我想我已經不需在別處想像死亡
衰老、失能、失禁、失控
然後？
但其實如果死亡真正發生在我的面前，我必然將會感到無比震驚
雖然我不太確定像我媽媽那樣無法認知世界或是像我爸爸那樣無法自由行動，為什麼還要活著
當然我從來也沒有想像過擔任照顧者居然會是我下半生的光景
如果你早晨出門梳洗換裝吃早餐需要花費1.5小時，那麼我們三個人準備就是4.5小時，我吃了三份餐、穿了三次衣服、鋪了三個床。每日不停滾動。
但我努力的想要讓每天都嶄新的不一樣。
經濟能力許可讓他們去養老院，但是那樣我們的家就沒有了吧？爸爸媽媽跟我從來未曾如此心無旁騖的只是享受家的存有、遊玩、享樂、過活。
我的爸爸看到美食狼吞虎嚥，毫無節制，我覺得有一天他會噎死，我的媽媽酷愛遊走，曾經走失了，大熱天穿過大馬路跟幾個紅綠燈走了3公里，摔倒在路邊被送進醫院急診室下巴縫了六針
我們一家三口還曾經發生一起重大車禍 ，車子撞飛高高起來又重重掉下去，我聽見爸爸的哀嚎
我也常常看著他們睡了，會不會明天就不醒來。
以為純粹的生活但其實高潮迭起、步步驚心。
現在他們還不需要去養老院，在我們還可以移動自如時。正確的說是當我還有體力與耐心帶著我們三個人一起移動自如時。因為如果他們去了養老院，我就會變成孤兒。
我暫時還不想成為孤兒呢！
他們那時才23歲好年輕啊!
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李榮鑫
這過程很不容易，下次見面一定要給你一個擁抱
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Hueiling Jan
李榮鑫 我記得我不知死活的衝去九份二山，哈哈，還好我那時候不知死活過，現在帶著兩個巨大拖油瓶很認命
李榮鑫
詹慧玲 你現在的過程，我已經歷過，所以我懂，覺得你很棒，做的真好，以後不會留下遺憾
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MiNi Chen
真的很不容易 妳好棒
Hueiling Jan
其實照顧父母好一陣子了，但我一直沒有寫太多關於照顧日常的貼文。那過程真的難以與外人道，鎮日團團轉也沒有心思寫。但偶爾貼文能夠得到大家的鼓舞與關心，真的好感動啊。感謝你們給予的力量。
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林秀穗
給老師一個擁抱
Bruce Jan
Dawang Yingfan Huang
請多保重自己別累壞了
Ming-Hsuan Tsai
這過程有朝一日也可能成為創作的養份。關於家的樣貌，以及家人的關係。祝福你！
Adam Tsai
人美又孝順
Ding-Chao Ho
深深祝願，也善待自己
李元治
古語有云：久病床前無孝子。……可以見得這事多麽考驗著人性。能夠扛得住且反向而行者令人佩服敬重
Lily Wu
家人的陪伴對被照顧者而言，這就是家的的愛，是幸福的但真的很累
妳真的好棒棒
Ming Lang Chen
愛你大大的擁抱
大大的擁抱張小翰
辛苦了！所以人生隨時要把握當下，把握可以為自己的理想奮鬥的時光，把握可以跟朋友相處的時光，把握有機會照顧家人的時光，祝福詹老師和家人一切順利平安
Meiyi Chen
無論他們發生什麼事，都不是任何人的錯，妳不需要一直都很堅強，請記得要一直麻煩別人，好嗎？
施惠麗
妳的心好柔軟啊！抱抱
