(cache)/adv/ - Hello. I have a problem. I avoid my family. Mainly - Advice

Anonymous

12/19/24(Thu)15:15:27 No.32466827

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Anonymous 12/20/24(Fri)05:15:27 No.32466827 Archived

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>>32466848 >>32466950

Hello. I have a problem. I avoid my family. Mainly my father but also my brother. I'm fine with my mother. Recently I go to the kitchen at 6 AM to make and collect food then live in my room all day until I go to sleep. This way I avoid most of my family. I've lived in this hikikomori lifestyle for more than a week now. I've generally avoided and tried not to talk to my father and brother for years as I have a problem with them. I feel disgust and hatred when around my father. He did to bad shit and act poorly to me, but nothing extremely bad. What's the solution? I expect it is some unpleasant answer like talk to him until I resolve the problems or not. Is that really the only solution?!

I suspect that what drives me and makes me make decisions are rotten unbearable outlook on life and holding a grudge. I cut off my nose to spit my face. My pettiness make me not really try to get a job because I want to disappoint and hurt my father. But I'm not sure if that self knowledge is really true. My rotten personality somewhat makes me want to stop living, but I do like other aspects of myself! This is like performing brain surgery on myself: I don't know what I'm doing and come to the wrong conclusions or do the wrong actions maybe. If I was still a Christian like I was those many years ago, maybe I could forgive and move on.

More background: maybe I need therapy. Going to therapy isn't a sign of weakness but a sign of strength as it means that you acknowledge your flaws and show that your really want to change them. Just don't tell your therapist something that can ruin your life as that's happened multiple times before.

Anonymous
12/19/24(Thu)15:17:50 No.32466836

Anonymous 12/20/24(Fri)05:17:50 No.32466836▶

>>32467117

did do bad shit
cut off my nose to spite my face

Cult of Passion
12/19/24(Thu)15:20:37 No.32466848

Cult of Passion 12/20/24(Fri)05:20:37 No.32466848▶

>>32466863

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>>32466827 (OP)
>lives with parents at home

Anonymous
12/19/24(Thu)15:21:49 No.32466856

Anonymous 12/20/24(Fri)05:21:49 No.32466856▶

Forgot to say that I'm a man. I am somewhat disgusted by life as I keep thinking that getting a job or a girlfriend or whatever is just propagating that shit that is life. Eating and reproducing is again propagating the shit. I am hung up on my shitty experience growing up and not-so-great family. I know I shouldn't feel bad for myself then I'll be happy, but it's like my hatred has an unending grip on me. Yes I somewhat dislike myself.

Anonymous
12/19/24(Thu)15:23:38 No.32466863

Anonymous 12/20/24(Fri)05:23:38 No.32466863▶

>>32466848
I had a bit of a daydream recently of living elsewhere away from my parents. But I first need to get over that initial hump. Also need to get over my own weirdness or obsession or whatever.

Anonymous
12/19/24(Thu)15:53:54 No.32466950

Anonymous 12/20/24(Fri)05:53:54 No.32466950▶

>>32467117

>>32466827 (OP)
>I've lived in this hikikomori lifestyle for more than a week now.
Wow. A whole week.

Anonymous
12/19/24(Thu)16:48:03 No.32467117

Anonymous 12/20/24(Fri)06:48:03 No.32467117▶

Sometimes I think of solutions, but they don't stick. The way I'm acting now feels like a dead end. Thinking of another useless solution. Get drunk and stop avoiding them for a while. Or, write a résumé and try to get a helpdesk job. Feels idiotic to write a résumé for that. That job is basically fast food cashier experience of talking to people + minimal IT experience + talk over a phone with a smile taped onto your face. Gotta bend over and humiliate myself to get a wagie job. Or that's just stupid me talking. More money equates to a glimmer of hope to escape this place.

>>32466836
In a way, I wish he was dead. I want to minimize all facetime with him.

>>32466950
Sarcastic post. I've lived quite similar to that lifestyle for years, but without high avoidance. That + high avoidance = rat dystopia or hikikomori lifestyle exactly.