“Not Queer Enough” and Other Obstacles of a Hetero-Attracted Demisexual
The struggles of a straight passing aspec
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Obstacles are everywhere — some experience far more than many others could possibly hope to comprehend. Even those who have white privilege, male privilege, straight privilege, moneyed privilege, and class privilege may experience obstacles in life if they are disabled, ill, neurodivergent, queer, or born poor.
These obstacles are often external — a society built for the benefit the privileged, and in some cases actively harming those who are not. There are other obstacles too- those we carry with us which are invisible to everyone else.
Look at me and you may see a middle-aged white male in a relationship with a white woman and assume I have had few (if any) obstacles in life. But my obstacles are invisible to you, and they’ve been invisible to me most of my life because they are internal, and because I have repressed my true self for too long.
I am a heteroromantic demisexual. To most, I am indistinguishable from any other straight guy. But I am not straight, and even being straight passing comes with obstacles.
