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20. My best advice for writing smut scenes.

Now. I am very against the word “advice”, since anything I can give here is my own personal opinion. But, so here it is, my personal opinion on what works best for me on writing sex:

1. Big, underlined, and most important: I try to keep it realistic. Nobody is having glossy magazine porn star sex in my writing ever, cause that sort of thing doesn’t exist and it’s harmful to people who set their bars in contrast to it. Thing is… there is nothing even romantic about tons of multiple orgasms and a romp like it’s coming from a heavy-duty Bosch drill. In fact, it becomes rather mechanical like that. So, I make it realistic. I have them fumble and come too fast and get excited too quick and forget condoms and freak out over it. I’m not afraid to make kisses sloppy and have them laugh about each other’s weird antics.
And I try to make it loving, you know? I try to convey a connection and a relationship through the way they touch each other, look at each other, react physically to each other. Which brings me to point two:

2. I write my sex in a very emotive way. I have them gasp and their lips tremble as they shudder when they sink into each other. Eyes lock and teeth clench and little hisses escape as they try to watch each other’s every shake and groan. Sex is a connection. It’s most beautiful not when you’ve come twice, but when you see that twisted face on the person you are sharing it with and know it’s because your hand is doing that magic trick you only learned through watching their face and now you know how to play them like a fiddle, as they come undone under your touch. And getting the same, EQUALLY, in return.

3. is just personal idealism, but my sex is always very equal. I’m into consent and gender equality and respect. So, no objectification, no women who are oh so innocent and would never dare to think of penises in vaginas, no men who feel the need to act like sex-hungry cavemen and are instead allowed to feel insecure in my writing from time to time. So. I don’t write the girl who needs to be persuaded into sex and neither do I write the who guy always wants sex-tropes. I write people not gender stereotypes regarding sexuality.
(And I wanna point out, this of course applies to same-sex sex just the same, but I happen to write Usamamo fic, which is F/M, but obviously, the same applies to any sex with anyone.)

And, fourth is pretty clichee but,

4. I write only what I find sexy myself. Be it from experience or fantasy, I only put stuff in that makes me shudder just the same. If *I’m* not finding this utterly sexy, who would, then?

So there, my two cents on writing smut ♡
(Now go out and bring more smut into the world, we need more quality written sex scenes ALWAYS 😉😉😉 )