How To Move On When You Still Hate Your Ex
How to forgive and let go.
Breakup is inevitable. Sometimes you need it to figure out what’s the right person for you. I’m not saying it’s easy to move on from your ex, but it’s also not that complicated as we make it to be.
I never witnessed somebody could have so much hate over their ex before until I saw my stepdad. He called it quit with his ex-wife and remarried my mom. But the journey along the way wasn’t smooth at all.
He was pissed at his ex-wife for taking a majority of the assets. In his eyes, he worked so hard for years to get nothing. The house, hectares of land, and the cars all went to his ex-wife. As a result, he held strong grudges over her even until he died last year.
When I asked him why he couldn’t seem to let the hate go, he said something along the lines that the pain is too unbearable, and it’s like he doesn’t deserve it.
But then, looking at the situation, I realized that it’s never a good idea to hold grudges over someone who hurt you — especially when they were once close to you.
According to an article on Psychology Today,
“Hatred is driven by two key emotions of love and aggression: One love for the in-group — the group that is favored; and two, aggression for the out-group…
