How to Do the Reverse Missionary Sex Position
Is it tricky? Yes. Is it absolutely worth it when you pull it off? Also yes.
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If you’re looking for a super challenging sex position to check off your sex bucket list, may we present…reverse missionary. It’s missionary but in a very different font, with the person on top rotated 180 degrees so you’re feet-to-face, with your body parts arranged in ways that semi-defy the laws of physics. Can it be done? Yes. Can you do it? Maybe! The difficulty of the position is part of its appeal.
“Some people are turned on by the novelty of this position since it's surprising—you would not even expect two bodies to fit together in this way, but it has been done!” says resident sexologist for Biird Suzannah Weiss, author of Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. Plus, by completely rearranging yourselves, you’ll get all kinds of different stimulation. “Reverse missionary can be pleasurable if you enjoy stimulation on the lower portion of your vagina, or if your partner's penis or dildo points downward (this also makes it easier to get into the position),” says sex educator Anna Richards, founder of FrolicMe.com. Another added benefit is that it allows a penis-having partner's balls and perineum to rub against the clit, says Weiss.
And finally, if you’re the one on the bottom, there are bonus advantages. “You basically get to lie there and watch while your partner does all of the work,” says Weiss. Plus, “You hear advice about how positions like reverse cowgirl ‘give your partner a great view,’ so it's refreshing to have a position that gives you a ‘great view’ of your partner's derrière.” You also get to watch your partner’s penis or dildo slide into you which, NGL, can be very hot.
Ready to try it for yourself? Here’s how to try reverse missionary position, and two variations to zhuzh it up.
OG Reverse Missionary
“This can be a bit tricky to get into,” says Richards. The bottom person lies flat on their back with their legs spread apart. The person on top lies with their head by their partner’s feet and carefully enters with their penis or strap-on. Take as long as you need, and if something doesn’t feel right, stop immediately. “Your partner will likely need to put their hand on their penis or strap-on in order to point it downward so that it will go in more easily,” says Richards.
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Raised Reverse Missionary
“Switch up this position by having your partner higher up on their hands and knees, so that it's easier for them to move and keep their balance,” says Richards. “You may prefer to put a pillow under your butt so that your bodies continue to line up despite your partner's added height. If you're the receiver, this also lifts your pelvis so that you can feel your partner's pelvis rubbing against your clitoris and other parts of your external genitalia.” Keep adjusting until you get to an angle that feels good.
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Butt Bongos
Really love your partner’s butt? Try a sitting version to get better access. The receiver sits in a chair and the giver lies on top with their hands on the ground. “You can grab your partner's butt or hips to better control the movements,” says Richards. You can give your partner a few smart spankings, or be nicer and slide a lubey finger or anal toy in their ass for some butt play.
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Jill Hamilton is a contributor for Cosmopolitan.com and writes the blog In Bed With Married Women.
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