Just like a weak animal is an easy prey in a jungle, a weak student is an easy target for ragging in schools or colleges.

So, don't look weak.

How do you not look weak?

• Grow beard, if you can. Beard makes you look mature and dangerous.
• Walk confidently. Nobody is going to eat you up.
• Talk less. Stay mysterious. Let them guess who you are.
• Smile less. Don't look friendly.

The one who is ragging is also a human being. He fears, he gets afraid and gets worried. Play with his weaknesses.

Retaliate. Don't just surrender and do what they ask you to. I know this can lead to dangerous situations but if you don't oppose, you will be their target for many years. When you oppose, it won't be visible on their face but they do get afraid.

Complain. Register a complain against them. Don't worry about consequences. Give them a strong message that you are not going to be their slave.

Stay Strong. Even if you can't defeat them, give them a strong fight. They will harass you mentally and physically, but stay strong. Never give up and fight till you are exhausted. Look into their eyes. Let the fear not appear on your face.

Don't fear anyone. As I say always, they are humans just like us. They poop, bleed, eat, sleep, fall ill and what not. They are not superheroes or gods.

If they cross their limits, file a complaint in the nearest police station.

I am not going to write this anonymously although it involves an incident that took place with me in my college.

So here it goes.

Very frankly, this whole concept of bullying is foreign to me. Don't be surprised, let me walk you through it.

I studied in a central government all-girls school. I am not gonna conceal the name because I am proud of it. I studied in Central Hindu Girls School, BHU.

You can imagine the kind of healthy environment that school gave to us by the fact that I understood what bullying is, only when I got into college. Before that, I never knew what that school-bullying exists.

Okay, back in school we were taught a lot of moral education things. One that was my favourite was:

“How to tackle a person who says bad things to you, hurts you or mocks you?”

(Remember, my teachers never used the 'bully' word)

So we were taught there are three ways to deal with people who mock you, hurt you or say bad things to you:

1. IGNORE: If you have a heart to, if you're strong enough to let go and if you have the heart to not let the hurtful things get to you, just ignore as if you don't care and let go. They'll stop eventually when they see you're so much cooler than them, that their bickering doesn't affects you. Hell! Who knows they might even want to be friends with you!
2. RETALIATE: If you can't ignore, give them a befitting reply, be a savage that they don't wanna mess with you again! Give back back to them in a way that they feel inferior about themselves trying to bully. At the same time, DO NOT do the same thing they do. There's difference between them and you. In short, be as savage as Max Black (from Two Broke Girls) or Maeve Wiley (from Sex Education)!
3. PUNCH: if you can't do the above two, the last resort is, punch them! Punch them so hard in the face, they forget how to speak for a while! Trust me, after this, they'll stay as far away from you as far they can get.

This was TAUGHT in my school and I am NOT making this up! So I always followed the third one, coz I was one hell of an aggressive kid back in school. No, I never punched anyone, coz I never needed to. My body language and my aggression was enough to put them in their places.

So fast-forwad, I come to college, carrying that same aggression. And since I came from an all-girls school, I never had the habit of having boys around me and I didn't know how to behave having guys around me. It was very new to me.

So it was the second day of college, we were attending maths class, when at the end of the lecture, our professor started talking to us to loosen up the pressure of studies. Just normal chit chat between us and him when he asked me something about where I belong from coz my accent was different and I told him I belonged to Varanasi when he started talking about how beautiful that place is and jokingly he asked me, “north me mostly ladkiyon ki height kam hoti hai?” (I am just 5′3) I didn't take it personally and I laughed it out.

But this one guy, sitting at the back trying to be oversmart, shouted on the top of his voice,” mummy ne bachpan me complan nhi pilaya hoga!”

And everybody started laughing. I became a joke and they all started looking at me and laughing. I felt bad. I felt very bad.

So what did I do, I stood up, turned towards him, pointed my finger at him and said

“Tu bahar mil mere se”

The whole class fell silent. So silent you could hear the tick tock of the clock. And that guy looked as if lightning struck him. His throat went dry and he looked as clueless and scared as if he was first to wake up after an apocalypse.

They all reacted that way because they didn't expect me to retailate like that. The professor even, looked like being at loss of words.

Anyway, he calmed me down and asked that guy to behave himself in the class.

After the class, he came to me and apologized saying he didn't mean it and it was just a joke. He wasn't trying to mock me and even I made up to him saying sorry and I am just not used to of these things so I react instinctively. And we were friends.

Needless to say, the word spread quicker than a wildfire in the whole college, and since then no one ever tried to mock me or call out to me in the subsequent 4 years!

And no, I am not that aggressive now. I have learned to channel my anger and now I use the second method to deal with bullies!

Thanks for reading.

You have to stand up for yourself!!! All it takes is one time. I was bullied and tormented for years. It was hell, I remember my mom would say things like “they're just jealous.” or “just ignore them, they'll get bored and stop.” which didn't work. I started getting beat up well, jumped by anywhere between 2-5 girls almost everyday on my way home from school. My mom called their parents, that didn't help. She had meetings with the school principal and school counselor with me and the “bullies" and the police on several occasions. The principal would just say “you girls need to be nice, so knock it off. “ nothing ever helped and it was horrid. I still have bald spots from them ripping chunks of my hair out. But, the physical pain wasn't as bad as the words. Most of it I shrugged off but I will forever remember them making fun of me because my dad committed suicide. that hurt. And they made comments that dug deep. “I may be trailer trash but at least I have a dad.” seems so stupid in retrospect but it's a painful memory. Anyways,back to my point. Nothing and I mean NOTHING my mom did stopped them. Not the cops not the school not their parents NOTHING. so one day my mom was helping me get ready for school and she said “I'm only going to say this once because I feel it's necessary, if you're going to get in trouble for hitting someone, you better hit them first you better hit them hard and you better hit them twice. You need to defend yourself.” so that day I went to school anxiously waited for it to end so I could finally try to stick up for myself and see what happens. I started walking and luckily there were only 2 of them that day. For me at least. I remember hearing someone running up from behind me then she hit me in the back of my head threw me down as the other was approaching. I vaguely remember standing up and she saw me get up and ran away the other girl didn't and I beat the shit out of her. It was really really bad. I'm not proud of the damage I caused but i am proud of myself for finally standing my ground. After that day not a single one of them ever bothered me again not a comment no more stalking my walk home just nothing.

My first day at an engineering college, there was no professor in the class to deliver a lecture after an hour of introduction session with faculty members.

So there came the seniors. All seven of them were final year students. They started the intro session again. We were happy that seniors are treating us well but not very late I realized that they're ragging us but I still thought to myself that it's okay to have a little fun.

But...I lost my mind upon seeing one of them asking ridiculously disgusting questions to a girl student. (I can't even mention those questions here) I lived nearby the college and being a local guy I feared no one so I stood up and shouted at him that he better leave her alone. Bingo! I became the center of attraction. Now only I was being ragged. All of them encircled me and started humiliating me. After being forced to perform a couple of disgusting tasks and answer some insulting and very private questions in front of 82 students I was finally spared. It didn't go as I thought it would be.

As soon as they left and I took out a notebook, wrote a letter to Dean, asked everyone in class to sign behind it as a witness and then I submitted it to the Dean's office.

The letter read:

Dear Sir,

Today is my first day but I am not hesitated a bit to say it is my last day at this college.

Because today, I was ragged in front of the 82 first year students of my branch by 7 final year students of Civil Engineering, and now after those humiliating moments I'm so ashamed to face everyone that I'm afraid to tell that I won't be able to attend college anymore, somewhere inside I'm also exploring suicide as an option.

If anything happens to me, (I wrote names of all 7 senior students) these 7 will be the ones responsible for it.

At the back of this letter is a list of witnesses who saw them all 7 ragging me in front of the whole class.

Thanking you
XYZ

I got to meet the Dean in person and I briefed him about everything. On 2nd day at college. They all 7 came up to me at cafeteria, apologize and told how sorry they are for what they've done and how it was unintentional, nothing personal but just for fun..blah blah and shit. Then they requested that I talk to the Dean and stop him from rusticating them all. I prevented them from being rusticated and one of them became my friend too. (He still is) But the most important thing was, nobody ragged us again.

Do something like this, just let your Dean/Principal know of this. He'll take care of it. Trust me, it works.

To be honest, the only experiences I've had with bullies have been minor and temporary, but I believe the "use violence" and "ignore it" answers people usually give are overly simplistic. Here is my take:

It's all about communicating social hierarchy
The main reason someone will bully you is to get you to demonstrate in front of others that they outrank you socially. Whatever you do in response to their actions must reflect the fact that you don't believe they have higher status than you, and that you don't care what they think of you.

If they say something demeaning to you (e.g. 'hey shit-face' or 'why is your butt so big'), don't ignore it, or respond with something angry. Both of these reveal that you care what they think of you, and thus that they outrank you. Instead either say something that suggests that you outrank them (e.g. 'that's not the way to win friends') or something that suggests that you consider their statement to have been made in jest (e.g. 'I wear padded trousers. Makes me bootielicious').

What you say isn't as important as how you say it. When you respond, you need to smile, lean back, and laugh a little. You need to communicate the fact that you are the high status person and they are the weakling with something to prove.

Think about how someone super-high status (e.g. a president or CEO) would react if someone insulted them or messed with them. They wouldn't ignore it, or react with anger, they would just look down on the agressor with disdain - be that person.

Violence isn't a silver bullet
Plenty of people will tell you to fight bullies. Sometimes that works, but sometimes it's really stupid. If a bully fights better than you, and wants to fight, then you may just give them the opportunity to show that they are stronger than you, and so further enhance their status. If you escalate things too far, then things can get nasty, and people get hurt.

There is a lot to be said for learning a martial art. Even if you don't fight people, just the fact that you know how to fight will mean that you will have calmer body language if violence is being threatened, which will make it harder for others to assert status over you.

If a bully wants you to fight them, then either backing down or fighting them will accept their frame of being a superior provoking a fight. Instead say something that suggests that you don't believe fighting will establish social dominance, such as "that's not my thing you know" or "I'm sure you'd kick my arse. I hear you fight a lot.". Walk away in disdain rather than fear.

Sometimes you do need to use a little violence, but never escalate it beyond the level that they deserve given their behavior towards you. Any violence should come from the mindset of a superior administering a punishment towards a badly behaved junior, and not that of a scared junior lashing out at an attack.

Stick up for others
Nothing says 'high status' quite so much as sticking up for other people. If a bully is bullying you then chances are they are bullying someone else too. If you see a bully picking on someone then confront them and calmly tell them their behavior is out of line. Confronting someone for being mean to you can run the risk of looking like they've 'got to you', but confronting them about their treatment of others is a clear assertion of authority.

Sometimes you just have to wait
Sometimes bullying is a way that people assert their membership within a group. If you are an outsider (different race, different background, different sexuality, different intelligence level, whatever), then you are probably going to get bullied to some extent whatever you do, simply because you are the outsider, and bullying you lets others assert their membership of the group.

In this case, the best solution is just to be proud of your race, background, intelligence, sexuality, etc, and wait until you can leave the school and go find people who will identify with you. If you are smart, then you'll be much happier when you go to a top university. If you are gay, then you'll be much happier when you move to a city with a gay population. As Dan Savage says, it gets better.

Best method is try to be friends with your seniors. They shouldn’t think that you are rebellious and challenging their superiority. Admit that you are a junior and have to learn a lot from them. Do what they tell you to do. If you oblige, they won’t go harsher in the level of ragging,they will keep it to the minimum. Address them as bhaiya or Sir whichever is applicable. Be gentle. Don’t reply on their face or argue with them. If they give you some task, then complete it; don’t deny. First day of college- expect harshest ragging; gradually it reduces as days pass by. I would specifically advise to be close with the top most ragger. If he is friend with you,then others won’t touch you.

You can’t escape ragging. You have to attend your classes. They would come to your class to rag. Where would you go? So get accustomed to it. Ragging won’t continue year long. After one year you would be yourself ragging another junior. The ragging tradition continues like this. However keep phone numbers of anti ragging helplines of your University and call them anonymously if ragging gets intolerable. Ragging is now banned in several Universities.

That’s a tough one, I will give you my opinion. First, find out why you are being bullied. Is it something you do, or how you dress? If it is something you can change, you will have a choice of changing it, or deciding if it’s worth keeping it for your individuality. I don’t know anything about you, but most people that are bullied are people that the bully knows can’t defend themselves. Start getting yourself in better shape, hit the gym. Don’t do anything stupid like bring a gun to school, it’s not worth ruining your life. But if you get in shape enough and when they hit you, you hit them back, much harder, that should end it.

At last I persuaded my son and according to our plan we reached near the shop where his bully boy came for shopping.
I stood at the side of wall where nobody could know and see me except my son.

His bully boy comes. A Sharp and teasing smile comes on the lips of the little monster. My son starts looking away. “

You have to stand near my bike and take care till I come out of shop”. He orders and my son abides by like a robot. He stands there for about 5 to 10 minuets.

Then he comes out of shop. He grabs his hand and takes him a little away. He stands him there and starts kicking him.
“ I have learned a new kick and it is good to practise on you”. He laughs.

Luckily my son faces me. He was avoiding my eye contact. I could not have talked.

But my son was avoiding me.I could see the tension on his face. I knew he wanted to run away. I was worried and miserable that finally he just glanced at me.

THEN......................

My son was 10 year old those days. He was shy, fearful and introverted. Physically he was strong and much better among most of his classfellows.
Children used to bully him. The thing was very agonizing and painful for we parents. The one of bully boys whom we made a plan was the leader of all of them.

One day he broke his pen and the other day he made fool of him. One day he threw ink on his copy and the other day he threatened and beat him and many more.

We parents contacted the school authority. But the things did not get well.
Interestingly this leader bully boy was thin and physically weak than my son. We tried every possible way to eliminate the fear from my son but in vain.

Rather fear got increased and he stopped telling us even.

“FINALLY I PERSUADED HIM THAT I WAS THERE”.

THEN........................

MY son looked at me for a brief moment. I made a sign of boxer and signaled him to attack. I can see the fear in his eyes. He again avoided me.

Then all of sudden at the height of misery, pain and shame when he saw at me again and I assured him that I am there if something goes wrong. He attacked his bully boy.

It was a total shock and surprise for him. He couldn't stand it.and the reality is that FEAR HAS NO REALITY and my son was more strong and powerful than him.

That day no one in the school did anything to my son afterwards.

It’s multifaceted, as all big issues are.

The most popular anti-school bullying campaigns tend to focus on the archetype of a misguided, insecure child manifesting unrelated problems in an attempt to express unresolved feelings. This is what they say constitutes the common bully. “Hurt People Hurt People” is a popular slogan summarizing that belief. To that end, these campaigns commonly focus on teaching children and teenagers to rely on authority figures for help, stemming from an ideological interpretation of violence as the pinnacle of failure to resolve conflict, as well as the consequent belief that rehabilitation of misguided intentions into productive and socially cohesive pursuit is the apotheosis of success in resolving conflict.

This works well in theory, but not in practice, for one simple reason: factually incorrect premises about people.

Humans are animals. Children fight because there exists within their ranks, in varying but consistently significant percentages, a tangible desire for conflict, aggression, and dominance over others. This tends to manifest differently depending on one’s gender and culture, but the significant point here is that bullying occurs because it is some children’s active pursuit to antagonize others. It’s for this reason that bullies tend to be highly charismatic and social: they are not only emotionally secure, but well-organized in their attempts to sustain dominance. So to pretend that such desires can be taught into nonexistence is absurd and counterproductive. It’s not that bullies can’t be insecure, so much as it is that bullying tends to grant far more benefits for those who aren’t insecure, which motivates secure people with a desire to dominate to do just that.

To some extent, anti-bullying activists are aware of this desire for aggression; without that awareness, there would be no common and simultaneous archetype of a bully as a manifestation of evil. Demonization like that can only be defended on the basis of actual malicious intent being present in the type of person you are describing. This is even more true when one moves into analyzing teenage bullies, who sometimes become ambitious enough to challenge authority figures directly. So it’s not that anti-bullying activists are unaware of this capacity of violence of one’s own accord for its own sake. It’s that they underestimate its potency and relevance in interpersonal conflict, and more importantly, that they assume it can be suppressed in this way without consequences.

What actually works in bullying prevention, then?

There are people who would say the answer is self-defense. Personally, I find that approach unhelpful and counterproductive, for a similarly singular reason: bullies aren’t as weak as they’re often portrayed to be.

We know that many bullies are emotionally secure and socially healthy, and most commonly in boys, this tends to come from athletic ability and visible strength. If this weren’t true, it would be nearly impossible for them to gain power in the first place, since the only thing that generally matters at such a young age is athletic ability. One is unlikely to succeed in a fight if they have been bullied and therefore deprived of such advantages, especially alone against multiple opponents. Furthermore, bullies tend to be aware of this exact impulse: the desire to fight back, to regain dignity, without thought to consequence. Which is why bullies with even an ounce of self-awareness are constantly trying to provoke this exact reaction; they are already capable of getting away with bullying you in the first place, which means you will look like the primary aggressor to any onlooking authority figure if you initiate violence first, and their confidence in their own physical or social superiority gives them incentive to create situations in which they can demonstrate that superiority again.

Some bullies are cowards, yes. Such people can indeed be mitigated through embarrassment by pointing out that their threats and jeers lack substance. But I said mitigated, not defeated. Cowards tend to have a strong emotional dependence on pride, which means that even if you are capable of physically defending yourself against them, you are provoking a fight all the same. And friendship is not the sole domain of the brave, so you ultimately face the same problems.

At the same time, bullies tend to have enormous influence over an entire school, so an individualist solution of any kind has limited effects. Attempting to make friends as a way to counter the bully’s support group won’t work if the bully has already intimidated everyone into silence and passive acceptance, which is easier than it sounds because mass apathy works by convincing everyone that they will be alone if they resist. Talking to authority figures doesn’t work if the authority figures are corrupt, apathetic, stupid, or constrained by bureaucracy. Avoiding bullies doesn’t work if they are an inexorable part of your schedule, or if they actively seek you out. A student can only work their way around a corrupt system; they have no obvious way to repair or change it, which limits their ability to do anything at all to the point that many give up trying, hence reinforcing the bully’s power. That’s not even mentioning the fact that we are discussing children and teenagers, many of whom are simply too young to mount a sophisticated solution for any of these issues, regardless of their personal stake in them.

A number of schools also take a very Kantian approach to enforcement of ideology, in that violence is punished for its own sake regardless of why it occurred or what the alternative outcome would have been. Even discarding the fact that fights in real life are always more about luck than skill, a student is likely to get in trouble for trying to defend themselves, possibly in very serious trouble. It’s not a long-term solution, and its failure discourages other students from trying it.

For these reasons, I believe that the solution to bullying is fundamentally administrative and nonviolent, not individualistic and aggressive. But the approach has to be a lot different than it is now.

The teacher plays a very important role for change here, because they are normally the only authority figure that students interact with on a regular basis. When it comes to bullying as well as keeping student attention in general, the classroom is ultimately an exercise in maintaining the illusion that a single adult has more power than twenty or thirty minors. Successful student discipline, and by consequence the prevention of bullying, is thus best performed when a student is unaware that discipline is even occurring - for instance, purposely moving near a distracted student without breaking one’s verbal train of thought to force that student to concentrate, calling on talkative students to answer questions so they can feed their egos in knowing correct responses and be left satisfied enough to cease being disruptive, and assigning roles in group projects in ways that suit the personality traits of those with extreme tendencies towards disruptive impulses (i.e. the class clown gets to write on the board, the dramatic one can manage skits, the bored smart kids can research issues for upcoming presentations and such).

If need be, the teacher can move towards making an individual student aware of discipline without alerting the class to it, by speaking to them quietly about their behavior, confiscating their phones, refusing to speak until they finish their disruption, or even asking them a generic question like “Everything alright, [student name]?” to get them to stop without addressing the issue to the entire class. The general problem with this is that approaching a certain student too many times like this, or simply catching them on a bad day, can lead them to challenge the teacher’s authority in the context of believing that they are being picked on.

Calling out an issue directly to an entire class should always be a last resort for obvious reasons: it disrupts the lesson, and encourages a fight by embarrassing a person, possibly to the point of outrage and rebellion. Many teachers do in fact use this as the final resort, but the problem is that some use the former - making an individual student aware of discipline - as a first resort, which leads to an environment that is brimming with tension.

Of course, if a teacher takes it a step further and attempts to repeatedly argue or negotiate with heavily disruptive students, not only does that bring students to a greater active awareness of their collective power, it also makes clear that the leadership of the classroom is contestable. This courts the kind of disaster from which order may be impossible to regain. In such situations, it’s best to involve the higher administration of the school - not only to solve the problem at hand, but to maintain the assurance that what the teacher embodies is more powerful and worthwhile than the student.

At the same time, a teacher’s hands are tied if higher administration acts against the interests of bullying victims, which is why reforms to the approaches for both are important.

A bully thrives in an environment of fear because they naturally adopt the task of reinforcing that fear to their own benefit, and such environments are created by one main omnipresent factor: the feeling of isolation. A bullied student feels isolated because no one else will fight on their behalf, or even speak out against it; it can be difficult for that student to tell the difference between those who genuinely care and simply fear reprisal against themselves, and those who do not care much at all, so a sense of hopelessness builds at the implications of both conclusions. A caring teacher may have already lost respect or control of the class with such bullies present, which makes their hands completely full just trying to get any amount of information to stick in the class’ minds; even if the class is generally respectful by the direction of the teacher, the bully may simply shift their activity outside the direct reach of the teacher, which the teachers knows but can sometimes do nothing about due to restrictive codes of conduct. And a concerned local administrator can suffer due to the directives of non-local administrators, who themselves lack perspective on the situation and therefore cannot serve the school well. Everyone suffers, because everyone feels that there is nothing they can do.

The main step should be the active pursuit of creating a safe environment, and that doesn’t just mean granting freedom from bodily harm - it also means establishing better relationships with school authorities, so the school can actually feel safe. With the exceptions of schools that literally deal with gang violence in and near their halls (in which case you usually need active police presence to even have classes), bodily harm generally manifests as isolated events and so isn’t a problem that can be monitored. It has to be solved indirectly by making students unafraid to report and act when necessary, and that is done by teachers and administrators cooperating to give students hope as a collective. Where in the classroom it is vital that the teacher maintains the illusion that the individual is more powerful than the collective, in the school it must be vital to inform the students that they outnumber the bullies. Empowerment, for this reason, is a matter fundamentally of hope.

Hope manifests when students are encouraged to see a sense of purpose to their days and efforts, so they can in turn interpret the bullying as a temporary setback in exciting lives that are just getting started, rather than an endless parade of meaningless and insurmountable cruelty. This is accomplished with community - clubs that are open for everyone, interesting group projects in class where cooperation is key, school spirit events (that are actually fun and involve student planners, not just PR stunts for the administration). And when I advocate for hope, I do not mean that you push some sort of new ideal system, or bitch and moan about the creep of moral decay that has strangled our children. People have a tendency of interpreting the push for passion as some sort of confirmation of ideology, which is especially annoying when that’s what it turns into. What I mean is that you give students a reason to look forward to what they have to do, and that inherently involves a culture of safety and trust. This creates the feeling of a collective effort, which in turn disables the power of bullying because no one feels isolated.

Of course, when ideas like this come up, the question immediately and rightly becomes one of funding and time. Teachers are often already swamped with work, particularly because their classroom budgets can be lacking; it’s not at all uncommon to hear stories of educators having to buy their own materials with their own money, especially in poorer districts, even for simple projects. This is a problem to be solved differently depending on the country, and the internal states/provinces and municipalities. In the United States, for instance, nearly half of public education funding comes from property taxes, which makes the push for private or charter schools by richer parents particularly detrimental for those who must stay behind in henceforth poorly funded public schools. In Canada, there tend to be fairly gigantic differences in public funding depending on the province in question, which makes it harder to assess solutions on a national scale; Ontario in particular has four school boards (English public and separate, and French public and separate, where ‘separate’ usually refers to Roman Catholic), and it’s pretty common for there to be split-grade classes.

And that’s just two out of the three countries of North America. There’s the rest of the world to think about, too. These systems of bullying outlined above apply almost equally everywhere, but they stem from different conditions and manifest in different ways, which makes solving them really hard. Nevertheless, it can be done if you know what to do: bring the students hope and unity. Bullying is a product of isolation and fear, and it can be conquered by depriving those emotions of their ubiquity.

I will directly come to point, some of the points that I am mentioning are psychological hacks and some from my experience in school.

1. Be confident while you talk to your seniors, don’t behave like a kiddo who is gullible.
2. Do not come in limelight( by doing any nuisance) in the initial days of your school and college, this may create problems for you in the later days because first impression is the last impression, if you get your name in the hit-list in the initial days you will be most sought after in the later days to be kicked.
3. Do not try to be over-smart or to become hero of something which your seniors are against of the initial days, if you think you are really capable do it after few months.

This tips will surely help.

Im pretty sure youve heard of other people advising you to consider it as a “passing phase” and just take it silently. I would advise you not to do that. Stand your ground and if, IF,IF,IF ( I cant repeat this enough)..IF things get violent, stand your ground and fight back. If you cannot, then make sure the relevant people are punished accordingly. Yes, this may lead you to become an outcast. You may have very few friends or maybe none at all. But one thing is for sure, youll be known as one not to f@*k with. Just dont let it get to your head if you do succeed in holding your ground. Go along with your education, have fun and treat others the same way you would expect to be treated.

P.S Dont buy into all the seniority bullshit. Its just a plumped up term that cowards would like to associate themselves with to enjoy momentary power. If you arent a coward ( which i assume you arent), it shouldnt mean anything to you.

My advice to you is:

Laugh at your self. We all do foolish or embarrassing things. The people who can move past them are the people who can laugh at themselves. It is possible that you will be put in an awkward situation by your new classmates. If you handle the situation without getting upset or angry, anyone who would have exploited the opportunity to torture you will likely move on.

If you find yourself being held up for ridicule try to find humor in the situation. If you can't, fake it. Bullies prefer easy victims and will not often risk tormenting a person who can take whatever they give them and act as if it didn't matter. Further, by using humor you may be able to turn the situation around and cause the bully to feel embarrassed. (In my experience, they will likely leave you alone after one time)

Also, be nice to people. You are arriving at a new school, the people there already know each other. Make a point to be polite and take care what you say about anyone until you learn something about the social makeup of the school. You might make a comment in jest about the annoying boy in your math class only to find out that he has a learning disability that causes him to appear that way and that you are talking to his sister.

Most people are decent and will not want to torment you, provided that you are decent to them. First impressions often matter a great deal.

What is the best method to avoid being bullied at school?

First, we need to define bullying. Bullying is the systematic use of power, whether physical, social or emotional to leverage something from their victim. This can be power, money, “favors”, social power or just pain. A person says something cruel to you, you haven’t been bullied, you’ve been insulted. The same person insults you daily, you’re being bullied. A guy shoulder bumps you in the hallway once, you’ve been assaulted, you haven’t been bullied. The guy does it every day for a week, you’re being bullied.

So, how do you break the pattern of behavior? The best way is to not look or act like a target. If you’re physically strong, that helps. If you’re not easily rattled, that helps, but the thing that helps most of all is friends. If you’re the kind of person that can get and maintain friends, you aren’t an appealing target. Once, no matter how strong you are, you’re not stronger than a group of people. When you start insulting someone with friends, at the very least, you’re going to get insulted back with a lot of voices. If you have friends, you don’t care if you’re forced out of other social circles.

Getting back to strong, if you can demonstrate that you’re physically strong, that really does help. Folks gravitate to strong nice people. If you’re strong and you fight a strong person, everyone gets hurt, someone just gets hurt more. Not a good trade-off. Knowing how to fight also helps.

If you’re not currently getting bullied, you’re just worried about it, start working on it now. Take martial arts, join clubs that interest you, and exercise. Know how to do something cool, like dance, play guitar, or something like that.

Oh, and this should be the easy part. Treat people with kindness. You do these things and you will have done everything you can to avoid being bullied.

Usually this problem is faced by many people in transition from school to college face. Note the following points in this aspect

1. Dont ever subdue or accept whatever happening with you as your fate. If its up to an unbearable level, please complain it to the authorities first.
2. If the instances happening are very seldom, then try to ignore them or give them a befitting reply, to make their mouth shut.!!
3. If they are regularly happening, discuss it with your friend whom you can trust and you both people talk to that particular group personally.
4. If you dont find anyone trustworthy and they persistently bully you, complain it to the authorities. You might think, this is a kiddo thing to do..
   NO!!!!. You have been paying fees for your education and moral upliftment too. Its their duty to help you in these situations. Dont hesitate in complaining. Dont fear of things like group out or isolation. These are useless things which college people do in their initial years but later it becomes futile. Be independent, dont think to rely upon some stupid friends for your survival.

Hope this helps!!

PEACE!!

HI there

Although ragging is banned. but there are still some rowdy students who are continuingly doing this.

here is an anty ragging form you can fill for your protection.

::Complaintsdetails::

Now coming to the matter.

how to avoid it.

• Respect everyone/ it is your profit.

• Don’t be afraid of raising your voice. If you feel something is really going wrong, raise your voice. complaint to the nearby police station.

• seek help from college authority and supper seniors. all seniors are not bad through your hate out and talk them out about your problems.

• Be polite. there is nothing wrong in giving a simple intro. don’t be rude while someone asks your name.

• Be united./ This is most important in my opinion because as you heard it “unity is streanth”

• Do not assume anything in your mind / If someone asks you to “move a bit” do not take it seriously. focus on your studies

• spend more time in groups and library.

• Inform someone. /Do not forget to inform your parents and family or collage authority about your actions.

Be happy.

feel free to connect.

Hey!

So talking about ragging/hazing in college as a fresher, remember girl.. Gone are the days when girls considered themselves inferior than boys.

Be strong. And the most important Raise your voice, even though there are many anti-ragging organizations for the help of people who face ragging as a fresher, It's only you who has to stand for yourself.

Remember you are powerful. You can do everything you wish. You can't put your dreams about your future to stake due to this ragging. Don't feel safe physically, carry a pepper spray, for your safety. Shy person, not ready to raise your voice, then move in a group. Remember We is always stronger than I.

No one has the guts to do anything in a place such as crowd when you raise a voice. And please raise your voice for any other person too. Face it. Why should you run away? Face it with your head held high. You have done no crime. Stand up for your own justice.

Thankyou for reading.

HN :)

Remember this, and go on!! Life is all yours!

Ragging is illegal in India, and the Supreme Court has strictly ordered the establishment of a ragging protection cell in every college and educational institute. However, there are still many colleges where ragging continues to occur. In some colleges, senior students exert pressure on the college management to allow ragging, while in others, senior students engage in ragging as a form of disciplinary action, with the college authorities maintaining silence or providing hidden encouragement.

Ragging typically occurs in two places: the college campus and the boys/girls hostel. Ragging in hostels tends to be more severe than in college campuses because it often takes place in the evening or at night when there is little or no authority to monitor the situation, making it more physically and emotionally intense.

There are two types of ragging:

1. Physical torture, abuse, or mental harassment: In this type of ragging, senior students gather and engage in various unnatural activities such as verbally abusing girls/boys, forcing them to kneel, perform sexual acts, consume alcohol or cigarettes, propose to teachers, make inappropriate calls to girls/boys and verbally abuse them, physical violence such as beating, slapping, burning, or assigning physical labor. Most of these incidents occur during hostel ragging.
2. Embarrassment: In this type of ragging, seniors ask juniors to sing, dance, tell jokes, perform skits, propose to their senior friends, answer unexpected and irrelevant questions, and receive training on respecting teachers and seniors, dressing appropriately, wearing uniforms, shoes, ties, helping each other throughout the course, dealing with college or hostel management, taking care of college or hostel resources, and raising their voices against any wrongdoing towards their batch mates or union members. Although these situations may be embarrassing at the time, they often provide valuable lessons and foster a family-like bond between juniors and seniors. Even after graduation, seniors may offer support and accommodations free of charge to juniors who are unemployed and searching for a job in the same city.

If you experience the first type of ragging, it is important to inform the college authorities. If the situation worsens and you receive no assistance from the management, you should go to the nearest police station and file a First Information Report (FIR).

However, if you believe you are experiencing the second type of ragging, which involves embarrassment rather than physical harm, it may be uncomfortable but can ultimately be beneficial. In this type of ragging, there is no physical torture or abusive language. Seniors may scold you like older siblings, offer protection, treat you as part of their family, and even refuse to let you pay your bills if they encounter you at the same hotel, restaurant, or bus. This type of ragging helps build strong relationships with friends and seniors that can last beyond graduation. Seniors who are already employed may even provide you with free accommodation and meals until you secure a job in the same city.

In conclusion, if any form of ragging bothers you, you can ask your seniors to stop. You can also inform them that you will report the issue to your parents or teachers. If the ragging persists, it is important to formally report it to the college authorities. However, please note that the college authorities will not involve the police without a formal complaint. If you do not have support from your batch mates, the entire college may turn against you, and the police may be unable to intervene.

Hema Vinod, Unlike the past ragging has reduced in most Indian cities like Mumbai because strict action and suspension orders are given to students involved in ragging. It is now considered to be an offence and because of mobile phones ragging incidents are recorded on video and sent to the principal and the student’s parents. Apparently minor ragging without physical and verbal abuse is not objected by some newcomers. Build your confidence in college.

My advice is that the top priorities in life for you are studies, career, job, financial stability, planning your savings, good health, be super confident, happy relationships with everyone but have only limited good quality friends and avoid digital addiction.

Best wishes. Counselor.

Hit back very fast and very hard. Make it really sting. Bullies are opportunist. Opportunistic predators are not in the business of achieving an objective with effort; they want to steal the piece of meat with no effort, hence this is bullying. If they know that dealing with you is going to require much effort or is going to be a pain in the ass they will automatically leave you alone and never bother you again. Also, by striking hard and fast you will send not only a powerful message to the bully but to all the animals at the watering hole. This message to all the other animals is binary; 1st: no one is going to mess you with, 2nd: you expose the weakness of the bully and perhaps prevent the bully from pursuing other victims and maybe give others the courage to deal with such situations. Not to mention you will get the best night of sleep you have ever had and your inner confidence will be through the roof. So remember, strike first, strike hard and strike fast.

It seemed like I was always the new kid in school. At age seven, I switched again to begin the second grade.

The morning was cool and a small group of us were waiting under a large maple tree at the bus stop. Two much larger kids that I didn’t recognize approached me with mean looks on their faces.

“What are you doing here?” the taller one asked.

“Just waiting for the bus,” I replied.

“It’s our bus,” the shorter, slightly stout kid chirped in. He was obviously the sidekick of the taller boy. “Why don’t your parents drive you? You’re rich.”

My family had owned a business for several years in our small town, and there was always the misconception that because of this, we had money. We didn’t.

“What’s in the bag?” They were asking about my small brown paper lunch bag.

“Just my lunch.”

“Oh, yeah, give it here. I bet you have some good stuff.”

“No way, get out of here,” I shot back. I loved my PB&J sandwiches and wasn’t about to give one up to anybody.

Out of nowhere, the larger kid with the shaggy hair and overalls pushed me hard to the ground, and the smaller kid swiped my lunch bag. They had done this before.

“Ours now, they laughed,” opening it up to see what was inside.

Something like this had never happened to me before. I was a mixture of stunned, hurt, and surprised. Even though I only lost a sandwich and an apple, it felt awful.

I didn’t know it at the time, but it made a big dent in my self-esteem. Up until then, I was relatively non-confrontational. I never wanted to feel frightened and insecure again. I felt I had no way to defend myself.

That day after school, I told my parents what had happened. To put it mildly, they were not pleased. I told my dad I would handle it, and I wanted to start wrestling lessons at the local YMCA. He agreed, and before the week was out, I was learning how to do takedowns and armbars.

My confidence grew. I want to say that no one ever tried to bully me again, but that’s not true. The difference was, those times, I stood my ground. I pushed back. No one ever stole my lunch again.

As a parent, there is little that makes you feel worse than finding out that your child is being bullied. You feel the pain yourself as a mixture of sadness and anger.

Sadness on how they must feel about what they are going through and anger directed at the actions of the bully. You feel a bit helpless.

What would you do if you found out your child was being bullied? What steps can you take to help prevent it from occurring in the first place?

I feel that prevention is the best cure. Realistically you can’t prevent every instance of bullying, but you can make it less likely and prepare your child for it if it does happen.

Let me make myself clear. I am not advocating violence. No one wants your kid to go out and fight or become a bully. I’m talking about building self-confidence and learning how to handle yourself.

You might want to consider getting your child involved with some kind of physical training. Commonly available options include karate, boxing, jiu-jitsu, or wrestling. These activities will teach youngsters how to handle themselves physically. They also boost confidence and facilitate socialization.

If they are not into group activities, and depending on their age, they can start working out at home. There’s nothing wrong with doing a bunch of push-ups, sit-ups, and some weight training.

Of course, in a perfect world, there would be no bullying, and everyone would treat each other the way they want to be treated.

I wish we lived in a perfect world, but we don’t. Until that time, we have to deal with reality.

To deal with bullying effectively, it’s important to know the psychology behind the behavior. Most bullies don’t get that way without some outside intervention. Their behavior is learned. They are probably acting out because of a bad situation at home.

Bullies often lack self-confidence. The act itself is often more about exerting power over someone than doing them physical harm. It’s a power trip. Bullies are often bullied at home.

If you radiate self-confidence, people pick up on it. Bullys go for what they perceive to be easy targets. Confident kids are less likely to be victims.

When kids stand up to bullies, the behavior more often than not will stop.

When the victim realizes they can handle themselves against their adversary, the whole dynamic of the situation changes, and chances are the bully will move on to find an easier target.

They might differ only in their intensity and vary in their degree. Ragging is more officially recognised and its gross manifestation is more pronounced in an Indian academic scenario. Typically in an Indian academic setting senior students “rag” the incoming freshers or juniors. And this also considered to be an “essential” ingredient to give freedom for the juniors to settle down and gel in with the new atmosphere. Bullying can be done by anybody to anybody. Even faculty members can bully a student and it does happen when unchecked especially at top research level. And it is justified according to the so called “ethical” aspect in the sense that they “like” the students. Bullying takes a more subtler form than ragging according to my observation and experience. I know very well of the consequences that might occur if people known to me read my answer to this question but I feel morally obliged to answer it for my satisfaction.

It was first chilled winter in my college and I was already late for my way to home.
Like an ant row to carry load, numbers of autorickshaw used to stand in the vicinity of our college gate .so I set in one of them but unaware of the that heinous honey trap.
So there I was,with my seniors all alone in an autorickshaw.
But I knew them ,they were all from my college's dramatic society but the sad story is they didn't know me.
Here it begin
Senior 1 : "tu vahi hai na jisko maine g.b road ke randikhane me dekha tha?" (so you are the same ,who was in brothel at that day?)

(I was awestrucked unaware of why they are saying so)
Me : "main Facebook par kam vaha jyada available hota hoon" (My availability in the brothel is more than my availability on Facebook.)

Senior 2 : "kide makaude ,gaand ke phode ,teri itni aukaad"

Me : (feeling the heaviness of air around me)
Senior 3 :" kaun si pasand hai kaali ya fir gori ?"(whom you will prefer fairer one or black one)?
Me : "gori ki kaali laali"

Senior 1 :" guru ji !!! sambhog kya hota hai ,grabbed my hand in a gesture to show himself my disciple (guru ji !!! Enlighten us ,please explain what is sex?)

Me : (signing off in a relaxed mood) aaj hum sab sambhog ke baare me charcha krenge (today we are going to discuss on sex)

After minutes of continued jabbering over sex ,they were with mouth wide open and eye bulging out.
AutoRickshaw stopped ,I deboared and rushed for the metro.

Next day in college

In college there was searching operation for me ,they found me and offered lead role in their very next play.

It depends on the kind of bullying …Trans activism, is an attempt to bring back institutionalized misogyny. It is especially damaging to lesbians, since trans identified men believe they are “real women,” so it really pisses them off when lesbians aren't attracted to them. Most lesbians in the LGB community have been viscously bullied for speaking out against it. I know in my 57 years out as a lesbian. I have seen a hundred times more lesbians beaten half to death by trans identifying men, than I’ve seen gay folks bashed by homophobes. The way to prevent it is to not entitle these Autogynephilics, incels who use fake breasts look a likes to make them selves into their own private sex doll, or exibitionist or voyeur fetish crossdressers access to places where women and children are vulnerable. These trans identifying men are double as likely to sexually assault females than their male peers.

When my daughter started going to kindergarten part time in Toronto school, I decided to volunteer in their school. My son was in grade 3. There was going to be musical concert so, I went to help with putting chairs in the gym. As I started, this lady who was already putting chairs turned and told me rudely. ‘ I have been doing it for few years so I don’t need help’ I was irritated but I ignored her and continued doing it. She must have been very angry because next thing, I see is her daughter bullying my daughter. There was so much bullying and hitting on the stomach that, my daughter started bleeding in bed but never told me anything. One day, her classmate came to me and confided that, my daughter is being bullied and hit because she is befriending the lady’s daughter Bell’s best friend Sohini. I took the matter to school principal and superintendent and I told my daughter in front of teacher and principal to stand like a strong tree. She did it and got awarded for it.

The lady who tried to bully me is lunch supervisor in the school so, I talked to principal about her being bully and rude to other parents. Now she is so afraid of losing her job that, she hides herself when I am around. She needs a lesson and I m going to make sure, bullies lose their job. They deserve it.

Ragged? NO!

Instead it was just a part of the entertainment. They laughed, appreciated & enjoyed the conversation.

Each time we had our senior interaction session, I was called for a conversation by both boys and girls, need not to say mostly the senior boys.

In our fresher's party( 1st year) :

We the hostel girls were asked to prepare a group dance. We did it. After that we had our interaction session. I was repeatedly called upon by seniors as all of them noticed me as a trained dancer and even the choreographer of the dance.

One such demand was from a group of final year students.

Senior(girl): You danced very nice and your expression is very beautiful.

Me: Thank you madam.

Senior(girl): OK our boys want to interact with you, don't mind or fear. They will just ask some silly questions.

( Mean while a senior boy interrupts her and says, “leave her, we are waiting since 30mins, we won't eat her" )

Senior(boy): So you have mentioned in your bio data that you had no boy friends, right?

Me: Silent ( eyes down)

Senior(boy): Seems you are a good girl. Do you have any crush?

Me: No sir.

Senior: OK. Among us if you are asked to go for a date, whom would you like to go with and why?

Me: No one ( spontaneous reply)

Senior : This is not acceptable, you have to choose one of us.

Me: Sir then it has to be ‘You' because you are asking this question.

Senior : (Laughs) Ohh! Thank you miss. You may leave now.

(Another boy from the group interrupts) wait wait, by the way I have seen you many times in the reading room. Have you ever seen me there?

Me: No sir.

(The entire group laughs at him and he hides his face with my bio data form)

Senior(girl): OK you can leave now.

Me: Thank you madam.

( My mind : Should I go to the reading room or not?)

This was a funny moment my seniors had with me. That day they laughed and today I'm laughing when I recall those old days.

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First of all what is the kind of bullying that you are going through? If it is physical then you definitely need to tell someone you are close to like your parents. Also if you are in school or college then your authorities. If at work you can always sort help from the police. It is a matter of your life. And shouldn't be taken lightly.

Everyone goes through some or other form of bullying. I did too. But it was never physical for me. Always a snide comment or something to make fun of me or to embarrass me before my peers. For years I thought that somehow it was my fault. I went into a shell and it was hard to face the world. But one needs to recognise one's strengths and weakness. The first step to take to stop being bullied is to know that it is nor your fault. Someone who is himself or herself insecure is trying to expose something in you that he or she thinks is a flaw. May be the bully has the same 'flaw' and is trying to hide it behind his/her bravado and fearless behaviour. Know that those who bully are always afraid. They are insecure and when exposed for being what they are, they will run like a coward.

So just because someone doesn't like something in you, doesn't mean that something is wrong with you. When you start thinking that may be the bully is correct, that's when you start being bullied. The bully knows that you are afraid and will try his/her best to humiliate you. But if you know that there is nothing wrong with you then you can simply ignore it. Sometimes not reacting is the only logical solution. You should stand tall and look the bully in the eye and tell the bully that you are not afraid. Only when you can stand up for yourself that someone will choose to stand up for you.

If it is too much then you should always tell your parents or the relevant authorities. Don't think that they will not understand or that it is something that you can handle all alone. We all need help and we should never be afraid or hesitant to ask for it.

If you are going through bad times I hope you come out of it. There is silver lining to every cloud. Don't be afraid .

All the best.

It was winter and I got late.

So, the streets were empty. Everything lonely!

There was no one near my sight, until I noticed these unwanted companions in a few distance.

Yes, they are the king of nights. I am talking about street dogs.

Atleast five of them came running towards me.

I swear, my heart started beating so bad when two of them started barking at me.

My legs started trembling.

But I kept walking. I neither slowed down nor sped up.

I remained calm as they kept roaring. (Yes, I felt no less than being infront of a lion)

But I made sure I don't step back or stop.

I remember, one of them almost attacked my leg but missed. Still, I didn't reacted much.

But soon, after a little distance, seeing a couple of men come our way, they all backed off.

I felt relieved.

I realised four things that day:

• If I started running or would have hinted even for once that I am afraid of them, the results would have been scary.
• If I wouldn't have stayed calm or would have reacted too much, they would have attacked for sure.
• If I would have attacked them in return, thinking I can beat them all alone, it would have been a stupidity. They were in groups and were way stronger than the single me.
• If I were with a friend or someone whom I could trust, those dogs wouldn't have dared to come near me.

How do I avoid being bullied?

Bullying is a similar thing which can be tackled in a similar manner.

If I talk about myself, I have faced it for years.

I always remained calm, and never reacted. If somebody made fun me, I would have laughed it of. Because I knew, they want me to get angry and frustrated. They want me to react. Don't let that happen!

And don't fight back, if they are stronger and in number. It's not a good option in my opinion.

If possible, stay around friends and people who can save you. Talk to your parents and teachers, whom you can trust.

(Most of the times you don't tell them because you don't know how they'll react.. but trust me most of the times they understand and help really well)

Lastly, don't worry. It wouldn't last long. You can fight it back! Not in a violent way, but in a smart way.

Yes, if you feel you are being ragged.

But, wait! Seriously?

Is ragging allowed in the college yet? As a Sophomore I am sharing the latest experience!

Facchas came to the campus! We share the same hostel with them.

Freshers weren't allowed to go outside the hostel without permission for initial two days or so. Quite understandable. They may lost in the campus😝

But wait, my friend experienced the same treatment!

He was about to come out of the hostel gate and guard asked him; ‘Where he was going?’

He said, “Class!”

Then he asked to show the I-card. Lol😀

My friend left his wallet at the room so showed his personal mail Id provided by institute that proved he was not the fresher!

This happened with him twice. When he narrated all this, we laughed so hard🤣

Meme not for engagement, it's the real condition of ours!

One need to fight the battle and consequence is well know😁

It's better to fight a war that is worth fighting. Am I right?

Would love to get feedback from you people.

Do we have time to rag?

A big ‘no’ from me! What about you?

Do I have to complain against ragging?

If you feel its harassment, you must do! If it's just an entertaining intro session, let it be! By those session, you would feel connected and know the college culture well🤞

Say NO to ragging. IIT administration are really very strict.

All the best to freshers💫

They need to stand up for themselves. Age appropriation is key.

JAMES’ BULLYING IN 3RD GRADE

In 2000, James was in third grade and would walk home from Beeler school. My mom, Katherine knew and waited for him to come home.

It was taking him a little longer to get home, and it was becoming every day. My mom asked him if something was wrong and finally got it out of him.

When he would walk home, a kid would follow him and pick on him.

So, my mom came up with a plan.

When James got out of school, she would be in the car and watch him walk home. Sure enough, there was the kid hurrying up to get behind him to start picking on him.

My mom stopped the car and asked the kid, “Who is your mother? I want to meet her and tell her what you’re doing.”

He ran away and stopped bothering James.

TROUBLE FOR FIGHTING

I told my sons that they would never get in trouble with me for fighting in school as long as they did not throw the first punch. I didn’t care what the school’s rules were, they can’t stop the bullying.

I believe that you should stand up for yourself when you are picked on. Nobody needs to be walked all over. What really matters to the bully is that you’re going to fight, and he doesn’t really want that. He wants to just pick on you to make himself feel better (kids can be nasty and they will find anything to pick on). Verbal bullying should be ignored, it will go away after schooling.

One day when Jack came home from high school, he started laughing when he came up to me. He said, “Dad, I don’t think you were the only parent that said about the first punch when fighting. There were two guys at school who were going to fight, but neither one would throw the first punch. The fight never happened.”

A word of advice: Just try to do your best at your grades. School, whether it be grade school, middle school, or high school. After high school, it becomes an “Even Playing Ground” again for everyone. The real “Popular” kids are just like the real “Shy” kids, and they have to find a job that’s going to make them a living.

Simple, because they’re different from the ones bullying them. So are the bullies different from the standpoint of the smart ones. If two people are not on the same wavelength; having clashing interests, opinions, personalities, humor and intellectual prowess, will just result in disagreement with everything. They just simply don't go well.

It has nothing to do with them about being "shy" or an "outcast", because they are not! I’ve been around and friends with extremely intelligent people since way back in highschool. They're just normal people that also love hanging out with those that enjoy their company and who are able to easily understand them.

They just dont fight back, physically. Some do, to the best of their capabilities. But mostly don't, cause they’d care less for dumb and menial arguments.

On the other hand, as much as I would like to say that bullies are just literal aholes, we can’t neglect and deny the reality that such ill behaviors can only be developed from the environment the child’s been to and experiences he’s had. Most of it can be traced back to how they were nurtured and what’s in their biological nature.

Sadly, bullying is an endless cycle that one can always experience at home, in the campus and even at work. It can also be the other way around where the smart ones bully others with much lower intellectual capability. Hence, one can interchangeably become the victim, the perpetrator or even the player of both roles.

I don't think there is a way to actually prevent bullying. One thing I strongly believe in is fighting back. I know a lot of people are going to disagree with me but a bully will always go after someone smaller, weaker, fragile, someone with no confidence and someone already weak from other things in life that have kicked them around. You see, a bully is a coward. Have you ever heard of a bully picking on someone their own size, doubtful. Have you heard of them picking on anyone they see as superior, Nope. They are cowards so they will attack the smaller person because they don't feel capable of doing anything fair or making a decision that shows any class or dignity. This is why I say to fight back because they don't expect it. Laying down and taking it is something they feed on so that their tiny brains feel good about themselves. Yes I said tiny brains. Cyber bullying is another story. People can be and have been destroyed and driven to suicide because of things that go out into space for everyone to see. Short of going off the grid and leaving the population is beyond me any way to stop it.