mood. Your improved mood makes you want to do your work. Wanting to do your work improves your productivity. Improving your productivity beats your depression. It's all related. What you are feeling, I have felt it/feel it too. Do you realize there are more than 1000 followers for this question? You aren't alone. Just look for those small wins. Divide your work and achieve those small wins. They will eventually decide your happiness and productivity. ….. If you find this helpful, you can check out my website for more articles about productivity and happiness.

“I would like to introduce you to a technique which I invented. It is called as ‘Thumbs Up in the jar.’

Depression is sneaky. It doesn't hit you like a brick. It crawls, slowly and steadily until you realize it's too late.

Do you realize why you feel this way? Why you go in this trap? Why do you fall in depression?

It all starts with that first loss.

You set your alarm for 6am. You wake up at 8. “Fuck, I can't even wake up when I decide to wake up. I am good for nothing.” (Loss 1)“I'll start this at 9.” Time goes by and you realize it's already 9:45. “Fuck I can't even commit to starting something. I am good for nothing.” (Loss 2)“Ok, I'll take a break for half hour.” 3 hours later. “ Shit, I have wasted so much time. I had to do so much. I am literally fucked now. I am good for nothing.” (Loss 3)This keeps on going and you sleep with the guilt of not being productive.

And the cycle repeats the next day.

You know what you did? You counted all your thumbs-down (small losses) and stored them in your jar. In the night you open it, count the small losses and feel bad about yourself. You make yourself believe that you are good for nothing. This is exactly why you repeat your cycle. It is ingrained in your belief system that you are good for nothing.

What I am asking you to do is the exact opposite of what you are doing right now. Put a thumbs-up for every small win in your jar instead of a thumbs-down for every small loss.

You woke late? Fine. Did you at least start your work? Great! (Win 1)I did my work for 2 whole hours! (Win 2)Fine I wasted 3 hrs but I did realize it. Now I am going to start again right now. (Win 3)You keep building up your thumbs-ups in your jar and focus on them when you go to sleep.

Your “I am good for nothing” will slowly change to “Hell yeah, I am awesome.”

You beat depression by focusing on the good. Focusing on the good improves your mood. Your improved mood makes you want to do your work. Wanting to do your work improves your productivity. Improving your productivity beats your depression.

It's all related.

What you are feeling, I have felt it/feel it too. Do you realize there are more than 1000 followers for this question?

You aren't alone.

Just look for those small wins. Divide your work and achieve those small wins. They will eventually decide your happiness and productivity.”

All of the above requires that you CHANGE YOUR POINT OF VIEW and TAKE ACTION!

It would also be very helpful for you to see a therapist to help motivate you to TAKE action and change your point of view.

Enjoy your journey, bubala!”

BUT

If you are only low on a few days, just CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE and perspective!

Know that good things very often follow bad things. Know that just changing your point of view from negative to positive really works!

When negativity tries to overwhelm you, tell yourself

JUST STOP THIS SHIT!!

I am strong, I am good, I am moving into better things, better places!

Try meditation or prayer. Accept that you are special, that your life has great meaning, and that there is much love waiting for you, because all of those things are

TRUE!!

Most likely you have clinical depression. It is far more common in childhood and adolescence than most people realize. I don’t know if you have talked to your family about this. If not, please do, unless you have strong reasons to believe that they are not going to be supportive, or that sharing this with them may make things worse in any way. If you can get their support, please consult a mental health professional (psychologist or psychiatrist) as soon as possible. Your interpersonal issues (having no friends) are also just the result of your depression. Once your depression gets treated, you will be able to connect with people better also. Psychotherapy will certainly help, and if the professionals suggest medication for a short while I hope you will be open to it.

You may not be able to act on any of the positive and inspiring things which have been suggested to you, if your depression is severe. It makes you feel leaden, and disables you to take any action. After either therapy or medication, or both, start working, you will find yourself able to do positive things. The way our body falls ill, and in addition to a healthy lifestyle, we need medicines to heal it, similarly, our mind experiences illnesses as well. Allow it the same considerate treatment also.

Just in case there are issues within the family, family therapy may be recommended. If your family is willing to participate in it, it does wonders, not only for the person who presented with the problems, but for the whole family.

In case you do not have your family’s support, please talk to someone in your school/college. These days most schools and colleges have a counsellor. If not, talk to a teacher you can trust the most. Hopefully they will be able to assist you in seeking professional help.

If nothing else, I am sure you can walk into a mental health facility or a counselling centre etc. by yourself, and seek help independently.

What you are experiencing is very common, and one of the milder mental health issues which can be easily treated. I assure you that it gets better!

Wish you all the best, and a speedy recovery.

Sometimes people are diagnosed with treatment-resistant depression when what they’re really in is a chronic state of collapse.

I know this because it happened to me. When you’re traumatized as a child, you want to flee or, less often, fight. But, because you can’t flee or fight, you freeze, You submit. You numb out and your mind dissociates the trauma.

The problem is that, when you experience a similar traumatic situation as an adult, you can again freeze. It may not be the defense you — as an adult — normally use. You may ordinarily fight or you may ordinarily flee. But if you encounter a situation that’s similar enough to the one that caused you to freeze as a child, you may freeze again. And, if you can’t get out of freeze — if you find yourself in a situation where you absolutely cannot fight and you absolutely cannot flee — you will eventually collapse.

And collapse is the defense of last resort.

Collapse is terminal. Collapse is the defense (no defense, just opioid release) that animals use when they know they’re going to die.

The problem with collapse is that it causes your body to release chemicals (dynorphins) that allow it to numb and also to dissociate but which also lead to chronic feelings of depression.

Like I said, this happened to me. And it happened because I found myself in a situation that aroused a feeling — a feeling of helplessness — that I had experienced as a child. I fell into a deep state of depression that I didn’t care if I ever emerged from. I was extremely dissociated and living in this strange sort of “now” where I couldn’t remember a time when I hadn’t felt this way and couldn’t imagine a time when I wouldn’t. The way I describe it is that I didn’t even have the hope of hope.

I.

Just.

Didn’t.

Care.

I’ve never understood why I came out of it. But I was listening to an interview the other day with a researcher named Ruth Lanius and she explained why I did.

Collapse is a state of learned helplessness. The way I got out of it was by standing up for myself. I had been forced into a position of helplessness by someone I cared about. I couldn’t fight and I couldn’t flee. I felt like I had when I was a child.

And I had no idea what to do about it.

A situation arose at work. And, again, I was put in a situation where I felt helpless. But this time, instead of remaining silent, I stuck up for myself. I fought back. I said, “No, you can’t do this to me.”

And, almost instantaneously, the hopelessness lifted.

According to Ruth Lanius, the way to get out of collapse is to learn to stick up for yourself. To emerge from the state of learned helplessness and begin to advocate for yourself.

It’s what I did. I didn’t know to do it. I wasn’t even trying. I had just reached the optimal point of I-don’t-give-a-fuck-ness required to act in my own self-interest for once. I didn’t care if I was doing the right thing or not.

I just did it.

And it worked.

If your depression is being caused by a chronic state of collapse, your mind and body have decided that you can’t win. That it doesn’t matter what you do, because you, my friend, are done.

You need to show it you’re still in the game.

Big question! How do the people around you treat and value you? They could be so bad that they are actually abusive. You could have some ptsd. Typically, ptsd is not treated well with antideoressants alone. I suffered 27 years of suicidal thoughts and feeling like death. It was not until I got away from abusive, toxic people that I felt better. I was even able to go off all psych meds 2 months ago. I take a biweekly dose of magic mushrooms. I think that has made a huge impact. I believe I had been suffering from undiagnosed ADHD all my life too. I spent nearly my whole life reading and studying mental health, recognizing thoughts related to my 7 disorders, including borderline personality disorder. I am still not perfect. But I no longer spend every waking moment wishing I was dead. I can even say I am happy a lot of the time.

Sit down, write on a sheet of paper, one side, everything you feel unhappy about. Turn it over and on the other side, write down all the things you really want to do.

Now, you can stare at the negatives as much as you want, but remember that there are two sides to everything. One side is causing sadness, the other is cause for optimism.

Look at the negative side and choose two or three of the things there that you will get rid of, no matter what they are. On the positive side of the sheet, choose two or three things that are achievable, and that you will work towards.

Review how you’re getting on in a week or two.

My daughter was getting into a rut recently, and she said that she was getting negative and as a result, her mood was changing. She changed that completely by being resolutely determined to see the best in every challenge that hit her. Her mood swung completely to positive, and she is much happier as a result.

I’ve no idea whether any of this will help, but good luck. The first thing about being unhappy is realising that you are, and that you are in control of it.

Best of luck!

Hey buddy !

I totally get what u r going through . Trust me i have been through it , and i know how bad it feels..
Firstly u dont have to take everything together at once . U will end up more depressed .

• There is nothing wrong with you . Its just your loneliness acting up and messing your head .

• Go out ! Trust me this helps . U dont have to meet and talk to people . Just go out ,breath fresh air..go for a walk...away from the crowd .

• Stop wasting your time over the internet and TV . It just makes you feel more worthless !

• Find something that "doesnt" bore you and take small steps in working towards it.

• Start by eating healthy and doing workouts ! They boost positive energy within you and makes you feel good about yourself.

• Apriciate things arround you and talk to people , complete strangers, old people, kids..they will auston you with their beautifull journey that they are on!

• Stop comparing yourself to others. You will never fulfill your own destiny as long as you are desiring someone else’s. Comparison is the thief of joy.

• Tell yourself that you matter. Realistic self pep - talks are great and affirming your self-worth openly to yourself can be a very good way to start changing the internal negative speak that you might have developed over time. Make set times during the day to remind yourself that you're a great person. Tell yourself you're special, wonderful, loveable and loved.

I hope i helped you atleast a little !
Take care and have a beautiful life !
Cheers !!

Breathe.

Everything is working itself out for your best interest. When you feel as if your world is falling apart, don’t give up, just try and change the way you look at things. Being positive doesn’t mean that you have to be happy all the time. It just means that no matter what happens, how sad you are, however hard you fall, you get back up.

Take time to remind yourself that what you are going through right now will pass. It has to. And then it will get better. Again, it has to. And this belief, that eventually, things will get better, is what being positive is all about.

I do not know what you are going through, so all I can say is that appreciate where you are in your journey, even when it’s not where you want to be right now.

These are the lines from the book ‘Zen and the art of Happiness’ by Chris Prentiss.

The universe doesn’t make mistakes. Everything is happening just as it should. It’s only our perception of difficulties that causes us the distress and the difficulty we experience. Not only that, but when we label events as “bad”, we fail to perceive the benefit that is waiting for us.

I know it is easier said than done, but trust me, everybody has been in this place or still are. Everyone is fighting a battle we do not know about.

Also, if it’s possible for you, watch the movie The Pursuit of Happyness. It helps. Really. :)

I would suggest you to read the novel, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne.

I hope you feel better soon. :)

Some (but not all) people never get better. Marie-Anne was such a person.

She was too ambitious.

Whether it was work (she had a management position in a big company), or sports (by which she was obsessed) — Marie-Anne always had to try her very best. Training more than 8 hours per week as a gymnast besides teaching pupils and competing, training for a marathon, working day and night to be the best in her job — that was Marie-Anne.

I never saw her relaxed — not once. She was always thinking about her enormous to-do list, about higher goals, about better performance. Even when the rest of us was drinking and laughing, she was always serious and always in control.

So when she lost control — only once ! — she could not accept it. Not she, after all the dedication and a life time of work and focus. Not she. By some small “mistake” at work (only Marie-Anne would call it a mistake), her always so calculated way of living suddenly became a house of cards, and collapsed under the ever so severe strain she put on herself. One simple “mistake.”

She was so hard on herself that in the end she suffered from a deep depression, and this totally crushed her. Because she had no way of controlling her psyche, and she could not cope with this new fact: being not in control. “And how the hell could someone like Marie-Anne — someone living along the perfect scheme, a winner ! — have a depression ?”

And then the sentence came.

“It will never be the same.”

She became convinced, and then totally obsessed, that nothing in life would be as good as before her mental breakdown. She had discovered that even she could make mistakes, that sometimes even the perfect preparation wasn’t good enough, and that even she could mess up, and her brain could not take it. Nothing would be the same anymore — not her job, not her ambitions, not her gymnastics, not her relationship.

“It will never be the same. Never be the same. Never the same.”

I heard her whispering it at a party, when she was supposed to be feeling better. The mantra which made her sick, and poisoned her every fiber. “But she was getting better alright !”

One week later, she hanged herself when her boyfriend was at work, trusting her to rest and relax because she was getting better by her own words.

And it would never be the same.

Marie-Anne was wrong though, and that’s my answer to you. You might as well get obsessed about the positive side of the very big story which is life (and that is my personal take).

It might never be the same again ? So what.

It might become better.

SOURCES: painting by Beksiński.

Firstly, you must realise that you aren’t the only one. In high school I always thought I was the only one going through shit. And everyone else was perfectly happy. False. If you indulge yourself like so. You’ll feel worse.

The offshoot of that is : you are perfect. No matter what your hobbies and idiosyncracies are. Don’t ever believe or let someone believe you are a waste of space, or not worth it. Or that you deserve to suffer. No. You might be scared of getting caught drinking. Don’t let people call you a pussy for it. If you like music that others hate, it’s okay. If you like hentai. It’s okay.

Don’t let people say your feelings are invalid. You may be pissed about something that another doesnt understand. Even if those people are parents, don’t believe you are wrong to be upset. Yes, if you overreact, it’s another issue

Recognise these thoughts as being normal and toxic at the same time. That means the feelings aren’t alien. But need to be let out. Music, the gym, a councilor. Anyone. Dont try to supress it with wanking or weed. Even booze or self harm.

This is another superimportant thing: Just cause you dont have friends. Doesnt mean you are a loser or a bad person. It means the right people havent shown up. Dont pretend to like people or things. And dont let people bully you because the alternative is no friends.

But when you find these people. Cherish them. I myself took shit from people so I didnt sit alone at lunch. But dont do that.

Find a hobby. A hobby is great. It gives you a purpose, it fills the time you’d spend on negative thoughts. It gives you something to talk about and maybe bring in like minded friends.

Force yourself to grind through. The thing with depression and apathy is you dont do things you should. And you should study, and enjoy hobbies. I used to run out of class and go home, believing I had stomache problems and farting that made everyone hate me. All cause a jackass got under my skin. Dumbest thing I ever did. There’s a good chance something bothering you is all in your head to.

Another thing I would recommend, as it helps me stay possitive. Now that past is in the past, is Naruto. The characthers remind me that my life belongs to me. And I can succeed in one way or the other. Through accepting strenghts. Because believe me. Everyone has strengths. You are a loser only when you think you are one

Well being at a point in life where every step counts, such emotional occurrences may happen. I would like to share a time in my life where i did felt exactly the same as you do but with correct guidelines, i did manage to come out of the situation.

In my perspective it is not always necessary that being around with people is the only way to socialize or in short as people say getting a life. and let me give you a GOOD NEWS which is that life has given you a chance to explore and know yourself more. Always remember that generally people love individuals who love themselves , have passion for living and those are the kind of people that succeed in life.

Now the question arises that how to come out of the miserable life that you are going through. What you can do now is explore your life. and below are some of the techniques that I did and how those techniques helped me out in my life.

1. Firstly, Just sit down in a quiet room and turn off all electronic devices. close the door and make your self comfortable. Take a notepad and write down all the things you like. It might not be very vague things but any basic normal things like example :
   - I love to cook.
   - AC/DC ‘s thunderstruck is the best.
   - I like chocolate flavor in Ice cream.
   This would let you recognize your likes and dislikes and will help you to summarize what kind of a person you are.
2. Secondly, now that you know your likes and dislikes work upon them.; Go into the depth about them and try to give your part in the area of interest. for example if you like AC/DC ‘s thunderstruck and you find out that you are a big fan of rock music ( keep in mid that still till this point you have no skills or specialization in guitars or music) so you can search up for a concert nearby or a gig and just go there and experience moreover it would be best if you volunteer. This would let you authenticate if you are really into the area of interest or not.
3. By this going on you must want to spend your part in each and every area of interest. This would let you know your skills which can majorly help you decide your career. Moreover you can make friends there and have new experience.
   
   Thus, don't just be demotivated , most of us have gone through the same time. Remember that you will go through every type of people, some might be good others might not be of your type. Just go with what i have told you. There are other things you should do afterwords too as in meditation and relaxing techniques. But a this point just be done witha brief list of what you like and contact me on the email below. I’ll guide you.
   Have a nice day
   
   Ahsan Khan
   Psychology Major
   
   ahsan-khan@live.com

I have had the same feeling . Then i was not aware of quora .

All you have to do is , just have to believe in yourself . every morning when you wake up just say “this is my day ,i am the the king of my life ,i will rule it. I can, I will ,and I have to ” i personally do this everyday . And there is some reason as to why you are feeling like this well just try to figure out that reason . If u are able to find the problem Voila! you can also device a solution for the same . Maybe you got bad marks in your exams or some issue in your personal life, just remember that this too shall pass. When i was kinda depressed or so i saw TED ED videos on youtube . Many may feel that superwoman is a person who only makes comedy videos but its not true !! pls i request you to go and check out her positive vibe section . Remember life is like a chocolate factory but also dont forget that sour candies are also chocolates. Rabindranath Tagore once said in one of his writings , “Life will only be good when its a mixture of sad and happy stories . life has to be balanced . laugh and cries should be even .” (thats just the meaning of his lines ). U rule your life you are the architect of your life you design it . So if u are facing some problems that means there is something wrong with your design rectify it. Be happy . Always keep smiling .

Dude, fake it till you make it, go talk to a girl and go on a date with her, don’t be scared, you got nothing to lose, if she rejects you go to another one. Once you get a girlfriend, have fun with her and respect her and she will let you meet her friends.

Don’t overthink as well, go join clubs in your school even if you don’t feel like you like what they’re doing, you’re just going to get friends.

At your age, go play some video games online, just don’t get addicted.

If you have time, find a job on the weekend to get some money and use it to buy things you like or save it.

Enjoy life you can do a lot of things, you’re just lost and you have to get friends that’s important and everything will be okay.

Don’t forget your education, it is very important and it will boost your confidence, concentrate on it.

Good luck

You need to start telling yourself a different story! I used to feel the same way until I started seeing that everything happens for a reason and also I found the positive in most situations. It takes a while but can be done. I rarely go out. Have very few friends. Work 2 part time jobs just so i can be around people and the money helps too. You have to find reasons to be alive. I had to and so many others had to as well. You cannot give up. No one else is going to pick you up either. Start believing in yourself as well. You have everything inside of you to feel better. I suffer from both anxiety and depression and fought like hell to still be here today. I struggle every single day too. Life is hard especially when you don’t have a support system. I have me and make the best with what I have. And believe me I don’t have much but I keep pressing forward and so can you! You are more than welcome to reach out to me if you’d like. All the very best!

It is my belief that people with symptoms like yours are caught in a cycle of hyperactive mental activity. You feel bad, you ask yourself and others what to do so as to not feel bad, you call yourself names and experience negative thoughts because you fear being helpless. This in turn makes you grind and grind on what you can do to fix things. The grinding is mentally and physically exhausting whic we call depression. Depression makes you feel bad which starts the cycle all over again. So, think of the entire cycle as simply grinding away on trying to find a way to stop trying. You see the circularity in trying to stop trying?

So one solution that has worked for many people I have worked with is to imagine yourself as a little child who is very tired trying to meet other people’s expectations. He is feeling very sad because no matter what he does, there are always more and more expectations. Now, imagine that child sitting in a room all by himself (or herself). Imagine walking into the room as yourself as you are now and giving that child a hug. Picture it in your mind. Let yourself feel the hug. Tell the child that for this moment, he needs to do nothing at all but to enjoy the hug.

The exercise is imaginary but the feeling that you should get from it is real. It is a method of letting yourself simply BE for a moment, to stop the grinding and to feel that it is ok to stop for a time. Understand that any success in any endeavor requires rest, even rest from mental activity. The Depression itself is simply your mind telling you that you need to stop, to rest. You cannot try to rest because tryingis, itself, not restful. People have a very difficult time resting their mind. That’s the reason for the image of hugging the child and expecting nothing of the child or the adult. Just the feeling of stopping: no doing, just being.

often people are fearful of doing this because they are so thirsty for this experience they are afraid they will do it forever. But it is a function of being human that after a while we become satiated. If you do nothing for too long, you get bored and seek activity. If you are active for too long, you get tired and seek restful ness. If you rest too long, you get bored again. We are, as human beings, a mass of these complementary needs. Your symptoms are telling you that you are out of balance on the mental activity side and that you need to rest your mind. Depression is your minds way of telling you to stop, just like aching muscles tell you to rest from physical activity. Once you rest, you will have more resources to deal with what life throws at all of us.

hope this helps.

I have struggled off and on with depression for several years now, and there is really no magic solution to this crippling feeling unfortunately. The things that work well for some individuals, may not always be as effective for others. Here is a list of things that have either been effective for myself in the past, or have been scientifically proven to help alleviate symptoms of depression:

1. Exercise. It does not need to be an intense hour of boot-camp style exertion, just a minimum of twenty-five minutes to start out with (and try to gradually work up to forty-five minutes/an hour), daily. You may not see an improvement in your mood immediately, and depression can make it that much harder to be motivated to actually exercise. But if you are consistent, it will eventually make a difference. If motivation or time is an issue, challenge yourself to complete your workouts in short bursts. If your goal is to complete thirty minutes and that seems overwhelming, do ten in the morning, ten at some point during your work day, and ten in the evening. Anyone can commit to exercise when it is split up this way. Like I said, you do not have to do anything intense or complicated, nor do you need to join a gym. Your workouts could consist of brisk walking, simple body-strength routines such as tricep dips on a chair, or push-ups.
2. Practice gratitude, and think about things in your life that you like, or things that you consider to be good things of value that you have, even if you don’t seem to feel happy about them. The fact that you are not happy about them just indicates that you are depressed, it does not mean that you are incapable of appreciating what you have. But it will help you to take the time to consider and remember what these things are if you do it on a frequent basis.
3. Certain self-help books can actually be helpful, just make sure they are actually written by clinical psychologists or psychiatrists, and not by someone just trying to sell a product. A personal favorite of mine is The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns. This book is the successor to his original, Feeling Good, and has been out for several years. There are some great cognitive behavioral therapy exercises in his book that can help identify why you feel the way you do, and help to re-shape your manner of thinking.
4. If you have the money, go to therapy. It may seem futile, but trust me, it can help. Access to mental health is not great in this country, so if you cannot afford a therapist, see what is available in your hometown as far as community access goes. There are some community centers that offer low-cost or free one on one therapy to individuals who can demonstrate financial need.
5. Understand and accept that it is completely ok to feel hopeless and sad, but don’t become so engrossed in those feelings that you allow them to cripple you. It is easy to become addicted to our feelings whether they are good or bad, which makes the cycle easy to fall into. Remember that you are a worthwhile person who is capable of overcoming these feelings, and that you can and will get better. You are capable of living a positive life that is rich and fulfilling, you have simply been cursed with the misfortune of having to work extraordinarily hard at emotional self-care.
6. When it comes to entertainment, stay away from things that are sad, or involve a lot of death or tragic circumstances. Listen to and watch a lot of comedy, and focus on movies and television shows that are light-hearted and uplifting.
7. Avoid negative people who will only serve to make you feel bad about yourself or make you feel that somehow your depression isn’t real. Seek out the most positive people that you know and do your best to surround yourself with them.
8. If you can get a pet and do not have one, consider getting one. Having unconditional love in your life can give you a reason for living and help boost your feelings of worth on a daily basis. I know it sounds silly, but my dogs have literally kept me alive sometimes.
9. Listen to music that invokes positive feelings, and do your best to avoid drowning your feelings excessively in substances such as alcohol, drugs, or too much weed. These habits will eventually only cause you to feel more empty inside at some point, and won’t actually help to fill any real emotional voids. The pain will still be there when the high wears off, only then you will be both depressed and an addict.

These are all things I know from my education in psychology, reading, and from personal experience. Hope they help. Remember that you are young and still have A LOT to look forward to. Maybe tell your parents how you have been feeling and ask if they would pay for therapy for you. Please don’t be afraid to reach out to those around you and let them know exactly how you feel. Depression is real and it’s debilitating, you deserve to feel happy. Do not be afraid to seek help from those around you.

Okay.

Story-time. Put on your knickerbockers and sleeping hats. You want a few happy ending, ‘the-solution-is-there-you-just-need-to-find-it’, good morale boosting stories for motivation.

Right?

Well here’s a classic one.

This is the story of a boy named T.L.

T.L. was born with a figurative golden-silver spoon in his mouth. His father belonged to one of the most powerful monarch families in the land. And they were rich. So filthy rich that all their worst enemies couldn’t rob them clean if they tried.

T.L. was the youngest with two siblings. His elder brother was fond of him.

But that was the end of his happiness…. As, you see… for all his extreme fortune and riches; T.L. was born different from the others.

He was constantly mocked and ridiculed for his natural attributes. Incessantly under emotional abuse for his god-given shortcomings.

His father hated him. His mother had died giving birth to him. He made no real friends and was a preposterously frequent target for bullies of all ages and statures. His family wanted to disown him, or worse, murder him in his sleep.

I have a feeling that you can relate to T.L… somewhat.

Eventually, as T.L. grew, he became sick and disgusted at his own self and the unending cavalcade of his pathetic and miserable condition.

He had no friends. His routine was enduring it all while being asked to do what his father wanted…

And just like you said, T.L. ‘felt like shit’ all the time.

Perhaps literally being a foul splot of pigshit would be a more appealing life than how T.L. felt…

Would you like to know who this guy is?

Tyrion motherfu***** Lannister.

The golden half-man.

The imp.

The drunken master of politics.

The smartest, cunningest dwarf in the seven kingdoms.

Assuming you are not a GoT nerd; The only thing you need to know about Tyrion (apart from the fact that he is…you know, a little man.) is his badass wit.

He is extremely talented at reading people and gauging their motives. And learned enough to use it to his advantage.

There are plenty of real life examples who can take T.L.’s place. So why him. You could probably use a non-fictional inspiration more…mm?

Your body is 17 years old.

It’s in the middle of a power struggle. A transition zone monitored by a little blob called the Pituitary Gland in the middle of your brain.

It is like an Ad-Hoc Senate Committee, trying to make sense of what the fuck. In a nation growing and expanding several organs.

Hormone regulation goes absolute postal during this time and since those pesky chemicals have the reins to your Emotions, there is no way to predict how you feel. The result is a whacky sense of misery.

That’s the basic biology of “I feel like shit.”

Psychologically and practically, there are a lot of environmental factors that’s causing the mind-capitol so much grief.

You mention a school and routine and having no friends. I cannot presume much from that information but these are common indicators of unsatisfactory adjustment to your present conditions.

You are smart enough to know you need confidence.

But lack the knowledge and experience to know why you have to fake it.

NO WORRIES.

You, and your overworked, bad-administration brain is trying to figure out a lot of big, adult, scary stuff about the world and its people. And most of the world and its people can be quite shitty.

NO WORRIES.

The best way to deal with this is knowing who you are and where you fit in. The bullshit Zen-spiritual doctrines of ‘Trust in yourself’ and other self-realisation shit.

You have emotions, feelings, a level of intellect. Experience. Memories. A particular kind of cognition, perception and outlook. Talents and weaknesses. Dorky awkwardness and bold confidences.

Technical words that mean one thing : You need to know what you’re good at. What you love and what you hate. And, hopefully, do things that make you feel less miserable.

Like say, Rock Music, 3-D Animation, Movies, Video games, Painting Hentai, Obsessing over Cars. Thermodynamics, Skeletons. Space and Time. Horror stories. Kamasutra.

Trust yourself, there are things you’ll get used to. Find enjoyable and come out of this roller-coaster throwing up tacos and in great style.

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At this point of your life, you should be enjoying the last few years of being a teenager. It is the phase of our developmental process as a person where you transition into adulthood. It is a difficult phase to be in so your situation is kind of normal. However, if you will try to reflect on your life and look at the good things that you have and make the most out of these good things, perhaps your misery could be directed to a better feeling. Take a step back, relax and reflect…ask yourself where this misery is coming from. Or find the things you are truly interested in and take small steps to do them. Or try looking at your situation on different angle and see which aspect or angle could be improve. If you have no issue asking help, then do it by all means to do this. For sometimes, we just need to talk it out with someone who is willing to listen and understand. There’s more that you could do with your situation…start getting back that motivation to live. Think of this, you are studying, young, breathing, and probably enjoying a good life. There are other people in some part of the world who are in worse situation than yours and do not have the blessings or good life you have. Make the most out of it. You are blessed whether you like it or not.

Being positive is really difficult as the mind likes to bounce back to negativity! Sad fact but its true.

To make your life look like normal so that you dont blame yourself for everything that turns out to be wrong.here are some noteworthy points:-

• Begin Meditation (it really works,though takes sufficient time )

• listen to music which boosts up your energy (fill your playlist with all kinds of enchanting songs that enmeshes you.)

• Start talking to random people (i know it may seem absurd and awkward) but the more you communicate with people the more you come to know about different personalities, their lifestyles,their behavior.May be you would figure out eventually that there are many people like you who have been through this situation which you are in presently.

• Take a sticky note and write on it ' I am becoming stronger and better every day,being positive and vibrant,i am motivated all the time' then stick this note at a common place at your home where you most often are inclined to visit. ( This thought works for me!)

• Before sleeping, say to yourself in your mind ," I am positive' and keep on repeating this sentence many times until you sleep. (This will get saved in your subconscious mind and when you will keep doing it everyday you would be able to see the powers of subconscious mind)

Hope that helps :)

You probably suffer from clinical depression which can be treated. Get blood tests from a mens’ clinic or general practitioner to find physiological causes that are easily fixed. See a psychiatrist who can prescribe medications to correct neurotransmitter levels and address psychological causes of depression. Get more exercise. Get enough sleep.

Low vitamin D levels can cause depression. I don’t do well at 15ng/ml which is less than half the 40+ ng/ml considered optimal, but am fine at 50ng/ml with one pill a day. Low testosterone can too, and is possible even as a 220+ pound body builder. Get those things and the rest of your blood levels checked.

Low seratonin and dopamine levels lead to depression, but are easily fixed with SSRIs and Welbutrin respectively.

While 30 minutes of exercise a day is enough to reduce your actuarial risk of diseases like diabetes, people need at least an hour to do well and 1.5 hours is better.

Sleep deficiencies can also cause problems. Go to bed early enough you wake without an alarm, the same time every night.

First off I’m sorry you feel so bad in yourself and life. That’s a very difficult situation, especially if you may be having other feelings such as emptiness and the lack of motivation to do things.

But the fact you’re still going is a good start.

First off book an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to a psychologist, preferable for CBT. This therapy is about teaching you techniques to cope with your feelings whilst working on ‘fixing’ the ‘core issue’ that causes these thoughts and feelings. The doctor will ask you about what you’re feeling to establish exactly why you want to be referred and also to help your case be heard by psychologists. I hate to say it but (in the UK) its a big fight just to get into CAMHS, but worth it once you do because you stay in the system.

Please do this ASAP. I don’t know when you turn 18 but then you’ll be at the mercy of adult services and they’re even less funded than the child and adolescent services and not very reliable.

It’s okay if you need to write down examples of your feelings/thoughts when meeting the doctor and or psychologist. Do that if for no other reason than for prompts for yourself. It can be hard to remember if you feel like you’ve got a bit of ‘brain fog’ along with these feelings.

In the meantime I have a few things I think could help you cope if nothing else. Firstly I recommend getting all of these feelings and thoughts you may (or may not) have off your chest. You can do this any way you wish - maybe trusting a person to listen or even just writing it all down in a document. I always find it helps clear my head a little.

Next try to establish what, if any, are the things you enjoy doing and try to make yourself do them to make you feel better. Of course, if it makes you feel worse because you’re forcing yourself, stop. This is more in case there’s anything you still feel passion for.

Have a go at talking to people online. I found this to help because it wasn’t as energy sapping as talking to people in person. But when online all of it is in your control - when you reply and what you reply. I mention this because you say you have no friends and I think - depending on how tight you are with your family - having someone to vent to is important. If this isn’t for you, try your family.

Sometimes stuff happens and we find ourself unhappy with how we’re living and don’t feel like it’s enough. It’s hard given the state of our economy (UK and pretty much everywhere else…) and the lack of funding to pinnacle services. But hang in there. One day it’ll get better. I know it sounds like I’m lying but I can promise this from my own experience. It take a lot of time and effort you don’t feel like you have, but one day you’ll find happiness again.

Please keep us posted. I wish you lots of luck and hope this starts the ball rolling.

I’m so sorry to hear you say this. I know exactly what you are going through, a couple years ago when I was your age I felt miserable, like I had no friends and just felt so terrible about myself. It really made my high school experience miserable and followed me into college.

In my case, I realized what I was doing was always comparing myself to other people who had more. I compared myself to the guy who had a beautiful girlfriend, I compared myself to another person who had the best grades, etc. I was comparing myself to so many people and when I wasn’t them, I would feel even worse.

However after I got help in college I realized that I was comparing myself to a lot of people, but not one person I compared myself to had it all. The guy who had the beautiful girlfriend didn’t have as good of grades as me. The guy with the great grades never did anything but study on the weekends. Not one person can have it all, we are all good at different things which make us unique.

I want to challenge you to change your thought pattern. Rather than thinking that everything is the same and bad, try making a “Happy Journal.” Take an empty notebook and use the first couple of pages to write down everything positive you can think of about yourself (and really dig deep, it does not have to be all that significant, ex. “I can juggle really well”). After that, each day write down 3 things that made you smile that day. Then write about 1 not so great thing that happened, and what you are going to do to change that for tomorrow (ex. I didn’t do well on an exam, so I am going to study earlier).

What you are feeling is so normal and I know it’s tough to break the cycle, but trying to change you thought process can really help. I wish you the best of luck and hope things work out.

Firstly look at your Quora profile where you have over 2 thousand followers so that shows you that you are not alone. I do understand that online friends are not the same as actual close friends but people obviously think your a good person otherwise they wouldn’t follow you.

Feeling alone is a difficult emotion to cope with, I live alone and don’t have a partner and my family are 10 miles away and I don’t drive so I know exactly how you feel in the aloneness. Try to keep busy before after school, write a list of things you enjoy, do you have any hobbies, are you a sports fan ? Doing this should stop your mind from thinking “my word I’m lonely)

Depression can manifest itself anywhere any time, I would be inclined to say it is more likely anxiety either way they are extra difficult to cope with especially at a young age. I would look again at the positives in your life, also tell your family/close friends how you feel, you will find that talking about it openly will break through the stigma.

If after trying these things you are still highly emotional then I would see a docter for professional advice.

I wish you all the best,

Dave

When these feelings come up the best thing I found in my life was to simply let them be here without resisting these feelings. Letting them be here like this is a way of loving your own being no matter what it is feeling, when sitting with these feelings being present with them you may notice that these feelings are neither good or bad feelings and it is the mind that puts these labels on the feeling. Keep with them, when the mind comes in judging it all simply come back again and again to the sensation only. This is called concious suffering. There is great potential at intense feeling times. You are responsible for you and your feelings. Something from your past is triggering them what is it? Be honest. You may have to take action, only you know.

No need to focus on past and future !

Just stay in present. Be content in present. It’s the best way not to feel depressed.

Just focus on present. Just look at the tasks you are doing currently. Look at the chores you want to do.

Analyse and define your life goals. No need to be sad looking at others over social media. No need to compare yourself to others.

There is no permanent success or failure in life. It’s all our prospective. More clear we are in our mind, more happiness we have.

Just channelize all the energy in the tasks you feel accomplishment with. Don’t consider what others will feel like.

Go ahead, take a leap of faith.

Everything else will fall in place.

First of all it is very important to know that you are not alone. Many people feel this way and it is more common in the teenage years.

There are solutions. Some you can do yourself, others depend if there is an underlying medical condition. However it has been observed that individuals can alter their own brain chemistry without external intervention.

I used to feel completely isolated during my teens, never quite fitting in. My interests were different. I guess I was the only one who had to work in my parents business every weekend, even when I was picked to represent my school in sports. I did not appreciate how fortunate I was, gaining many skills. But I felt depressed.

What I learnt was to focus on helping others and never look to gain favour or reward.

You can look to befriend an older person. Look out for them, preform a chore and see if a relationship develops. Or you could seek to coach or share your education, or look to recycle litter or plastic. Maybe based around something you are interested in.

This is a start. There are many self help techniques being peddaled. I would caution you against them. What I have learnt in 60 years is that you are enough. You don't need guru's or mystics or organised religion. Listen and learn, but you will know instinctively what is right and that you will come to realise is love.

Writing down your plans and goals is so important. You must go back and reread and replan maybe every month.

Remember to be kind and gentle with yourself results do not happen overnight. Take time to be quiet and listen. The turmoil will abate. Seek to help others. Meet an insult without anger ( you never know what is truly wrong and if you retaliate it can be a long way back to friendship).